So you want to know the signs a guy is ready to commit to you.
Waiting to see whether a relationship is going to make the jump to the next level is a stressful time – especially if you don’t totally know how he feels about it.
Is the relationship going to get more serious? Are you misjudging the situation? Does he feel the same way?
It’s enough to stress you out and completely throw you off your game.
That’s why I’m here. I’m going to give you the biggest signs a guy is ready to commit, so you can figure out where he stands before you get too invested (or, if you’re already there, you can figure out exactly what to do next).
So without further introduction, here are the biggest signs that a guy is ready to commit to you.
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Watch For These Huge Signs A Man Is Ready To Commit
- He reaches out to hang out with you first.
- He doesn’t ever really flake on you.
- You make plans for the future together.
- He’s introduced you to his friends and family.
- He listens to you.
- You can be totally genuine around each other.
- He includes you in the things he’s passionate about.
1. He Reaches Out To Hang Out With You First
A good measure of how interested a guy is in a relationship is his excitement level.
How excited is he to spend time with you? How excited is he when you make plans? How much effort does he put in to see you?
That’s why it’s good to watch how much effort he puts in towards making plans.
If you’re the one who’s always reaching out first to see him, and he never initiates plans, it’s a bad sign for the future of your relationship. It means he’s not that excited or motivated to see you (which means he’s probably not all that serious about the relationship).
But if he’s the one reaching out first to make plans to hang out? That means that he misses you when you’re apart – and he’s motivated and excited to see you.
And that’s a very good sign for where the relationship is going to go from here.
2. He Doesn’t Ever Really Flake On You
This is really all about respect.
Obviously, we’ve all had unavoidable complications come up that made us flake on friends and partners. It happens to everyone – there is no person who has never flaked.
But by the same token, there are also people who make flaking a habit.
If he’s serious about you, it means he’s going to have a base level of consideration for you and your time. He’s going to want to make you happy, and he’s not going to want to leave you high and dry.
A guy who flakes on you often is a guy who doesn’t really care what you think of him. That doesn’t sound like a guy who’s serious about you.
But a guy who makes a big effort never to flake on you? That’s a guy who cares about your happiness and what you think about him – and a guy who could be thinking of taking the relationship to the next level.
3. You Make Plans For The Future Together
By plans, I don’t necessarily mean life plans. Obviously, if you’re planning your marriage, you’re already serious and why are you even reading this article?
When I say plans I mean regular plans that happen to be a few weeks into the future.
Guys who are only down to hang out on a more immediate basis (like they text in the afternoon to hang out that night, and don’t make plans much further in the future), aren’t really serious about the relationship.
But guys who are willing to plan weeks, or even months into the future are way more committed.
So if he’s inviting you to his friend’s birthday party a few weeks out, or a wedding a few months out, it means that he expects things to keep progressing with you until then.
Which means that he’s thinking about a future with you, and he could be ready to commit.
4. He’s Introduced You To His Friends And Family
It’s really scary to meet someone’s friends and family! What if you don’t like them? What if they don’t like you?
No one is going to put themselves through that (or their significant other through that) unless they’ve got investment into that person and into where the relationship is going.
Plus, if he’s considering committing and taking the relationship to the next level, how well you get along and mesh with his family and friends is going to be important to him (just like it’s important to you how well he gets along with your family).
So if he’s made a point to introduce you to his friends and family, that’s a very good sign. It means he wants you to meet all the important people in his life – because you’re becoming an important person in his life.
5. He Listens To You
When a guy is ready to commit, it’s not just because he really likes you (although that’s obviously a huge part of it).
It’s also because he recognizes that his life is better with you in it, and he wants to share more of his life with you.
A guy will commit when he recognizes how much value and happiness a woman brings into his life that he doesn’t have on his own.
And if he’s coming to you for advice, it means he respects your opinion and values having your perspective on things that are important to him.
So if he asks for your opinion and then listens to you and factors your advice into his decision, it’s a huge sign that he really respects you, and is looking for something deeper with you.
6. You Can Be Totally Genuine Around Each Other
The biggest factor to whether a relationship goes the distance or falls apart is compatibility. If you’re compatible with each other, generally you can make things work. If not, things are going to eventually crumble.
The easiest way to describe compatibility is whether it feels comfortable to be around each other when you’re being totally genuine, and that you like each other’s “true selves”.
Do you feel like you can be your real self when he’s around, without worrying that he’s going to judge you for it? Do you think he feels the same way?
And most importantly – do you like him when it feels like he doesn’t have a filter and is just acting totally naturally?
If you do, and he likes you when you’re at your most natural and genuine – it’s a huge sign that you’re compatible with each other… and that in turn is a massive sign that he’s going to commit to you.
Guys know how rare it is to find true compatibility. If you really are compatible, it’s very likely that he’ll commit.
7. He Includes You In The Things He’s Passionate About
When a guy is feeling more and more attached to his partner, he starts to want to share more and more of his life with her.
We talked before about what that means in terms of his family and friends – as you become more and more important to him, he’s going to want you to be closer with the other important people in his life.
It’s the same principle when it comes to his hobbies and passions.
As he becomes more invested in the relationship, he’s going to want to share more of who he truly is with you. He’s going to want you to know more and more about who he is underneath – his true genuine self (like in #6).
One of the most important ways that a guy can show you about what he’s really like is through his passions and hobbies. When a guy lets you into that world, it’s because he wants to share the things that make him happy with you.
So if he’s making an effort to include you in his passions, it means he’s welcoming you deeper and deeper into his world – and it probably means that commitment isn’t far off on the horizon.
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