You’re here because a part of you is getting more and more suspicious that your ex might have gotten over you and is moving on with his life.
This can be an unacceptable and terrifying thought – especially if you’re still in love with him.
You might’ve seen things on his social media that make you think he’s moving on, or your friends might’ve seen him with someone new, and all this is adding up in your head and making you want to scream.
So what’s the deal? If you’re seeing a bunch of signs he’s over you, does that mean that all hope is lost of getting him back?
No. Don’t worry.
I’ve been a relationship expert for more than 10 years. Seeing signs that your ex is moving on does not mean that you don’t have a chance to get back with him. That’s a different question altogether – and one we’re going to solve right now.
Let’s get started.
What If He’s Over Me? Is It Impossible To Get Him Back?
There’s something counterintuitive that I want to share with you right now.
First, let’s say your ex really is trying to move on and get over you. Chances are, he’s not doing it because he wants to forget about you, or because he wants to put the relationship behind him forever.
Chances are, your ex wants to move on because he wants to get out of pain.
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It hurts to be in a breakup (as I’m sure you know). It hurts to think about your ex. Anyone would want the pain of that to stop.
So when you think about it, the harder your ex seems to be trying to move on, the more likely it is that he’s actually not over you – and that he actually has strong feelings for you.
Think about it. He wouldn’t be trying so hard to move on if he wasn’t in a lot of pain, right? And the reason that he’s in a lot of pain is because he still has strong feelings for you.
So even if you see that a bunch of these signs apply to your ex, don’t panic. It doesn’t mean that you don’t have a chance of getting back together with him.
This applies especially if you two just broke up. The faster he tries to move on from the relationship, the stronger the chances that he still has strong feelings for you.
Keep reading – we’re going to go over the signs your ex is trying to get over you, as well as what to do to get him back.
The 10 Biggest Signs Your Ex Is Over You (And What To Do About It)
- He’s dating someone else.
- He’s mean, rude, or angry at you whenever you talk.
- He wants all of his stuff back.
- He’s unfriended you across all social media.
- He never contacts you anymore (texting/emailing/online chat).
- He’s explicitly told you he doesn’t have feelings for you anymore.
- He moved away.
- He tells you it’s about him, not about you, and that you should move on.
- He’s picked up lots of new hobbies.
- It’s not flirty at all when you talk anymore.
1. He’s Dating Someone Else
Let’s go for the biggest and baddest sign first.
So your ex has started dating someone new. Does that mean he’s over you?
Not necessarily. Maybe he’s in a rebound relationship. Check the article below to find out.
The most drastic and fastest way to get over someone is to start seeing someone else. If you guys have been broken up for a long time (and he’s been dating this new person for a long time), it’s a pretty strong sign that he’s getting over you.
However, the opposite is also true. The faster he starts dating someone new after you two broke up, the less likely it is that their relationship is serious.
A good rule to remember is that if he started dating someone new really fast after your breakup, it’s much more likely to be him trying to use someone else to get over you – in other words, a rebound relationship.
And if he’s trying so hard to get over you that he’s jumped right into a rebound relationship, it’s a strong sign that he could still have feelings for you.
2. He’s Mean, Rude, Or Angry At You Whenever You Talk
Everyone knows it’s really difficult to be civil to your ex – especially when the wounds of a breakup are still fresh.
If he’s still being really mean to you whenever you talk, it means that his bad feelings haven’t healed from the end of the relationship – which means that he definitely still has strong unresolved feelings about you and about the breakup.
But if he can’t be civil towards you then it’s going to be hard to rekindle things between you, and it’s a sign that he’s pushing himself to be mean to you so that he can move on faster from the relationship.
The best thing to do in that situation is give him some time to calm down and let his angry feelings start to fade.
3. He Wants All Of His Stuff Back
Taking his stuff back is a way for him to move past the relationship and move on.
When he takes it back, he no longer has to think of you when he thinks about his stuff.
When a guy takes his stuff back, a lot of the time he also gives you back anything of yours that he still has. That’s a way for him to rid himself of stuff that reminds him of you too.
This is a big step in the process of moving on from someone – so if he’s doing it then it means he’s definitely trying to move on.
It also means that he doesn’t want to be reminded of you, because he still has feelings for you that he’s trying to bury.
4. He’s Unfriended You Across All Social Media
This is the same sort of deal as him giving you back all your stuff and taking his stuff back from you.
In other words – he doesn’t want to be reminded of you all the time, because it feels bad.
It’s way harder to get over someone when you can see what they’re up to every day, or even just see a picture of them every day. It’s much easier to get over someone when you aren’t reminded of them at all.
So if he’s unfriending you across social media, it means he’s trying to make it easier for himself to get over you – and pushing himself down the path of moving on from your relationship.
5. He Never Contacts You Anymore (Texting/Emailing/Online Chat)
One of the biggest ways to get over a breakup (and to eventually get your boyfriend back) that I advise my clients to do is called the “no contact rule”.
I bet you can guess what it is – it means that you stop contacting your ex for a set period of time, usually at least a month.
If he’s completely stopped talking to you over any sort of channel, it’s likely that he’s implementing the no contact rule in an effort to move on.
The no contact rule is not only good for moving on from a relationship, it’s also the best thing you can do if you’re trying to get your ex back. (If you’ve read my how to get your ex back guide you know that you should do the no contact rule anyway).
The moral of the story here is that the longer he’s been out of contact with you, the more likely it is that he’s moving on and getting over you.
(But don’t panic. Remember, him moving on does not mean you can’t get him back.)
6. He’s Explicitly Told You He Doesn’t Have Feelings For You Anymore
How strong this sign is depends on how long you were together with him and how long it’s been since the breakup.
If you were together for a long time and it hasn’t been too long since the breakup, he’s almost certainly lying to you.
Nobody gets over a long term relationship quickly (like in less than a few weeks). If that’s your situation, he’s trying to move on more quickly than he’s ready for, because he wants the pain of the breakup to stop and he wants to eliminate his feelings for you.
But if your relationship didn’t go on for that long or it’s been more than a couple of months since the breakup, it’s more likely that he’s telling the truth and he really is over you.
7. He Moved Away
Moving away is a form of cutting ties with your old life and starting out fresh.
There’s tons of reasons he could have moved and it’s almost certainly not entirely about you.
But if he moved away it means he’s trying to move on physically and emotionally, by starting over in a new place with new people and new faces.
So if he moved away – especially if he moved far away – it’s a huge sign he’s moving on from your relationship and that he wants to get over you and move on with his life.
8. He Tells You It’s About Him, Not About You, And That You Should Move On
A guy says this when he wants you to stop trying to get back together with him.
He knows that whatever ‘reason’ he gives you that you can’t get back together, you’re going to try to find a way around it so that you make the reason not true and you can be back together with him.
So by saying that it’s about him, he makes it a problem you can’t solve, since you can’t directly change how he feels.
What he’s trying to tell you is that he doesn’t want to get back together with you – and that he doesn’t want you to be in pain anymore trying to get him back.
That’s a big sign he’s moved on – and a huge sign that he’s more over you than you are over him.
9. He’s Picked Up Lots Of New Hobbies
After a breakup, it’s a great idea to throw yourself into lots of new hobbies (or to pick up hobbies you might have dropped by the wayside during the relationship.
Starting new hobbies helps you heal, it helps you feel better, it helps take your mind off the pain of the breakup, and it helps you move on.
I give this advice in all of my breakup guides (as well as my guide to getting him back), so if he’s throwing himself into new and old hobbies, it could be because he’s trying to move on.
10. It’s Not Flirty At All When You Talk Anymore
Lots of the time when exes still talk to each other it can get pretty flirty between them.
After all, the intimacy is still there, and both partners are missing that kind of intimacy.
(After a breakup, this is a really bad idea – it makes it infinitely more painful and harder to move on.)
So if when you talk to each other (if you’re talking to each other) there’s no intimacy and no flirting, and there once was… that’s a big sign he’s moving on and getting over the relationship.
So watch for these signs your ex is getting over you– when you know what signs he’s showing you’re going to use them in order to find the best way to get him back.
I know it’s really uncomfortable and painful to read these and think about your ex moving on and getting past the relationship. Just remember that even though he might be moving on, it doesn’t mean you don’t have a chance to get him back, and more importantly: the harder he’s trying to move on from your relationship, the more likely it is that he still has deep feelings for you.
So now that you’ve got a better picture of what to do, what should you do now?
Well, you should…
Look For The Top Signs Your Ex Still Loves You
When you’re just looking for signs that he’s over you things might seem hopeless – but they’re just half of the equation.
Like I said before, it’s likely that the harder he’s trying to get over you, the deeper the feelings that he still has for you.
So while you’re watching for signs that he’s getting over you, keep an eye out for these huge signs that your ex still loves you.
If you want all the signs you should read the article above, I’m going to list them below now for your convenience.
1. He Calls Or Texts You When He’s Drunk
2. He Goes Hot And Cold On You
3. He’s Trying To Make You Jealous
4. He Reaches Out To You Even If You Asked Him Not To
5. He Shows Really Strong Emotions About You
Again, read the article if you want an in depth explanation of what each of these signs looks like – and exactly what you should do in each of these situations in order to harness his love and get him to come back to you.
Even If He’s Over You, Hope Isn’t Lost! You Can Still Get Him Back
Don’t panic if it looks like from these signs that he’s gotten over you and moved on from the relationship. Even if that’s the case, you can still get him to come back .
I know it’s painful to think about this right now. I know you’re hurting. I want to help you get out of pain and back into the arms of the person you’re in love with.
I’m going to give you all the tools you need in order to grab your ex’s attention again and put yourself in the best possible position to get him back.
So keep reading, because I’m going to give you my guide of exactly what to do.
Exactly What To Do To Get Your Ex Back
So the question is, what should you do to get him back? Is he really over you – and if so what should you do?
First, the most important thing for you to do after a breakup is to gain perspective on the relationship. After all, if you don’t know why you broke up, you won’t be able to fix any of the issues that led to the breakup in the first place.
And if you aren’t able to solve any of the underlying issues in the relationship, then even if you do get back together with him, your relationship is doomed to fall apart under the same forces that tore it apart in the first place.
So in order to get back together with him (and stay together with him), the first step is to really take a look at the relationship with fresh and honest eyes.
Look at the reasons why you broke up. Look at the things you liked about the relationship. Look at the things you didn’t like about the relationship. Then, look at both those things but through your ex boyfriend’s eyes.
You need to see the causes of the breakup clearly if you’re going to overcome them and get back together with him.
Now, this kind of perspective doesn’t come easily. In fact, it’s virtually impossible to achieve if you’re still in contact with him.
That’s why the best way to gain this type of perspective (and the other important thing to do right after a breakup if you want to get back together), is to implement the no contact rule.
I’m not going to list out everything about the no contact rule in this article – I’ll just tell you that it means you don’t talk to him, text him, or contact him in any way for at least 4 weeks. If he contacts you, then you don’t respond except to say that you’re out of contact for now and ask him to please not reach out.
To implement the no contact rule, read the guide I put together here:
Read that article, put the no contact rule into action, and gain perspective on your relationship.
What Should You Do To Get Him Back After No Contact When He’s Ready To Get Back In Touch?
After the no contact period ends, it’s very likely that you’ll start to see signs that he’s not over you – and might be ready to get back in touch and maybe even rekindle your relationship.
So what should you do in that situation? How should you move forward?
How should you get in touch with him? What should you do when you do meet up with him?
Relax – I have all the answers for you.
Here is my complete guide to how to get your ex back. This article has everything you need to go from breakup to back together as quickly as possible.
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That article has all the answers you need to get your ex back. Read it to discover exactly what to do in every situation in order to get him back.
Good luck! I honestly wish you the best of luck in getting him back and mending your broken heart.
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