Exactly How To Tell Whether Your Ex-Boyfriend Still Loves You

Exactly How To Tell Whether Your Ex-Boyfriend Still Loves You

We’ve all been there.

You want to know how to tell whether your ex-boyfriend still loves you.

After a breakup, it’s extremely common. Especially if he’s been acting cold or distant, or he’s done something that makes you wonder if he ever cared at all.

So if you’re looking for signs that your ex still loves you, you’ve come to the right place.

Unfortunately, no sign is going to be 100% accurate. However, if he’s showing more than a few of these signs, it’s a good bet that he still has strong feelings for you.

Before You Check The Signs, Do These First

It stands to reason that if you’re looking for signs your ex boyfriend still loves you, you want to get him back.

And if you want to get your ex back, there are 2 things you absolutely must do.

First, you have to cut off contact with him for at least a month. No ifs, ands, or buts.

This is the most important step towards getting your ex boyfriend back (and making your ex boyfriend want you back). If you want to know the best way to do it (or if you have any questions about it), you can read more about it here on Vixen Daily.

If you don’t follow the no contact rule, you could drive yourself crazy looking for signs you can get your ex back – so just follow the no contact rule.

Second, if you’re going to be able to identify these signs your ex still loves you correctly without getting confused, you have to get your mind in the right place first.

That means that if you want him back, you have to really, truly understand why you want him back.

Wanting to end the pain of your breakup isn’t a good enough reason to want him back – nor is wanting to make your ex miss you.

So think about why you really want him back, and decide whether you have a good reason to get back together with him or not.

In my experience, couples that get back together (and stay together for good) do so because they both have excellent reasons to want to get back into the relationship.

ok, ready?

Here are the signs that your ex boyfriend still loves you:

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The Top 5 Giveaway Signs Your Ex-Boyfriend Still Has Feelings For You

1. He’s Trying To Make You Jealous

This is a huge sign he’s still in love with you.

When someone is over a relationship, they’re not thinking about what their ex is thinking. They’re not trying to affect their ex in any way – they’re beyond it.

So if he’s trying to make you jealous, by rubbing a new girlfriend in your face, or bringing someone new somewhere he knows you’ll be, he’s trying to get a reaction out of you.

And if he’s trying that hard to get a reaction out of you, he’s still obsessed with you, how you’re feeling, what you’re thinking, and how you feel about him.

And that’s a massive sign that he’s still in love with you.

2. He’s Nice One Day And Cold The Next (And Vice Versa)

If his behavior towards you changes by the day, that’s a very good sign that he’s got unresolved feelings towards you.

When we accept the end of a relationship, we stop letting the breakup affect us so much. We let go of the other person’s stranglehold on our emotions, and move forward with a good understanding of how we feel.

So if he’s acting one way towards you one day, and then completely differently the next, it means he’s still working through his feelings.

That unsettledness is a huge sign that he’s not over you – because if he was, he wouldn’t be having crazy behavior swings towards you.

So if he’s going hot and cold on you it’s a big sign that he still cares a lot about you.

3. He Follows All Your Moves

Like I said before, if a guy is truly over a breakup then he’s not going to be obsessed with his ex and he’s going to let her go.

That means he’s not going to keep a close eye on her… because he’s not going to feel an urge to do it.

So if he’s showing up at places he knows you’ll be, or asking your friends about your love life, or you catch him cyber-stalking you on Facebook or Instagram, that’s a huge dead giveaway sign.

It means he can’t stop thinking about you – and if that’s not a huge sign that he’s still in love with you, then I don’t know what is.

4. He Contacts You By Text, Phone, Or Instant Message

This is about as plain as it gets.

If your ex is calling you, or sending you texts, or messaging you over Facebook or gchat, it means he wants to keep in contact with you – which is a huge sign he still has feelings.

Obviously, if he’s calling to organize getting his stuff back, or trying to coordinate a shared responsibility, that’s not a strong sign he loves you.

But if he’s contacting you just to talk, or to ask you how you’re doing, or to check up on your love life – it’s a dead giveaway that he still cares about you a lot.

5. He Keeps In Contact With Your Family And Friends

Obviously, if you had the same group of friends before you started dating, this rule doesn’t apply.

But if he didn’t know any of your friends or family before you two started dating, and he’s keeping in regular contact with them, it could be a sign that he’s digging for information about you.

And if that’s the case – it means he’s still obsessed with you.

This sign on its own isn’t a guarantee that he still has strong feelings for you.

But if you see this sign combined with a few of the other signs on this list, then you’re in luck…

And the chances are good that your ex still loves you.

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In summary…

Here’s How To Tell If Your Ex-Boyfriend Still Loves You

  1. He’s trying to make you jealous
  2. He’s nice one day and cold the next (and vice versa)
  3. He follows all your moves
  4. He contacts you by text, phone, or instant message
  5. He keeps in contact with your family and friends

how to tell if your ex-boyfriend still loves you

35 comments… add one
  • no name February 12, 2018, 10:15 pm

    hi,we used same transport to work and he spoils me after work then drop me home but he once said he does not need me anymore.He is jelous and we do shopping together sometimes so he is confusing me now.

  • Ana January 30, 2018, 12:31 am

    These signs are accurate! I was the one to innitaite the breakup because I thought he’s cheating on me but he says he used to just talk to girls but never cheated, I don’t know what to do anymore I did the Nc for more than 45 days he wants me back but I don’t but I still love him I’m just so confused what m I supposed to do ‍♀️

  • Purplehaze September 8, 2017, 7:21 pm

    I pay both moblie bills and since July he’s been very distance with me almost cringes if I try to touch or kiss him. I found over 300 texts on his bill some early hours up to 60 a day not always one same number. He’s even accused me of having an affair.

  • Daniela August 25, 2017, 1:09 am

    So my boyfriend broke up with me three weeks ago because he couldn’t handle the long distance and of me being away for college. We were dating for almost two years and we had a great relationship together and right after he broke up with me he decided to start ‘hanging out’ with this girl the told me not to worry about. She’s always taking snapchats of him and putting it on her story to see. I feel betrayed and just annoyed and I’m wondering why he is doing this and if the one reason he broke up with me is to just hook up with other girls.

  • Angel May 21, 2017, 2:37 pm

    Me and my ex boyfriend broke up a couple of weeks ago and he does act hot and cold with me. He even is still attracted to me still but denied it. He started talking to a girl 2 days after breakup and saying he liked her. I don’t know what to do honestly. One of my friends even told me he told her he still loved me. What do i do? I think it’s a rebound relationship he is trying to get into but still, I love this guy to death and we were together for 3 years, HELP!

  • Anonymous December 14, 2016, 5:20 am

    well, what if he was doing SOME of these during the “decision period” and then broke up? Do I continue with my 30 no contact (have about a week left) and then contact him, or simply continue no contact indefinitely? We haven’t spoken since the break up and I know he has a new gf (literally the day after and I know it’s someone he fancied for a while)….he’s not doing ANY of the signs above…I think I just answered my own question :)

  • vanessa August 10, 2016, 11:40 pm

    these are all really “giveaway signs” but women almost never see these coming. great post! :)

  • daphne August 9, 2016, 10:15 pm

    i agree with you..before even fantasizing about your ex still in love with you, better think a lot about really wanting to get back with him

  • paloma August 9, 2016, 1:25 am

    real signs that happen in real life situations. i once broke up w/ my ex and he tried to win me back using some of these. lol

  • karla August 5, 2016, 11:49 pm

    i’ve seen my ex do all these stuff and when we got back together, he admitted he was really just trying to get my attention.

  • alana August 4, 2016, 11:28 pm

    there are many signs to know but these are basically the most common and obvious..women should be really aware of

  • darshana August 3, 2016, 6:39 pm

    these are all true signs, i do these also with my guy..haha guilty! :))

  • alegra August 2, 2016, 7:05 pm

    this is really nice..something to look forward to, thanks! :)

  • iris August 1, 2016, 9:05 pm

    i thought he was trying to make me jealous but found out he’s not. haha, joke’s on me!

  • arwen July 29, 2016, 10:43 pm

    i wish he’d just make the first move..i’m too shy to approach him

  • ellen July 28, 2016, 6:15 pm

    he used to do all these but now i feel like he has stopped making connection to any of my peers, our old friends together and don’t get to see him as much :'(

  • eliana July 27, 2016, 1:09 pm

    wish i knew this when i just broke up w/ my ex..well i guess it’s just not meant to be. im still trying to move on..

  • aleah July 26, 2016, 12:09 pm

    hhhmmm..i like this article, i could make use of it

  • kerlyn July 25, 2016, 11:57 pm

    nice tips, i love it! <3

  • constance July 22, 2016, 3:36 pm

    great insights..i love this! <3

  • elida July 21, 2016, 1:04 pm

    ive seen that he’s trying to make me jealous at times..hhmmmm…

  • fenella July 20, 2016, 1:59 pm

    i strongly agree!

  • gladys July 19, 2016, 1:49 pm

    most men would chase you for a few times..if he pursues you then you know he really loves you still.

  • ginny July 18, 2016, 12:01 pm

    these are all for real..it happened to me and true enough, he admitted he wants to get back together and here we are..enjoying each other’s company like never before.

  • chaste July 14, 2016, 9:46 pm

    you should know that all of these signs are true but they can also be deceiving..hehe

  • cybill July 13, 2016, 2:03 pm

    i woud have to agree, these are all true. plus if he remains single cause he’s hoping to get back w/ you

  • fanny July 12, 2016, 11:34 pm

    dont mean to brag but i see him everywhere and i hear him asking around a lot about me.

  • heather July 11, 2016, 7:34 pm

    these are all so true, i can attest to them. haha

  • gamila July 7, 2016, 6:22 pm

    i recently broke up w/ my bf & i heard he was asking around about me..i’ll have to think really hard before deciding on getting back w/ him regardless of the fact that he still loves me.

  • jamie July 5, 2016, 3:07 pm

    my ex still contacts me & my friends constantly..

  • blair July 1, 2016, 1:35 pm

    yeah, i know this..my ex used 2 get in touch w/ my family..i hated it

  • blanchie June 29, 2016, 7:56 pm

    well..gathering proof he is actually still into me

  • farah June 28, 2016, 7:36 pm

    contacts me still and i heard he’s always asking around bout me..

  • delaney June 24, 2016, 6:03 pm

    oh yeah, iv seen my ex being cold suddenly aftr communicating again aftr our breakup

  • courtney June 23, 2016, 7:18 pm

    i recently found out he was stalking me on fb..i guess he’s on the lookout

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