Do you sometimes wonder just how happy your relationship is? Maybe you’re aware that something is needing mending, and want to know what and how you should address. Even if you don’t feel there’s patching up to do, it would be interesting to assess your relationship as healthy relationships go. Anyway, there are always things to learn from a scientific approach to the nature of bonds that unite two people. Just by learning more about it you can make it stronger and enduring.
Close relationships are built up from many different traits, some of them basic and indispensable, some minor and varying from couple to couple. This article deals with some of the more important ones – it is not complete, but gives enough food for thoughts.
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No relationship can exist for any considerable time without the foundation of safety. When being with your partner you ought to feel protected, safe. Your partner is your shield, you are not supposed to expect anything in the least threatening from him or her. There’s also psychological safety to be taken into account – a partner is somebody with whom you can be yourself and not be afraid of being judged. You lay down your defenses and lower your guard.
Being completely open
A healthy and happy relationship is necessarily the one where you are always open-hearted. Couples who are not honest with one another are bound to drift apart sooner or later. To make it last you must be sure that your partner is absolutely above-board with you and will make a clean breast of it if something happens – even if it is a hard thing to do. Bear in mind that the truth does not always have to sound bluntly or harshly – one can find tactful ways to express a hurtful event or opinion.
Trusting one another
Another indispensable factor of an enduring relationship is mutual trust. When your partner promises or simply says anything, you must know you can rely on their words – and they can rely on yours with the same certainty. When both partners are trustworthy and reliable, it excludes many tensions from the relationship.
That’s what your relationship hangs on. Love was the starting point of your togetherness, it is your adhesive, the source of strength, the guarantee of you feeling good in times of trouble. If handled properly, love will only grow with years and hold out the promise of a long life brightened by your adoring partner.
Having fun is a powerful glue in your relationship. It is also a great symptom that your relationship is going strong, because if it is weak, you will hardly have a lot of fun together. Whereas when you have genuine feelings for each other, you will want fun and games in your lives. You join in amusing pastimes, you have a string of funny occurrences that you are glad to share with your friends.
No relationship which lacks dependability is bound to last for long. When you feel that your partner is unreliable, you will be amassing problems which are sure to undermine the relationship. On the other hand, when you know that you can rely on your partner’s verbal and physical support whenever you need it, it goes to solidify the bond that already exists.
Wishing that your partner stays faithful to you is one of the underlying wishes in a healthy partnership. It is the basic notion of commitment, when you feel obliged to maintain loyalty to the one you love while your relationship lasts. It’s what makes your union unique and at the same time closed to other people. The comfort you derive from the relationship is in direct correlation to the level of faithfulness you keep up.
The abovementioned traits are of prime importance in a relationship that is meant to thrive. There are bound to be other basic traits that add depth and meaning to a union of two people – have you got ones that you hold indispensable?
About the Author
Daria Kurilko is the founder, writer and editor of Geniusbeauty.com – an online guide for women about beauty, health and relationships. She has a master’s degree in sociology with a number of scientific publications to her credit and extensive experience in marketing and PR. Daria, who currently lives in Wiesbaden, Germany, is also a loving mother and wife. Since 2007 she enjoys sharing her experiences and broad knowledge about all things fashion, nutrition and lifestyle with her readers.