What To Do When A Guy Suddenly Stop Texting You

What To Do When A Guy Suddenly Stops Texting You

One of the most frantic questions I get all the time is, “Why did he suddenly stop texting me?”

And when I say “suddenly stopped texting”, I don’t mean that he hasn’t texted you in the past couple hours (even if you sent him a dirty question or two.)

I mean that you once texted at a level that felt comfortable to you, but now he’s routinely taking a long time to answer your texts. It feels like he he suddenly lost interest, it doesn’t seem like he’s flirting or interested in you anymore.

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Here’s why: however things were before… texting at the moment is feeling like more of a chore or a burden for him.

Why is that?

It’s All About Vibe

To answer that question, I have to talk about a concept I like to call “vibe”.

Your vibe comes from your mood, and it shows through in everything that you do.

It’s not something you can fake – your vibe comes from how you genuinely feel in the privacy of your own mind – and no matter how you’re acting on the outside, your vibe will reflect how you feel on the inside.

A good vibe comes from a positive mood – where you’re feeling relaxed, comfortable, and happy. If you feel good about yourself and your situation – your vibe is good.

Bad vibes come from feelings like insecurity, worrying, and anger. If you’re feeling anxious, or angry at him, or worried about your relationship – it’s going to come through in your vibe and he’ll be able to sense it.

Now – if your mood and your well-being and your sense of happiness is hinging on whether this guy responds to you or not – that’s going to give off a bad vibe that will make him want to stop texting you.

Try this test to tell what kind of vibe you’re giving off: When your interactions with him take the tone of, “I will be upset unless _____ happens” – then it’s coming from a bad vibe.

And here’s the crux of it: When you text him and it comes from a bad vibe – it will always feel like a chore or a burden for him to respond. Letting a bad vibe fester is one of the biggest mistakes that destroys relationships.

But when you text him from a good vibe – it won’t feel like a chore for him to respond, and he’ll be much more likely to text you back.

Proactive Vs. Reactive

There’s another core reason why guys suddenly stop texting back – and it has everything to do with you being proactive or reactive.

What do I mean by that? Well, when you’re being reactive – then you feel upset or hurt when he doesn’t text back. When you’re being proactive – you’re still in control – you have power and choice in the situation, and you’re not going to allow yourself to be stuck in a situation that makes you upset.

Let me give you an example: let’s say you were making plans with him and you wanted to ask him a question and he left you hanging. A reactive thing to do would be to get mad at him and send him angry texts (which would carry a bad vibe with them).

A proactive thing to do would be to make other plans, so that if he flakes on you, then you have something fun you can do without him.

If he doesn’t respond when you ask him what he wants for dinner, be proactive – get whatever you want and have that. If he complains, he could’ve told you what he wanted.

If he doesn’t let you know when he’s getting home from work, then just eat when you get hungry. Don’t just wait and get madder and madder as he doesn’t respond without taking care of yourself – that’s reactive thinking.

Instead – be proactive – roll forward and take control of what you’re doing. If he has a pattern of not getting back to you, have a backup plan. Then, if he doesn’t get back to you in time, go do plan b.

If he has a problem with you going with your plan b if he doesn’t get back to you in time, you can be sure he’s going to change his behavior and start getting back to you more promptly.

And if after all this, it’s still a problem to you that he ignores your texts – even when you make other plans for yourself – then the harsh answer is to find another guy who will treat you the way you want to be treated.

Relationships Are All About Quality

A good relationship isn’t about titles, it’s not about quantity of time you spend together, or anything else on the surface.

After all, if titles made a good relationship, then every marriage would be blissful, right?

Good relationships are about the quality of your connection, and the quality of time you spend together.

When it comes down to it, the best relationships are between two people who always strive to have a good vibe with each other – which means they do everything in their power to make sure they’re in a good mood.

Sometimes, that means making choices so that you’re not left hanging – and you don’t stew in anger or resentment waiting for the other person to respond.

It’s not selfish to put your mood as your #1 priority – it’s selfless. When you do that, you make sure your vibe is always good, and when your vibe is good it will effortlessly attract love into your life.

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35 comments… add one
  • Natasha March 9, 2017, 3:58 pm

    I’ll usually send another text after a day and two or ask him directly if I said or did anything wrong that makes him go MIA on me? If he does it again I won’t be bothered texting him no more, and that no any text at all, if he text me I’ll wait day or two and give him one short shitty answer. Treat people the same way you being treated by them. Nothing test as good as own spoon of medicine. Love yourself First Ladies.

  • Neet December 28, 2016, 7:39 am

    Totalally disagree based on my experiences. In this day & age the dude, if an honest bloke, would ring you!! If he was a lazy guy & texting was an issue, he would flick you a quick call, explain himself & tell you so. No way is stopping communication acceptable. The guy is a dud. Simple as that. Get out of town for a sporty or public crawl weekend with your mates & if he contacts & you are still keen, ring him for an explanation on the spot.

    • Fred December 30, 2016, 6:15 pm

      Of course a man stopping communication is acceptable. If a girl doesn’t respond in the right way any self respecting man has the option to not reply – why should he if the response is not what he wants.

  • Anannya July 23, 2016, 4:12 pm

    I met a guy this month we met and I started liking him since the first day itself he

  • Deeabne July 20, 2016, 12:09 am

    I’m so damn tired of reading these articles that tell you women need to walk on eggshells around men and if something bad is happening, YOU need to change. Everyone’s in a bad mood every once in a while and if the guy you’re texting is so terrified of that he feels the need to stop communication, maybe he’s just an immature douchebag.

  • Lynne May 11, 2016, 5:22 am

    yup, its all about the vibe it sets the mood

  • Vivian Ogden November 28, 2015, 9:35 am

    I have been mostly reactive in a situation like this, but I understand how I should be a little different about things. How do I change the way I react to things like this?

    • Aida December 16, 2016, 7:31 am

      By always putting yourself in the first place. Not the negative kind of way… but prioritize yourself. If we react to what he said/did and let that take over our mood and well-being, then we surely aren’t being proactive because we let someone else make a negative impact on us and we won’t be able to move on.

  • Marie Cavalier November 26, 2015, 10:04 am

    Well, if you are waiting around for a text, I will assume that you have other, better things to do.

  • Betty Cook November 25, 2015, 9:36 am

    it could be something simple, so i think a calm, proactive approach is best.

    • Dina Harmon November 28, 2015, 9:45 am

      agreed. any other way to look at it might bring a worse scenario that neither of you should have to deal with.

  • Donna Orr November 24, 2015, 9:41 am

    I deal with this all the time with my b/f. He doesn’t always have his phone around him so I can understand how he will miss the text.

  • Georgia Herod November 20, 2015, 9:19 am

    I wouldn’t generally worry about something like this, however, if it has been a few hours or a day, I would start to think that something had happened.

  • Lucy Capps November 19, 2015, 9:11 pm

    While being proactive is the best measure to take, I will go out on a limb and say that most people are reactive to situation like this.

  • Carolyn Brownell November 18, 2015, 11:59 am

    nothing. assume he is not interested and move along.

    • Kelli Walser November 23, 2015, 7:42 am

      Easy for you to say. Are you still single?

  • Fidela Greathouse November 18, 2015, 11:51 am

    I have noticed a different response time when I text him in a “happy” mood versus a “crabby” mood, if you can see that through text.

  • Patricia Talbott November 17, 2015, 8:11 am

    Do you really think that the “vibe” can be felt through the text messages?

    • Sandra Montgomery November 20, 2015, 9:28 am

      In certain situations, yes.

    • Arlene Smith November 26, 2015, 10:13 am

      I think so. It might not be as easy as face to face, but these days, attitude can be projected through text.

  • Leslie Lopez November 16, 2015, 8:55 am

    There are a lot of reasons, I understand that. What worries me is that it might be something bad like an accident or other bad life situation.

  • Stephanie Turner November 14, 2015, 9:19 pm

    I tend to be a more proactive type of person. I am not going to over react because I did not get a reply to any text, that would just make no sense at all.

  • Barbara Rivas November 14, 2015, 4:52 pm

    Can’t you just ask him why? It is possible there is a reason.

    • Bonnie Edwards November 23, 2015, 7:51 am

      Do you think he is always going to tell you the truth?

  • Patricia Jenkins November 12, 2015, 9:52 am

    If you can, find out the reason right? If the guy starts to act weird about it then you know there is something he is hiding.

    • Dee Gonzalez November 16, 2015, 9:03 am

      Yea, that is usually a sign that something is amiss.

  • Minh Angel November 12, 2015, 9:42 am

    I would just wait a little bit and text in a few days like nothing happened. Maybe just start another conversation and see what happens.

  • Mary Smith November 11, 2015, 8:45 am

    These are good tips to keep you calm, but honestly, if you are going to freak out, there are other issues here.

    • Cori Marrs November 24, 2015, 9:50 am

      That is the way that I look at this situation.

    • Irene Perry November 25, 2015, 9:46 am

      same here.

  • Charlene Grant November 11, 2015, 8:32 am

    LOL. I do nothing. I can take a hint, but the next time I get a text from him I am all like, “what the hell, you want a reply from me NOW?”

    • Tammy Roberts November 19, 2015, 9:22 pm

      LOL, I am guessing that the conversation does not go much further than that huh?

  • Rosa Fretwell November 10, 2015, 9:53 am

    I have a rule. If he does NOT get back to me in under 24 hours, I will give him a week. Then I take the hint and just forget about it.

  • Nanci Dicus November 10, 2015, 9:42 am

    Just do not freak out. There is ALWAYS a reason. Just take it easy and try to figure out the reason and all will be good.

    • Regina Flemings November 17, 2015, 8:24 am

      yeah and sometimes the reason is a dumb one.

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