Does he love me or does he not? Is he in love with me or does he just love me as a person? Or does he just like me… as in… he enjoys having sex, hooking up and having fun, but do the feelings run deeper than just a good time?
These questions might have run through your mind because it can be extremely difficult to figure out if a man feels true love, is just having a good time or falls somewhere in between.
That’s why I’ve come up with this list of 8 undeniable signs that mean he definitely loves you:
The 8 Undeniable Signs That Mean He Loves You
1. He Makes You A Top Priority In His Life
There is a difference between a man treating you as a priority and a man enjoying spending time with you when it is convenient and easy for him.
When a man treats you as a priority, it means he goes out of his way to do things to make you happy. He might go get you soup when you’re sick or watch a tv show you like with you just because he knows you like it.
Or maybe he goes out of his way to spend time with you rather than do something else such as go out with his friends.
This is not to say that if a man goes out with his friends and does things he enjoys doing without you that it means he doesn’t love you. All this means is that there are many occasions where it is obvious that he has chosen to put you above other things in his life.
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And if he loves you, he will be happy to choose spending time with you over doing something else. Convenience, on the other hand, is when a man enjoys spending time with you but it is always on his terms and you go out of your way to accommodate his needs and wants.
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2. He Trusts You
If a man loves you, he will trust you. Trust takes on many forms, whether it relates to him feeling like he can talk to you about really personal issues in his life or him trusting you in terms of not needing to spy on you and be suspicious of you doing something behind his back.
The latter is fairly straightforward. When he trusts that you’re a good person and believes that you aren’t going to betray or hurt him, it’s a big crucial part of him really being in love with you.
On the flip side, if he is obsessively trying to control and analyze every little thing you say or don’t say… If he is constantly suspicious and jealous to an extreme level (because jealousy to a point is normal but past a certain threshold it becomes destructive and emotionally draining)…. this is not the essence of love. This may be obsession or infatuation, but is not love.
Another aspect of trust is that a man is able to “let his guard down,” so to speak, and actually show his true self to you.
Men walk around guarded most of the time, being a certain way they feel they have to in order to align with societal ideals of masculinity and how men are “supposed to be.”
Men are simply not going around bearing their souls and revealing their true, authentic self to just anyone.
So if he talks to you about deeply personal topics and actually shows you his true self… rather than just talk about surface level topics and maintain the usual mask he wears to the world, this is a huge sign he’s truly in love with you.
3. He Asks Your Input For Future Decisions
When a man is in love with you, he is going to care about your opinion when it comes to major life decisions and important, significant situations in his life.
For example, if he is thinking of leaving his job and is trying to weigh the pros and cons of leaving and finding a new one, he will run this by you: he will ask for your input and genuinely listen to it.
Or if he is thinking of buying a house, a car or moving… he will bring this up to you, because your opinion matters to him.
4. He Is Affectionate
By affectionate, I mean more than just having sex with you.
If he is affectionate, he will do things such as hold your hand in a certain way that feels loving and kind. Or he will cuddle with you for the sake of it. Or he will see that you’re sad and give you a hug.
This is not enough alone to mean that he loves you; he could still do these things and not be in love with you, but if he is in fact in love with you the chances of him doing these things is very high.
5. He Is Protective of You
If a guy is protective of you, it means he is going to do things such as… instantly get furious if someone else screws with you or does something to hurt you.
If someone is against you, he will be by your side and immediately defend you. He is “with you,” a partner in this world.
This is what it looks like when a man loves a woman. His instinct is to protect and to help her if anyone is ever hurting her in any way.
I am not talking about him getting into fist fights or being violent. What I mean by protection is if he sees a situation causing you negative feelings, whether it is a person, situation or anything getting in the way of your happiness, his instinct will be to protect you.
6. He Shares A Vulnerable Side of Himself With You
Men are not going to be vulnerable with just anyone. If he is vulnerable with you and truly opens up to you, you can bet he at least feels a strong enough connection to you to be so open and vulnerable.
And another thing this means if he is able to share a vulnerable side of himself with you is that he is comfortable with you.
So if you combine him being comfortable with you and feeling a strong connection… These are good indicators that signal he is in love with you.
7. He Accepts You for Who You Are (And Loves You For It)
Are you able to be yourself around him? Do you feel comfortable showing him who you really are rather than trying to be someone else to make him happy? Does he appreciate little things about you that make you unique and love you even more for them?
These are all major signs that he is in love with you. If he notices and understands the unique and special quirks that make you who you are and actually appreciates these things, it is very likely that he could be in love with you.
8. He Is Affected When You Are Upset
If he sees you truly upset, sad, hurt or unusually angry… how does he react?
Does he seem to be somewhat concerned but not really care that much? Or does he seem visibly affected and like he wants to swoop in and solve the problem?
Men want to solve problems, in general and in life, especially when it comes to the woman they love. If he is visibly affected when you’re in an upset and tumultuous state of mind, it’s a sign he loves you.
At the end of the day, you have to take these signs into consideration but these are by no means the “be-all-end-all” when it comes to determining whether a man is in love with you or not.
No relationship is the same and while all men do share many common similarities across the board, every man will have his own unique way of expressing and showing love. So you need to really look at your situation without being overly fixated on signs that signal that he loves you.
One important thing to realize is… the more you fixate on whether he loves you or not, the more you will drive him away.
Even if he does in fact love you, if you do not let yourself actually enjoy the relationship for what it is right now and how it is right now, you are going to unknowingly sabotage your shot of making it work with him.
Always remember this: enjoy the quality of the time you spend with him and be present in the moment rather than fixating on whether he does or does not love you.
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The 8 Undeniable Signs A Guy Loves You
- He makes you a top priority in his life
- He trusts you
- He asks your input for future decisions
- He is affectionate
- He is protective of you
- He shares a vulnerable side of himself with you
- He accepts you for who you are (and loves you for it)
- He is affected when you are upset