Signs You're In The Right Relationship

How Do You Know You’re In The “Right” Relationship? Here Are The 7 Key Signs

Are you afraid of dying alone? Are you in a relationship right now? Are you so afraid of dying alone and being alone in general that you’re settling for any relationship you can get? Are you somewhere in the middle? Or are you truly happy?

These questions are important for one reason: to determine whether you’re in the right relationship. And if you are not in a relationship, to know how to assess whether you’re in the right one or not when you do get into one.

If you’re in the right relationship, you’re going to have a future full of warm, happy, tingly romantic feelings. If you’re not in the right relationship, you are destined for a future riddled with horrible, painful heartbreak.

I want to make sure you avoid this fate and know the truth once and for all.

The question so many women have boils down to this: Are you in a relationship right now, but can’t figure out whether you’re settling or if this is the real thing?

Relationships can be tricky little things. Sometimes it feels like you need someone to hold your hand and guide you through one… or at least give you a map.

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Sometimes you are in a relationship for too long before you realize you’re not happy, and sometimes you get so scared of never finding the right one that you settle for being unhappy just so you can keep a relationship.

But if you’re in the “right relationship” everything feels so much better. You find yourself smiling more often, you notice that you think about the one you love (and then catch yourself and grin like a fool), and you imagine all sorts of ways you can make your man happier too.

You don’t just have these feelings in the short-term. Sure, in the beginning you have butterflies and warm, fuzzy feelings that surge through your body. But as it goes on, you develop a mutual level of genuine comfort around each other.

You feel a natural, effortless sense of peace when you’re around him.

But what if things aren’t how they used to be? What if things are starting to go downhill and you aren’t sure if this is what you thought you signed up for initially? What if things are kind of headed in a good direction, but you can’t predict what the future will hold?

The thing is, it’s not always clear. A lot of women aren’t sure what to do to get the “right relationship” and how to identify whether they’re in one.

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So I want to give you seven key steps to having the “right” relationship.

Note: before I go on, I want to make it clear that the “right” relationship does not mean it will always be perfect. By “right” I mean you naturally love and enjoy each other for who you really are.

So with that said, let’s get into these 7 key things you need to have the “right” relationship.

1. Spend Time Together

If you want to get into, and stay in, the “right relationship”, you have to be willing and eager to spend time together. Try some of the things he likes to do, take up one of his hobbies and see if you enjoy it. Suggest he tries the things you enjoy doing. It may take some time, but when you can balance out things you both like doing you will find yourself experiencing new and exciting things to enjoy with your guy (and you’ll both love it).

2. Live Without Him

You also have to understand that there will be things he prefers to do alone. Maybe he enjoys watching sports and you like scrapbooking or blogging. We all need time to invest in our own interests, and if you can take time for yourself you know you are in the “right relationship”. This also brings me to the next Step.

3. Stay Yourself

Just because you are with someone does not mean you have to change who you are to make them happy. Stay yourself, and let your man do the same thing. Instead of trying to make a guy change, encourage personal growth and improvement. He will feel like you love and care for him, without feeling like his own personal space is being invaded.

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4. You Disagree

Arguments happen, even in the happiest of relationships. It’s a fact of life. Nothing is perfect 100% of the time, but you can handle things correctly. When you argue, you can disagree. What separates a couple who disagrees respectfully with each other from other couples is that there are never any hurt feelings or feeling like you have something to prove. You don’t have to change his mind on everything and you definitely don’t need to agree on everything. Accept that he will have different opinions, and he will respect your opinions and accept them as well.

5. You Don’t Fight To Win

Fighting should never be about winning and making the person you love feel degraded. It’s not even about making him hear what you want to say. Arguments should be about understanding and coming to middle-ground. If you are arguing just to feel like you “win”, you’re actively damaging the relationship and making your man feel like less of a person.

No one wants to feel like their words and thoughts are worthless, so use your arguments to find a common understanding and respect for one another rather than tearing each other down.

Couples who stand by each other when things get rough and times get tough are the ones who succeed in the long haul.

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6. You Remain Attracted To Each Other

I’ve heard that a common fear people have is losing attraction for their significant other after being with them for years and years. If you lose attraction for each other, it can make maintaining the relationship very difficult. If you feel like you don’t have attraction … (continued – Click to keep reading How Do You Know You’re In The “Right” Relationship? Here Are The 7 Key Signs)

22 comments… add one
  • Christian February 23, 2017, 4:55 am

    With these seven key steps, I think I’m in the right relationship.

  • Theresia November 28, 2016, 3:23 pm

    Wat can i do about the distance between us ….we meet once a year

  • mutoni flora August 6, 2016, 7:07 am

    m hapi to feel contented that iam in a serious relationship

  • Donna G. April 7, 2015, 11:55 am

    These are all great signs that you are headed down the right path in your relationship. I like the feeling I get when I know it is the right one. Thanks!

  • Debbie April 1, 2015, 1:03 pm

    I think there are a lot of people here that agree that you need to avoid the signs you listed. That is a no-brainer. Most of all, you need to get into a relationship that is right for YOU. If that is the case, then you are good!

  • JosiePosie March 25, 2015, 5:13 pm

    You have a very good list of signs here. If you see any of these and still cannot figure out if you have mister right, there are other issues.

  • Girlfriend007 March 22, 2015, 4:44 pm

    I think that sometimes it might even take a little longer than you think before you know you are in the right relationship. These are good things to keep in mind, but all relationships are different.

    • sinazo June 17, 2016, 8:13 pm

      I have a boyfriend he cheated me long time we have two child when he s at home he just make his phone close but if it’s me who did that he complain we are staying together long time he didn’t even how to take care of his child

  • Brody March 12, 2015, 4:11 pm

    I personally like to spend time with the person that means the most to me. I think that when you put everything else aside to spend time it shows them something.

  • Heidi March 6, 2015, 1:54 pm

    I like these tips. They are very relevant for those looking for the “right” signs :)

  • Markus Weerus March 1, 2015, 6:52 pm

    I think that you make some very valid points here. The 7 signs that you have posted are a great start to determining that you are dealing with the “right” person at the right time!

  • PerfectDude February 27, 2015, 10:37 am

    This is a great list and I for one agree that these steps are a great way to tell if you are in the right relationship. You may not need to do them ALL, but it is good to see them as a way of knowing he is the right one.

  • Jimmy311 February 26, 2015, 11:37 pm

    I like the list that you have here, especially that one that says that you will disagree. its the couples that claim they do not disagree that are unrealistic to a point.

    • Dick Tornour March 19, 2015, 12:14 pm

      I agree. There just is not enough truth behind the couples that claim to never fight. A sure sign that you are in the right relationship would be a disagreement every now and then.

  • Sandy February 20, 2015, 5:24 pm

    I think i am finally in the right relationship for the first time in my life.

  • Marina February 18, 2015, 1:35 am

    This makes no sense that you can be in a “right” or “wrong” relationship. There is no such thing, it’s actually crazy that you can say that.

    • Frank March 13, 2015, 10:57 am

      I can agree with you to some degree. It comes down to whether YOU feel that it is the “right” relationship for you. Use the tips as a sort of gauge for yourself.

  • Elise M. February 17, 2015, 9:19 pm

    This is the truth! If you can’t stay yourself in a relationship, you shouldn’t be in one! You should be figuring out who YOU are and what YOU want to be doing! And if you can’t live without him, you’ve got some serious ISSUES!!!

    • Jillian March 14, 2015, 9:06 pm

      I agree. This is a very good list and one that should be followed by anyone that is looking for the “right” relationship!

  • Penny R. February 5, 2015, 3:12 pm

    I’m sorry but this is a bunch of crap. There’s no way of knowing you’re in the “right” relationship or not. There’s no way of predicting the future. You could be with a guy who’s perfect for you and you’re perfect for him and he could still just cheat or leave you for no reason. Getting someone’s hopes up that they’re in the “right” relationship is a horrible thing to do. Shame on you.

  • Naomi B. February 4, 2015, 3:20 pm

    Can’t say enough about #2 lol! I had a bf a year ago that broke up with me for being “too needy” I just wanted to be around him all the time! But now I found another man and I give him the space he needs and our relationship is amazing! I do have a question about #7 though what if we don’t really do a lot of the same things together because he likes to work alone but we still have fun hanging out? Thanks for the article Nick!

    • JuiceyMan March 1, 2015, 6:53 pm

      I also like #2 :)
      I feel bad for those that get out of relationships because the other is “too needy”. could it be that the other person did not provide enough? They should not be in a relationship if they cannot give a little back.

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