Are you afraid of dying alone? Are you in a relationship right now? Are you so afraid of dying alone and being alone in general that you’re settling for any relationship you can get? Are you somewhere in the middle? Or are you truly happy?
These questions are important for one reason: to determine whether you’re in the right relationship. And if you are not in a relationship, to know how to assess whether you’re in the right one or not when you do get into one.
If you’re in the right relationship, you’re going to have a future full of warm, happy, tingly romantic feelings. If you’re not in the right relationship, you are destined for a future riddled with horrible, painful heartbreak.
I want to make sure you avoid this fate and know the truth once and for all.
The question so many women have boils down to this: Are you in a relationship right now, but can’t figure out whether you’re settling or if this is the real thing?
Relationships can be tricky little things. Sometimes it feels like you need someone to hold your hand and guide you through one… or at least give you a map.
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Sometimes you are in a relationship for too long before you realize you’re not happy, and sometimes you get so scared of never finding the right one that you settle for being unhappy just so you can keep a relationship.
But if you’re in the “right relationship” everything feels so much better. You find yourself smiling more often, you notice that you think about the one you love (and then catch yourself and grin like a fool), and you imagine all sorts of ways you can make your man happier too.
You don’t just have these feelings in the short-term. Sure, in the beginning you have butterflies and warm, fuzzy feelings that surge through your body. But as it goes on, you develop a mutual level of genuine comfort around each other.
You feel a natural, effortless sense of peace when you’re around him.
But what if things aren’t how they used to be? What if things are starting to go downhill and you aren’t sure if this is what you thought you signed up for initially? What if things are kind of headed in a good direction, but you can’t predict what the future will hold?
The thing is, it’s not always clear. A lot of women aren’t sure what to do to get the “right relationship” and how to identify whether they’re in one.
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So I want to give you seven key steps to having the “right” relationship.
Note: before I go on, I want to make it clear that the “right” relationship does not mean it will always be perfect. By “right” I mean you naturally love and enjoy each other for who you really are.
So with that said, let’s get into these 7 key things you need to have the “right” relationship.
1. Spend Time Together
If you want to get into, and stay in, the “right relationship”, you have to be willing and eager to spend time together. Try some of the things he likes to do, take up one of his hobbies and see if you enjoy it. Suggest he tries the things you enjoy doing. It may take some time, but when you can balance out things you both like doing you will find yourself experiencing new and exciting things to enjoy with your guy (and you’ll both love it).
2. Live Without Him
You also have to understand that there will be things he prefers to do alone. Maybe he enjoys watching sports and you like scrapbooking or blogging. We all need time to invest in our own interests, and if you can take time for yourself you know you are in the “right relationship”. This also brings me to the next Step.
3. Stay Yourself
Just because you are with someone does not mean you have to change who you are to make them happy. Stay yourself, and let your man do the same thing. Instead of trying to make a guy change, encourage personal growth and improvement. He will feel like you love and care for him, without feeling like his own personal space is being invaded.
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4. You Disagree
Arguments happen, even in the happiest of relationships. It’s a fact of life. Nothing is perfect 100% of the time, but you can handle things correctly. When you argue, you can disagree. What separates a couple who disagrees respectfully with each other from other couples is that there are never any hurt feelings or feeling like you have something to prove. You don’t have to change his mind on everything and you definitely don’t need to agree on everything. Accept that he will have different opinions, and he will respect your opinions and accept them as well.
5. You Don’t Fight To Win
Fighting should never be about winning and making the person you love feel degraded. It’s not even about making him hear what you want to say. Arguments should be about understanding and coming to middle-ground. If you are arguing just to feel like you “win”, you’re actively damaging the relationship and making your man feel like less of a person.
No one wants to feel like their words and thoughts are worthless, so use your arguments to find a common understanding and respect for one another rather than tearing each other down.
Couples who stand by each other when things get rough and times get tough are the ones who succeed in the long haul.
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6. You Remain Attracted To Each Other
I’ve heard that a common fear people have is losing attraction for their significant other after being with them for years and years. If you lose attraction for each other, it can make maintaining the relationship very difficult. If you feel like you don’t have attraction for him… there are two things you can do: talk to him, try to find out what it is that you want and work to fulfill that desire or you can admit to yourself that you’re not attracted to him and move on.
Honestly, sometimes you’ll want more or different things than your partner, and he will want more or different things than you. But generally, you should be compatible with him.
The same goes for him if he’s in the same position.
The key is communication, which brings me to my last step.
7. You Work Together
Whether it’s in your own house or out in public, you are a team. You strive to make yourselves better and to work together as a unit. When you go out shopping, give him items off the list and have him get them while you get something else. If you are playing a game with friends, make a plan together to win.
Even if you find yourself getting held back or holding him back, learning to work as a team will vastly improve your relationship and ensure that you are doing the right thing.
If you feel like you aren’t showing any signs of being in the right relationship, you don’t necessarily need to leave it.
Every relationship is unique and involves two different people.
Remember: if you aren’t happy outside of your relationship, you will not be happy inside your relationship.
A relationship does not exist to entertain you or feed your every desire. You have to bring happiness and a good vibe to a relationship to get the same thing out of it.
Does your relationship show signs of being the “right one” or do you think there are places you can improve yourself?
Let me know in the comments below.
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The Best Signs You’re In The Right Relationship
- Spend Time Together
- Live Without Him
- Stay Yourself
- You Disagree
- You Don’t Fight To Win
- You Remain Attracted To Each Other
- You Work Together