You’re here because you want to know the signs that a guy is never going to marry you.
This is a difficult issue – it’s extremely painful to think of all the time you’ve spent with him (maybe years and years) and worry that it’s not going to last, and that eventually he’ll leave you alone.
I empathize. It’s a horrible situation to be in, and I want to get you through it and past it as quickly as possible.
That’s why I’ve written down the biggest signs that he’s not serious about marrying you.
Look for these signs in your relationship to figure out whether your man is ever going to get serious and put a ring on it.
I hope you get the answer you want, but in case you don’t… it’s always better to know sooner rather than later that he’s not serious. If you know today, you can do something about it now. If you find out 5 years from now that he’s never going to marry you, well…
So without any further intro, here are my biggest giveaways that he’s never going to marry you:
The 13 Biggest Signs He’s Never Going To Marry You
- He’s super wishy washy about whether he will or he won’t.
- He proposed… but he’s refusing to set a date.
- He hates and avoids conflict.
- He outright says he never wants to get married.
- He acts like your relationship isn’t serious to friends in public.
- He says his family won’t approve and he won’t fight for you.
- He’s a misogynist and hates marriage.
- He won’t put labels on your relationship.
- He doesn’t want you to meet his family.
- He gets hostile when asked about the future.
- He has tons of excuses why you can’t get married.
- He instantly changes the subject every time marriage gets brought up.
- He gets angry whenever you mention marriage.
1. He’s Super Wishy Washy About Whether He Will Or He Won’t
This is one issue that guys in general just aren’t wishy washy about.
Most guys know within a year whether they see long term marriage potential in a relationship or not. Even if he hasn’t actively thought about it, his gut is going to give him an instant answer yes or no.
Which is why when a guy is wishy washy about marriage – “I’m just not sure right now, give me more time to think about it…”, it’s usually an excuse designed to get him some breathing room, and a sign that he doesn’t really want to get married.
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2. He Proposed… But He’s Refusing To Set A Date
I’ve seen women fall into this trap and it’s heartbreaking every time.
Sometimes, a (scummy) guy will get tired of fending off marriage talk, because he never intends to marry her in the first place but he doesn’t want to give her up either.
So he’ll actually propose to her – without ever intending to set a date and get married.
If he’s constantly pushing off the marriage date (months or years down the line), or even refuses to have a conversation about when to get married at all, it’s a big sign that he never intends to (and maybe never intended to in the first place).
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3. He Hates And Avoids Conflict
In a situation where a guy never wants to get married and his partner does, it usually resolves itself eventually.
What I mean by that is that the disagreement eventually escalates into a conflict, and it resolves either by taking the relationship to the next level or by splitting up.
But that only works when both parties are willing to have a conflict. If he avoids conflict at every turn, if he’s the type of guy who hates to “rock the boat”, if he refuses to fight because he doesn’t like arguments – it’s a bad sign.
It means he’d rather tell half lies, half truths, and other misleading statements than actually confront the issue between you. And that means that if he really doesn’t want to get married and you do, unless you’re very proactive about it it’s going to take much, much longer to find out.
4. He Outright Says He Never Wants To Get Married
I have a rule I like to give to people that ask me for advice: when a guy tells you something, believe him.
If he says he never wants to get married… it means he never wants to get married!
I can’t count the number of women who have tried to “change a guy’s mind” or who just absolutely know they can get him to reconsider… who wind up heartbroken one or three or five years down the line.
If he’s telling you outright that he doesn’t want to ever get married, do yourself a huge favor and believe him at the beginning, then decide whether it’s worth it to stay with him or not.
5. He Acts Like Your Relationship Isn’t Serious To Friends In Public
If he’s talking down your relationship around other people, it means he has no confidence in what you have together – and that he’s not proud of it in the slightest.
Why else would he downplay how serious your relationship is?
A guy who isn’t willing to say that you’re in a serious relationship in public is not going to plan and then have a wedding where he publically declares his love for you. This is a very bad sign for future marriage prospects with him.
6.He Says His Family Won’t Approve And He Won’t Fight For You
True love always finds a way.
If he was serious about marrying you, then he’d find a way to convince his family that you were right for him – or at least stand up for you if they were casting doubts.
But if he stays mum about his family’s views of you, or uses it as an excuse why you can’t get married, or worse, agrees somewhat with his family, it’s a terrible sign. It means that he’s never planning to marry you.
7. He’s A Misogynist And Hates Marriage
If when marriage is brought up all he can talk about is what a bum deal it is for men, and how unfair child support and alimony payments are, and why would any man fall into the trap of getting married…
Well, not only is he showing you who he really is (someone who flat out does not trust women and expects the woman who he loves and marries to stab him in the back), he’s also showing you what he thinks of marriage.
Believe him. He’s not going to get married (and he’s toxic).
8. He Won’t Put Labels On Your Relationship
A guy who has trouble calling you his girlfriend is probably never going to call you his wife.
That’s pretty blunt – but it’s true.
Sure, some guys might grow out of a pretty childish fear of labels in a relationship. But it’s probably not wise to bet on it (maybe for years of your life).
If he’s got problems with labels now, he’s going to have problems with them later.
9. He Doesn’t Want You To Meet His Family
The saying goes, when you marry someone, you’re not just marrying them, you’re marrying their entire family.
And while some people really do cut ties with their families, the vast, vast, vast majority do not.
So if he’s not even introducing you to his family, it signals exactly how serious he is about spending the rest of his life with you.
10. He Gets Hostile When Asked About The Future
He’s probably not dumb: if you’re talking about “the future”, he probably knows what you mean.
And if he gets hostile and angry when you bring it up, that’s a pretty huge sign.
That means that he’s got a ton of internal conflict about it. If he knew that he doesn’t want a long term future with you, but he’s keeping that from you because he doesn’t want you to leave, then he’s going to have a pretty explosive reaction to any questions in that direction from you.
It’s a crappy way to behave. And it means that he almost certainly doesn’t have any marriage plans on his mind.
11. He Has Tons Of Excuses Why You Can’t Get Married
If he keeps coming up with new excuses why you can’t get married, he’s punting the question down the road because he doesn’t want to deal with it.
For instance, if he says “I need to be making more money,” – but doesn’t say how much more money, or when he expects to be making more money, or why that needs to be true to get married…
Then it’s just a convenient excuse – and one that’s outside your control.
A lot of the time, he will get that raise he’s been looking for – and then move onto another excuse why you can’t get married. “No, I want to own a house first…”
He’s putting it off because he never wants to in the first place.
12. He Instantly Changes The Subject Every Time Marriage Gets Brought Up
A guy who knows he doesn’t want to get married but is willing to string a woman along who does is going to want to avoid the subject at all costs.
After all, why make waves? Things are going “fine” – why bring up a subject that’s just going to get everyone upset?
He wants the status quo, forever. He’s going to avoid marriage talk because it threatens the status quo.
If he changes the subject as fast as he can, it means he never wants to talk about it, and would prefer that the subject just disappears.
13. He Gets Angry Whenever You Mention Marriage
A guy who is pretending like he might eventually get married (when he knows that he doesn’t want to) knows that he’s doing a crappy thing. He knows it’s a cruel thing to do to a woman.
If he gets angry whenever marriage is brought up, that’s where the anger is coming from. He’s angry that he’s being forced to confront that he’s being cruel.
It’s a huge sign that he never wants to get married – one that it’s much better to listen to now rather than later.
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