Ever wonder how to attract the perfect man and make him fall for you? People’s desire for one another has a direct correlation to how comfortable each appears in their own skin and how solid they are in knowing themselves. It could take something as simple as putting on a pair of heels to gain a sexy swagger, smiling at a man in a coffee shop to invite conversation, or being at ease and enjoying a date. When you feel confident you attract love in your life. There is a secret formula for attraction that when implemented, you’ll start attracting men like a magnet and before you know it he’ll be on his knee begging for commitment.
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1. Allow a man to earn you
There are different phases in dating and this means taking your time and pacing things out so that you don’t give too much away of yourself too soon or too fast. Men respect women who are able to set boundaries and set the pace and tone for what is expected from them.It sounds so simple but let go of the urgency of finding that perfect partner right away. You’ll have plenty of time to get to know if he is the right one. Avoid being too available, eager and easy. Instead ignite the pursuit and create intrigue and mystery so that the guy wants to know more of you.
2. Pay attention to the signals you send
93% of communication is nonverbal. So what you say isn’t even as important as how you present yourself. Guys are constantly looking for women to give them the “come talk to me” vibe because they’re terrified of rejection! Keeping that in mind, your overall goal is to use your feminine body language to show him that you’ll say yes if he asks you out. You need to turn your cab light on, send smoke signals, and hold up your dance card to men. In other words, let men know that you are available and open to talking. Smile, laugh and make eye contact every time you see a man.
3. Convey a sexy, feminine image
Men like to date women who look feminine, so if you really want that guy to see you as more than a friend or coworker you need to dress the part! Incorporate more curve-hugging dresses, shorter or split skirts, and sexy heels into your wardrobe, and I guarantee the men in your life will start to see you in a whole new light.
4. It’s all about your attitude
Research shows that upon first impression (which is in the first 30 seconds of meeting someone), a person’s attitude is one of the most important determining factors of likability. That is why it’s crucial to make sure you are in a positive mood when entering a social situation or on a date with a man.Focus on cultivating those qualities within yourself and your contagious positivity will attract great men no matter where you go! Be the person everyone wants to meet by creating a vibrant energy around you. Appear friendly and approachable.
5. Flirt!
The essence of flirting is expressing your interest in someone without committing yourself too seriously. In a nutshell, that means flirting is supposed to be fun and playful!If your goal is to meet a bunch of men and be friends with them then yes, by all means, continue to have boring, intellectual interactions. But if your goal is to meet a man you want to date, then embrace your femininity. Embodying your sexual, feminine side doesn’t mean you have to “dumb down” or lose who you are. Men just want to see you as positive, upbeat and playful which in turn increases their attraction to you as a woman.
6. Communicate and express who you are
Many women complain that conversations can get boring or one-sided when meeting a man for the first time. There are things, however, you can do to change that by simply looking at what you are offering and how you are communicating. Avoid asking a million questions of the man. Rather, ask a question and share a related personal story about yourself to his response.This balance of give and take allows a man to really “see” you and creates a connection that facilitates more exciting conversation between the two of you. Letting a man know who you are and showing your emotions and vulnerabilities will help you connect with him faster. The more you connect on an emotional level, the more someone will want to know you.
7. Catch him and keep him
As time goes by, you may settle into a routine and either take each other for granted or skate by without the relationship progressing to where you want. It is common for some of the excitement to go down as a relationship progresses but sometimes people drift so far apart that it’s difficult to find their way back. In order to avoid the drift or things staying too stagnant, be mindful of continuing to create fun and excitement, keep a line of open communications to what you are wanting in the relationship and keep a “dating” attitude towards each other.
Obviously, timing is everything and pacing things out is one of the most important elements in dating. What is exciting about these secret tips is that they are easy things to change, incorporate and experiment with in order to see if you get a different result with men. For more tips make sure you sign up for my free guides and newsletters at www.eliteimagemakeovers.com.
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In summary…
Scientifically Proven Ways To Make Him Fall For You
- Allow a man to earn you
- Pay attention to the signals you send
- Convey a sexy, feminine image
- It’s all about your attitude
- Flirt!
- Communicate and express who you are
- Catch him and keep him
About the Author
Kimberly Seltzer is a Makeover & Confidence Expert, Therapist and Dating Coach based in Los Angeles. She utilizes the unique combined use of therapy, in-field date coaching, NLP and styling to help people with their confidence and dating life. Kimberly helps men and women update and discover their personalized image through wardrobe consultation and assistance in purchasing clothes that fit each body type and lifestyle. She has developed her own wing gal approach with clients doing in-field work working on body language, first impressions, image and messaging and how it impacts confidence and attraction.
She has enjoyed opportunities on the radio, tv and on the web. Kimberly is the Co-host & Lead Love Expert of a traveling dating show, The Great Love Debate. She is also the co-host of a radio show, Full Disclosure launching soon. You can also see her in a new cable reality dating show, The Romance.
Kimberly enjoys speaking and giving seminars such as being the keynote speaker for Neutrogena, National Matchmaking Conferences, eHarmony, The Great Love Debate and iDate. She is a regular contributor to the Huffington Post, DigitalRomance.com, WorldLifeStyle.com and YourTango and is featured in Cosmopolitan Magazine, AskMen, Fox News Magazine, Redbook and Yahoo Shine.
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Flirting will get you many things in your life. My mom always told me that I need to watch out though because you might get something that you do not really want.
I would be happy to agree that once you open yourself to the man that you are allowing him to fall in your direction. Makes sense to me.
Ok, I like to read this. Now I just have to apply these tips and see what happens.
I would say that if you are sending signals without realizing it, you better watch yourself. You might be sending the wrong signals to a guy that you do not want to be with.
These are good tips. I have had a couple of guys fall for me in my day, however, I never really took notice of this soon enough and they just walked on by.
I have made the mistake of not holding on tight enough when I found a guy that I really liked. I will NEVER do that again!
You are the pro and if these are proven, then I would be foolish not to give them a try!
Body language! I can turn things up very quickly with a few moves that I feel I have perfected :)
Just like he is paying attention to those signals, you are going to have to do the same. That way, you are both on the same page when it comes to who has what feelings.
I would like to know how to handle the process AFTER the guy falls for you?
Flirting is a great way to move things long. However, it can backfire if you are really not interested and that is just your nature, so you should watch yourself.
Kim,
I have been wondering if this guy I know has a crush on me because of the way he acts around me. I could maybe try some of these things and go from there, right? Maybe one of them will trigger the way he feels about me?
Kim,
what is these types of things do not work on a guy that I have a crush on? Do I take things to the next level and just be blunt and ask him out? Or, do I just realize that he might not be into me and move on?
Well, I have been lonely long enough and if these are proven, then I am going to give it a try and see what happens. Wish me luck!
I have thought to myself in the past, “next GOOD man I find, I am going to make sure to keep him”. That made me realize some of my faults and fix those that might have been driving men away from me.
I hope these tips work. I know how science is and I am figuring that as long as I have a candidate that is willing to work with me, the game is on :)
There is nothing sexier than a feminine image that you can portray.
True! Most men would fall over backwards for me when I was spreading it on real thick!
I met this guy at work and he is really cute and sort of seems into me. Do you think that I can use these tips to see if what I see is how he feels?
I think you can. Good luck!
I never seem to have a man fall for ME. I am always falling for them and I wonder if it is because I get lonely and just try to jump the gun a little.
Flirting is huge! If you really want a man to notice you, the signals from you have to keep flowing.
Yes it is! I think this is one of the first things that you do when you are trying to get a man.
This is great. Instead of waiting for him to fall for me, I am going to speed the process along.
Unless you want to wait for the pigs to fly, this is something that you could easily speed up.
There is no reason to wait around for any guy. Get in the drivers seat and push things along!
Body language and other signals are hard to read sometimes. These are good tips though, thanks!
I disagree. If i see body language that is supposed to get my attention, it happens. If you up the body language for a guy, you WILL be falling for you.