“I want him to love me!” Here’s how to get him to fall in love with you by just following these 12 easy steps!
You’re so in love with him, but he just doesn’t seem to share your feelings. And if he does, he isn’t showing it. Can you do anything to make him fall in love with you? Well, short of putting a love spell on him, you can’t force him to do anything, but there are certain tricks you can use, moments to take advantage of, and just steps you can take to get closer and create a stronger bond with a man. You can’t control his mind, but you can definitely get in his head. Here are 12 ways how you can achieve that:
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1. Love and appreciate yourself
tv personality and supermodel of the world, RuPaul, has a catchphrase that rings true over decades: “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?” Before you take steps to enter any kind of romantic relationship, you first have to learn to love yourself. Take the time to get to know yourself and your strengths, and love yourself – others will love you, too.
2. Have confidence and determination
And speaking of loving yourself, when you do, people can see it in your eyes, and in the way you carry yourself. Confidence oozes out of your pores when you’re That Girl, and that’s incredibly attractive to men. So, if you want to catch his eye, don’t be a wallflower, and don’t be shy, or insecure. Be yourself, and believe in yourself and your best assets; he will find that much more attractive than a perfect body.
3. Realize how you feel about him
Something people don’t often stop to actually ponder is “Do I love him?” I encountered this problem in my last romantic entanglement. I was so busy wishing with all my heart that the guy would fall in love with me, and trying to get him, that I never questioned whether I actually had feelings for him, personally, or I just desperately wanted a boyfriend. Whoever the guy is, he deserves to be loved for who he is, and not just because he’s a warm body to keep your loneliness company; I learned that the hard way.
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4. Be there for him
When you’re interested in someone that way, you shouldn’t just be making efforts to attract him to the dark side, but actually act genuine around him. Foster a real relationship – be his friend, be there for him when he needs you, and support him when things get rough. If you’ve ever doubted your feelings for him, this should make things perfectly clear: if you’re in love with him, you will gladly stand by him, and he will, in turn, appreciate it and grow closer to you.
5. Don’t pretend to be something you’re not
There is nothing more unattractive than fake people. When you pretend to like something you don’t just because he does, he will be able to smell you from a mile away, and it won’t endear him. Just like women, men want someone genuine, someone “real”. It doesn’t matter that you’re not perfect; he wants your imperfect, flawed, charming self and that’s who he’ll fall in love with, even if you hate his favorite sport.
6. Make (a lot of) eye contact
Studies have shown that the power of eye contact is even more tremendous than you thought. I’m not saying you should stare at him until he loves you, but if you make prolonged eye contact and smile at him, you might just trigger an interesting response. You see, people in love spend most of their time staring lovingly into each other’s eyes, so doing the same can “trick” his brain into associating you with that same feeling. It’s not cheating, it’s science!
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7. Spend time together
The more you see him, the more you want to see him. Spend enough time with him, and soon enough, he’ll feel the same way about you! This isn’t just true for romantic couples, but for interpersonal relationships, in general. The more time you spend with someone, the more you get to know them. You get to talk, laugh, share things and bond over similar experiences. That’s how you naturally get closer to someone, after all.
8. Take some space
It’s important that after all that time spent together and after he’s gotten used to having you around, to take some time for yourself. Try not to be so available. Go on a trip out of town, visit your parents, or just don’t reply to his texts immediately. What this does is helps him realize that he can’t take you for granted, because you’re not always going to be there. It gives him an opportunity to miss you and realize that holy shit, he likes you a lot and he misses you and he needs to make an effort to keep you in his life.
9. Laugh at his jokes
Again, fake laughter isn’t going to cut it, because it’s incredibly obvious, but if the man is funny, give credit where credit is due! Not only will this stroke his ego, but it will also bring you closer. People who laugh and have fun together have an easier time bonding, and you’ll have the advantage of giving him warm and fuzzy feelings to associate with you. Whenever he thinks about you, he’ll remember how good you make him feel and how much fun he has with you.
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10. Play up your similarities
People, even in non-romantic relationships, tend to stick to other people who are similar, both in appearance and in personality. We naturally gravitate towards people who share our values, our tastes, our morals, our goals for the future, opinions, experiences, background, etc. The more you have in common, the more he will probably like you. So play up everything that would make you guys a great couple. You already know it; it’s only a matter of helping him see it, as well.
11. Cook for him (or with him!)
Food is one of those things that everyone enjoys and usually associates with good times, satisfaction, and happiness. Not that you can seduce a man in that old-timey “men love a woman who cooks” kind of way, but food can be a love language. Whether you cook something tasty for him or it’s a joint effort, there can be a lot of feelings sparked in the kitchen, so don’t underestimate the power of an empty stomach.
12. Be a damsel in distress
Men love to be needed, because it makes them feel like they’re heroes. You’re in trouble (even if it’s just the garbage disposal acting up), and you need him, specifically, to come and save the day for you. He is needed. And you’re so grateful! Now you can kiss and live happily ever after. It’s not that simple, of course, but the basic idea is the same – give him opportunities to feel needed, and help him in return; soon, he’ll think of the two of you as a team.
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In summary…
1. Love and appreciate yourself
2. Have confidence and determination
3. Realize how you feel about him
4. Be there for him
5. Don’t pretend to be something you’re not
6. Make (a lot of) eye contact
7. Spend time together
8. Take some space
9. Laugh at his jokes
10.Play up your similarities
11.Cook for him (or with him!)
12.Be a damsel in distress
a guy will surely fall in love with you if you spend more time together. this will make him know you more and discover the good qualities that you have that will make him like you.
realize how you feel about him. this is so important, it just had to be on this list. i admit, this is the part where i fall most of the time. i hope i really could wait and get to know a person before jumping into the next level next time.
i will absolutely follow these 12 amazing steps to his heart! this wonderful article has made me realized that learning how to make a guy fall for you is not that hard at all.
do things for him and with him. like running errands or cooking, these activities will not only make him see the natural you, it will make him want you and love you for who you are.
hmmm. i should start thinking how do i really feel about him. i also desperately wanted to have a boyfriend but i think it’s better if i should just wait for the right man for me instead of wasting my time for someone who can’t fall in love with me.
unfortunately, i still don’t have the man that i like. i want him to be by side right now but i don’t know how to start. will surely follow your advice.
playing up with similarities will absolutely do the works! thanks for saying this, i really needed something that i could put in good use. all the other articles say the same thing and i don’t ever get results. hope this 1 will do.
i definitely agree with this post. don’t pretend to be something you’re not and you will make a guy fall in love with you in an instant!
i tried “damsel in distress”sooo many times and i can say it really works. men tend to have this sense of wanting to be needed or to solve your problems for you. so give that to him once in a while. he’ll surely love it.
these are 12 easy steps for me! now i am confident that i can make my crush fall in love with me. i am so excited to share my feelings with him! thanks!
be there for him. i believe this is very important for a man. whatever he’s going thru specially when he’s feeling down & low.
i can say that my boyfriend is deeply in love with me because of my positive outlook in life. i love what i do and never hated myself for anything that is beyond my control.
lots of eye contact and quality time spent together would definitely make him fall for you. ladies, remember that physical attraction is far from love so don’t get too busy making him fall for you based on the physical attributes you have. men love character and substance.
the key to this is to be yourself and love yourself inside out! if you do, then you will definitely catch a man’s interest!
be there for him. there is nothing more important for a man than to know that his lady is so supportive of him. men needs this from time to time.
the easiest way to get a guy to love is you is by loving and appreciating yourself. nothing can beat this i tell you! like what this article says, – Take the time to get to know yourself and your strengths, and love yourself – others will love you, too.
if you want a guy to love you, you must be like a fun person to be around. guys don’t like boring relationships so if you are a fun person, he will definitely find you interesting.
i like this guy so much and there is something in me that is looking forward to him feeling the same way for me. i will definitely follow your advice to get him hooked! thanks a lot!
i love that the 1st on the list is about loving and appreciating oneself. thanks for this post, i really like it and i’ll surely share this to my friends.
who would not fall for someone who is always there to support you especially during rough times? no.4 is a sure way to make a guy fall in love with you!
you’re right, you better realize how you truly feel about him first and foremost. most women think they’re in love with a guy but really, they’re in love with the idea of falling in love. don’t make this mistake if you want things to really work out well.
i agree with number 11. my partner and i love cooking! we really enjoy doing this together especially trying new recipes we see on the net. this really gets him hooked to me!
Love is a two-way thing. You can’t expect them to love you if you don’t really love them in the first place. What does that mean? “Sometimes we want someone to fall in love with us because we need to feel wanted, but in reality, we’re not actually in love with the person ourselves,” says Spurr. “Ask yourself how you feel about this one. Do you accept them for who they are? Value them and the fact they’re in your life? Do you appreciate all that they do for you? If not, you may just be wishing to be loved without being willing to love yourself. But the two go hand in hand.”
i love this post! i learned a lot of things that i can do to attract the man of my dreams and make him fall in love with me forever. i will share this to my friends too! thanks a lot!
for me, it’s really about spending some time together. and not just time, but quality time where there’e no distractions. it doesn’t have to be grand or too far. it can be at the comfort of your space doing stuff you both love like watching movie or series you both like.
it’s one thing to know how to strategize and make him fall for you, but it’s another thing to know and realize what your true feelings are. most of the time women fall for the wrong guy because of the emptiness and loneliness they feel after being single for quite a time. but that is not love at all.
i am very much in love with my boyfriend. he is the man of my dreams and i want him to fall in love with me forever too! i will do whatever it takes just for him to chase me!
i will follow these steps consistently. i am madly in love with my boyfriend and i want him to feel the same. thank you so much for this wonderful post!
for you to be likeable to others, you need to like/love yourself first. this way you know your worth and you’re not settling for anything/anyone less. appreciate who you really are and be confident – men like confident women and hate needy ones.
i agree with no. 1. if you don’t love and appreciate yourself, then others will not do it too. and take note, a man can easily see this so be mindful of it.