What Do Men Find Attractive: 15 Character Traits That Attract Men To Women

What Do Men Find Attractive: 15 Character Traits That Attract Men To Women

Have you ever wondered what it is that men find so attractive in a woman? Maybe you’re wanting to impress a particular guy and have been wondering what he finds attractive.

The truth is that different guys will find different qualities in women a turn-on. However, there are several qualities that almost all men will find attractive in a woman. If you’re ready to find out what they are then, keep reading.

Besides attraction, if you also want to discover how to make a guy fall in love with you, we have a great article here on >>The American Dating Society website.<<

1. A woman with a passion

Having a passion in life besides the person of your affections is an attractive quality in both a woman and a man. Having a passion in your life besides your partner or prospective lover lets them know that you won’t become needy in a relationship.

There’s nothing more off-putting to a guy than a needy woman, so showing him that you have other interests besides him will make him feel more at ease. He’ll also view you as a more interesting person with more depth to your character. This will likely get him to want to take the time to get to know more about you.

2. A sense of humour

Having a sense of humour helps to make the relationship more fun and shows a guy that you have an easy-going side to your personality. No men find grumpy women attractive. It’s far more appealing to spend time with a lady who can often see the funny side of things and can laugh at herself now and again.

You don’t need to be a comedy genius to have a sense of humour. Just being able to feel comfortable laughing with him and seeing the funny side of situations can go a long way.

3. Women with an adventurous side

Women with a sense of adventure are very attractive to almost all men. Having a sense of adventure gets the guy thinking of all the fun things the two of you can do together and also gets him wondering if your adventurous streak extends to the bedroom.

4. Women who notice the small things

Women love it when a guy notices that she’s had her hair done or is wearing a new pair of shoes, for example, and so too do men.

Taking the time to notice the little things about him will show that you are interested in him and not a person who just thinks about themselves.

You don’t need to reserve this for just noticing the new changes, like a new jumper or a change of aftershave. It can make an impact to comment on any little characteristic he has that you like, such as how his eyes may sparkle when he smiles or the way he his dimples pronounce when he laughs.

Many women may notice little characteristics about a guy they like, but very few will take the extra step and actually tell the guy that it is something you notice and appreciate about him. Doing so will make him think you are rare, and it shows that you are not self-obsessed. Always a good thing!

5. Kindness

Kindness is a wonderful trait in anyone, but when a guy sees your sweet side, it can be very attractive. This goes back to the instinctive part of the attraction when a male is looking for qualities in a mate that show they will be a good wife and mother.

Showing your soft side doesn’t have to be limited and only directed towards the person you are trying to impress.

You can demonstrate this trait by sponsoring a charity that resonates with you or helping an old lady across the road when the opportunity presents.

6. Women who are cool with your friends

Most guys consider their friends important to them and appreciate it when their girlfriend is cool with them spending the time to hang out with their mates.

More so, take the time to join in with the guys if it seems appropriate to do so. Even if he has one or two friends that you don’t like, making the effort with them when you don’t need to will show your mature side.

7. Women who are unique

Women that just follow the crowd tend to blend into the crowd. Having your own unique style shows guys that you have a bit more backbone and are not afraid to be individual.

8. Happiness

Happy, upbeat women are perceived as being far more attractive than cold, hostile, grumpy or moody women. If an otherwise highly physically attractive woman generally has a bad or grumpy attitude, her attractiveness will be significantly lower in the eyes of most guys, so leave the frown at home!

9. A sexually confident woman

Women who are sexually confident are a big turn on for men. When a man sees that a woman is confident and comfortable talking about sex, then it starts to make them wonder what she’s like in bed.

Being ‘matter of fact’ about sex can show that you are comfortable with the subject and may be a person of experience. Just don’t over-do it or you may come across as a slut!

10. Women who are good with kids

Again, this shows a guy your caring and kind side and demonstrates that you would be a good mother if ever your relationship developed that far.

11. Not wearing too much makeup

A woman who is comfortable not to feel like she needs to wear makeup in public is very attractive. This shows confidence in yourself and that you don’t need the attention or approval of men to make you feel good.

A woman who wears too much makeup can appear shallow and too into appearances. It also shows a lack of confidence and self-esteem that she would feel like she needs to over-do her appearance before leaving the house each morning.

12. Modesty

No one likes the person who is always blowing their own trumpet. The same goes for guys when they are talking with a woman they are potentially considering asking out.

Leaving something to mystery is very intriguing and will cause a guy to want to find out more about you if he is interested.

It’s great if a guy is still finding out fresh and interesting things about you, even after you’ve known each other for a few months.

This helps to keep things interesting, and he will also think that there is depth to your character. Not telling everything about yourself straight away also shows you are confident enough in yourself not to feel the need to tell him all the wonderful things about you.

13. Women with self-respect

Guys like girls who have respect for themselves. Doing everything too early, too soon may be fun at the moment but the next day he will be wondering how many other guys you have given it up for so easily.

This will likely cause him to lose interest in pursuing anything serious with you. If he comes back for more, then chances are highly likely that’s all he’s after.

When it comes to choosing a long-term girlfriend, guys generally don’t go for the woman who put out too soon.

14. Intelligence

A woman who clearly has a good degree of intelligence are often much more appealing to men. It’s not necessarily that guys like women who got good grades in school. What’s more important is that she can hold a good, stimulating conversation and she has common sense. So don’t worry, you don’t have to be a rocket scientist or a brain surgeon!

Having an opinion on topical subjects also shows the guy that you have a wider range of interests and are not afraid to voice your point of view.

Many guys also hold the belief that intelligent women are better in bed!

15. Women who touch you when they flirt

This is a great one; guys love to flirt with a woman who is playfully touchy. A gentle touch on the arm as you explain something or a nudge on the shoulder as you laugh at his joke can come across well.

Guys also like it when a woman occasionally and playfully gives then a punch on the arm or chest when joking around with them. It’s often unexpected but received very well. Men think it’s cute when a woman does this, and it also shows your playful and perhaps slightly feisty side, which can also be a turn on.


So there are quite a few tricks and traits you can adopt to make yourself more attractive to men. It’s often not necessary to pour more attention into your physical appearance. Try a few of these tricks and watch the positive reactions you get from the guys.

In summary…

These Are The Traits That Attract Men To Women

  1. A woman with a passion
  2. A sense of humour
  3. Women with an adventurous side
  4. Women who notice the small things
  5. Kindness
  6. Women who are cool with your friends
  7. Women who are unique
  8. Happiness
  9. A sexually confident woman
  10. Women who are good with kids
  11. Not wearing too much makeup
  12. Modesty
  13. Women with self-respect
  14. Intelligence
  15. Women who touch you when they flirt

traits that attract men to women

Article contributed by the American Dating Society at asnamnat.org

30 comments… add one
  • maia September 21, 2016, 7:29 pm

    Unknown to many, men find women who are good with kids very attractive. This uncommon type of men are definitely for keeps!

  • laverne September 20, 2016, 11:54 pm

    u definitely made a good point here! (:

  • miriam September 19, 2016, 9:10 pm

    you are definitely right! great list of character traits to also look for in a guy

  • carmins September 16, 2016, 6:10 pm

    yes, it’s true that intelligence and self-respect are very important characteristics that men look for in women nowadays

  • georgina September 15, 2016, 6:39 pm

    these are all true and realistic character traits that men adore in women, and so do the women in men.

  • jennylyn September 15, 2016, 2:43 am

    men love confident and independent woman who can stand on their own but know their responsibilities and know how to have fun too

  • marla September 13, 2016, 7:18 pm

    i’ve heard men say they find smart women attractive the most

  • joni September 12, 2016, 6:37 pm

    you’ll definitely get the attention and more lasting positive effects with all these traits

  • donnabelle September 9, 2016, 7:34 pm

    You are definitely correct. I hope women strive for these character traits not just to please men but for themselves first.

  • glenda September 8, 2016, 10:14 pm

    on top of the list should may be “happiness”. men don’t want women who are constantly ranting about anything.

  • ysabelle September 7, 2016, 7:50 pm

    above all, i think men are looking for women who have substance and who are confident in their bodies, not too much that they flaunt everything out.

  • amelia September 6, 2016, 8:29 pm

    awesome! loved this article and so i’m sending this to all my friends to share! <3

  • finella September 3, 2016, 1:03 am

    you are definitely right! sometimes we think it’s just the physical attraction that matters.

  • violet September 1, 2016, 6:20 pm

    just as we like attention from our men. they too would like to know we notice them and the little stuff they do..so start being sensitive about his feelings and actions too

  • allona August 31, 2016, 7:41 pm

    as much as men are visually attracted, they value the woman’s effort for self-respect. only superficial men would go for women who shows too much skin.

  • mayen August 30, 2016, 11:52 pm

    passionate and confident women are rare now. i hope ladies will learn from this post

  • amelia August 29, 2016, 6:06 pm

    men are the same when it comes to attraction. though at first, we think they’re more into physical attraction..

  • zyrille August 26, 2016, 7:13 pm

    men love it when we admire them and we tell them so. if you notice even the smallest things h’s doing for you, he might really consider you’re the one. <3

  • darleen August 25, 2016, 11:31 pm

    love this article! will surely pass it on to my BFFs! <3

  • martina August 24, 2016, 7:59 pm

    thank you for pointing out “Women with self-respect”. a lo of women nowadays just go w/ current trends and stuff. they wear disgusting clothes to attract men when all they have to do is be themselves, earn respect for themselves and the right one will come along. men who gets attracted w/ physical appearance alone will soon be gone when they see another woman more attractive than you.

  • charlize August 23, 2016, 11:39 pm

    passionate and confident women are usually the top choices for men

  • rizalyn August 22, 2016, 11:46 pm

    women will definitely learn so much from this, will pass this one to my friends

  • pepita August 19, 2016, 12:23 am

    as much as we love men with sense of humor, men also love this about us. they don’t want very serious stuff all the time.

  • sherilyn August 18, 2016, 12:56 am

    men are also attracted to simple but sophisticated women. those who do not look so needy of attention

  • charmaine August 15, 2016, 11:48 pm

    men are attracted to confident and independent women who can stand on their own and do not need a man to complete their identity

  • tamara August 12, 2016, 11:16 pm

    men are really attracted to women who notice even the smallest things or changes in them.

  • larissa August 11, 2016, 6:52 pm

    i believe in essence, a man wants a woman who has her own identity and one who really knows who she is, what she wants and where she wants to go..not someone who wants just any attention/acceptance from a man.

  • wanda August 10, 2016, 11:45 pm

    i love this article..makes me wanna do more for my man. <3

  • Kassy August 10, 2016, 5:37 am

    What do u do when your man is always reading about what attracts women to men and looking up on other women not u

  • max August 9, 2016, 10:54 pm

    men are just like us, they get attracted to almost the same reasons as we do.

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