Want to know how to talk dirty to a guy without feeling weird, awkward or embarrassed? Consider this the only dirty talk guide you’ll ever need!
Talking dirty can feel awkward, uncomfortable and like you will fail at it no matter what.
Well, the truth is, talking dirty to your man is a way to use your “feminine powers” for good: you’re going to make a man feel so desired, wanted, and lusted after, that the fact he is also with you makes him feel like he just won the lottery. A big part of the “art” of seduction is how you make others feel, and the other half is about how you feel about yourself.
To keep him deeply attracted to you, you need to be sure that the dirty little things you say to him are both authentic , and coming from a place of sexual and emotional confidence. Talking dirty can build sexual tension, be an incredible way to stoke the fires of a lackluster relationship, or even take a new relationship to a whole new level of sexual intimacy, but if you just talk the talk without walking the walk, these phrases will fall flat. They won’t be effective.
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All of the dirty talking phrases we’ll share with you are based on your own sexual confidence.
If you want to skip straight to the 85 dirty talk phrases, feel free, but if you first want to know why you need to talk dirty to him, just keep scrolling along.
Quick warning: These phrases maybe graphic in nature, and they might even turn you on, just reading them and thinking of saying them to him.
Why you need to learn to talk dirty
You can’t just talk dirty to a man without knowing the psychology behind why it needs to be done. You also need to know that dirty talk should never be relegated to just the bedroom. Using these dirty phrases throughout the day or sexting him when he’s in the middle of his work day is just as important as using them mid-coitus.
This will make your sex more enjoyable, but also build up sexual tension in the form of erotic foreplay so that he is thinking about having sex with you even when he’s not actively engaged in the act.
Orgasms that rock his world and yours are just an arm’s length away when you use these nasty, naughty phrases to entice his visual and emotional appetite. The trick is to make him feel sexy.
These types of phrases are just suggestions, and of course once you get started, and more practiced in talking dirty, you may find that an inner erotic Goddess is let loose – like Pandora’s box just burst open. You may then come up with your own naughty phrases. Feel free to go with that instinct.
Build Sexual Tension
For those of you in a long term relationship, know that this is an imperative skill to have to keep sexual tension and keep sex interesting. We often take our partner’s sexual desires (or even our own) for granted. By talking dirty, you unleash the sexual and sensual conversation. It starts with words you speak, and carries into your physical actions. If you find your partner is struggling to stay aroused once you get sex started or just doesn’t show any interest in having sex to begin with, these naughty phrases will wake up a part of their brains that has lain dormant.
This isn’t a “trick” for getting him horny, but a way to wake up latent, pent-up sexual arousal.
The whole purpose of dirty talk is to create longing, sexual tension and arousal.
If you do this right, he’ll be thinking naughty thoughts about you all day long, even when he’s getting money from the ATM or sitting at a red light in traffic. Then, those feelings will carry over into your sex life.
Dirty talk is a great way to enhance good sex, and to turn it into ecstatic sex. When you talk to him like a wild banshee, completely unabashed, he’ll go crazy for you. Screaming profanities like, “fuck me harder,” or “I want to watch you cum all over me,” or “you’re cock is throbbing, baby” takes the sexual experience from one level (a decent one) to the next level (the toe-curling, I can’t wait to fuck you again level).
You can also whisper things in his ear and be just as effective with your dirty words. You are basically going to overload his senses with arousal. By using these words when you are caressing his penis, or kissing him, his imagination starts to engage, and there’s no stopping where the sex might go next! Your man will respond to different types of dirty phrases and talk in different ways, so you may need to pay attention and respond accordingly.
Never think that one-size-fits all. He may get way more turned on if you talk about what he is doing to you and how he makes you feel, or he may get off on listening to you describe, word-for-word what you are doing to him or what you are about to do to him.
The goal is to intensify the emotional and sexual tension. That’s because sex is really a mental game more than a physical one. Sure, he has an initial attraction to you that is very physical, but to make that attraction last, it has to be caressed, and cherished.
Keep a Sexual Image of You Burning in His Mind
An additional benefit of learning to talk dirty to your man is that it will keep you at the forefront of his mind. You want him to think warmly and affectionately about you, sure, but you also want him to be kind of obsessed about what he can do to you sexually the next time you see him.
There’s nothing worse than spending a hot, sexy weekend together, and then as soon as your man goes off to work, he starts to forget all that incredible love making. By making it extra vivid, and involving all his senses, he won’t be able to forget. You can also keep that sexual vibe going by sending him dirty text messages or leaving him naughty voicemails. This will ensure that he is fantasizing about you all day, every day, no matter where he happens to be in the world. It might be 3 A.M. on the other side of the world, but he’ll wake up in the idle of the night dreaming of being inside you again.
Now that you know to combine sexual tension, and infuse more intensity into your sex life with dirty talk, you can likely see where this is leading.
EXACTLY HOW TO TALK DIRTY TO HIM – STEP BY STEP INSTRUCTIONS
Now that you know exactly why you need to talk dirty to him, let’s discuss exactly how to accomplish this feat.
1. Start Off Slow. If you’ve never talked dirty to your man before, or it’s been a long time since you were both horny teenagers, start slow, without being extremely explicit. You don’t want to freak him out, or make him think you’re having an affair because your sexual behavior suddenly changes so drastically. Tease him a little. Don’t go all the way to the extreme with your dirty phrases. Say something like, “you are so sexy to me,” and go from there.
2. Take the Pressure Off. Similarly, you should start an erotic conversation in the bedroom if he isn’t in the habit of getting naughty texts from you. It might be too off-putting or strange if you suddenly start sending him texts telling him that his cock is harder than any man’s you’ve ever seen. If he responds positively in the bedroom, send him a dirty message the next day, or tell him something kinky over coffee in the morning. Then start to make this more or a habit so that you are flirting with him all day every day. After a while, you can whisper something obscene in his ear while you’re dining at a fine restaurant or if you really want to get dirty, tell him to meet you in the bathroom.
3. Tailor Your Dirty Talk to His Preferences. Some guys will be turned on if your dirty talk has an air of innocence to it. If you say, for instance, “I really want to taste you, but I’m embarrassed to tell you.” Other guys are good with you being as explicit and raunchy as you could possibly be. They might be about to explode if you say, “I’ve been dreaming of your thick cock oozing in my mouth all day.” Just be sure to tailor your dirty talk to his particular desires. He may also respond better to simple dirty talk questions like, “Do you like it when I lick your balls, lover?”
4. Be Yourself. Don’t say something to him that you don’t actually feel or you would never actually say. He will sense the inauthenticity and be turned off. When you talk dirty to him you should be having fun too! What you say should be a natural expression of your most free, and confident sexual self. If you don’t feel comfortable saying, “I want to fuck you so hard,” don’t say it. Maybe saying something like, “Your big biceps make me want to take off your shirt and blindfold you with it.” That Might be more your style. Just go with what feels natural, and comfortable. You might also start off with a phrase that is more timid and build his and your confidence to talk dirty over time. What feels comfortable today may change as you become more accustomed to talking dirty.
5. Don’t Force It. This goes with being yourself. A forced dirty phrase will never effectively get his blood moving, and his desire amped up. Even if you giggle, or mess up a “dirty phrase,” if this is authentically you, it’s going to be way hotter than some automatic, shake-and-bake phrase that you just regurgitate. Don’t force dirty talk before you or he are ready, and it will be a hit. Through trial and error, you will also learn what turns both him and you on. Then you can elaborate on that. Any emotional connection that comes from physical bonding will also be more real, and less contrived.
6. Don’t Mistake Dirty Talk for Aggressive Sexuality. You don’t have to ram sexuality down his throat with your dirty talk. There is a misconception among women that they can’t be feminine, or that they need to be sexually aggressive to turn a man on. This couldn’t be farther from the truth. A man will respond to real, authentic, and even shy dirty phrases more so than explicit and aggressive sexual remarks in many cases. This doesn’t mean that some men don’t prefer really bawdy women, but don’t think that you have to be really outlandish to get his attention. Just whispering something fairly innocent in his ear like, “when we are alone, you have no idea the things I’m going to do to you,” is often sufficient. Then smile and look into his eyes, and he’ll know your sincere, but also incredibly desirable.
The following phrases are broken into different categories to get you started. Just go slow, but prepared to build some serious sexual heat in using them.
DIRTY TALK PHRASES TO HELP BUILD SEXUAL TENSION
1. If we weren’t here (insert public place) right now, you’d have absolutely no chance of keeping your clothes on.
2. Do you think I have panties on right now?
3. What are you doing after work, I need some of your cock ASAP.
4. Damn, you smell good enough to eat.
5. I just want to make you whole face wet with my juices.
6. Are you hungry baby? I want to swallow you up.
7. If you keep looking at me that way, I’m not responsible for what happens to your cock.
8. I can’t stop thinking of what you did to me last night.
9. I need your body near me right now. Get over here.
10. I can only think of one thing right now, and it’s you naked in my bed.
11. Do any of these people around us right now have any idea what a stud lover you are? (Let’s keep it our little secret.)
12. I can’t imagine sharing you with anyone, you’re so freaking hot.
13. Why don’t you suck on my peaches, they’re plump.
14. Do you want to suck on my nipples while I fondle you?
15. No one needs to know that your hand is up my skirt right now.
16. Can I touch it?
17. You make me so horny, I can’t stand it.
18. Just looking at you makes me wet.
19. I’d like to share every inch of my body with you.
20. I’m ecstatic just thinking about your cock every day.
21. When I wake up in the morning, the first thing I think of is how you fuck me.
22. I haven’t seen you in so long, but I can still remember your body like it was yesterday.
23. Let’s fuck in front of a big mirror so I can see you making love to me.
24. Why can’t I have you right now? None of these people need to know.
25. I like licking your stick.
DIRTY TALK PHRASES FOR INTENSE SEX
1. When you pull my hair, it makes me want to come.
2. I want you all the way inside me, give me all of you.
3. Your cock is so delicious.
4. Why can’t I have you like this all the time, you’re my new addiction.
5. Your body feels like heaven. I’m insatiable.
6. This cock is all I need, and maybe some air.
7. Your dick is so full. It feels amazing.
8. When you hold my buttocks that way, It makes me explode.
9. What naught little thing do you want me to do to you next?
10. You have no idea what you’ve gotten yourself into. I’m going to be your sex slave.
11. Yes, that’s what I like. That is so hot. Fuck me more.
12. Fuck me more I’m going to cum.
13. I want to make you come so hard.
14. Let’s fuck again. I want more.
15. I’m going to wear you out.
16. Let me get on top of your cock, sweetie.
17. You need to grab my tits and hold them while I cum.
18. You’re so naughty.
19. I’m your naughty girl.
20. Your cock is huge.
21. I want it inside of me as soon as possible.
22. Fuck me now, I can’t wait.
23. How do you want me to fuck you? Like this?
24. Slow and easy, or fast and crazy. I’ll fuck you however you like.
25. Do you want to watch me suck you?
26. I love when you’re hard.
27. Stop being such a walking turn on.
28. I wish you could be inside me forever.
29. You make me so wet it doesn’t feel real.
30. Why do you drive me so crazy?
31. God you turn me on so much it’s not fair.
32. Stop being so delicious.
33. You are giving me an oral fixation.
34. I wish I could eat you for breakfast.
35. You drive me crazy.
36. You are so hot it is wild.
37. You’re driving me crazy… in the best way.
38. You are the biggest turn on.
DIRTY TALK PHRASES TO KEEP HIM THINKING ABOUT YOU
These are phrases you can use when you want to remind him of you when you are apart, such as over an email or text.
1. I miss your cock inside me baby, when are you coming home?
2. That little thing you do with your tongue inside me, it’s insane.
3. How can I please you? Can I suck on you a little?
4. Do you want to dive inside? I’m nice and wet for you.
5. I can’t stop thinking about what you did with your dick the last time we were together. It’s magic.
6. How do you do the things you do in bed? You make me all wet and bothered.
7. I have no powers of concentration right now. All I can think of us sitting on top of your hard cock.
8. I want you to fuck me from behind next time.
9. What is your fantasy? What should we try next? I’d like to fuck you in the shower.
10. No matter how far you are, I can feel your dick inside me.
11. I’m not wearing anything under this robe, and I’m touching myself thinking of you.
12. What do you want me to do to your cock when I see it again?
13. You have the hottest ass I’ve ever seen.
14. I want you to look into my eyes while you penetrate me deeply.
15. How fast do you want to come?
16. I’ve been thinking of how perfectly you fit inside of me.
17. Remember that time that you fucked me against the wall?
18. I can still taste your dick on my lips.
19. I can’t get enough of your cock. It’s like my food.
20. It’s official, I’ve been dickmatized.
21. I want your cock and no one else’s.
22. My pussy is just for you.
23. I’d love to sit on you all day long.
Where To Go From Here
Of course, these are all just examples. You could take dirty talking in infinite directions. As long as you are true to your own sexuality, you’ll never do it “wrong.” The trick is to switch on that part of his brain that is hard-wired to think of sex, but to put your face and body, your voice and personality into those neuronal connections he’s making that translate to: hot sex = this woman. This will make him yearn for you even when you aren’t together, and ramp up your sex life by creating sexual tension.
Also, these phrases are just a start. If you want more advanced training on effortlessly talking dirty to your man (including more dirty talking examples), then keep practicing. The more you do it, the more comfortable you will become with igniting his (and your own) sexuality.
These sexy dirty talk phrases can really turn up the heat and spice up the passion in your love life, but in any relationship there are 2 pivotal moments that determine if you get to live happily ever after or if it all ends in heartbreak so pay attention because this next step is vitally important. At some point the man you want is going to ask himself is this the woman I should commit to for the long term? And the answer to that determines everything… Do you know how men determine if a woman is girlfriend material (the type of woman he commits himself to) or if he sees you as just a fling? If not you need to read this next: The #1 Thing Men Desire In A Woman…
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