Whether you’re looking for something different in bed as a married couple (or at least a long term relationship), here are some great sex ideas that will bring some added fun into your bedroom.
When you’re in a long-term relationship, a lot of sex moves can feel a bit “old hat”. Not that you don’t still enjoy sleeping together, but the same moves are the same moves, you know? If you are stumped for ways to spice things up in the bedroom, then perhaps you should be trying something new, instead of just relying on old tricks.
Introducing new things into your sex life can be incredibly exciting, and it can help you reignite that fire that you had in the beginning of your relationship. Here are 14 new things you can try to surprise your man and bring him to orgasmic new planes of existence.
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1. Play a game of seduction
Just getting down to it can be great, but what’s wrong with a little seduction? You may think you can’t seduce someone you know so well and have already taken to bed, but you’d be wrong. There are a million ways to seduce your significant other, and they all involve a little bit of fantasy, anticipation, and stepping out of your routine.
You can greet him with a kiss at the door that turns into a long make-out session. You could wait for him in sexy lingerie in the bedroom. Even something as simple as writing him a sexual message can prime him for a night of passion.
2. Surprise him in new places
Listen, sex in bed is great and comfortable, but if you’re looking for passion, you might want to start somewhere else, first. How about the kitchen? Think about lovingly embracing him while he’s chopping vegetables, and slipping your hands down, under his pants. I guarantee you’ll enjoy some on-the-counter sex.
Even the bathroom can be sexy – in the shower, or bent over the sink. Or oral sex on the living room sofa, in the middle of the day, with the blinds open. Think outside the box and repurpose all of those handy surfaces you’ve got around the house.
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3. Don’t be afraid of kink
“Kinky” sex has a reputation of being something only those couples do. You know, the young, raunchy, non-married ones. The ones that are out to have a good time. But that’s wrong, because love and kink are not mutually exclusive. Being in a respectful, loving marriage does not mean you can’t have rough, raunchy, kinky sex.
In fact, maybe you should have a talk with your man and ask him if he’s ever fantasized about anything special, like a leather outfit, whips, chains, roleplaying, etc. His answer might surprise you.
4. Put on a show
All men love to watch, because they’ve got a little voyeur in them. Strip clubs and porn are wildly popular, after all. Now imagine how turned on he would be if he had a private show put on especially for him, that he didn’t have to pay for?
Take out the nice lingerie, put on some music and a pair of heels, maybe some red lipstick, and let the music and his reactions guide you. Remember to have fun and not take it too seriously, but I guarantee that no matter how silly you think you are being, he will eat it up and won’t be able to take his eyes – or his hands – off you.
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5. Take control
Men are used to being the ones in charge, which is why it will surprise him in the best way when you’re the one who takes control. Push him against a wall, pin his wrists above his head, and kiss him passionately. Your other hand can go exploring under his shirt and in his pants.
Showing him this overtly how much you want him and not waiting for him to initiate, but instead taking him then and there can be incredibly hot and can offer you guys a much-needed change in dynamic in the bedroom.
6. Take his vision away
Did you know that when one of your senses is taken away, your other senses become more sensitive and powerful, to make up for it? With that in mind, consider taking away something huge for men – vision. You can either choose sex in complete darkness, or you can just blindfold him.
He will love being able to hear you moan, feel your touch on his body and your smell on his skin, but not being able to see you. He will feel everything so much more intensely, and every touch of your body will send him through the roof with lust.
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7. Bring back kissing
Remember when you were in your teens and you’d spend hours making out with your high-school sweetheart? Why did we ever stop doing that? We shouldn’t replace making out with sex, we should just add it to the menu, instead.
So, next time you want to have sex, spend more time just kissing your partner slowly, deeply, and for a very long time. Bonus points if you keep your clothes on for longer, as well. Kissing is extremely sensual and it amplifies everything you are experiencing, so don’t be in a rush to get over that part and go straight to intercourse. And keep kissing him during sex, it’ll make everything hotter.
8. Have quickies
Look, we all have busy lives and we don’t always have time for hours-long sex marathons all weekend long, or sex twice a day like we used to in the beginning of the relationship. But being busy doesn’t mean no time for sex. If bedtime is difficult for you, why not… expand your idea of what constitutes an appropriate time to have sex?
Morning sex is some of the best sex, because it starts your day on a great note. A lunchtime quickie can also give you a nice, passionate refresh in the middle of the day, and mid-afternoon sex, right before you go out to dinner can also put a naughty smile on both your faces.
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9. Masturbate for him
And speaking of how much he likes to watch, if you think he loves seeing you strut around in lingerie, imagine how much more he will enjoy watching you pleasure yourself. Pleasure is hot, and he loves giving you pleasure; it’s why you sleep together. And there’s something about seeing the person we love touching themselves and moaning in pleasure.
Not only will it turn him on, but it might prompt him to also start touching himself while watching you, because he won’t be able to help himself. Right before touching you, of course.
10. Get on top
Missionary is lovely and all, but how about you try something different for a change? If you have yet to be acquainted with the joys of the cowgirl position, then it’s time to rectify that. It has the amazing benefit of allowing great access to your G-spot, as he can get in really deep. Plus, it allows you to control the pace, which puts you in control and gives him a break, because you’re doing all the work. It also allows for kisses, eye contact, and generally good intimacy.
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11. Tie him up
Get some of that spark back by playing a game: no hands! Neither of you is allowed to use their hands to get each other off; you can only use mouths and, well… genitals. Alternatively, you can just tie him up, while continuing to have complete range of movement. That means that he’ll be squirming in his restraints, while you drive him wild by touching him everywhere, licking, kissing his body, without him being able to touch you at all, or do anything about it.
12. Play with toys
Toys aren’t only for children, oh no. Toys can enhance adult playtime, as well, especially if you feel like you’ve grown tired of your old repertoire, or you’ve tried everything else. Toys aren’t only for solo use, they can also be used in a couple. A well-chosen vibrator, dildo, or cock ring can push your sensations over the edge and make things so sexy for both of you.
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13. Talk dirty to him
Is there anything hotter than hearing how much someone wants you? Hearing them present their deepest, most intimate thoughts and sexual fantasies? Dirty talking in bed can not only lead to incredible arousal and enhance sensations in bed, but it can actually improve communication between the two of you and bring you closer, as a couple. Don’t be shy or afraid to tell him where you want him to touch you, how he makes you feel, or ask him if what you’re doing feels good?
14. Be rough with him
Being gentle is nice and it can certainly be a turn-on, but have you ever shown him a different side of you? A rougher one? If he usually is the one who initiates sex, take the control from him. Be the one who initiates, and be rough about it. Make it clear that you are calling the shots and he will satisfy you the way you want.
You can push him against a wall to kiss him, pin him down, pull his hair, scratch his back, and bite his neck. Order him around – where you want his hands on your body, where his lips should be, etc. He’ll feel like he’s sleeping with a new woman and he will fall in love with this side of you he’s never experienced before. It’ll reignite that spark.
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Long-term sex doesn’t have to be stale! In fact, the longer you sleep with someone, the better the sex should be. You can refresh things and keep them feeling new by adding to your many sexual talents – in 14 new ways!
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New things for couples to try in the bedroom
- Play a game of seduction
- Surprise him in new places
- Don’t be afraid of kink
- Put on a show
- Take control
- Take his vision away
- Bring back kissing
- Have quickies
- Masturbate for him
- Get on top
- Tie him up
- Play with toys
- Talk dirty to him
- Be rough with him
it is really time to bring back kissing. i never thought i’d say this ever but yeah i just realized now how much i miss that feeling. i guess really when you’ve been together for long you tend to skip the kissing part. or is it just me and my husband? hope not.
these are definitely sexy tips and sure to be a hit to any couple. i specially like taking control and being rough sometimes. this makes him really scream for more!
relationships can get a little predictable. i enjoy sex with my hubby but now, it has become a little routine. these new things are really worth a try.
glad i read this one! we are going to celebrate another year of wonderful, wedded bliss and these ideas are perfect to spoil my husband! haha. thanks!
i think this will save my boring sex life with my long-term partner. i haven’t done anything out of the usual in a while and it can sometimes feel like all routine. i hope i could do these stuff and feel more alive and young again.
quickies in the morning is great! i also read that it is good the heart. for me, it is the best time to get naked and dirty in bed. haha
i sometimes put on a little show because as they say, men are visual beings. when they like what they see, it makes them really get more excited and eager to get it. not only will he have a good time, but you also in return will surely have a great one!
put on a show – i got intrigued on this one. my man loves to watch and i think it will really turn him on if i put on a private show. will do more research about this one though. haha
my guy and i like to brainstorm all the sexy stuff we want to do together. it was fun and it helps us have a healthy relationship.
toys and roleplays are fun and sexy ideas. try these and you will definitely have an exciting sex life!
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whenever i kiss my guy at the door, it would always turn into a long make-out session and i am loving it! will try other things discussed here too.
i like the idea of being rough with him and ordering him around. we will try this tonight and i am sure he’ll feel that he is sleeping with a new woman!
a new place will sure light up the fire! im thinking kitchen counter on a friday night just before dinner. can’t wait!
Play with toys – we are not new to this and i guarantee all of you that this is a must try in bed! very kinky!
wow! good thing i came across this post. no more falling into a routine when it comes to foreplay.
tie him up and he’ll love it! i think most men like this idea, you can incorporate the blind fold with this and he’ll surely enjoy it.
my husband and i have a sex routine and it isn’t bad at all. after reading this post, i realized that it is very important to mix things up once in a while. will try some of these and i am sure he’ll be surprised!
my boyfriend would always joke around talking about how we’d do role playing sometime…until i tried it, i never realized how really fun it can be! im still a bit shy to initiate but hey, if it worked before..what could ever go wrong, right? anyway, it’s all about spicing things up!
this is a sure way to spice up your sex life! try something new in bed and you will continue having great sex in long-term relationships.
definitely bring back kissing. i believe this is really vital. sometimes when you’re just both too exhausted from daily responsibilities, plus having children can make a married couple forget about all the foreplays that they used to do before like kissing.
no. 5 is an awesome advice. i love it and will definitely try it!
Hubs started working from home on Wednesdays, giving ‘hump day’ its proper meaning. He takes the kids to school in the morning, works in his office for three or four hours, we have lunch together (out of the house or in), and make love for a couple of hours before it’s time for kids, homework, dinner, etc. Ladies, if you’re fortunate enough to find a way to make something like this work, do it!
i’ve tried putting a blindfold on him and he liked it..lol! i was too ashamed at first but he said he had a blast and he wants them to keep coming. so, thank you for this list, they will be put into good use.
i love these ideas. will start looking for kinky games to try in bed tonight.
get on top and try to be in control. men sometimes want to feel that their lady is someone confident and in charge specially in bed sometimes.
playing game of seduction is our favorite. yep, we are not new to these things. hahaha and i can guarantee that they really work!
i definitely agree that a lot of sex moves can feel a bit old hat so i would like to try these to spice things up. i am certain that my hubby will also love these ideas.
talk dirty and take control! this is just gonna make him scream for moooore!!
i am open in doing new things just to please my man but i cannot imagine masturbating in front of him though i am willing to try and see what would his reaction be like. haha!