Okay so first of all, it can be extremely awkward trying to figure out how to “talk dirty” to a man in a way that’s going to actually turn him on without feeling awkward, embarrassed or scared.
That’s where texting comes in.
When it comes to dirty talk and getting each other turned on, one of the safest ways to do it is through text messages.
Why? Well, for one, you don’t have to come up with something to say right in the heat of the moment. You can take your time and think about what you want to say to him.
Which is huge, honestly. So many women feel awkward trying to dirty talk in the moment. If you’ve ever felt nervous about freezing up and not knowing what to say, this is for you.
And let’s face it – guys love it when a woman knows how to dirty talk. It’s a huge bad girl turn on that almost every guy shares.
Because when you’re texting with him, you’ve always got enough time to think about what you want to say. And when you have this list of 15 super sexy texts to send him, you’ll never have your mind go blank trying to think of a text again (or worry he won’t text back).
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Sending dirty text messages, just like dirty talk, is all about what feels natural. The truth is, it doesn’t really matter what you say – as long as you’re turned on (and thinking about having a super-hot makeout with him, plus a whole lot more…)
That’s because he’s not waiting to hear magic words from you, or judging you on what you say – all he wants to know is that you’re turned on and thinking of him.
That’s it. That’s 100% of what’s going to make him feel turned on.
So you don’t have to worry about the exact words you use when you text him. Much more important is your mindset, and how you’re feeling when you’re texting him. If you’re turned on, you can’t go wrong (1).
Starting Things Off
However, if you’re trying to start a sexy text message conversation, you might feel a little bit awkward about it (2).
And that’s ok ! It’s hard to get the ball rolling, especially when you don’t know what kind of mood he’s in. But remember – if you’re feeling turned on, that’s 90% of the battle right there.
Try starting things off mysterious – you don’t want to say “Let’s have intercourse right now”, you want to say something that puts a sexy idea in his head. Like… something that makes him think of you without any clothes on (3).
Drawing a blank on how to do that? Here are 15 sexy texts to get you started.
15 Sexy Text Messages To Send Him
- I’m under so many blankets and I’m still cold… I guess I should put on some clothes…
- Guess what I’m wearing right now?
- I have something I have to admit – I’ve been thinking about you all day long…
- I’m bored and I’m lying in bed. Wanna play Simon Says with me?
- Tell me what you want to do with me after our date tonight.
- Imagine we’re alone in the bedroom together – then tell me what you’re thinking.
- I had a very naughty dream last night – you were definitely there…
- I’m so bored I’m checking out sex toys online…
- I can’t sleep – all I can think about is what we would be doing if you were here with me…
- I can’t stop thinking about some very dirty things… can you help me?
- If we were together, what would you want me to do to you?
- This new underwear feels soooo good against my skin…
- I’m typing this with one hand because my other hand is busy…
- I can’t stop sucking on lollypops today for some reason…
- I have a secret – I’m watching a very dirty video online right now…
1. I’m under so many blankets and I’m still cold… I guess I should put on some clothes…
- 2. Guess what I’m wearing right now?
- 3. I have something I have to admit – I’ve been thinking about you all day long…
- 4. I’m bored and I’m lying in bed. Wanna play Simon Says with me?
5. Tell me what you want to do with me after our date tonight.
- 6. Imagine we’re alone in the bedroom together – then tell me what you’re thinking.
- 7. I had a very naughty dream last night – you were definitely there…
- 8. I’m so bored I’m checking out sex toys online…
- 9. I can’t sleep – all I can think about is what we would be doing if you were here with me…
- 10. I can’t stop thinking about some very dirty things… can you help me?
- 11. If we were together, what would you want me to do to you?
- 12. This new underwear feels soooo good against my skin…
- 13. I’m typing this with one hand because my other hand is busy…
- 14. I can’t stop sucking on lollypops today for some reason…
- 15. I have a secret – I’m watching a very dirty video online right now…
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Am afraid i might lose my b.f coz those texts are too dirty but may be let me try
I love it, and it definitely works! My GF gets so turned on, one night I got him by surprised she had no idea… ( we’re in a long distance relationship for the moment) I started with saying… I thought something silly, why don’t we play Simon says…she had no clue where I was heading to….It got really hot in no time…I wasn’t into sexting and it was awkward and embarrassing in the beginning but afterwards I started getting more comfortable with it, I think it’s a way to help a couple open up to each other, breaking down walls …. I love dirty talk and she gets so aroused!
I sent my BF one, he has not left my inbox since morning.
His away but his like I cant wait to see the lingerie.
Too bad most just want a hook up. Good long terms with great commication,trust and fabulous sex that keeps you wanting to come home is where it’s at. That’s why most of the world is lonely we have lost trust and honesty.
Awesome subtle wordplay.
I know how to turn a guy on
pretty fast and it usually just
includes removing my clothes :)
Lea you just got lucky…
Women and men. Tell a story from the time he/she walks in the door.. a sensual trip to the shower to wash off the day and an opportunity to arouse your partner. Something simple like washing intimate places softly with wandering hands and finger tips. Hot passionate kisses but then a brief back up and eye glance that tells your partner to come to you, you want them badly. Who cares if you come out of the shower loaded with soap and you hit the floor, sliding, slippery, grinding, and teasing each other. Make it your own
I love sex text
I love it, and it definitely works! My BF gets so turned on, one night I got him by surprised he had no idea… ( we’re in a long distance relationship for the moment) I started with saying… I thought something silly, why don’t we play Simon says…he had no clue where I was heading to….It got really hot in no time…I wasn’t into sexting and it was awkward and embarrassing in the beginning but afterwards I started getting more comfortable with it, I think it’s a way to help a couple open up to each other, breaking down walls …. I love dirty talk and he gets so aroused!
Okay so I tried the Simon says thing… yes it took him a few minutes to fetch on and I’ve never have more kinki awesome sex!!!! Truth or dare works as well but guys see that coming a mile away
I would let him start it first. i used some of these and really he replied back nicely but i still think you should wait till he is ready
I love this even though he’s too shy,I wonder if he will reply
It really works
My love now texts me all say
It works. My boyfriend won’t leave me alone anymore.
OMG i love this so much used some of the words to a guy I really like and I know for sure I have got him texting me all day , thank you
I can’t stop sucking on lollypops today for some reason…
i love it my bf was soooo ht
Then what would you use Mariah? Shoot me a text and enlighten me hehe
wow when i send to my bf he didn’t leave 2 days thank u so much
These are extremely tame compared to what I send my fiance. But they are a nice starting point.
I thought so as well. Although, I suppose if you haven’t been sexting with a guy a few of these examples could open the door to even more explicit kinky sexting!
girls who just HAVE to top everything be like
I kept on texting him with these trick , we are together since 4 months and nothing worked better ..
now we have a great night
guess what he replied ?
”I’ve been very bad girl lately, punishme”
his reply: no baby, it’s okay.
”This new underwear feels so good against my skin”
his reply: then buy new
”I am using one hand to text you”
his reply: AHAHA are you rubbing down there with other hand? hhaha
SIGNNNNNNN = =
Oh snap, I’m sorry. Hilarious though!
am so scared of my b/f reaction if i talk dirty to him
am so scared of my b/f reaction if i talk dirty to.
first time i tried it he never replied or said anything, he just keeps quiet which worries me so much. don’t know what do
i like ur sincerity
Oh my gosh, same with me..I almost feel like giving up like ok maybe im just not sexy and he isn’t sexually into me any more. I hear stories where people are not sexually attracted to their partners anymore. We are getting married in October. I dont bother him for sex or anything, besides kissing him, seems im the one always starting it, he seems to be always to tired or interested in tv show..
That’s my problem right now I want to give up….
This very perfect
Really Anna Causey and anyone else that thinks this is a bad idea. This is the one thing I can do with my boyfriend that gets his motor revving. We been doing this so long I swear this is what keeps us together. So is it a bad idea? Personally I think it’s the best thing since cell phones were invented. But it may not be for some, too bad you didn’t state that in your oh so wrong comment. Try it, you just might like it. What could possibly go wrong between 2 consenting adults. Lol
he’s not romantic
But i am
Are you Romantic
When it comes to sexting, I think the first thing you should do is avoid it. There have been so many bad stories about this type of thing going wrong.
I’m sure there is stuff u do that others don’t. Do they let u know their opinions about it? No? U say they have respect for indifferences? That’s smart!
I hope these work for me. My b/f has been working hard recently and I want to help him relax with a good “session”!
LOL, it is always hard for me to get a conversation like this going through text with my b/f and that is mostly because he is afraid that someone is going to find the phone and see them.
My advice for someone that thinks it is hard to get a conversation like this going is to start small. Hint towards naughty things and see where it goes. If he bites, then you are home free and if not, then you know to back it off a little.
We all act like getting him in the mood is even a hard thing to do. LOL. Have of these would get my b/f going so hard I wouldn’t even be needed the rest of the night!
On the outside, I am not a “bad girl” so to speak, but when it comes to things like dirty texts and things like that, I am a pro. Any guy I am with becomes a lucky one if he is around long enough to show that side of me.
Pfft. Turning a guy on is EASY. Text, sexting, or whatever, it does not take much to get the job done and usually the results are fun and pleasing :)
LOL, no kidding. They get all hot and bothered over the smallest attention.
Could you sound more degrading, Katie ? Besides, not all of us get hot and bothered about the smallest attention.
Well with mine it isn’t lol, used to be now I go to sleep feeling unwanted. Now that I think of it he hasn’t ever put much effort into it just kinda did it
I am not sure how to turn on my new b/f. We have been together for a few months now and I am just not sure what will do the trick. I have tried a few things, but some of the ones you have here, I have not tried. I should see if any of these will work.
Great tips. Some of us are not as skilled as we wish we would be.
Practice makes perfect :)
Does anyone else always double check to make sure you are sending these types of messages to the right person?
I will send a dirty text message every once in a while. Most of the time I catch her off guard, but otherwise she is into it!
I love these! My b/f would be crawling in his pj’s if I sent him ANY of these!
I know I would be. My g/f does not really send me too many of these types of things over the texting, but she does talk dirty in the bedroom and that really turns me on.
I like to keep it simple, but the more I read through these posts, sometimes complex is a good thing!
Oh yeah baby! I love to have some complex ways of turning my husband on. That makes him appreciate what he gets a lot more!
I think any or all of these would do the trick for me :) Now I just have to get my g/f to play her end of the deal.
I know how to turn my guy on for sure. the problem that I have is that he does not know how to turn ME on. How do I fix that?
you might have to actually talk to him and make him aware. some men are not aware of how or what to do to get a woman off. telling him might get his creative juices flowing.
I know how to turn a guy on pretty fast and it usually just includes removing my clothes :)
That should do the trick for you and if it does not, you might want to check his eyesight!
Being the “bad” girl and initiating things in the bedroom is what I am all about. These are perfect for a person like me :)
Oh I like these. I have been getting real hot and heavy with my new man and I think this would turn things up a notch or 11.
I have done this. The bad thing is that we didn’t live close to one another and it got him so worked up that he just went down the hall to some slutty girl in the dorm to take care of business. They worked, but not in my advantage :(
I love to turn on my b/f. He gets all antsy to get his clothes off and jump into the sack, but I put a stop to that just making him want me more :)
I would have to agree that men like dirty talk. My b/f and I exchange words once in a while in the sack and those are usually the most exciting times!
I was thinking the same thing. Those are the more intense times that we have in bed. I love dirty talk!
This is usually how I get my husband home early when he is out with his friends LOL.
LOL, that is a great idea!
LOL, great idea is right. I am going to try this soon, now that it is football season again :)
THIS is an awesome post! There are some very helpful hints in here! Thank you!