Is He Cheating on Me? How to Know for Sure: Spot These Major Signs

Is He Cheating on Me? How to Know for Sure: Spot These Major Signs

Is he cheating on you? It’s highly likely that if you spot several of these signs, he’s cheating on you and you’d better watch out! Here’s what to know (and what to do about it).

When something bothers you it’s only natural to start becoming curious, especially when it comes to cheating. Perhaps there is something you can’t quite put your finger on, but you feel as though something is going on.

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He could be out later than normal on work days, or he might have started to distance himself from you. Our gut instincts are sometimes the make or break of relationships. This means if you’re suspicious, you might need to look further into things, but it might just be some other reason he’s acting different (like he’s busy or going through something in his life). Those who cheat may not display all the signs and if they have only cheated once then they may only show one or two. However, it’s more than likely that if your partner is showing any of these signs that he is cheating.

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Sign #1 – He Goes Out More

You know your guy, and how much he typically goes out. If this has drastically changed, and he’s started staying behind late at work or going out with different ‘friends’ then it might be that he’s seeing someone else. We wouldn’t say this is a definite sign, but if you’re suspecting this might be one of his excuses, pull him up on it. He will either have a valid reason for being out more, or he’ll stumble on his words.

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Sign #2 – He Avoids Getting Close to You

We don’t strictly mean sex, but you can include sex in this sign too. Intimacy is a beautiful thing and when you have it with someone and it either stops or your partner starts to avoid it, then it should be a red flag. You’ll know if he starts to avoid you because it won’t even just be during potentially intimate times. He may start to avoid your calls and just distance himself from you completely.

Sign #3 – He Doesn’t Think Cheating is a Bad Thing

What’s so bad about sleeping with different people while you’re in a relationship? Well, everything. If your guy is saying quotes like this or joking about going with other girls, then this could mean he’s cheating. There are a very little number of self-respecting, non-cheating guys out there that will joke or suggest cheating with other people. They know it’s wrong and don’t want you to get worried. Unless they are cheating and then they will probably say this because they’re trying to justify themselves and hide their guilt. Now, not just men cheat—keep this in mind— humans cheat—it’s not that every man is going to cheat; however, men are often stereotyped as cheaters.

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Sign #4 – He Uses His Phone More Than Usual

If he’s always on his phone but takes hours to reply to you then it could be a sign of cheating. Generally, guys who cheat will talk to their other woman via text or social media when they’re not together. This is something to look out for if you suspect he’s going with someone else behind your back. However, this sign isn’t always 100%. He could simply be busy or having an important conversation and not have the time to message you back.

Sign #5 – He Smells Different

It may be a different perfume on his clothes, or just his general scent. When you’ve been with someone for a few months or years you know what they smell like daily. A change in smell is not a good sign and should be approached with caution as you don’t want to start accusing him of cheating straight away. Speaking about the situation might make you feel better as he could have just started wearing a new aftershave.

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Sign #6 – He Hides His Phone from You

We wouldn’t recommend you go on his phone, or spy on his messages as this isn’t the best way to deal with any situation. However, if you’re speaking about something and he goes on his phone to search an answer but won’t let you look. This is a red flag. He is most likely worried about a message from someone else popping up whilst you’re scrolling through his phone.

Sign #7 – He Lashes Out at You

Every couple argues sometimes, this is totally normal. Yet, if your guy starts to argue with you over small, simple things he could be looking for a reason to leave you and get away. Equally and quite confusingly, he could start to be a lot nicer and buy you flowers when he normally wouldn’t. This could be a sign of guilt and him wanting to make up cheating on you with material things.

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Sign #8 – You Can Feel It

These signs are something to consider and while they are correct, there is nothing like a gut instinct. If you think something is wrong and do truly suspect they’re cheating, then it is more than likely accurate. This is something you must prepare yourself for. If you’ve always trusted your guy and have previously felt secure in your relationship but now you’re having doubts, you can’t ignore them. Nothing will get better if you sweep issues under the rug and it’s better to find out now rather than later. It takes a lot of confidence to confront your fears, but you won’t regret it in the long term when you’re happier.

Being cheated on is heart-breaking and can destroy your self-confidence. If you find out that your partner has been cheating, you should dump him straight away. He might plead and beg that he will change, but a leopard can’t change its spots, and this also applies to men who cheat. After you’ve empowered yourself by saying bye to his cheating ass, make sure you pick yourself up and dust off. You’d be surprised by the millions of women who get cheated on every day and leave their relationships. You’re much better than anyone who cheats and deserve the best there is, staying with them simply stops you from ever finding true happiness.

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This article shows you signs he’s cheating on you, now in any relationship I’ve found there are 2 pivotal moments that determine if your relationship ends in heartbreak or you get to live happily ever after so it’s vitally important that you take the next step and read this right now, because at some point the man you want is going to ask himself: Is this the woman I should commit to for the long term? That answer determines everything… Do you know how men determine if a woman is girlfriend material (the type of woman he commits himself to) or if he sees you as just a fling? If not you need to read this next: The #1 Thing Men Desire In A Woman…

The second problem almost all women experience: At some point he starts to lose interest. He doesn’t call you back or he becomes emotionally closed off. He seems like he’s losing interest or pulling away – do you know what to do? If not you’re putting your relationship and the future of your love life in great danger, read this now or risk losing him forever: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…

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In summary…

1. He Goes Out More

2. He Avoids Getting Close to You

3. He Doesn’t Think Cheating is a Bad Thing

4. He Uses His Phone More Than Usual

5. He Smells Different

6. He Hides His Phone from You

7. He Lashes Out at You

8. You Can Feel It

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32 comments… add one
  • ain August 14, 2019, 5:05 pm

    i would never ever trust again..

  • Richard July 17, 2019, 6:39 am

    Oh you know damn well ladies. You can feel it. He’s getting texts randomly is ALWAYS suspicious. Guys don’t text much generally. If its more than 2 dings in a row it’s always a girl….He gets hella cold towards you cause you don’t matter to him anymore. New girls are always more exciting. He’s all happy and energetic all of a sudden.

  • jeren April 8, 2019, 8:10 am

    hope to not be in this situation. i cant believe a confident cheater

  • alysa October 3, 2018, 4:29 pm

    most of us girls would think that it is pretty obvious if our guy will cheat on us but sometimes, the signs are less noticeable than we think. this post is a great help and will let us know for sure if our guy is cheating on us.

  • hannah October 2, 2018, 4:58 pm

    all of these signs given here are so true and accurate. i had a boyfriend once who suddenly turned cold and he would always lash out on me for doing nothing. it turned out he was seeing another woman. it hurt me so bad, it took me a while to recover.

  • bridgette October 1, 2018, 11:28 pm

    my man destroyed my self-confidence when he cheated on me. i had a hard time dealing with it. i am thankful my friends were always there for me during those painful times. i knew i can count on them more than my man.

  • mirriam September 28, 2018, 3:38 pm

    i often wonder if my man isn’t being entirely truthful and yes i do look for signs. i’ve also asked some of our closest friends about it. i dunno if that was right but i’ve read that is one way to know if my man is keeping something important from me.

  • cate September 27, 2018, 6:03 pm

    when he smells different, that’s a really big sign! a man trying to impress a woman would want to look and smell nice. if your man suddenly does this, he may as surely as be cheating.

  • elsa September 26, 2018, 6:22 pm

    you are right. this is something that i must prepare myself for and that i should trust my gut instinct. if my guy is cheating on me, i will definitely feel it. there are no secrets that time doesn’t reveal.

  • gwyneth September 25, 2018, 1:45 pm

    you will feel it and you’ll know it. trust me, i’ve been there! it’s not that it’s something im proud of, it’s just something i already learned thru years of experience. it sucks and it’s really bad. better trust your instincts but be reasonable also.

  • madeline September 24, 2018, 7:05 pm

    this was the reason why i broke up with my ex. definitely a cheater! he was so careless when it comes to covering his tracks! he thought he was irreplaceable.

  • madonna September 21, 2018, 1:51 pm

    these signs are just so true. if your man is anything like this, you better be aware of his actions.

  • marian September 20, 2018, 4:57 pm

    uh-oh, i realized our relationship is in trouble.. i’ve observed most of these signs already! what do i do? i am so confused and scared.

  • harriett September 19, 2018, 1:40 pm

    oh yeah, check out the phone habits. if he used to not care about his phone before and suddenly does now…you might want to think and be more aware of his actions. but try not to be so paranoid too.

  • evelyn September 18, 2018, 4:12 pm

    changes in a man’s attitude might mean something. pay attention girl! we don’t deserve to be cheated! men can be jerky and sneaky when it comes to this matter!

  • charlie September 17, 2018, 1:58 pm

    there was a time when my boyfriend would just lash out on me and i would really be clueless. it was driving me crazy, thinking what i did wrong until i discovered he was seeing this girl.

  • mary September 15, 2018, 6:55 pm

    a cheating partner can be devastating for any relationship. we all want a happy and healthy relationship. how can a loving partner be unfaithful? really breaks my heart. i will take note of these warning signs.

  • amberly September 12, 2018, 7:02 pm

    my partner might be keeping something important from me and i notice that he is spending more time on his phone than talking to me. i really need to know these signs.

  • brooke September 11, 2018, 5:09 pm

    i am a bad judge when it comes to this. maybe because i just didn’t want to know if am being cheated or not even if some signs mentioned here were there.

  • raven September 10, 2018, 2:09 pm

    when he uses his phone more than usual and seems to be hiding it from you, think again! cheating nowadays start with casual chats and exchange of harmless text messages.

  • mia September 7, 2018, 3:13 am

    so, these are the signs to tell if your partner is cheating..hmmm.. i will begin investigating now.. thanks for this wonderful post

  • lysette September 3, 2018, 12:42 pm

    these signs are really easy to catch but most of the time when in this situation, we do not want to admit that we’re being cheated on. we just can’t accept it so we deny it instead until it gets full-blown, it hurts so bad.

  • rebecca August 30, 2018, 3:50 pm

    after reading this article, i am absolutely positively sure that my boyfriend is cheating on me. i should decide now where to go on our relationship.

  • clarisse August 28, 2018, 2:36 pm

    if your man is now suddenly always on his phone even in the bathroom is really up to something. you better read these signs and don’t take them for granted. most cheatings start with harmless chats but end up really bad.

  • emma August 24, 2018, 2:51 pm

    these signs are so common and definitely true. but if you’re with a man who thinks that cheating is not a bad thing, then you are in for a lot of trouble. run and hide, he’s NOT going to change EVER!

  • joane August 23, 2018, 8:56 pm

    now i am pretty sure that my guy is having an affair after reading all these warning signs. it is true that a leopard can’t change its spots so i will dump him right away! it is his loss, not mine!

  • mara August 22, 2018, 1:02 pm

    i know all my partner’s friends and co-workers. i would know if he is telling the truth when it comes to his work. i would also find out if he is really out with his friends. basically, i would easily know if he is cheating on me!

  • cheska August 21, 2018, 12:58 pm

    if your man who usually loves staying at home suddenly goes out more often and making excuses like boys night out or work overtime…this might mean he’s busy with something or worse, with SOMEONE else. watch out!

  • neri August 20, 2018, 2:20 pm

    my boyfriend uses his phone more than usual but he said it is about his work. i want to check his phone but i don’t want him to think that i am invading his privacy or that i don’t trust him. i hate to think that he is cheating on me but this is a very obvious sign…

  • lilly August 17, 2018, 2:26 pm

    who would not think that cheating is a bad thing?! cheating will doom your relationship! i hate cheaters!

  • bianca August 16, 2018, 2:04 pm

    OMG..nothing worse than a guy who thinks it’s not at all wrong to cheat! i cant handle this and i hope it will never happen to me.

  • kristine August 15, 2018, 8:06 pm

    i don’t want this to happen to me. i better watch out for these signs. thank you so much for this helpful article!

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