Real men basically don’t exist anymore. What I mean by a real man is someone who truly knows what it means to be loyal, devoted and honest.
It’s a sad but honest truth that finding a real guy in the cess pool that our dating culture has become is like finding a diamond in the rough, the holy grail of men that doesn’t seem to exist.
And the worst part is – it hurts both men and women that there are so many awful guys out there running around pretending to be decent. Why?
Well, it hurts women because we have to go through what seems like a never-ending parade of crappy dudes before we find the right one… And makes us assume all men are awful, which makes us just want to give up.
And it hurts men because the awful, scummy men who cheat on women and break their hearts just create baggage that women have to carry around (and that good, honest men have to deal with).
That’s why we need more real men in this world: they simply don’t cheat. Here are 8 reasons why:
1. Real Men Don’t Waste Women’s Time
Be honest – how many times have you heard the story of a relationship where the man was never serious about the woman in the first place, he just went along with “dating” her because it was easier.
A real man wouldn’t ever lead a woman on like that. Real men don’t get into relationships with women they don’t think they can love – and the moment they realize they can’t love that person, they end the relationship for the good of both of them.
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2. Real Men Are Honest About Their Emotions
I’m sick of the stereotype that women don’t have it together when it comes to their emotions, but men somehow do.
I can’t tell you how many relationships I’ve heard of where the woman actually lets her emotions out and addresses them – while the man sits silent and bottles his emotions up.
It’s not that he doesn’t have emotions… far from it. It’s just that he’s keeping them under wraps and sealed up inside him – until he can’t take it anymore and they explode.
And when they do, he finds the first thing that can comfort thing. Whether that’s drinking, or smoking, or sex with someone who isn’t his s/o, it hurts the relationship and it hurts him.
Real men know they have emotions, and deal with them honestly and openly. They’re stable.
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3. Real Men Break Up With Women They No Longer Love
I’ve heard stories of too many guys who cheat and end a relationship because they don’t have the guts to actually break up with her.
Guys, if you’re too chicken to actually break up with someone you’re in a relationship with – I have bad news for you: you’re not a real man. Step your game up.
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4. Real Men Have The Willpower To Keep Promises They Make
Look – I know that men have the urge to sleep with beautiful women. I know that if a man sees a beautiful woman, his first thought is that he wants to sleep with her.
That’s fine. That’s part of nature.
What I can’t deal with is when a man doesn’t have the willpower to discard that urge and give thanks for what he has in the present.
If a man can’t master his urges and instead becomes a slave to his desires, he’s not a real man at all. And he’s not worth your time.
5. Real Men Don’t Base Their Confidence On The Number Of Women They’ve Slept With
Real men don’t have to point at the notches in their belt or the number of girls in their phone to feel confident in themselves.
That’s because they’re confident … (continued – Click to keep reading 8 Reasons Real Men never Cheat On The Ones They Love)
hope i find a real man who will love me the way i am
This is so true.
I pray i find a real and genuine man someday
I have a bf. he says he loves me and he respect me. but I don’t know why I feel he is cheating on me with a certain girl. I want to ask him but I don’t want to make him sad. should I just ask him
I’m told men cheat because they like variety. I was told to look at it this way, when you’re standing at a dessert table and cheesecake is your favourite so you have cheesecake? No sometimes you wanna puff wheat cake or Creme brûlée. You still love cheesecake but needed a little variety.
Who told you that? Boy did they fool you, that sounds like a nice excuse only a 4 year old should fall for.
Have you EVER had a man come home with lipstick marks on his shirt? That is so weird, but I am sure that it has happened at some point. Out the door in two seconds flat if that ever happened to me.
This is very simple, it is about respect for each other. These are valid reasons, however, but it all starts with respect.
I have had some real good luck with dating real men. It might be the fact that I make them understand my stance on cheating!
I think I have found a “real” man, but because of toxic relationships in the past, I am always on alert.
You should be able to tell if a man has enough willpower and determination to make a relationship work with his partner.
Real men never cheat is right. If you have one that does, you need to assess your situation right away. There could be other issues and please, do NOT pretend like they are going to change.
Well, many of these are no-brainers, but honestly, REAL men do not cheat…PERIOD.
Exactly. I am so glad you mentioned this!
I have been on the other end of a breakup when my man fell out of love with me. I could not understand it at the time, but then I realized that it was better than stringing me along for nothing.
Real men never cheat and that is all the needs to be said. When you are dating a cheater, there is a lack of respect and there is nothing more to it.
I always felt that if a man had to talk about how many partners he been in bed with that he fit more in the douche category. That is not something that I need to know about.
Yeah, this is a good list and if you find a man that is mature enough to present himself in this way, please send him to me :)
Well, the last one is the most important for me and one that I would think should be number 1.
My mom always told me that when a man devotes himself to you, it is impossible for him to cheat.
Thank you for posting about this. I just lost my man because he was not faithful and this is making me feel a little better about letting him go. I have to think about myself once in a while too, right?
Real men never cheat. That is what I live by and even if I am engrossed in someone, but they have cheated on me, they are gone.
There is something to be said about a man that has never cheated. Most of the time it comes down to one thing, respect.
Willpower and discipline are the two most important things and when men are trying to keep a promise, you need them BOTH.
Respect trumps everything
Real men never cheat to begin with. I am under the impression that they do NOT need a reason. My husband and I are on the same page with that and since we never cheated in our lives, we feel pretty good about how love works!
I have been in a relationship for a few months now and I am not sure if it is going in the right direction. We both work a lot and can only spend a day or two together per week and I am not sure if that is enough. What do you think?
I am so bitter about men right now I could barely even read this. I had a b/f that cheated on me and left me with nothing but a hole in my heart and that sucks!
Priorities are a good things to have and if you have a man that has them figured out, you are in the clear. The main reason that a guy, or woman, would not cheat on the one they love is because they love them.
It is sad that some men cheat. There must be something in their personality that makes them feel unsatisfied with one woman.
Very good list. I tend to feel the same way about this situation. If you love the person, looking for another is just not going to be something that you are interested in.