Our Dating Culture Sucks. Here’s 15 Ways We Can Change It

Our Dating Culture Sucks. Here’s 15 Ways We Can Change It

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Take The Physical Part Slow

This whole article is about how to bring honesty back into dating, and this is an important part of it. Intimacy and sex is something that complicates every relationship, so hold off until you know and trust the person before you forge ahead.

Don’t Play With Someone’s Emotions

I know it’s hard to break up with someone. I know it sucks for both people, and no one likes to hurt another person.

But you’re hurting them more if you string them along. Ask yourself what you would want them to do if the roles were reversed, and be honest with them.

Don’t Claim Baggage When You’re Really Just Afraid Of Commitment

Everyone has been through relationships that flamed out brutally and hurt them. It’s not just you.

Don’t allow things from your past to affect the relationships you have in the present. It’s not fair to you OR your partner.

Related: The Truth About Why He Won’t Commit

Remember That It’s All About Learning

Every person you meet, every conversation you have, every relationship you’re in is an opportunity to learn. To learn more about yourself, about other people, and about what you really want from your love life.

Life isn’t a game with “winners and losers”. It’s not about figuring out how to manipulate people into giving you what you want. If you play it that way, you’re going to lose.

It’s about making connections with people, and showing them who you really are in the hopes that they do the same.

If we can all remember that, and remember that honesty and respect are the two most important things in the dating game, we can reverse the damage our twisted dating culture has caused.

All we have to do is stop playing the game. One person at a time.

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25 comments… add one
  • Ron January 6, 2017, 7:35 am

    It is the women of today that really make it very difficult as well since Most of the time they want men with Money these days unfortunately.

  • L. Openeer June 7, 2015, 11:10 am

    I get that the culture sucks, but why does it? I am going to see if I can find some papers that were written on how things changed over the decades.

  • D. Frobley June 7, 2015, 10:44 am

    Do you have any real tips that we can all learn from? What if my partner does not feel the same way about changing the dating culture?

    • D. Vincent June 7, 2015, 11:23 am

      If this is the case, I think you are finding a good reason to move along from them. You need to have similar interests.

  • Jules Brock June 7, 2015, 10:26 am

    I am going to agree with you. The culture is bad, sad as well, but there is really know way that we can change it for anyone else but ourselves.

  • Lucy Wilkins June 3, 2015, 11:43 am

    Even though our dating culture is messed up, it is something that comes with evolving times. The internet has changed so much about dating and that is something that we have to embrace or we will be left in the dark.

  • Asherman June 3, 2015, 11:29 am

    I would like to see people show exactly how much they care. I think it adds a certain level of confusion when a person makes believe that they do not care, when they actually do and that can lead people down the wrong path. That is not good for any relationship.

  • Nicole Seek June 2, 2015, 10:53 am

    You can say that again. I am 30 years old and must be the old fashion type. I only meet guys that want a piece of action and that is NOT what I am all about, at all. When I mention that to them, they freak out and are always real dicks about it. See ya!

  • Anna Gunner June 2, 2015, 10:38 am

    Very good tips. If the dating folks want to be better at it, they should be reading these for sure!

  • Sylvanna June 1, 2015, 11:43 am

    I am not going to deny that the dating culture sucks today, because it does. The issue I am seeing is with my daughters dating now. It is SO different from when I was dating their father. I try to make them realize how different it is, but they cannot see it. Makes for tough parenting choices.

  • K. Brink June 1, 2015, 11:28 am

    I am really a romantic and being corny during a date is something that I excel at. I am very humorous and I want a person that I am seeing to know that right away.

  • Joshua Bills May 24, 2015, 11:11 am

    I have been taught a lesson or two about dating over the years. It was not very easy for me to figure things out, but I think this list is a great place to start.

  • Zack May 24, 2015, 10:54 am

    I have had this argument many times. I feel that the dating life around me sucks and I can only go out on a couple dates before my partner decides things are not moving fast enough for her. Is that because she just wants some sex? Do I imply that I do not want these people and that is how they are taking it?

  • Walter M. May 24, 2015, 10:36 am

    What do you think caused this weird shift in your dating culture and how long ago do you think it started? I still like to romance my dates and make them feel like a million bucks if I am interested in them. I act like a gentleman and hope they give the feelings back.

  • Dark Lord May 24, 2015, 10:18 am

    Dating is for pansies anyways. The culture is so bad one could sit back and literally find a hundred reasons why they should NOT be dating. Just keep the hurt out of your life like I have been doing the last 20 years. Once I found out that being single fit me better, I felt much better about things. What do you think?

  • C. Dellon May 24, 2015, 10:04 am

    It is unfortunate for the younger crowds these days. The culture has been replaced with a speed dating, try to find a mate the quickest type of thought process. That creates relationships that are not long lasting and sometimes even a child that wasn’t wanted.

  • Collin G. May 24, 2015, 9:48 am

    I sometimes feel bad for the youth today. They seem to rush around with dating and relationships and that is when people get hurt, revenge happens or a child is made without planning for one.

  • Nicole Young May 22, 2015, 9:34 pm

    I have played hard to get before and attempted to show that I cared less than I do, but I soon realized that it was not worth it.

  • jeffery m. May 22, 2015, 6:41 pm

    i have been in situation where the jealousy was used as a tool. it is not fun and if you are not smart enough to get out of a relationship like that, you can really be a hurt unit in no time.

  • Kendra T. May 21, 2015, 10:43 pm

    The main point here is that these are things that WE need to do to change it. Nobody is going to be able to do this on their own and as long as everyone is on the same page, it looks like things will be better.

  • Wendy T May 18, 2015, 10:41 am

    Even though that might be the case, I think it can be changed. The problem is that society tries to change everyone. We should just be working on changing ourselves and the rest will happen at some point.

  • H. Jackman May 18, 2015, 10:27 am

    i feel like i am unable to find a date to begin with and i am getting desperate. how can i be sure i am making the right move when i find someone i feel attracted to?

    • Julia May 24, 2015, 11:26 am

      Even if this is the case, I would NOT show or say how desperate that you really are. This can give a false sense that the relationship is based on something that it is not. Good luck!

  • Warren Charles May 18, 2015, 10:10 am

    It does suck, but it is also what you make of it. I agree that the changes that you talk about are a good start. Without the changes, it is still up to you and even though it might seem like you cannot find a person that is compatible with you, you just have to stay determined.

  • Dave W. May 18, 2015, 9:35 am

    Wow, I am going to have to say this is the best list that I have seen in a long time. Even though these steps might change the culture, it will only work if everyone is on the same page.

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