Take The Physical Part Slow
This whole article is about how to bring honesty back into dating, and this is an important part of it. Intimacy and sex is something that complicates every relationship, so hold off until you know and trust the person before you forge ahead.
Don’t Play With Someone’s Emotions
I know it’s hard to break up with someone. I know it sucks for both people, and no one likes to hurt another person.
But you’re hurting them more if you string them along. Ask yourself what you would want them to do if the roles were reversed, and be honest with them.
Don’t Claim Baggage When You’re Really Just Afraid Of Commitment
Everyone has been through relationships that flamed out brutally and hurt them. It’s not just you.
Don’t allow things from your past to affect the relationships you have in the present. It’s not fair to you OR your partner.
Related: The Truth About Why He Won’t Commit
Remember That It’s All About Learning
Every person you meet, every conversation you have, every relationship you’re in is an opportunity to learn. To learn more about yourself, about other people, and about what you really want from your love life.
Life isn’t a game with “winners and losers”. It’s not about figuring out how to manipulate people into giving you what you want. If you play it that way, you’re going to lose.
It’s about making connections with people, and showing them who you really are in the hopes that they do the same.
If we can all remember that, and remember that honesty and respect are the two most important things in the dating game, we can reverse the damage our twisted dating culture has caused.
All we have to do is stop playing the game. One person at a time.