I get how impossible it is to get over your ex-boyfriend.
It’s really hard to get over an ex.
Well, it depends on the kind of ex. If you dumped him because you dated for 2 weeks and didn’t like him, then no, it’s probably not that hard.
But if it was a more serious commitment (something you thought was going to last into the future) it’s obviously a lot harder.
That’s why a lot of the time, we can think we’re over an ex when we’re really not.
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Check out this list of signs you’re not over your ex, and find out if you’re really over him, or not…
1. You Catch Yourself Almost Texting Him
For a lot of women, deleting his number from your phone is the best option. But you might know it by heart. Which kind of defeats the entire purpose.
I mean really, how many times have you written out a long, heartfelt message – only to think about it later and decide to delete it?
Or even worse… in a moment of irrationality, send it to him?
If you’re still thinking about him enough to where you’re writing out messages to him and it sends jolts of excitement through you, it means you’re not over him.
You’ll get over him – with time, but for the moment, you need to focus on yourself.
2. You Want Him To See You
If you’re showing up at places on purpose because you know he’ll be there, that’s a huge sign you’re not over him.
Even if you go to a party you know he’ll be at with another guy to try to make him jealous, all you’re going to do is wind up making yourself sad when you see him feeling happy.
The only way to get over this temptation is to keep yourself busy in your own life and don’t try to be where he is or be seen by him.
Otherwise, you’re just drawing out the breakup and taking longer and longer to get over him.
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3. You Check His Facebook
This is a big one.
De-friend him. Block him if you have to.
Delete his facebook from your account.
Do whatever you need to do to stop yourself from looking at his account.
Because otherwise, you’re going to be obsessing over his statuses looking for clues about how he feels. This is going to end up driving you completely insane. You’re going to be looking at pictures of him and wondering if he met someone new (or worse, seeing her in a picture).
Seeing him moving onto another girl is unnecessarily heartbreaking to deal with. I mean, what’s the point of knowing?
all you are going to be doing is trapping yourself further and further into the past, and becoming more and more unable to let go.
So nip this in the bud, make sure to avoid his facebook, and delete it if you have to in order to get rid of the temptation.
That’s the only way to really make sure that you’ve gotten over him.
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4. You Can’t Stop Thinking About Your Memories With Him
So you hear a song on the radio that reminds you of him and tears well up in your eyes.
Or you caught yourself looking at a picture of the two of you and now you can’t stop thinking about your memories with him.
Or you’re at a place that reminds you of him and it breaks your heart in half.
It seems like everything triggers a random memory to a time you two had fun together.
And it’s holding you back, dragging you down and making you sad.
Memories and nostalgia are good things but getting lost in them can kill you. If you’re still thinking about the good times with him and getting emotional about it, you’re not over him.
5. You Talk About Him All The Time
So immediately post breakup, of course you have to talk about him. Everyone goes through a mourning period after a breakup where they’re trying to get over him but they can’t stop thinking about the relationship.
And that’s fine. It’s totally normal.
But if a few weeks or a couple months have gone by and you’re still talking about him – to your friends, to other guys, to your family – it means you’re not over him.
It means you can’t get him out of your head. And it means you have to focus on letting him go.
The more you talk about him, the more you’re thinking about him and thinking about kissing him, the more you’re clinging to the memory of the relationship. Let it go.
6. You Compare Every Guy You Meet To Him
Breakups are horrible. They suck for both parties and I wouldn’t want even my worst enemy to have to go through a terrible, truly heart-wrenching one.
(Well, if she cheated with my boyfriend, maybe I would.)
But when a girl isn’t over her breakup, a lot of the time she’ll get approached by guys who are even better than her ex was – but she can’t stop herself from comparing them to her ex. It’s like she’s looking for these qualities in him she’s built up in her head.
It’s common to even idealize your ex and remember the good, while conveniently forgetting the bad.
She’ll get sad that the new guy isn’t like her ex (even though it was probably a good thing that she and her ex broke up), and it will prevent her from finding a new relationship and moving on.
There’s probably a very good reason why you and your ex broke up, and comparing every new guy to him isn’t going to help you find a new one.
7. You Look At Pictures Of The Two Of You
Pictures of you with your ex are nothing but a temptation.
They make you think about him, they make you talk about him, and they make you unable to let him go.
Think about deleting the pictures – or at least locking them away somewhere where you can’t look at them.
Every time you look at a picture of him, you’re delaying the moment when you can let him go… and you’re triggering a flood of new emotions for him that are only going to stand in your way.
8. When You See Him It Feels Good
This one is a big uh oh.
Imagine a scenario in which you unexpectedly run into him, or think of what would happen if he was right in front of you right now.
Does your heart start pounding? Does it feel good?
Does it make you feel… happy?
If it does, you probably still want his attention, and you’re probably not over him.
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These Are The Signs You’re Not Over Your Ex
- You catch yourself almost texting him
- You want him to see you
- You check his facebook
- You can’t stop thinking about your memories with him
- You talk about him all the time
- You compare every guy you meet to him
- You look at pictures of the two of you
- When you see him it feels good