I would bet money that you’ve had at least one instance of a guy not texting you back.
It’s easy to drive yourself crazy wondering “Why isn’t he texting me?” You start thinking “Does he hate me? Did I do something wrong?”
Maybe now you’re stalking his social media and getting angry that he’s “active” yet makes no time to reply to you! “He’s clearly online and he hasn’t texted me back at all!”
Not to worry. I’ll tell you the real reason why guys don’t text back for days and exactly how to text a guy in your situation to get him to message back. You’ll know what to do when a guy stops texting you.
Maybe it’s a guy you just started talking to or you’ve only been on a few dates with. Maybe it’s your boyfriend. Maybe it’s your ex and you want to get him back.
No matter what, these tips will work in any love situation you find yourself in. Pay attention so you know what to do the next time you catch yourself thinking “Should I text him if he hasn’t texted me?”
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Relax, Here’s Everything You Need To Know
First, if you haven’t heard from him in 2 days, do not panic. If it’s been more than that, this is also not the time to freak out.No matter how long it has been, you can be confident you know exactly what to do by the end of this!
I will give you specific texts of exactly what to text him depending on your situation. Ineed to explain a few key things you need to understand about when a guy doesn’t text back for days.
Why do guys ghost? I get it. It’s frustrated and leaves you pulling your hair out wondering what happened. Did he get in a car accident? Does he have amnesia? Did he meet someone else?
Don’t Fixate, Don’t Obsess…
The #1 thing to keep in mind is the importance that you do not fixate. Don’t waste your time freaking out and inventing stories in your head to explain his behavior.
The truth is that it could be any number of reasons why hasn’t he called or texted you. The worst thing you can do is overanalyze and bombard him with texts demanding to know what’s going on. This will only push him further away.
The things to not do are just as important as knowing what to do to get a guy to text back when you haven’t heard from him.
Moving on, you need to drop your expectations! This is a huge mistake that so many women make when it comes to their reaction when they haven’t heard from him in days. He doesn’t text back and seems to suddenly ghost out of nowhere.
Having expectations will only lead you to be disappointed. If you paint a perfect picture in your mind of exactly how you expect things to go, anything he does outside the lines of that will shatter your illusion. You’ll find yourself overanalyzing and fixating on what’s going “wrong” in your mind.
The key is to relax and focus on good quality texting.
Wait, what is good texting?
It’s when you text without the need to get something back. You aren’t texting with the intention to get a specific response.
So what should you do?
The first thing to do in this situation is text him just once and see if he responds. If he ignores one text, that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s not interested.He could simply be busy or intends to respond later but doesn’t end up getting around to it.
Or he might not be interested and is trying to subtly let you know! I know, it stinks, but a lot of guys would rather just hope you get the hint instead of having to bring it up and risk making you cry or upsetting you.
Exactly What To Text If He Hasn’t Texted You In Days
Now, depending on the length of time from your last contact with him, here are the specific texts you can send.
Less than two days: “Hey, how are you? I saw ___ and thought of you!”
Or you can text a picture of you out and about in a fun situation and say you thought he would enjoy being there.
Longer than two days (3 days, a week, longer…): “Hey! How are you? I’ve had a long week and I’m guessing you have too! Hope you’re good. Just saying hello.”
This approach is friendly and shows that you are not assuming worst or being angry that he hasn’t replied.
He’s going to get a good idea of your mood depending on what you text. Always remember that if your mood feels good, your texts will feel good to him. That positive attitude infuses the messages you send.
Your Mood Transmits Over Texts (So Make Sure You’re In A Good Mood Or Don’t Text!)
If you’re in a bad mood (angry, fearful, worried, resentful, etc.), your texts will have that negative energy regardless of the actual words you type.
Before you send a text, check in with yourself and ask “How am I truly feeling right now? Am I in a good place to send this?”
If a guy doesn’t text you for a week and it’s making you angry, take a step back and relax before sending anything his way. Get yourself into a good mood by stepping back and taking some time to get your energy right.
And, while you’re focusing on yourself and feeling good, you’ll be giving him space to come back to you instead of feeling like you’re chasing after him. You definitely don’t want to put yourself in a position where you’re feeding into your negativity, sending him texts based out of fear, and creating problems where there aren’t any.
“But it only takes a minute to text!”
So even though it might make perfect send to you that “it only takes a minute to text!”, you have to understand this…
Men and women are different. For men, it’s not about how quick texting is, it’s that they don’t want the interruption in the middle what they’re currently doing.
Men are not great at multitasking so they avoid it whenever possible. They prefer focusing on one singular thing at a time and tuning out anything that could distract them or interrupt them. This is the biggest reason why men generally don’t like texting, even when they love you very much!
Give him some space. Text from a positive mindset. Let it go if he doesn’t get back to you. Keeping these tips in mind will save you a whole lot of frustration and heartache if you’re ever faced with the question of, “He hasn’t contacted me in a week. What do I do?”
There you go… I hope this article helps you understand what to do to make a man more likely to text you back.
All of this comes down to his ‘interest’ in you. If he’s not he may be distancing himself from you or pulling away from the connection you had so if you want to make sure you don’t lose him I think it’s very important for you to read this: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…
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