How To Attract The Man You Want

How To Attract The Man You Want

One of the best ways to attract the man you want – or the man you’re already with – is to be in your feminine energy when you’re with him. That’s why understanding the difference between masculine and feminine energy is crucial.

Masculine energy is all about doing, thinking, planning, scheduling, and making decisions.

Men do good to feel good. Believe it or not, giving and nurturing are also masculine traits – they involve taking action.

A masculine-energy man goes after what he wants, and asks his partner how she feels about it. A good man will take your feelings into account when he’s planning and making decisions.

A man will usually be able to feel right away if you’re open and receptive to him – or if you’re going to go “competitive” on him.

What masculine-energy men really want is to make you happy. One of their biggest desires is to be with a woman who’s able to receive what he has to give!

It’s important to keep in mind that acknowledgment and appreciation are the “fuel” that men run on. Men want to know that what they do makes you happy!

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Feminine energy is all about being, receiving, allowing, experiencing, and expressing.

Women feel good to do good. A feminine-energy woman receives first – and if it feels good to her, she’ll show appreciation.

When you’re in your feminine energy, you’re leaning back, observing, and letting yourself just be in the moment – rather than always trying to move things forward or “make something happen” when you’re with a man.

A feminine-energy woman gives back, but she isn’t always the one who initiates the giving. This keeps her in the feminine receiving mode.

When you’re in your feminine energy, it makes you incredibly attractive to right man for you!

You definitely don’t want to do away with your masculine energy completely – this is actually about ramping up both your masculine and feminine energies.

You want to use your masculine energy in work and in your own life, and then be in your feminine energy when you’re with a man.

When you start taking over some of the masculine role in the relationship – by always being the one who initiates contact with a man, asks him out, drives to him for dates, pays for the date, or constantly offers unsolicited help or suggestions – that’s often when men can start to feel less attracted and connected to you.

Many women are giving and “doing” too much without realizing it, and resentment can start to build when they feel like they aren’t getting enough in return.

Constantly giving and overfunctioning can actually come across like mothering or micro-managing to a man – and it ends up pushing him away on a deep, unconscious level.

If you’re always leaning forward and giving too much and a man starts to get comfortable with that, you’ll lose that feeling of him wanting you. The truth is – men value what they have to work for – just like we do!

Feminine energy is extremely powerful – it’s about being open and receptive, while having boundaries at the same time.

Saying “no” to something that doesn’t feel good to you is a very feminine-energy quality!

How To Attract The Man You Want

Many women are afraid that setting a boundary will turn a man off – but the truth is, a man can’t love and respect you any more than you love and respect yourself. A man will fall head over heels for a woman who knows her value and puts her own heart first. Shifting into your feminine energy when you’re with a man takes some awareness, but once you try it and start to get incredible results, it will start to feel much more natural.

how to attract the man you want

When you lean back and demonstrate that you can receive from a man – and show a lot of appreciation when he gives to you and makes you happy – that’s when a man feels the most connected to you and can really fall in love.

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56 comments… add one
  • De~Bharron X March 2, 2017, 7:36 am

    Am on a date with a very Beautiful lady she always say she will marry me because I break her virginity .I always thinks in my mind she is cheating me buh she is not plx help can that lady marry me because of me breaking her virginity

  • Person96 January 23, 2017, 9:45 am

    Ok I really need advice! I’m starting to develop a little crush on my boss who is not that much older than me and I know it’s probably not a good idea but I just need some closure as if he’s interested in me back or not. When we talk he gets really close to me (he kind of bushes him arm against mine) and he asks me things like if I missed him (over the weekend) or not. We text sometimes and he’ll use the flirty emojis but then it feels like he’s not as interested as he acts at work. I just need to know if I should stop ‘trying to pursue’ him. :/

  • Roxanne December 25, 2016, 3:28 am

    Why do I fell like I want to attract him? Did I fall to him?

  • Lola November 29, 2016, 5:01 pm

    He said I was his when I was 14 and he was 15. I need to know if there is a topic we should talk about when I get the chance to talk to him, I really am looking forward to talk to him! Do u think I should say how I feel?

  • Lola November 29, 2016, 5:00 pm

    I try sometimes to get my crushes attention, but it seems that he likes me and he always makes me laugh, he said I was his when I was 14 and he was 15. I need to know if there is a topic we should talk about when I get the chance to talk to him, I really am looking good for him! Do u think I should say how I feel?

  • Maria November 29, 2016, 3:48 pm

    I need to know if my crush wants to talk to me more, I like him, but I think there’s some signs that he kinda likes me, which are: He makes me laugh always, he smiles when I am smile, He looks adorable, Do You think he likes me a lot?

  • Jenny November 29, 2016, 7:11 am

    I have a BIG problem, this guy has a brother who sits next to me at some meetings, and his brother tries to hook me up with his brother. The guy I mentioned earlier kinda likes me, and I like him, I just need to know him to go on dates, his brother says he likes me a lot, when ever my crush laughs in front of me, he smiles at me and looks. I usually read this website for more advise. What should I do, should I talk to him more?

  • Barbara November 27, 2016, 7:58 am

    Hello, I am in love with a guy that I work with almost for 5 years now. We are great collegues and very good friends. Until today, I don´t really know how he feels about me. There are times that I feel as he has feelings for me and other times no or at least not like I have towards him. When I tried to talk to him about it, he is always said that he wants to have me as a friend and he likes me, loves me as a friend. He is not ready for any relationship. There has been days that we hanged out and got close then the comments would be different. I don´t know what to think anymore. He teases me, many times we argue, and than we make up and talk hours per Whatsapp. What shall I do? How does he really feel about me? thanks.

  • Irene October 17, 2016, 10:33 am

    um..actually there os a boy who is 1 yr younger than me n he always get angry if i talk about other men n he always asked if he will buy me thos n that n if i compliment him he looks very happy n when he plan to go somewhere he aleay tell me n he always compare my finger with mine his by holding my hand……what is this actually i dont know anything about this kind soo..if u can pliz help me

  • Person September 24, 2016, 11:57 am

    So i have this boyfriend and i really want to hold his hand but i dont know if he wants to hold mine. Sometimes i feel like he doesnt like me, i habe no idea what to do.

    • Alli November 5, 2016, 11:13 am

      If he really acts as though he’s not interested in you (even though your dating) then you should confront him, since holding hands is a pretty normal thing couples do.

  • Shams August 27, 2016, 10:11 am

    Quite good

  • Samantha June 1, 2016, 4:44 pm

    So I like this guy since October and its June. He knows I like him and all that but I am so confused if he likes me too people have said that we look cute together and all. At first it was awkward but we got close and started talking. My friends tell me he is always looking at me but when I turn to see we make I contact but he’ll slowly away. My friend said he calls me pretty but denies when people ask him if he likes me “he gets really red and smiles at me if I am not looking” my friend said. I really need help

    • Nathania September 14, 2016, 2:26 pm

      maybe he likes you~
      It’s just that he is not accepting it,he does not know he has a crush on you even though he feels it,he is ignoring it
      trust me, there is a 91% chance he likes you

  • krystal kim May 2, 2016, 2:28 am

    I really like a guy and liked the same guy for 4 years and I told my best friend I liked during those those and recently she just told me she likes him to. What should I do should I leave him for her? But her case is different she confessed to him behind my back and didn’t tell me a year ago?what should I do? I see this guy everyday only not on weekends

    • Nathania September 14, 2016, 2:33 pm

      she cheated on you? what exactly happened?
      If you can’t reply…then it’s okay..but I think this can help you…
      who do you most care for?…the guy or your friend?
      if your friend..then you need to let it go…all you need is to do is to make them happy together…if the guy shows that he is not okay with her..then steal his heart

  • kemmy April 22, 2016, 6:58 pm

    I really like dis boy but dont know if he likes me .He said he likes my best friend but im crazy in love with him

  • kemmy April 22, 2016, 6:58 pm

    I really like dis boy but dont know if he like me .He said he likes my best friend but im crazy in love with him

  • Onyx April 21, 2016, 10:25 pm

    I have a guy that I like but I don’t know how to show it in a secret way. I’m an introvert so social-activity is NOT my strong point. I can talk to him and stuff but I don’t know how to make him get the picture without actually stating, “hey I like you.”

  • carol March 30, 2016, 2:12 pm

    i hope its that easy coz the guy am intrested in has no tyme for me

  • Paula Robinson November 11, 2015, 8:43 am

    Getting a free report is an awesome idea! I think that is what I need to get a jump start on getting with a new man. My man is so lazy and disrespectful to me right now.

  • Doreen Beaulieu November 10, 2015, 10:02 am

    Well this would be awesome. If I saw a guy that I was attracted to and wanted, it would be awesome if I could get him.

  • Maureen Lee November 10, 2015, 9:52 am

    When it comes to attracting men, I have noticed that the formula is DIFFERENT every single time.

    • Janna Morris November 11, 2015, 8:54 am

      And it should be, right? Not all men or woman are the same.

  • Robyn Hines November 9, 2015, 9:47 am

    Why do I get the feeling that if you are just yourself and WANT to attract a guy, you will?

  • Norma Cheeks November 8, 2015, 12:20 pm

    I like seeing advice from a pro! This is giving me plenty of confidence to get the right things done!

    • Terry Becker November 9, 2015, 9:57 am

      Yes! I feel the same way you do Norma. This could be the beginning of something very good for me.

  • Elizabeth Kirkpatrick November 8, 2015, 12:11 pm

    You are giving away a free, 30 minutes session? I might have to get in on that. I am dealing with a weird situation right now and could use the advice.

    • Helena Hart November 14, 2015, 8:23 pm

      Hi Elizabeth,

      Yes! If you contact me through my website my assistant will help you schedule a free 30-minute introductory session with me. Looking forward to talking with you!

      Love, Helena

  • Susan Williamson November 7, 2015, 9:47 am

    I have not been able to find a man that appreciates the giving and doing that I provide. It is real sad because I feel that I am attractive and smart, but I have a great job that I think turns some men away .

  • Beverly Williams November 6, 2015, 9:48 am

    I have always had an issue attracting the right kind of guy. At first, everything seems normal and good, but as soon as things start to get serious, that is when I realize this is not the type of guy that I want. How do I notice these things FIRST?

  • Therese Cheatham November 5, 2015, 8:57 am

    Thank you Helena. These are great tips and I appreciate the perspective that you are sharing with us today!

  • Laura Tran November 4, 2015, 2:52 pm

    You have to look in the right places. By that I mean, you cannot expect to find a good guy in a dive bar.

    • Rosie Adams November 6, 2015, 10:00 am

      Exactly. I have been trying to tell my friends this for YEARS. They do not get it. Part of me thinks they just want to go to the bar to have a good time.

  • Mary Sy November 4, 2015, 2:37 pm

    If you can keep that feminine energy flowing while you are around a guy, I think you will have him, hook, line and sinker!

  • Mildred Jones November 1, 2015, 5:55 pm

    If you are having an issue attracting men that are “worth” it, then you should be following these tips!

  • Cynthia Foley November 1, 2015, 5:45 pm

    Helena, you are giving some very good advice. I hope to use your tips the next time I meet a man that is worth my time :0

  • Jessica Anderson November 1, 2015, 5:34 pm

    These are great tips! I have been on the right path according to what I am reading. Now it is just a matter of catching the attention of the man I want :)

    • Latisha Funderburk November 5, 2015, 9:08 am

      Great to hear. Now I wish I could learn the same. I am going to keep reading and hoping I guess.

  • Bonnie Schaeffer October 31, 2015, 9:18 am

    I always thought that boys wanted a slutty girl, so that is the way that I acted in front of guys that I thought liked me. That did not always go very well.

  • Elizabeth Rhoads October 31, 2015, 8:53 am

    You make some real good points. I didn’t think I had an issue attracting men, but now that I look back, it was a little bit of work on my end.

    • Linda Wallace November 7, 2015, 9:58 am

      And if it is worth doing, then you are going to be doing a little bit of work.

  • Stacey Howard October 30, 2015, 3:12 pm

    My guess is that you wouldn’t be at some bar hanging on everyone and taking your clothes off for all to see?

    I know many people that way….of course, they are all single.

  • Mary Eby October 30, 2015, 3:03 pm

    Getting the man you want is no science trick, right? My friends always complain that they cannot find a man. The first thing I ask them is where are you looking?

    • Clara Carter October 31, 2015, 9:06 am

      Exactly, if they are going to be looking in a bar each weekend, that does not give you many options. The options that you do get, are they ones that you really want?

  • Tiffany Mathews October 29, 2015, 9:32 am

    I do have a guy that I would like to attract specifically. He works in the building where I work and we bump into each other once a week or more. I am going to give these tips a try.

    • Helena Hart October 29, 2015, 3:50 pm

      Hi Tiffany,

      Sounds great! I’d recommend practicing being in your feminine energy with ALL men you come into contact with – this will help it start to feel much more natural. I’d love to hear about how this goes for you!

      Love, Helena

  • Denise Cutlip October 29, 2015, 9:21 am

    Awesome! A dating coach on the site. I have always wanted to talk to one in person. I have been having issues finding a man that will deal with my personality. I do not want to say that it is ME, of course, but what if it is me and I am the one that needs a change?

    • Helena Hart October 29, 2015, 3:43 pm

      Hi Denise,

      Thanks for your comment! Absolutely, a good coach can definitely help you get some clarity on this. Feel free to check out my website and sign up for a free 30-minute introductory coaching session with me!

      Love, Helena

  • Elizabeth Moody October 24, 2015, 9:14 am

    Great tips, Helena. Most woman feel they can achieve this without any help, but I would beg to differ. There are always things that stand out that were never considered.

    • Helena Hart October 24, 2015, 4:54 pm

      Thanks for your comment, Elizabeth! I definitely agree, your love life is a continual process of learning and evolving. This is where a good coach can help “shine a light” on things that are difficult for you to see.

      Love, Helena

  • Alison McAleer0 October 24, 2015, 9:02 am

    I have no problem attracting men. The problem that I do have is attracting ones that I do want to spend time with. I always end up with a dicky jerk!

    • Helena Hart October 24, 2015, 5:12 pm

      Hi Alison, thanks for your comment! I can completely relate to this, I experienced the exact same thing before I turned my love life around. This has to do with what feels FAMILIAR to us on a deep, unconscious level – this is what we’re going to attract and be attracted to subconsciously until we become aware of it and start to turn it around.

      The good news is, it IS possible to shift this and start attracting better, high quality men – and it can actually happen quickly once you become aware of your patterns. I have many articles on my website and a whole audio program on exactly how to do this, if you have any questions feel free to contact me through my website and I can help point you in the right direction.

      Love, Helena

  • Janet Rosner October 23, 2015, 10:50 am

    Great tips. I guess I never really thought that I would need a coach for something like this, but after reading this, it seems there are some things that I need to know more about!!

  • Barbara Blas October 23, 2015, 10:37 am

    Even though these are great tips, getting the person that I want is going to take more than just this. It might take you a month or more to realize that the man is the one that you want.

    • Helena Hart October 24, 2015, 5:04 pm

      Thanks for your comment, Barbara! Yes, these are just the basics, and they’re the foundation for much of my work with women in attracting and maintaining the love life of their dreams.

      I agree 100% that it sometimes takes a little while for women to know whether a man is the right one for them. We women have a completely different “wiring” system in our brains than men when it comes to attraction, it’s very interesting!

      Love, Helena

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