How to Give Someone Space Without Losing Them (Or Losing Your Mind)

How to Give Someone Space Without Losing Them (Or Losing Your Mind)

In a relationship, giving someone space is extremely important. But how do you give someone space without losing them (or being torn up inside with fear, for that matter)?

Often in relationships, there will come a point when one of you needs space. If it’s not you (and he needs space), it can be scary and disheartening. It may even make you think there is something wrong with the relationship.

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There probably isn’t anything wrong and that’s why you can become confused. You may find him pulling away from you or distancing himself which makes you question the whole relationship.

Perhaps your partner has said they need some space to breathe or you just feel like you both need it, it’s perfectly normal and healthy. Giving someone space does come with anxiety though and you might not want to lose them (obviously).

However, sometimes by giving someone space you two will come back even stronger. If you do give someone space and for whatever reason, they don’t come back, we have some advice for you at the end of this article, you’re not alone.

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The famous saying goes that if you let something go and it’s meant to be then it will come back to you eventually. While this does happen, not everyone wants to let their partner go. It’s hard to face reality sometimes but it’s necessary in order to grow as a person. Giving someone space doesn’t mean you’re going to lose them, it just means both of you can work on yourselves and come back stronger. Having space may even make you realize how much you two love and want each other in your lives.

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Control Your Fears

Being fearful to let someone go is completely normal and everyone will have anxiety surrounding it. If you’re able to control your fears and anxiety, then this will help a lot to cope with giving space. If you find yourself trying to reconnect a day after you two have decided to take some time out, this isn’t going to be enough for them and it’s going to seem clingy.

The harder you get pushed away, the more you’re going to want to be with that person. It might even make you obsessed with your partner which isn’t good if they need space. Being able to stay sane while your partner is having some time to breathe might make you feel crazy, but you can do it, we believe in you!

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1. Stop Texting and Calling Him

Having space means actually having space. That doesn’t mean giving him an hour to think about your relationship before you start calling and texting him. While you’re going through this time, don’t text or call him unless it’s necessary. Texting is one of the worst things about a relationship because so much can be misconstrued. If you two aren’t seeing each other and he needs space, don’t attempt to squeeze yourself into his day by texting him none stop. The constant texting and calling may be the reason he needs space in the first place. You don’t want to mess this up and perhaps you need some time to yourself too.

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2. Make Your Own Decisions

When people get into relationships, they often leave their sense of individuality at home and become one. We wouldn’t recommend doing this anyway and especially when you two are having some time apart. Standing on your own two feet and making decisions for yourself will allow you to feel more independent and less attached to your love. Decision-making is super powerful, and it helps you to grow when you’re both apart and it may eventually help if you have to walk away too.

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3. Focus on Yourself

Before you got with your partner you probably had a few great hobbies, right? Take this time in your relationship to refocus on yourself. Start back at the gym and eating healthy or take up a new hobby! Focusing on yourself will give you more confidence and show you that if it comes down to the both of you breaking up, you could deal with it. If you’re unhappy with yourself, such as your weight or another aspect, then do something about it. Focus on becoming better and loving yourself just as much as you love your boyfriend.

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4. Don’t Obsess Over It

Instead of thinking about the space between you two, think about other things. Obsessing over your relationship or the time away from each other will only make you want to go back to them before the time is right. This might even make you get in contact with them when all they need is a little time to themselves. If you think that social media will be an issue then turn them off for a day or two. It’s a surprise we aren’t all walking around crazy with how much we all depend on technology and social media these days.

5. Give Them Space

Reconnect with friends, try a new sport, work a little later, or do anything that will make you happy. This is the time to show how well you can hold yourself and that you can genuinely give them the space they need. Don’t convince yourself that you’re giving them space when you’re still texting or calling them. You need to completely free yourself of them for as long as they need then rekindle when they want too.

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What Happens If They Don’t Come Back?

It’s a fear we all have when we give someone space from us, but the reality is that if it is going to work then it will, even if you two have had months apart. Relationships are meant to survive hardships and having space from each other shouldn’t affect the way either of you feels.

If you give someone space and they don’t come back try not to get too upset, it is scary and upsetting at first. Yet, it’s happened to so many of us, you’re definitely not on your own during this time. Talk to your family and friends to get everything off your chest. Then move on with your life, it’s best to start doing this whenever it’s suggested to give someone else space. Focusing on yourself is always the most important thing and moving on will only make things easier if it ever comes to the two of you going separate ways.

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This article shows you how to give him space, now in any relationship I’ve found there are 2 pivotal moments that determine if your relationship ends in heartbreak or you get to live happily ever after so it’s vitally important that you take the next step and read this right now, because at some point the man you want is going to ask himself: Is this the woman I should commit to for the long term? That answer determines everything… Do you know how men determine if a woman is girlfriend material (the type of woman he commits himself to) or if he sees you as just a fling? If not you need to read this next: The #1 Thing Men Desire In A Woman…

The second problem almost all women experience: At some point he starts to lose interest. He doesn’t call you back or he becomes emotionally closed off. He seems like he’s losing interest or pulling away – do you know what to do? If not you’re putting your relationship and the future of your love life in great danger, read this now or risk losing him forever: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…

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In summary…

1. Stop Texting and Calling Him

2. Make Your Own Decisions

3. Focus on Yourself

4. Don’t Obsess Over It

5. Give Them Space

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17 comments… add one
  • maya September 24, 2018, 7:28 pm

    if he asks for space, give it. men do not need someone to control them. they know what they want and they have a better reason for anything that they ask for. this is just my point of view.

  • kendall September 21, 2018, 1:22 pm

    definitely don’t obsess over it. this will not only leave you stressed out, this will also make him feel like you don’t trust him to have a little space for himself. this will result to you losing him

  • marilyn September 20, 2018, 6:00 pm

    respect your partner’s decision to have space and let him know that you are always on his side no matter what. stick on the positive side so that you won’t lose your mind.

  • emilia September 20, 2018, 2:20 pm

    giving a guy some space takes a lot of courage. it’s just too big a risk because men are basically men and you know what they always say..they’re too weak or vulnerable with women and all that crap.

  • thalia September 19, 2018, 6:13 pm

    even couples that are deeply in love with each other need space sometimes. for me, this is never a bad thing. it will give both rooms to grow and discover new things.

  • victoria September 18, 2018, 2:27 pm

    oh gosh, i don’t think i could ever do this. but hey, if i ever get to the point where i had to, then maybe i can try.

  • zoey September 17, 2018, 6:48 pm

    my personal opinion, before you agree to spend some time apart by not meeting each other, try to fix things up. talk about what went wrong. if it didn’t work and he really ask for space then give it. it can be healthy for your relationship.

  • shanice September 15, 2018, 9:07 am

    do not let your fears take over you. just be firm with your decision and stay focused. do not overthink and just go as planned.

  • courtney September 13, 2018, 1:59 pm

    it is not my partner but me who needed space. i don’t really know how to tell him that i need to think about things first without him losing his mind. i hope i can find the courage to let him know.

  • toni September 12, 2018, 2:20 pm

    i may not lose him but i will definitely be losing my mind giving him space! haha
    i don’t know if i can handle this..we’ll see when we get there.

  • linda September 10, 2018, 6:35 pm

    for me, asking for space is never a good thing but love is also about respect. if my guy wants a space, i will give him to him wholeheartedly.

  • edith September 7, 2018, 10:30 pm

    for me, giving your partner space is necessary for a relationship. sometimes, a couple might feel suffocated in a relationship and this is why space is needed.it will allow couples time to process their thoughts and relax.

  • margaret September 5, 2018, 3:19 pm

    i can see signs that it is time to give my partner some space. honestly, i don’t know what to do. i am so confused. i am sure it will be difficult for the both of us and i don’t know if i can face my biggest fear of him not coming back…

  • isla September 4, 2018, 1:13 pm

    do not obsess over it. in anything, do not obsess because this will drive your man away. if you’re too controlling, your relationship won’t last long and it will drive him nuts.

  • mackayla September 3, 2018, 1:03 pm

    my partner said he needed space and i felt very bad about it. my friends say this is normal in a relationship and can be healthy too. i hope by giving him the space he needed, he will realize how much we love each other so we can come back even stronger.

  • dian August 29, 2018, 3:42 pm

    hmmm.. we can’t be sure for how to give someone space without losing them. it may sound easy but it is not! i’ve been there and it made me crazy!

  • feliz August 28, 2018, 2:12 pm

    this is a situation i am and never going to be good at all. i will definitely lose my mind thinking about what he’s doing, where he goes, who’s he with and all crazy things! i hope i can try this.

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