Having a crush can be exciting but nerve-wracking. The idea of him liking you back is thrilling but the notion of him not liking you back is kind of disappointing and depressing.
Are you just a friend, or does he have deeper feelings for you that go beyond friendship?
Even worse is he a shy guy who isn’t exactly emotionally expressive, which makes it even harder to know if he is interested in you or not?
Don’t worry—you will never be confused again after this article.
I’m here to offer not just the most important signs a guy likes you, but I am going to provide specific, concrete examples so that you can fully and finally understand exactly what your situation is—as in, does he like you or not?
You cannot know 100%, but I will give you enough material to be pretty much sure if it’s one way or another.
If he doesn’t like you, there are things you can do to maximize the chances that he likes you, which I’ll explain after listing 21 signs that show he does in fact like you. Check to see if he exhibits any of these signs to get a more accurate analysis if he likes you.
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List of 21 Signs To Tell If A Guy Likes You:
Sign #1: He goes out of his way for you
Going out of his way means he puts in effort for you. Effort means that he cares. A good measure of how much someone likes you is how much energy they’re willing to exert for you.
If you see a guy constantly going out of his way for you, that’s a good sign!
Sign #2: He introduces you to people he likes and who are close to him
Family and friends are obviously an important part of his life, so if he introduces you to them that means you are also important. It’s also a definite signifier you’re someone he wants in his life for the “long term”. So, take a step back and think about who he has introduced you to?
If he introduces you to his friends, it most likely means he thinks highly of you & wants to “show you off”.
Some men will date a woman “secretly” but never bring her around the people in his life. This is a bad sign!
Sign #3: He gets jealous if you mention another man
If he cares at all it probably means he has interest because why else would he care?
All men are different in terms of their levels of jealousy and security. There is a primal instinct where he must care to some extent if you are looking at other men, or other men are looking at you.
It’s a male instinct that gets activated that can’t be helped, so this is a definite sign he likes you.
Sign #4: He remembers what you say
If he remembers what you say, this means he listens and cares! If he remembers little random details about you that most people probably forget, this is a great sign he’s showing interest.
If you can tell that what you say matters to him on a deeper level than most, it’s fair to say he likes you.
Sign #5: He treats you differently than he treats other women
If he likes you he will treat you differently than he treats other women, in fact he’ll probably treat you differently than anyone!
Even if he is shy this still applies. It may be harder to detect, but there will be a change you should see. It should be obvious to you that you stand out to them. Having a crush or liking someone else is not a “normal” thing for a guy, or anyone. Think about how often you have feelings for someone?
It takes a while to build up an honest attraction towards another. It’s rare, therefore he will act in a way that’s unique with you that shows that you are somebody special in his mind!
Sign #6: He asks for your input in things
Asking about your feelings and input about a situation is another major sign he cares. Wanting your input on a situation means he truly values your opinion.
This is a huge symbol that he likes you because people do not just ask anyone random for their opinion on a subject. This means he may like you beyond that of just a friendly attraction.
Sign #7: He teases you
If he likes to make fun of you he most likely is trying to get your attention. To me teasing is just about the most transparent way to flirt with someone. It’s one of the best ways to get someone’s attention, and why would he be wanting your attention?
The teasing should be light hearted and fun obviously, nothing too serious or mean. That’s a bad sign! To me harmless teasing is a playful way to show you like someone and is a huge sign that he likes you.
Sign #8: He’s extra nice to your family/friends
You can tell he tries to be pleasant around those he knows also care about you. Even if he doesn’t want to hang out with people he does because they are important to you. He does it regardless because he knows it will make you happy.
It should be obvious to you that he goes out of his way to be on his “A-game” when around people who are important to you.
A good example would be seeing that he takes the time to look good when you go out or watching him feign a smile when you know he’s had a tough day.
Sign #9: He is around you a lot
If you can see he makes an effort to be around you it’s a good sign he likes you. Especially, if he is changing plans to do it.
People will chase that high of being around someone they are interested in. If he happens to be sitting next to you randomly, or whether you end up at the same parties it’s a good sign he likes you.
It means he is feeling that pull of attraction, and his brain is telling him to be around you.
Sign #10: He initiates hanging out
You are not the one going out of your way-he is. If that’s the case that’s a fantastic sign he likes you. If he’s the one making plans and initiating all of your interactions he’s probably not finding you boring!
No guy wants to hang out with someone they don’t like, man or woman!
Sign #11: He compliments you
Complimenting you is a great way to show that he likes you. It means he’s trying to be sweet and make you happy. Think of the who, when, and why of when you compliment someone?
If he’s complimenting you he likes something about you undoubtedly.
Unique compliments are even more important because that means he notices something unique about you and mentions it. There is something rare about you in his mind.
Sign #12: He is vulnerable around you
If he is being vulnerable it’s a major sign he definitely has strong feelings for you. Most people have trouble being vulnerable even when they’re in a deep relationship.
Men do not just share feelings with anyone. Getting a man to open his heart, or anyone’s for that matter, is no easy task. So, if it’s already happening off the bat, that means he is not only comfortable around you, but may be interested in you beyond just someone to talk to.
Sign #13: He exhibits positive body language
If he’s smiling around you a lot and comes off as open and unthreatening this is a good sign he likes you.
Eye contact is always important, and simple things such as opening doors, or being polite means he’s trying to show you some sort of affection. You can also tell how much he really cares by his body language. Its easy to see when someone is getting put off or enjoying the conversation by how they’re acting.
Body language is about just as important as what he says!
Sign #14: He’s happy when he’s around you
A guy can’t help but smile and brighten up when looking at a woman he likes. It’s a feeling that he can’t be suppressed and it should be clear he’s in a better mood when he’s around you.
If he’s laughing a lot too, that’s another good sign, because it means he’s having fun!
It’s sometimes impossible to control ourselves, its something involuntary that gets ignited when were around the one we’re interested in.
Sign #15: He has asked whether you’re single
This is a big sign he is interested because he’s assessing whether you’re available or not. His reaction to your response will be even more telling! If he seems happy and his face lights up if you say you’re single it’s an even bigger sign he likes you.
If he cares about your relationship status it’s a clear sign he might want a relationship!
Sign #16: He contacts you a lot through text etc.
If a guy doesn’t like you, you will be the one always contacting him, and the same goes the other way around. If he likes you he will be the one contacting you the most often.
You will see him be the catalyst to frequent and consistent conversation if he’s interested.
Think of who you try to start conversations with, its most likely someone you want to know about!
Sign #17: Sometimes it will just be obvious
When a guy likes you, it’s normally obvious. He will treat you much differently than he treats others, so if you don’t already know in your gut, it’s a good chance he isn’t interested.
Sometimes when a guy likes you it will be painfully obvious to you and those around you. It’s something you can just tell. Other times, it will be very hard to tell depending on how guarded the person is. Some people are much more transparent, but even guarded people sometime can’t help but show their internal feelings.
Sign #18: He is curious about you
If he asks you a lot of questions and wants to learn about you this is a great sign he likes you.
Men and women only do this when they’re interested. Men are not going to ask questions in my opinion unless they are genuinely curious and like something about you.
If he wants to know more and more about you it means he cares about you and who you are. Think about the opposite of caring, and how it feels when someone is indifferent to you. It’s clear they aren’t interested. It should be just as easy to see that he is interested in you.
You can tell by the nature of conversation and the topics of his questions. They will generally be on the personal side, and may come off as questions that typically wouldn’t be necessary in a strictly platonic relationship. The more in depth the question, the more telling it is that he likes you.
He should be asking questions not because he has to, (as in, you work together) but he genuinely wants to know your answers.
Sign #19: He touches you
Does he ever lean in close and accidentally touch you? Chances are it’s not accidental especially if it happens often!
Touch is another body language sign that is an involuntary signal he is truly interested!
Sign #20: He gets angry if someone wrongs you
Is someone being rude or insulting to you? If guy likes you he will at the very least get a little agitated about something or someone messing with you. It’s the instinct of a man to want to protect a woman, so imagine how this instinct can be magnified when it’s a woman he cares about.
You should see that he is more protective over you than other people if he has a true attraction towards you.
Sign #21: He Cares About Your Pleasure
Obviously caring about whether someone is having a good time or happy is a major sign he likes you. This can either be sexual, or something as simple as giving you his jacket on a cold night.
The point is, if it’s clear he wants to make you happy and comfortable and feel good, he has some feelings for you.
So, what if these signs point to him not liking you?
Well, to give you the best shot of making it so that he likes you I want to explain the most common sabotaging mindset mistake that so many women make.
This mistake is… having an agenda.
Put simply: Having an “agenda” kills your attractiveness.
By having an agenda mindset, I mean:
You have a specific way you want things to work out and so, everything you do and say is in service of trying to make the situation unfold as you planned.
Your mind is fixated on making something happen instead of being in the moment with him and responding to the situation naturally.
When people sense someone has an agenda they’re trying to make happen, it immediately makes the person come across as desperate, and raises their guard.
People get creeped out when they sense someone has a hidden motive for associating with them. So, the big reason to not have an agenda is because you don’t want to creep him out!
Instead, you want to be more like a shining sun that radiates good energy, you can’t control him, but you can control the energy you put out and if he likes it, he will come to you for more…
MORE: 100 Signs He Likes You
Be Present In The Moment
Always be present in the moment!
Being present with someone means that you’re at ease, you aren’t internally restless or trying to make him see you or respond to you a certain way (agenda thinking).
You’re just comfortable and more like an open, loving, receptive space for him to interact with.
Being present is largely about not doing things that screw up the interaction, mainly getting out of your head and just being with the other person. It means you listen to what he says and respond without being afraid of how he will respond to your response.
Listening is key
It makes him feel understood, and when someone feels like another person “gets them” they are much more likely to open up and share their heart with you. This sharing and understanding of personal information is exactly how attachment builds. The safer a guy feels with you the more attached he’ll become.
Generally speaking, the biggest problem with women getting a guy to like them is that they fixate on one guy and when he shows signs he doesn’t like her back, instead of accepting that and moving on immediately, they spend time banging their head against the wall trying to make him like them.
This wastes time that could be spent much better focused on man who wants to be with you.
If you want to be good at getting one specific guy to like you, be “good” at getting men to like you in general.
You can do things that make you attractive to men:
– Be in a happy mood. Being friendly equals being attractive.
– Don’t look for guy to make you happy. Learn to live your life happily so it’s your normal way of being. Having a boyfriend would be a nice addition, but it’s not the be all end all. You shouldn’t be seeking a relationship to make you happy.
– Be as beautiful as you possibly can, whether that’s through how you dress, or the makeup you wear, or maintaining a positive attitude.
It may sound superficial, but it works. Trust me, I’m telling you what will make you most effective and I would be doing you a disservice if I did not tell you this!
Personality vs. Appearance
Anybody telling you that these things do not matter, or that they should not matter, is putting you at a disadvantage.
Obviously, personality is a central factor in why we like someone, but also remember that first impressions are the most important, and the first impression anyone gets of another person is always their appearance!
He could be a professional pianist, or a huge business owner, but if he hypothetically dressed and had the hygiene of someone homeless, you’d most likely pass before even getting to know those things!
Appearances can be deceiving, but they do make a difference!
Now, I’m not saying you have to look like a supermodel! Everyone has their own type. Remember that being attractive is something that is totally subjective.
The point is, if you feel you look and act amazing a certain way, try to look and be that way, and the guy who thinks you are amazing that way too is clearly compatible!
These signs will give you a much better idea if he likes you. Some of them in my mind are key identifiers that should give you a direct yes or no. Don’t be discouraged, and as I said, always be a good listener, and reciprocate.
Don’t worry if you’re not a match, that just means you don’t fit together organically. Remember, there are plenty of fish in the sea, and there is a guy out there that’s perfect for you! Or at least, close to perfect.
I hope this article helps you figure out whether that guy likes you or not. Before you decide what to do next, you need to know about the 2 pivotal moments in any relationship that determine if you get to live happily ever after or he leaves you so pay attention to this next step because it’s vitally important: At some point he will ask himself is this the woman I should commit to for the long term? The answer to that will determine the fate of your relationship: Do you know how men determine if a woman is girlfriend material (the type of woman he commits himself to) or if he sees you as just a fling? If not you need to read this next: The #1 Thing Men Desire In A Woman…
The second problem will undermine whatever relationship you have if it’s allowed to fester and destroy your relationship from the inside, so read this right now or risk your relationship because at some point he starts to lose interest. He doesn’t call you back or he becomes emotionally closed off. He seems like he’s losing interest or pulling away – do you know what to do? If not you’re putting your relationship and the future of your love life in great danger, read this now or risk losing him forever: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…
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- He goes out of his way for you
- He introduces you to people he likes and who are close to him
- He gets jealous if you mention another man
- He remembers what you say
- He treats you differently than he treats other women
- He asks for your input in things
- He Teases You
- He’s extra nice to your family/friends
- He Is Around You A Lot
- He initiates hanging out
- He compliments you
- He is vulnerable around you
- He exhibits positive body language
- He’s happy when he’s around you
- He has asked whether you’re single
- He contacts you a lot through text etc.
- Sometimes it will just be obvious
- He is curious about you
- He touches you
- He gets angry if someone wrongs you
- He Cares About Your Pleasure