10 Guaranteed Signs He Doesn’t Like You

33 Guaranteed Signs He Doesn’t Like You

Does he like you back? Or not? How can you tell if he’s not interested? What are the exact signs he doesn’t like me?

You may be panicking and thinking, “I like him but he doesn’t like me!” or “Why doesn’t he like me!?”

There’s nothing worse than not knowing whether a guy likes you or not. The struggle of trying to tell if he’s not interested can be excruciating.

This feeling isn’t exclusive to women, though. I used to fixate on whether women liked me or not. I would literally drive myself crazy sometimes (this is awkward to admit, but I’m doing it to help you… because I think it’s valuable to share my own experiences if it means shedding light on the great thing that’s at work here.)

And if you’re wondering, does my ex still like me, it’s even worse.

Or one of the most painful scenarios: you’re in a relationship and you’re worried he’s slipping away… and that he might not even be interested in you. There is an impending feeling of doom, and you can sense he doesn’t like you anymore. If that’s what you’re worried about, you should take our quiz here and find out if he’s really losing interest in you.

The bottom line is: men and women both wonder whether the person they like feels the same about them. It’s normal to feel anxious and to worry. That’s why I am writing this article—to tell you the truth about what signs mean a guy does not like you.

The good thing is, there are a few key signs that a guy is not interested that are almost 100% accurate. If you can spot these signs you can be sure he’s doesn’t like you.

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First, I want to tell you a story about a girl I met in high school. It was freshman year and we were in the same English class. I was already nervous about even being in high school, but seeing her almost instantly magnified my nerves. It was wonderful, and at the same time, it felt absolutely gut-wrenching. I liked her, and I wanted to know if she liked me… but I kept telling myself there was absolutely no way she would go for me.

She would either think I dress goofy…

Or she would think I was dumb…

Or she would not even want to talk to me.

I came up with dozens of reasons why she could never possibly like me.

That paranoid feeling that I could never be liked was terrible… Eventually I mustered up the courage to talk to her. She wound up being an amazing girl who I still talk to this day. We never actually pursued a relationship, and sometimes I wonder what it might be like, but after getting to know her I realize I’m happier with her as a friend.

The point is, it would have been a hell of a lot easier if I just had some guidebook that gave me the signs to tell me that she liked me or not. I agonized over it and fixated on it endlessly. I didn’t have an answer that gave me any kind of true indication of how she felt… so as I remember what all this felt like I want to give you the most clear, surefire signs to know if a guy doesn’t like you so you don’t have to go through this.

(And before we start – I’m going to be blunt at some points – not because I’m trying to be mean but because I want you to help you… and sometimes the most helpful thing is to be really clear.)

So here we go…

I’m going to give you the top ten signs first, and then afterwards give you the rest of the tell tale signs that a guy is losing interest in you.

Here are 10 Signs He Doesn’t Like You:

The Top Ten Signs He Doesn’t Like You

1. He’s Not Around You And Makes No Effort To Be Around You

This is the single most important sign.

When a guy wants something – he’s going to go after it. He’s not going to sit back twiddling his thumbs.

It’s pretty straight forward. If you feel he doesn’t like you, that he’s never around, and that he doesn’t pay attention to you, he most likely isn’t interested.

It seems like he’s avoiding you

So if he’s not spending time with you, hanging around, and making excuses to hang out with you it’s not looking good. It is one of the biggest signs that someone doesn’t like you, if not the biggest in my opinion.

Guys aren’t stupid. If he wants you, he knows that he has to spend time with you and be around you in order to get closer to you.

So if he’s not hanging around, or hanging out with you, or even showing up in your life – he’s not trying to go after you… which means he doesn’t like you.

2. He Doesn’t Really Listen When You Talk And Doesn’t Remember What You Tell Him

People remember things that are important to them. One of the biggest signs he isn’t interested is the amount of attention he gives you.

I couldn’t tell you a single word of my trigonometry textbook from 11th grade math class – because it wasn’t important to me.

But I can tell you exactly where I was and what I was doing the first time a girl ever told me she loved me (Cindy Rosen, listening to Bruce Springsteen… funnily enough – also in 11th grade.)

The truth is – most of our days are forgettable. They’re not good, they’re not bad, they just kind of happen, and then fall by the wayside.

Your brain knows this. Since it has a limited capacity for memory (unless you’ve got an amazing photographic memory), your brain is going to edit out the parts it thinks aren’t important, while remembering the parts that are. That’s why you remember an amazing make-out session from a few years ago in detail, but can’t remember what you had for lunch last week.

That’s actually a nice trick to discover what people are really interested in deep down. Because your subconscious is controlling what you remember and don’t remember, you can get a good feel for what’s important to someone deep down in their subconscious by paying attention to what they remember and don’t remember.

Simply put: if your subconscious decides something is important, you’re going to remember it.

And if he likes you, his subconscious is 100% going to know about it – and it’s going to automatically make him remember the things you say.

If he’s not listening to you or remembering the things you say, it means you’re not important to him. Can you remember the last time you liked a guy and he wasn’t important to you (at least right then)? Didn’t think so…

He’s not giving you his attention

Obviously, if he’s trying to learn how to juggle 3 flaming chainsaws when you tell him your favorite color – he might not remember.

But 99% of the time, if he likes you, he’s going to listen to you, and remember the things you tell him.

When we like someone it’s natural to want to learn more about them, to have something common to talk about, and to try to look more appealing by taking up their interests.

3. He Doesn’t Care About Your Relationships With Other Men Even In The Slightest

If he doesn’t seem jealous of other guys talking to you that’s one of the major signs he doesn’t like you anymore. Jealousy is a subconscious emotion in relationships that can’t be held back. When you really like a girl it’s almost impossible not to feel threatened by other possible suitors.

If you’re being constantly hit on by other men, and he doesn’t even flinch, this is an especially bad sign that he is not interested.

Let’s play pretend.

You say to him, “I saw my friend Steve last night.”

Do his ears perk up? Does his tone of voice change? Most importantly: does he ask, “Who’s Steve?”

If he’s into you – he’s gonna care about the other guys you’re hanging out with. And unless he’s the suavest man on the planet – he’s going to reveal he cares (even if he just makes a joke) about what you did with “Steve.”

Guys are hardwired to pick up on competition. It’s what we’ve evolved to do.

That’s why if you can’t get a guy to care about something, the best way to get him hooked is to make it into a competition.

He doesn’t care about doing the dishes? Bet him that you can clean the dishes faster than he can.

Point is, if there’s one thing that guys love, it’s a competition. And they’re able to sniff one out from a mile away.

So if he’s interested in you, he’s going to be hypersensitive to the idea that anyone else is interested in you… and is in direct competition with him.

Obviously, he’s not going to say something incredibly romantic because you mentioned another guy, but if he likes you, he’s definitely going to have some sort of reaction.

And if you mention another potential suitor, only to get no reaction from him – it means that you’re not grabbing the attention of even his competitive side… which is a huge sign that he’s not interested.

4. He Treats You The Same As He Treats Everyone Else – No Difference

This one is simple. When a guy is into you – he feels differently about you than other people. It should always feel as if you are getting treated differently than others.

When he feels different, he acts different. Simple, right?

If that doesn’t sound simple – think about it this way.

Let’s say you’re out with your friends. You’re laughing, you’re having a good time, you’re relaxed and comfortable… and then your boss shows up.

All of a sudden, the whole dynamic is probably going to change for you (unless you have the coolest boss in the world).

You’re going to reign yourself in, watch what you’re saying way more, and in general become way less relaxed.

Why? Because you care about what your boss thinks about you! You don’t want to make a mistake or lower your status in your boss’s eyes, so you act differently than normal.

It’s the same with a guy who likes you. He’s not afraid that you’re going to fire him (unless you’re his boss, which is a whole different can of worms), but he’s definitely going to care what you think of him, which is going to make him act differently.

Just like you want to know how to be cute around him, to make him like you.

If he likes you, it’s gonna show. He’ll act differently around you than other people. Unless he’s a world famous actor or a hardened spy… in which case, good luck.

5. He’s Not Really Curious About Your Life

Every single time I’ve been interested in a woman – I’ve wanted to know more about her.

Why? Read the sentence! I’m interested in her.

And I’m talking really interested – not “Let’s go back to my place and have some fun,” interested.

If a guy is interested, he’s going to want to know more about you. What makes you tick, what you like, what you don’t like, everything.

He’s going to want clues about what you’re really about – both so that he can get to know you better and also so that he can make himself more attractive to you.

And all that starts with getting to know you, which starts with being curious about your life.

If he likes you, he’ll be interested in you. He’ll want to know more about you – and he’ll care when you tell him about yourself.

One of the biggest signs that he is actually paying attention to you is that he’s mirroring you.

If someone does the opposite of what your doing, and hates what you like, it’s a good way to tell if someone doesn’t like you.

People will subconsciously start to do and like the things that their love interest likes, not the opposite. For instance, if you like a certain band, and all of the sudden he starts liking them too all of the sudden, it’s a good sign he likes you. One of the biggest signs he isn’t interested is that he shows no regard for anything you like.

Now granted, it’s not unusual for a guy to have different tastes than you in some regards, so it’s not a red alert if he happens to not like something you like. If it seems like a recurring pattern, though, then that’s when to pay attention.

Mirroring even shows up in body language. When you’re talking with him, does his body language seem to match (or mirror) yours? Or does it seem like it’s the opposite of yours (such as him being turned away from him as you’re turned towards him). These body language signs of him not mirroring you can be a clue that he doesn’t like you.

This is a sign that I see all the time in relationships that are headed for trouble. If he’s not curious about your life anymore, it’s a strong sign he’s losing interest. Take our Is He Losing Interest Quiz right now to see whether he’s losing interest in you (and find out exactly what you should do to stop it).

6. He Openly Mentions Other Women He’s Interested In / He’s In A Serious Relationship

ok – let’s start out here – if he’s talking about someone else that he’s seriously interested in, not just throwing a woman’s name out there to see how you react… it means that he’s not interested.

It’s virtually the same as him flat out saying he doesn’t like you

If he’s seriously interested in someone else, and telling you about it, he’s not trying to make you jealous. He’s giving you a blatant signal that he’s not interested in dating you.

Both men and women are allowed to be interested in multiple people at the same time – no double standards here.

But if he’s talking to you about the other women he’s seriously interested in…

Well, answer me this question – would you ever do that with a guy you really liked?

Didn’t think so.

And if he’s already in a serious relationship, that’s a huge strike against him being interested in you.

Of course, he might be sending you signals just for his own thrill, but that’s pretty unlikely…

In fact, it’s way more likely that if he’s in a serious relationship with someone, he’s not looking to date anyone else… which really hurt your chances with him.

7. He Never Contacts You First

If he likes you, he’s going to want to see you. He’s going to want to be around you. And he’s going to want to talk to you.

That urge you feel in your stomach to be around a guy you like – men feel that too. And if he feels that urge, he’s going to be reaching out to you to see you again.

If he’s not calling, or texting, or making plans to be with you, then he doesn’t feel that urge.

He’s ghosting on you.

8. He’s a super flirty/friendly guy

This ties back into sign #4 – if he’s a super flirty guy and he flirts with you – he’s not really treating you differently. He’s treating you the same as he treats everyone else.

He might make you feel really special – compliment you, make you laugh, call you pet names…

But if he does that with every girl he meets… he’s not treating you any differently, is he?

Some guys, just like girls, can make the mistake of being too friendly. It’s not anyone’s fault, it’s just their personality. So if his uncommonly friendly treatment is the same to you as the clerk in the grocery store it’s a big sign a guy doesn’t like you.

9. He’s Always Busy / He Doesn’t Put In Any Extra Effort

This is about priorities.

There are some guys out there that are really busy – and that’s ok. All good relationships are between two people that each have a full life. And if he’s too busy to see you as much as you’d like him to – it doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about you.

But if he’s too busy to see you at all – it means you’re not even on his list of priorities. And even the busiest guy on the planet will make time to see you – as long as you’re a priority for him.

So it comes down to the question – are you among his priorities or not?

If you are – great. If you’re not… instead of following all these books and crazy things that tell you to try to change him and make him come around and chase after you…

You should be dropping him and spending your time with a guy who does make you his priority.

Think about it this way – let’s pretend you’re the boss of a company. One of your employees loves his job – he shows up every day, puts in 100% effort, doesn’t stop working until he’s totally satisfied with his project, and never stops trying to learn more and get better at his job.

Another employee is the opposite – it’s clear he doesn’t want to be there. All he does is try to finish his work as quickly as possible and put in as little thought and effort as possible to get it done. He doesn’t go the extra mile, he doesn’t check for mistakes, and he spends most of his time goofing off.

Now, you can spend all your time and effort and energy trying to turn a bad employee into a good employee…

Or you could fire his ass and find yourself a good employee – one who loves being there.

10. The Truth: It Will Be obvious That He Likes You

Look – guys aren’t subtle.

This is all about your gut instinct. Honestly – what do you really think in your gut about him.

Do you really think he likes you?

If it feels like he’s basically telling you he doesn’t like you in every way possible he probably doesn’t.

Listen to your gut – whether you get a sinking feeling or an excited, butterfly feeling will tell you everything you need to know.

OK – so those are the signs. Chances are, you probably got your answer from one or more of the signs above.

And before you jump down my throat with, “Oh but one time this guy didn’t call me for 3 years and it turned out he was a secret agent working deep undercover but really he liked me the whole time!” – I’m not talking about the crazy outlier cases here.

There are obviously more signs that a guy shows when he’s not interested, these are just the ten biggest ones.

Other signs could be:

11. He never talks to you about anything serious or romantic. The conversation tends to be bland, and it feels like you’re more like his sister than a love interest.

12. He doesn’t make any sacrifices for you. What a man is willing to drop, or do for a woman is a big indicator of how interested he is.

13. When he helps you it’s only because it’s absolutely necessary, not because he’s choosing to.

14. He doesn’t attend events that you set up, or that have to do with you. He’ll make an excuse to not come if you’re throwing a party.

15. He never buys you anything, or offers you financial help, even when you’re in a bad situation.

16. He’s not interested in your friends or family. Your social life and likes are totally non-important to him.

17. His body language will be closed, and guarded. He will rarely smile around you, if ever.

18. When you’re gone or not around, it doesn’t seem to affect his mood.

19. He’s not worried about your safety. For example, if you are getting mugged, and he runs away, or does nothing, that’s a very bad sign he doesn’t like you anymore.

20. He dresses like a slob when he’s around you, and never seems like he’s trying to impress you or make himself look good for you.

21. He avoids being around you while at social functions.

22. If he lends something to you, like a sweater on a cold night, then demands it back from you immediately.

23. You are always the one starting the conversation, not the other way around.

24. He rarely makes eye contact, and when he does, it’s only for a short period of time. He’ll look away quickly if you do.

25. He never makes physical contact with you.

26. He never laughs or smiles around you.

27. He keeps his distance from you socially and physically. It seems as if he’s trying to keep your relationship on the surface level.

28. He never congratulates you on your success. He has little enthusiasm for positive things happening in your life.

29. When you change your style, or get a new haircut, he doesn’t seem to notice at all.

30. He likes the opposite of what you do. He tends to do the opposite of what you’re doing.

31. He spends more time with other girls than you.

32. He asks you about other girls you know.

33. He never calls or texts you.

If he’s giving you 4 or more of the signs, especially any in the top ten – it’s a pretty safe bet that he doesn’t like you.

Signs he doesn’t like you through text?

The biggest sign he doesn’t like you through text is not anything he says through text, it’s that he doesn’t text at all. If he’s taking a while to respond, or just straight up ghosts on you, he probably isn’t interested. The second biggest sign is texts that seem short and unemotional. If you give him a well thought out message and he responds “ok” it’s a sign he doesn’t like you.

How to get over a guy who doesn’t like you back?

The best way to get over a guy is to focus on yourself and do things that make you happy. Don’t focus on him, focus on trying to be the person that you’d want to live your life with. Make a life that is amazing no matter who you are with, a man should never be your only route to a happy life.

What do you do when your crush doesn’t like you?

If your crush doesn’t like you don’t freak out, do the opposite. Calm down and focus forward in your life on things that are going to make you better and happier. The stronger you are the more attractive you become.

How do you know if a guy is interested in you?

The best way to tell is by the amount of attention he gives you. If he is never calling you, and never talking to you it’s a bad sign. If he seems like he’s distant, he probably is.

How do you know if a guy likes you but is scared?

The most obvious way to tell is if he’s nervous. An attractive woman can be extremely intimidating to a man. Another major way to tell is his body language and speech. He may exhibit a different posture, or even have a hard time speaking. A guy can act pretty awkward when he’s interested.

How to tell if a guy doesn’t like you?

If he avoids you and never speaks with you it’s a bad sign, especially If you’re going up and talking to him frequently and he still seems uninterested, he probably is. He won’t seem happy around you, and it won’t seem as if he’s following you around. If you have a gut feeling that a guy doesn’t like you, it’s probably right.

If you want to know the signs that a guy does like you, you can go here for my thoughts on the subject.

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In summary…

The Top Signs He Doesn’t Like You

  1. He’s not around you and makes no effort to be around you.
  2. He doesn’t really listen when you talk and doesn’t remember what you tell him.
  3. He doesn’t care about your relationships with other men even in the slightest.
  4. He treats you the same as he treats everyone else – no difference.
  5. He’s not really curious about your life.
  6. He openly mentions other women he’s interested in / he’s in a serious relationship.
  7. He never contacts you first.
  8. He’s a super friendly/super flirty guy in general.
  9. He’s always busy / he doesn’t put in any extra effort.
  10. He never talks to you about anything serious or romantic. The conversation tends to be bland, and it feels like you’re more like his sister than a love interest.
  11. He doesn’t make any sacrifices for you. What a man is willing to drop, or do for a woman is a big indicator of how interested he is.
  12. When he helps you it’s only because it’s absolutely necessary, not because he’s choosing to.
  13. He doesn’t attend events that you set up, or that have to do with you. He’ll make an excuse to not come if you’re throwing a party.
  14. He never buys you anything, or offers you financial help, even when you’re in a bad situation.
  15. He’s not interested in your friends or family. Your social life and likes are totally non-important to him.
  16. His body language will be closed, and guarded. He will rarely smile around you, if ever.
  17. When you’re gone or not around, it doesn’t seem to affect his mood.
  18. He’s not worried about your safety. For example, if you are getting mugged, and he runs away, or does nothing, that’s a very bad sign he doesn’t like you anymore.
  19. He dresses like a slob when he’s around you, and never seems like he’s trying to impress you or make himself look good for you.
  20. He avoids being around you while at social functions.
  21. If he lends something to you, like a sweater on a cold night, then demands it back from you immediately.
  22. You are always the one starting the conversation, not the other way around.
  23. He rarely makes eye contact, and when he does, it’s only for a short period of time. He’ll look away quickly if you do.
  24. He never makes physical contact with you.
  25. He never laughs or smiles around you.
  26. He keeps his distance from you socially and physically. It seems as if he’s trying to keep your relationship on the surface level.
  27. He never congratulates you on your success. He has little enthusiasm for positive things happening in your life.
  28. When you change your style, or get a new haircut, he doesn’t seem to notice at all.
  29. He likes the opposite of what you do. He tends to do the opposite of what you’re doing.
  30. He spends more time with other girls than you.
  31. He asks you about other girls you know.
  32. He never calls or texts you.
  33. The truth is it will be obvious that he likes you.

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153 comments… add one
  • Maia May 13, 2019, 12:25 pm

    A girl told me that my crush who I was texting is a player i asked hjm about it on snapchat and he unfreinded me . The next day I asked him why he unfreinded me. And he said he didn’t want to talk to me. He then blocked me. A month later he keeps adding and unadding me on snapchat whenever I add him then he unaddeds me when he opens my snaps. Then he stopped after 2 months now he is doing it again ive already apologized to him but he wont say anything . What does he want from me ?

  • AC December 19, 2018, 9:34 pm

    I was a transferee so at the first day of school it seems like its off like I almost hated everyone. But I started to get to know of my classmates so we’re now friends. The chairs are now arranged, I was so quiet but there’s this guy who was sitting beside me so he first started a convo with me, he asked if I know that guy/girl from my school. I answered yes, and I thought it was that guy/girl bc the pronunciation of their names are the same. We became good friends, he helped me in some of stuff I can’t answer like in math, I also helped him what to do, and we still share books, we talk about our lives stuff. One time my bestfriend had a crush on the guy who’s sitting beside me. I didnt cared about it til I had a crush on my bestfriend’s crush. Bc he looks like my bestfriend’s crush on grade 10. “Who are looking/finding” my other bestfriend asked me at recess. It started with a little crush but things get worse bc my friend told him I have a crush on him xDD EVEN MY TEACHER AT OUR CLASS KNEW I HAD A CRUSH ON HIM and then when it was our career day in English class, his friends teased him bc I have a crush on him, and my guy friend mentions me bc I’m getting jealous but I’m not. And his girl bffs knew I had a crush on him so they started being friends with me. I started have feelings for him secretly bc I’m a shy person. When we’re not sitting beside each other he keeps staring at me with his smile and it changes to back to normal like nothing happened. I noticed something different he’s around with the girl was expecting to be his best friend but I’m not sure if their really bestfriends or more than that. In that time I started to quit and move on but in our Christmas party, he smiled at me. IM NOT SURE IF HE LIKES ME BACK BC THERES SIGNS oof

  • Ghostii December 5, 2018, 7:24 pm

    So, there is this boy in my class we seem to have common interests, games anime— whatever. We don’t talk, unless it has something to with work, or I’m asking him something out side of that we never talk. So I told a friend ( Which I dearly regret) I was interested/I had a crush on. In one of our periods I noticed he was sitting on the otherside of the classroom, talking to some of my friends (Which are girl), giggling laughing. I get a conflicting vibe, wither he’s interested in more or not. Sure at times I’ll catch him looking at me, but other then that I’m not sure If I should muster up the courage and ask him, or just side step my emotions. I barely know him, but I want to– I just don’t know how, since I don’t want to look desperate….

  • Sara November 15, 2018, 8:47 pm

    HI, so Idk if i still like this guy even tho today it was made clear to me that he didn’t like me back lemme explain what happened.., so we’ve known each other for 2 months straight now, and well, at the time I didn’t pay attention to him, cuz i liked someone else at the time but, when I kind of got friendzoned by the dude I liked I just got bored, and this new guy approached me, and so, I gave him a chance in my life for once; I ofc got fooled for how nice he was and one day he grabbed my hand, and he didn’t let it go all period since I said I was cold, but then i notcied that everytime I went out from class he would put his hand around my shoulders, one day since he grabbed my hand he didn’t wanna let go, and I let him, and then the same day in te hallway he grabbed me by the waist and he pulled me closer for a hug, that created like a connection between us well to me it seemed like dat, and then he kissed my cheek and he put our foreheads together and all I said was “I’d kiss you right now” and he was like “you want too?” and I shrugged my shoulders and smiled and he leaned in for a kiss, sadly im only 16 almost 17 and well.. that was my first kiss and this hasn’t happened too long ago. And exactly the day, after all, that happened he stopped talking to me and two times I asked him what was wrong between us all he said was either he didn’t know or he was busy. I told a girl in my same class since we’ve become friends and it seemed like she’s known him since they were in 2nd grade and she told me bout him that he’s like dat wit a lot of girls cuz i’ve seen him with other girls in school, and well, today she told me that since she saw him on the bus he told her that “if she saw the day me nd him kissed, and she was confused y he had to bring me up.. and she told me that he said that I asked him for the kiss and that he doesn’t feel the same way towards me. The only thing that got me mad is if he didn’t want anything with me, in the first place y did he do all that to make me fall in love with him he could of just stopped when the kiss was boutta happen anyway and rejected me right then, he stopped talking to me and he tries to have a small talk wit me sometimes from now on but, I don’t pay much attention like I act like i don’t rlly care much , all I can do is move on even tho it hurts, but I take this as if he played with my feelings; what do you guys think? Lemme know! Thanks for hearing me out! :)

  • palindrome pseudonym November 9, 2018, 11:59 pm

    i don’t know karate, but i know ka-ray-zee.

    • Sara November 15, 2018, 8:50 pm

      lmaoooo add me on instagram @regretedits or on my backup @shawnhubbie u mad funny

  • Ana October 24, 2018, 5:04 pm

    There’s this guy in my grade that I’ve been friends with for years. He and I are really close and he always goes out of his way to touch me and make me laugh and smile. I don’t know how but I also end up telling him a lot of personal things about my life that I haven’t told many of my best friends. The thing is that I told him I liked him and took it back almost immediately when he said he didn’t feel the same way, but there’s a part of me that doesn’t believe him. The way he stares into my eyes as I speak and remembers important things and the way he tells me things about himself and listens to what I have to say make me feel like he’s only rejecting me because I’m not as popular as him and most of his friends. Most of the guys in our grade pay close attention to us when we are together, pointing out every little flirty thing he does(which is what made me aware of it in the first place). The only thing that makes me feel like I might be wrong is that most of the time we talk about school stuff. It’s only in person that we talk about anything else.

  • Ms.X October 21, 2018, 2:24 pm

    Okay. So there’s a guy I like. He is twice my age . We’ve been friends for some time now. Got physically very close on certain occasions. But umm…. I think he doesn’t likes me. Because now it feels like he avoids meeting me. And of course he doesn’t plans to get serious so what should I do? I mean it’s just that we started hanging out with each other because we both weren’t serious and now I like him and he doesn’t know. I am too afraid. Does he even likes me or not?

  • Dakota October 11, 2018, 9:49 am

    It sounds to me like he was trying to provoke a reaction from you or was trying to make you jealous, which is dumb, I hate this tactic. I think the best way to figure out what’s going on is to be transparent with him, ask him why he would do all these things and then tell you about a girl he admittedly think is cute. To me that makes no sense if he truly likes you. Basically don’t be passive or wait for him to spell out his feelings if he has any for you.

  • some girl in a world October 10, 2018, 10:04 pm

    So there is a boy in my art class that i think likes me. He stares at me basically whenever I’m not looking, and i overhear him talking about me in art class. He usually sits near me and talks about how perfect “a girl he likes” is. I only smile when I’m around my friends, and none of my friends are in my art class. So i smiled becuz i thought of a meme and he said to his friend”look she’s smiling” and pointed at me. I blushed a bit and looked at him, and he smiled and looked away… SO, he also notices when i change my hair style, or get new clothes. I know this cuz i hear him say it to his friends. I think he is really shy around girls, he’s tried to approach me but chickened out. So im like 90% sure he does like me, what do you think.

  • Michaela Bieda June 24, 2018, 10:03 pm

    So I have a crush on a boy. So my best girl friend talk to him and he talks to her about me and he saying that I want to date her. But my girl friend tells me what he said. Whenever I text him I’m always the one who start texting him. Then he blocked me on iMessage and on Snapchat. So I don’t know what to do. He also stares at me and copy’s me whenever I flip my hair he did the same thing. I feel like he playing with me and my girl. I’m upset that he hasn’t talked to me yet or saying anything to me.

  • Michaela Bieda June 24, 2018, 10:02 pm

    So I have a crush on a boy. So my best girl friend talk to him and he talks to her about me and he saying that I want to date her. But my girl friend tells me what he said. Whenever I text him I’m always the one who start texting him. Then he blocked me on iMessage and on Snapchat. So I don’t know what to do. He also stares at me and copy’s me whenever I flip my hair he did the same thing

  • Jelly tots April 18, 2018, 11:50 am

    So I like this guy, and he looks at me and calls me fit and says I’ve got a nice ass, he does it in front of his friends though … I’m not sure if he just does this to make his friend jealous as his friend does this also and his friend used to like me, the boy I like also calls one other girl fit … normally when we are alone he doesn’t call me fit or anything except on one occasion when he came up to me and said “you look peng today” which confuses me. In class he sometimes kicks the back of my chair, but not in an annoying way and he doesn’t do this to any one else. But apparently he likes this girl in my school, but before we both went to a party and I started talking to this boy ( just to be friendly) I wasn’t doing it to make him jealous and he came up to us and started asking me questions about if I was getting it on with him , I’m really confused can someone help me, it would be much appreciated

    I hope this doesn’t confuse anyone x

  • mimiko March 2, 2018, 1:24 pm

    Hi. Well he doesnt want to see me, tbh were almost in a relationship for two years and we havrnt seen each other yet (though he used to stalk me bfre) we never dated, we never kiss yet, not even sex. We never do things like that… And hes always making excuses and hes always getting mad if im asking him to go out with me. He lied to me, hes always making excuses.making up stories.. Idk anymore.

  • devanshi March 2, 2018, 11:32 am

    Actually i sometimes think that he likes me because wherever i go he just follows me i mean to say that wherever i go he just comes behind me nd keeps on stairing me…i dont understand because he doesnt talks to me ….but he blushes when he sees me

  • kim March 1, 2018, 8:32 pm

    I recently moved into a hall and he lives just next door. He never once initiated a conversation with me. The only conversation we ever had was in the elevator and that was because there was a third person. He bonds very well with most of the boys and some girls in my floor but does not talk to me. However, I do catch him looking into my room every time he walks pass and we do make small eye contacts whenever we see one another. But all in all, he does not show any signs of being even interested in becoming friends :( Should I just give up?

  • Gabby February 23, 2018, 12:23 am

    There is this boy i fell really hard for. He would always look at me and talk about me imprint of my cousin who is like a sister. He picked I her a couple of time and I yelled at him all the time. I said sorry but he kept saying ok. He told ever on that I was a lier and he never did. Now he gets very over protective of me. He gets really angry when I talk or walk with another guy. Aha should I do?

  • Anya February 10, 2018, 1:16 am

    I was really out of my mind when I kept on texting him if everythings okay between us.He never replied.I got so messed up that now I have deleted all the chat history and blocked him too but every time I unlock my cell I unblock him trying to figure out if he has texted me some…But every time I think about our conversation it upsets me.I was in my fantasy in my own world of how he use to flatter me but I know it was all fake he was fake and TIME is only the healing.I know somewhere in the world there is somebody eagerly waiting as I am for him.

    • Lola February 15, 2018, 1:05 pm

      Dude this makes them run forever away. Search Katarina Phang and learn how to handle men…

  • Rhea January 11, 2018, 4:38 am

    Ever been the only one who’s never had a boyfriend. So, I’m a sophomore in high school and I was a new student. I met this guy who was cool and all and I really liked his personality too. so, over a few months, we went from being friends to friends with benefits which just meant that we weren’t dating but we still cuddled and stuff. What really confused me was that he asked me out but two days later, he kept ignoring me and this was out of nowhere. It got really frustrating. It was like he didn’t have any time for me. so, I finally texted him asking if he even wanted to be in a relationship and whether he was serious. The first thing he said was that he wasn’t really sure if he wanted to be in a relationship with me because another one of his friends had just broken up and he was hesitant. Then he said that he didn’t wanna miss out on what might happen between us. I got confused and asked him to give me a straight answer. So, he said that we should break up and when I asked him why he said that we just had a rational conversation about it and then he said that he liked me but he didn’t really love me. I realised after he broke up with me that I did like him quite a lot. He said that he still wanted to be friends and I agreed with him. I thought that it would be much easier for me because we weren’t together for more than 2 days and we didn’t even have the time to have a decent conversation. I was more hurt by what he said. The fact that he told me that he didn’t like me really made me sad but I guess I couldn’t really help it and there was nothing I could do. Now, he’s just weird. He talks normally to me around other people but when I text him the most random questions like asking him about something important from class, he just reads the message and then ignores it. He said that he wanted to be friends and I’m trying really hard to but does he hate me so much now that he doesn’t want me around anymore?

  • Mona December 22, 2017, 6:15 pm

    I like this guy who is from South Korea. He’s usually quiet and shy except for around me. He leans his head on my shoulder and holds my hand and is always really sweet to me. I told him I liked him and asked if he liked me and he said he didn’t know… does this mean he’s trying not to hurt my feelings? Or does he really not know? And if he doesn’t know what do I do? Plzzzz help ASAP.

    • Cookie March 6, 2018, 5:17 am

      He’s not that into you. He’s not ready for anything and waiting around for him to be will only hurt you.

  • Maddy November 20, 2017, 9:39 pm

    Does anyone else have it bad for someone they know is out of their league? :(

  • Jade October 23, 2017, 4:55 pm

    This helped. There is a guy that I like, and I want to know whether or not to stop liking him. I know now that he doesn’t like me.

  • Moon September 8, 2017, 3:47 pm

    All guys sucks…..They r made to break hearts

    • guess who October 30, 2017, 2:15 pm

      Moon agree with you
      guys suck

    • Cindy February 17, 2018, 6:50 pm

      So true.

  • Dew July 31, 2017, 4:54 pm

    I think these signs helped me alot. There is this guy m crushing on and its bad,he is a neighbour one day he gave me a lift to work and on the way we talked about a lot of things but he didnt ask for my number but he is super nice with me he even offered me help said whenever i need to go the shops he can take me but m really scared that he will find out i like hinnand maybe he doesnt like me an i be so dissapointed so m just scared to ask for help even when i need it and i think i will ignore him till my feelings for him are xompletely gone

  • Bebegirl June 24, 2017, 6:07 am

    So I met this guy yesterday. I’ve only talked to him once and I think he’s really cute and nice and funny. I’ve seen him look over at me a few times when I’ve been hanging around my friend and they are actually friends and she used to like him but he didn’t like her I don’t think. And now she’s got a different boyfriend. Maybe he’s jealous of her that she’s got a different boyfriend? I can’t tell if he’s looking at me or her. Please help quickly.

  • Arti June 23, 2017, 3:14 am

    Plz reply must and fast

  • Arti June 23, 2017, 3:13 am

    My boyfriend says to me he loves me.. He wants to marry me. .. But he doesn’t talk to me… Even not give a single msg in a whole day… I’m so worried about our relationship… I love him alot.. . I can’t live without him.. . I’m not happy with his this kind of behaviour.. I want his attention. .. I’m totally confused what to do now… plz tell me is he really loves me now…??

    • Lara October 5, 2017, 8:07 am

      Here’s the best advice anyone can give you: ASK HIM!

      • Kelly October 8, 2017, 3:29 pm

        I did ask my boyfriend of five years if he loves me and he always says “I told you already how I feel about you ” and he’s got an attitude about it. He always gets mad if I am crying because he won’t talk to me like I matter

        • k February 27, 2018, 11:15 am

          After 5 years, the relationship needs to go to another level. Heck, even after 1 year it needs to go to a next level. For girls, you don’t have as much time to feel around like guys do. Guys, especially in high school—think that they can all be friends and they can talk to all the girls….over time usually after high school, college age—they start to pair off. There has to be a clear indicator that it’s not just all these guys and girls “hanging out” anymore. The girl has to pin one–make it clear your his/he’s yours—or move on.

    • Jane November 29, 2018, 6:41 pm

      You just have to spend more time with him. You can see if he is texting other girls . If he is, ask him if he loves you. Don’t hesitate to ask him. But he isn’t worth your time, you know what to do.

  • Anne May 22, 2017, 4:21 am

    So well I really like my best friend but he’s the half shy half flirty kind so I never knew what he really thought about me. But lately he asked me to support him in his finals for a competition and the joke among his friends was they’ld all bring their crushes and propose together if they won, I don’t really what to think now tbh…help?

  • Raintree May 7, 2017, 10:36 pm

    He added me on insta and fb and he’s always asking what time the games are and saying I’ll be there. I messaged him on insta asking when his football practice was and he responded immediately

  • Mary April 23, 2017, 4:35 am

    So I told a guy that I like him, and he said “I respect that”. It was kinda confusing because I didn’t exactly know what he meant. I’m still not sure if he likes me. I just wanted to know if there’s anyway I can know for sure if there’s still a chance or if I can make him like me and how long I should take to move on. I really like him.

    • Lara October 5, 2017, 8:12 am

      I guess he means he respects your feelings but doesnt feel the same or isnt interested in knowing i.e., doesnt care. And if he hasnt said or done anything so far he most likely doesnt like you. Go trap another fish in the net, gurl! (if u havent already)

  • ziggy April 19, 2017, 5:45 pm

    i dont mean to be a wet blanket here but i too have walked this path of love and trust me when i say it is not worth it ..ladies love is not meant for all of us and tht is something i have come to accept i am so young but my heart has many scars …and they are all in the name of “love”. again guess. dont mean to be a wet blanket

  • Reagan W. April 6, 2017, 2:40 pm

    Okay, so there was this guy that i DID like but one day my friend texted him and she asked him if he liked me. He said no. The next day later there are rumors going around about how “I like him” or “he likes me” but we don’t. The rumors went around by him showing others the text he got..I went home from school yesterday because of it and I didn’t go to school today. What do I do?? ;-;

    • Kaitlyn Gallaher April 23, 2017, 1:26 am

      What to do is go back to school and tell all of the people about what happened. I had it not to much ago and did it. I seen this before. I talked about a different rumor. That always works. Just make sure its a top of the line rumor. Its because if you don’t change the rumor or stand up than you will be called names and picked on. It happens to people. Here’s a rumor you can use my example: find a person and ask about a random gossip than put it out to the whole school than you should be fine.

  • gomezpeter March 30, 2017, 2:57 am

    Your article helped me enough to get a clear vision about him.I don’t know how to thank you.These information gave me a huge insight and will certainly make a great difference in my career as well as personal life and also i realize what is more important to me.

  • Evie March 29, 2017, 3:46 pm

    I met a guy on a dating app, and our relationship started off weird. I don’t know whether to kick him to the curb or be more patient. He liked me first on the app. I liked him in return. The site connected us. I message first. He doesn’t say anything. 6 days go past, and I had forgotten all about him. He replies to my message. We talk for a few minutes. I ask a question. No answer. I’m baffled, but I was like whatever. The site closed the chat with the possibility of reopening. I didn’t reopen the chat, but the guy did, to my surprise. I waited for him to say something. Nothing. For 5 days. I was bored one night and I just wrote in Hi. He answered me and asked if he could give me his number. I said sure. We chatted for a day, and he’s back to his disappearing ways again. What is this? If he’s not interested in me, what is the point of this game?

  • Jannel Kobole March 26, 2017, 1:10 pm

    If a guy starres at you everyday and he tries to impress you and he often makes eye contact with you you and he has a girlfriend and he accept your requests on social media and he doesn’t reply your messages when you send him but he has a girlfriend does it mean he likes you?

  • Sne March 18, 2017, 9:18 am

    There’s this guy that I’m deeply in love with…We’re in the same History class and every single lesson I catch him staring at him and I also stare back at him which causes him to shy away..so there was this one time when we texted each other and confessed our feelings to each other and then the next day at school things were quite awkward to say the least…a few days later there were rumors about us dating- and he didn’t like that at all.so that night we texted each other and then he told me that he had a girlfriend that he was deeply in love with- that text confused me so much cause the previous day he told me that he loved me and stuff…and to justify things he gets so jealous when I talk to other guys and that ruins his entire day…I don’t know what to do….P.S (we don’t usually talk to each other on a daily basis-)

  • Kayla February 28, 2017, 11:08 am

    Okay, so there’s this guy in my bio class and hes really cute and i actually think i really like him, but hes one of those “popular” guys, and im not really “popular” but i did have a thing with one of his close basketball buddies and i heard him and his friends talk about my boobs (its really this one guy talking about it and they all listen in, its also really annoying too). But yea, i always catch him staring at me and sometimes it seems like he kinda just appears everywhere i am, anyway when i try talking to him he kinda just acts like and asshole and tries to be all cool, so i just need an opinion on this because i wanna know if i should waste my time crushing on a guy that looks at me like hes interested when he really isn’t.

  • Monique February 27, 2017, 8:37 am

    -My guy doesn’t respect me and he like to do things to piss me off we’ve been together for four years now and there’s is this other guy I like and he wants to settle down with me…How do I walk away from him?

  • Rhea February 12, 2017, 12:43 pm

    It sounds like he might just be one of those guys who wants to impress his friends by being a jerk and calling you “fugly” and maybe his friends were going to give him money if he asked you out and said yes. My advice is to see if this is the real thing by showing your true colours and just being yourself, act really nice and friendly and if he starts ignoring you you’ll know what his intentions were…

  • Lydia February 7, 2017, 7:03 pm

    I really like this guy in my class. He’s one of the more “popular” kids and is always talking to other “popular girls”. Whenever he talks to them I get so jealous. The good news is he talks to other people besides “popular people” and doesn’t seem to like any of these girls so I do have a chance. Sometimes when I stare at him in class I see him look at me too but then we both quickly look away. I also observed he doesn’t really stare at anyone else. I need to know if he likes me but I’m not the type to just straight up say “Hey I like you!”, so how can I tell if he likes me or how can I talk to him(BTW I’m pretty shy in general)? Please help it’s breaking my heart to think of the idea he doesn’t like me back.

    • Rhea February 12, 2017, 12:32 pm

      My story is very similar to you Lydia. I like a popular guy as well plus I’m more of the shy girl with glasses who sits in class alone. Maybe (if he sits near you) you can try the “old drop the pencil trick” to see if he picks it up for you, or ask to borrow his pencil. Also, try staying away from other people in that class to see if he cones more closer to you or chooses his friends instead to hang around (even if he’s just standing next to you at your desk away from everyone else). Just play around a little and try looking at him more and maybe laugh at his class jokes but don’t make it look too obvious!

  • Shaneen February 6, 2017, 1:03 am

    Hi, I just really need your advice. i have a huge crush on this guy since i was 14. He is not my friend nor my classmate, he is the nephew of my cousin’s wife that’s why i was able to meet him 9 years ago in our family gathering and since then, i started communicating with him, i added him on friendster that time and then on facebook. i will always be the one to message him first but he will answer me right away, i will talk to him about my problems and the funny thing is i will always feel better after even if he hasn’t said anything uplifting to me, just the fact that he made time to talk to me made me feel better already and then after a while i became tired of being always the one messaging first and i stopped messaging him. But you know what even if i stopped messaging him and was not totally seeing him, my feelings for him did not go away. Every time i will start to like or have a crush on someone else, i will still think of him and at the end of the day it will still be him that was on my mind and it hurts because why do i like him so much ? After a few years, i was already in college at that time, we started talking again. but he has a girlfriend already, but you can see on his face every time we will see each other on family gatherings that he is trying to be friendly and sometimes i can sense that he is always looking at me. here is my problem, i like him but i’m tired of waiting for him, i tried so many times to stop myself from waiting for him and hoping that he will like me back, but why is my heart like this? it’s been 9 years.

    • Soccerlover⚽️ February 7, 2017, 9:41 pm

      I don’t understand he is always playfully teasing me but he shows some of these signs I still think he likes me though. Am I wrong?

  • sammie January 18, 2017, 2:11 pm

    so I have been Chating with this guy for like 10months….we never met…. thn we decided to meet… aftee we did I couldn’t helping thinking that he didn’t like what he saw… when we were Chating he was like I enjoyed being with you but I felt like he is acting differently.. he used to be opened and all and respond my texts asap mara he started talking time after we met… I questioned him.. told him his acting differently the person that m used to will confuse me mara he kept saying m insecured and his trying to give me that reassurance …he always told me how he sees a future nami mara after we met the were no talks about us….idk.. M confused as hell

    • Rhea February 12, 2017, 12:21 pm

      Maybe he just wants to be friends? Or he’s too shy to admit it or he shows weird signs of liking you… everyone is different.

  • Rianelle January 16, 2017, 3:13 am

    There’s this guy i really like. We met last year at a theater summer workshop. We became friends,.. I didnt realize i like him until the prod week of our professional show we started working on 2 months after our workshop ended. I thought he had feelings for me too cause of these silly signs: he usually needs me. he comes to me for help.. he asks me to fix his lapel on his hair, he was choking he asked for my water only (which i didnt have it then) but never asked our other friends who were sitting next to me, he asked me to fix his costume, carry his food, asks me if im okay, looks out for me if i have already preset my props , etc….
    I told him right after our cast party, i sent him a message, but it was just a casual “i have a crush on you!” kinda thing. and he only said he was flattered… tho i thought he would say the same thing :( and he said we will talk about it some time but never happened.

    i dont really know now. we’re still friends. but my feelings for him is really getting stronger and it’s driving me crazy that i dont know what he really feels. it’s breaking my heart..

    • Lydia February 7, 2017, 6:45 pm

      I think maybe if he liked you he would have told you straight up after you told him. Instead, he put it off and hasn’t mentioned it since this could be a sign he’s really not into you. Maybe he put it off cause he was in a rush and needed to take a longer time to tell you he also liked you. If you have his number ask him about the topic through a text or call. Or if you see him often then you can ask him then. If he doesn’t like you just remember there are other fish in the sea and you had a lot of confidence to tell him you liked him (I would never do that). I hope i helped.

  • Caroline January 10, 2017, 7:33 pm

    There is this guy who i think i have a crush on but hes 2 years younger than me i dont know if he likes me. He always looks at me and when i talk he pays attion to me does he like me when he looks at me i feel weird in my stomach. Can someone help me?

  • R. G. January 7, 2017, 5:26 am

    I have seen a guy at a funeral. he is my friend’s cousin. he is a shy guy though he is a personal trainer at a gum. I was serving tea and coffee at the men’s side according to our culture.
    every time I go and serve men including him, he lift up his eyelids to have a look at me stealthily. I have noticed it but did not make him feel this. at the end of the funeral, he was next to his uncle and both thanked me with a smile for doing this big service. he was lifting up his eyes to talk to me as they were looking down.
    I am not sure of this way of looking whether he is fond of me or by nature this is how he talks to people? this is the first time I see him. I was advised he is not married but may be in the past he was married then is divorced the reason that made him act that way?
    this happened at the end of November and till now I have not seen him again.
    do u think he is not interested or may be his past experience (if any) is stopping him from.taking any step? do I gave to start conversation with him via FB?
    please advise me.
    R. G.

  • Eva December 22, 2016, 9:02 pm

    Well basically,I’m worrying about this stupid crushie I have on this boy, we’ve never talked since level 3….In middle School we still never talked to each other but when it came to level 8,every time I sit alone or sitting with my friends I look around and I see him staring so I look away….That have happened alot TBH.
    And when hes with his friends talking and laughing and I’m with my friends talking and laughing, I see him laughing with his friends looking at me….I get Butterfly’s….But I think he’s looking at someone else…So I let that go…After our graduation for middle school.. Highschool…I take my 1 and 4 Period with him…Everytime is see him makes me want to hide…And Everytime I’m sitting in my 4 Period I see him talking to other girls He has a girlfriend that’s one year older than him..I don’t know if their still going out or something…On Facebook…Him and his girlfriend made it official….Well..His girlfriend did..I never really see him post pictures of him and her…Only his girlfriend post picture of them holding hand… That made me feel worthless..Even in highschool were not even talking…We never even had a One minute or second talk….He make me feel like I’m special but he also makes me feel Worthless at the end…..I just wish I never meant him… Please Help me….

  • Samarah November 28, 2016, 8:56 pm

    wtf, if under 18 is not allowed to receive results, do not let us take the 15 minute quiz. thank you.

    • Raintree May 7, 2017, 10:14 pm

      Yes, my point exactly!

  • Faith November 11, 2016, 4:21 am

    My boyfriend and I had been together for months now, every seems OK, but i feel way down inside that something is just not right but i cant get my hands on it.
    To a point he really show most of the signs that he is really into me, but sometime its like he just don’t care about me. I am a bit confused.
    what do i do?

    • Rikka February 25, 2017, 11:29 pm

      I feel you ..

  • sheilah Gitonga November 6, 2016, 3:04 pm

    actually I don’t know how to say, mmm my friend introduced me to his boyfriend so the boyfriend has a cousin, whom I came to like. but he wasn’t in to me and I left the situation at hand and I moved on since its like he never liked me. I met different men and there was no success in any of them. after one year since we are close with the my friend and her boyfriend so we met again with him. and actually we talked for like two days continuously and I was waiting for him to be mute as always. because when we meet he remembers I do exist, but now he is calling me several times knowing my way about and he has been taking me to dinner and back then sometimes he looses my contacts and he forgets. so he got my contacts again when my friend with his boyfriend went to the his office and he kinda remembered me and he actually asked for my contacts since he’s phone was like not good it was loosing contacts lol, he called me and I was shocked why is this dude calling me.. lol I picked up the phone and he told me we meet and it’s that we are good friends.
    what I don’t understand is when we go out together he never utters a word how he feels about me and I get confused, he never calls me to tell me how he misses me and I wonder what am I doing with this guy, no mutual feeling and if I was to date another person I see no harm coz I have never heard from him he’s intention towards me. I wonder if he is interested with me.

  • Ally October 30, 2016, 5:52 pm

    He do tease me sometimes but do make me laugh and play together or talk to each other but last we used to do pretend as if we in love when others start to talk but i was falling for him and this year i cant cause he also does touche other sexy and booty girls, does he loves me or not

    • Temi November 21, 2016, 1:55 pm

      If a guy truly likes u he will only look at u, only touch u. He might just want u for your body and want to use u. IT WILL BE OBVIOUS IF HE TRULY LIKES U!

  • Jessie October 7, 2016, 6:08 pm

    So here’s my issue… I’ve been talking to this guy for almost 2 months… We’ve had lunch once. He owns his own company. He travels almost weekly… and I’ve asked him to hang out multiple times… but hes always busy playing catch up. He tells me he likes me… and he is a super genuine guy…but when does he have time for me? He calls and texts me every day to let me know hes thinking about me…. He is literally everything I have looked for in a man… What do I do?!?

  • kayla September 13, 2016, 5:14 pm

    I had noticed a guy who kept looking my way so with the help of friends I decided to go on a see if really he is into me.Reality took it’s turn when we shared a text and all he said was he does not wana give me the wrong impression…worse feeling ever!since we work together he still smiles to greet whenever we pass on by…most awkward moment tho…life can be full of pretenses…

  • Hmm August 5, 2016, 1:38 pm

    Srsly… Well it all depends or circumstances. I find at least half of you “signs”invalid in my situation. Well it seams girl I like cares nothing about me, and we are working together. And actually she is working directly with the boss so I could get in trouble really fast and easy. So I fight back any thoughts about romance and that means:
    1) Not being around her as not to act weirdly. (Easy as she doesn’t come where I am)
    2) Avoid speaking with her or pretends I don’t care remember/know/hear what she says even thought I do. (Its easy she actually doesn’t say anything)
    3) I do my best to to show any jealously about other guys getting her attention.
    4) Hmm this one’s true… I have srsly huge difficulties acting “normally” anything near her. I think she even commented quite loud that I’m acting strange.
    5) Hell I’m curious about her life but that would be sure suicide and she doesn’t tell anything by herself.
    6) Well I may actually mention other women as disguise.
    7 and 9) Never ever… Well You can do that stuff when you are getting over unrequited love.

    The bottom line is that all what is written here is valid if the GUY actually understands that you have feelings for him! If he thinks that you DO NOT CARE and the situation is such that risking and going for it would result bad things (workplace crush and so on) he may do everything in his power to force himself to forge you. And then he may actually act exactly like he doesn’t care.
    So for some shy girl reading this:
    a) at least show some subtle hints that he can go for it and has some chance.
    b) not every man doesn’t understand women’s “No”. Some actually respect it. Especially if they LOVE you. So if you show him you want nothing with him for example avoid him, do not talk with him, run away from him, he may pick a hing between lines that you dislike/hate him or saw his low and want nothing to do with it. So be a little bit careful with what you do.

  • via July 29, 2016, 10:15 am

    Well,not just four.but most of it actually. Therefore he doesnt like be back. Slaps reality.

  • Lizzy July 27, 2016, 8:47 pm

    I broke up with him because he changed. He started talking to other girls and he’s never done that before. He put everything into our relationship when we dated and then I don’t know what happened. I thought he just lost feelings for me. But know he says he wants me back, but he doesn’t want to see me because “It’ll be awkward.” and I know he ignores me sometimes. I know I deserve better, but we dated for awhile and I really liked him. I don’t know what to do.

  • Marina July 27, 2016, 8:32 pm

    Worst article I ever read. None of these are actually any sign that a guy doesn’t like you. Get your facts straight

    • Nick Bastion July 28, 2016, 3:10 pm

      Hey there… Could you share what you believe would be the correct information? I’m curious what you think was incorrect or should have been different.

      • Marina July 29, 2016, 10:48 pm

        I just broke up with my boyfriend and am currently seeing someone who fits all of these yet he makes constant effort to always write me back even when he’s traveling and he always pays, makes effort to seems etc. And my ex boyfriend who loved me dearly never made me his priority but that never meant he didn’t love me.

        • Marina July 29, 2016, 10:49 pm

          I meant makes effort to see me*

          • Nick Bastion August 1, 2016, 5:12 pm

            OK, can you clarify something: You said that your ex loves you and that you broke up? What happened there?

  • Era July 25, 2016, 6:06 am

    Good article, thank you. The man i liked liked another woman better so yeah. I guess she is just the woman that looks like his dream woman. And I… am left with my room for a great guy to come!

  • Wendy July 24, 2016, 6:40 pm

    I need advice on what to do. I recently contacted my old lover from 20 years ago. We were so crazy and passionate with each other. But we mutually went our separate ways for years. But every time I contacted him Wed meet for lunch and just talk and talk. I saw him 4 months ago and we had an amazing night together, like we used to. He said he’d call or text and he did twice only said hi once and how r u once. That’s it. Now no matter what I say I can’t get him to answer my calls or texts. I was thinking of stopping over at his house. I’m just ending my 20 year marriage and I know he’s afraid of my husband. Is that it or does he not like me anymore? He seemed that he was still head over heels in love when I saw him. When he didn’t reply I’d texted him kind of a lot. Is that why did I come on to strong

  • Dream Evil July 23, 2016, 2:40 am

    When I don’t like a girl I always act like I do to mess with them.

    • Lexi August 4, 2016, 1:14 pm

      Hahahaha…mean. Funny. But mean.

      But funny.

    • anastasia September 10, 2016, 12:36 pm

      There’s no reason to do that.

  • Ann July 20, 2016, 2:53 pm

    I have been with a guy for 2 months. At first I just simply wanted to hook up but then we had a great date and we spent 2 nights together without having sex, only cuddled (lol). After that he said he likes me a lot and I feel that he likes me too. But then he moved to another city which is only 2 hours away from mine. We wanted to keep it casual by seeing each other once or twice a month without commitment. But then he kept cancelling on me anytime we planned to meet and I got frustrated. I told him I just wanted to see him and have sex (cause I’m so attracted to him physically) and he can do whatever he wants with other girls. So he decided to see me and said he even likes me more so let’s do it again once or twice a month, I agreed but I doubt he could do that. As expected, he kept cancelling on me 2 more times but he had his reason. He is a language teacher and has unfixed schedule, but I got so angry and I told him let’s not plan to meet again. He went completely silent since then.
    I’m feeling like he’s playing around with me, not believe that he likes me at all and I do not care very much cause I just want to get on bed with him. I texted him twice but he didn’t answer.
    Anybody experienced this case and can tell me what he wants cause I would like to know too. He doesn’t really want to simply hook up with me, seems to like me but sometimes he seems to be up to something else.

  • Deidre Patrick July 11, 2016, 8:53 pm

    Okay I’m pretty confused this guy I have a crush on we work together and I feel like he is into me, but he isn’t making any moves. We casually text (yes I usually text him), and we’ve talked about hanging out before. And whenever we see each other well talk alot. Plus we have these “moments”. So idek know what to think. Is he too nervous to hang out or is he not into me the way I feel he is?

    • Sam August 8, 2017, 12:49 am

      Hey, im in a very similar situation. Hes my classmate. And asking me to study with him apparently isnt always a move. So I dont know what to think. Since its been a while, would you care to update or share what you think looking back on it?

  • John July 11, 2016, 2:41 am

    How funny that women need articles like this to point out the obvious. Here’s the main reason he doesn’t like you: You’re a woman, and women are bad for men.

    • Rose October 10, 2016, 10:06 pm

      Oh, you’re obviously gay! If women are “bad for men”. Or asexual? Can’t handle a bra? Only bitter guys say things like this…but bitter is fun to poke fun at so…*blows horn in your ear* have fun with that negative attitude!

  • Wooly July 9, 2016, 12:36 am

    This article looks like a high school girl wrote it.

  • Promise July 8, 2016, 7:29 am

    I sort of have an issue with my boyfriend , he said he is not sure if he can still keep on loving me because he can’t see or touch me and we are into this long distance relationship thingy…He doesn’t call or text me anymore…Pls what do I do..??..I really love him

  • Lauren July 5, 2016, 1:02 am

    Leave him as a friend he’s not worth it I’ve always ended the friendship promptly once a guy who I like doesn’t feel the same he doesn’t deserve you

  • Scarlett July 2, 2016, 4:39 pm

    Why I’m I even reading this! It is so obvious he doesn’t like me! Why I still love him? Cause I’m stupid and I just can’t forget him! I think is more the furstration you feel, like, what is wrong with me? I don’t deserve to be loved?

    • claire July 4, 2016, 11:56 am

      That is utterly ridiculous; firstly you need to see your worth… if you don’t see how valuable a person you are how can you expect anyone else to? secondly, if he doesn’t like you then hes really not worth your time or energy.

      It is not you with the problem. Don’t try to please someone who wouldn’t not go out of their way to please you. He really isn’t worth it!

    • Dream Evil July 23, 2016, 2:29 am

      You are not entitled to love. See what you need to change about yourself and go into metamorphosis.

  • Mable June 12, 2016, 1:32 pm

    My boyfriend recently broke up with me, partly because he has a lot of family problems, as well as his struggle in his college classes and his busy schedule with his fraternity. He said that there is still a possibility that we will get back together, and that he just doesnt have time for a romantic relationship right now. He feels bad that I put more effort than he does, and that he can’t say that he loves me. He won’t tell me that he will only think of me as a friend, and that it is definite that we will never get back together. He also said that he treated me like one of his guy friends, not like a girlfriend. But other people outside of the relationship, and myslef personally think that he liked me more than just a friend, and that he did things that friends wouldn’t do for one another. He still wants to be friends no matter what, and comforts me when I need him in relations to the breakup. We also ended up cuddling one night. Did he really not have feelings for me, or did he lose feelings for me? Is it because he just has too much pressure on him right now? I understand that some believe that if someone truly loved you theyd stick with you no matter what, but I also see a perspective from where if there is too much on someones plate they would want to push people away and take off some of those pressures on their plate.

  • Naseer hussain June 5, 2016, 4:57 am

    if a guy does really like u he will try to impress u anyhow.
    But if he’s too busy to see you at ALL – it means
    you’re not even on his list of priorities. And even
    the busiest guy on the planet will make time to
    see you – as long as you’re a priority for him.

  • Naseer hussain June 5, 2016, 4:48 am

    I think affection is not a stupid thing it happens naturally whither a boy likes a girl or not but the serious thing is that whosoever does love will try to stay closer always…

  • Stranger. June 4, 2016, 11:41 pm

    Anyone wanting to fall in love, find love or even avoid love for some personal reason read this..
    I fell in love with this boy who I literally worshiped! In my eyes he was my mr. Perfect, you know them ones when you can’t find nothing wrong with him, you’re trying too, but nope he’s 100!!!
    I gave him my all, yet as time went on he became very possessive and controlling, so much to a point where I wasn’t allowed to go out, wear certain outfits, basically be me.. Girls/boys I had only realised I was being controlled when I had realised I had only 2 friends left. The amount of people I cut off just to consume enough love from the person to last me through the day:night was in itself a nightmare!! I was craving his attention, this bad boy had given me attention! This great, handsome some- what messed up boy calling me his girl was apparently enough for me in this life.. No! You can’t be blind towards mental/physical abuse just because of love. Love can turn you crazy, make you fiend for this person, make you do unthinkable things.

  • Rebecca June 4, 2016, 2:46 am

    Can anyone tell me if he likes me or not?
    – he’s looking at me alot and go wherever i go. But when his friends ask him that he like me or not. He always say ‘I DON’T KNOW’ ??

  • DJ May 30, 2016, 10:44 pm

    Well I herd that he used an example of me being his GF but I did this just to be sure and yea….. He’s still interested……

  • otto May 27, 2016, 7:43 am

    No not a broken heart. Only broken expectations. Perhaps working on yourself may help

    • Joy June 12, 2016, 6:35 pm

      Walk away thats just mind games

  • Cami May 25, 2016, 2:35 am

    Well, he didn’t make a priority for a few months or so, but now I am again, so he really was busy. Other than that, he likes me. That was the only one. I guess I don’t have to worry although those few months were tough. It’s not like we’re long distance either!

  • lil jaen44 May 13, 2016, 1:21 pm

    you know what cheyanne I agree with you so much, I feel what you are feeling right now!!!!!!!!!!

  • Mo West May 12, 2016, 12:35 am

    So, I’m looking at this and I’m super confused by life. There is this guy that has apparently told multiple people that he likes me, but every single one of the things that is listed as he doesn’t like you apply. I’ve had two people tell me that he talks about me to them. My friends say it is because he is shy, but you would think he’d at least text me every once and a while. Should I just assume he doesn’t like me and not try to put anything into it or what?

  • American pilot May 5, 2016, 7:38 pm

    So I suppose I’ve learned plenty and plenty of lessons about guys but why do we still go back to get our hearts broken ? I still wonder. Anyways, theres this guy I know for a long time probably my life, but its only in recent years maybe we began talking as proper friends. He’s not much older than me but we get along fine. The thing is, I think we would get along to great that I’d feel pretty happy hanging around with him but at that time I could never develop feelings because of his plentyful girl scenarios …But recently I’ve moved high schools, fortunately he attends this one and at the start of the year non stop talking and hanging out all the time and yes he would be flirty but i always though thats how he was around everyone. Then the thing called ‘feelings’ kicked in, I got so frustrated knowing he was off limits, knowing of his history or what not but tbh I never cared, and sometimes the way he’d treat me I’d feel special and maybe there was some hope he felt the same. But hey I guess people chsnge their minds fast? He would tease me sometimes of my hot friends or Nudge me when he’d see me just to annoy me. But recently I feel different, I tried forgetting about those feelings for a while, it truthfully worked until now again theyve kicked in and I’m constantly wondering why because Obviously its a phase i mean I think it is. He’s acting kind of different lately, sometimes i’d have to be the conversation starter or maybe less teasing idk. Sigh, I’m so confused, Of course I don’t want it to be obvious I have feelings, it could ruin the friendship. But I guess sadly, not everything goes our way right?

  • cheyenne May 2, 2016, 2:15 pm

    i hate people and guys on this planet i learned that you will have a broken heart over and over again

  • cheyenne May 2, 2016, 1:58 pm

    the guy i like only does 3 of these i dont know if he likes me or not i wish that he did i think that i found my true love today i asked my best friend to give him a note for me and act like that it was from her she said that it was from me and now he’s talking about it all the time it realy upset me a lot ill never forget it im about to give up on trying to get him because it seems nothing works

  • Gina Gonzalez April 28, 2016, 5:41 pm

    I’m always getting hurt by men whenever I like a man it’s always a disaster they never like me back it’s obvious that my mr right man doesn’t exist

    • Kendra July 31, 2016, 7:19 am

      Me too.

    • Marry November 19, 2016, 1:12 pm

      Yeah I hav the same problm plus the guy i like myt net b intrstd in me bt hes always intrtd in my besties :(

  • Anonymous April 24, 2016, 8:03 pm

    It’s sad, because some men come and read these types of articles to either make sure to do these things to hide that they have a crush on you, or they are coming to learn to flirt, and you shouldn’t need to learn to flirt, it should be natural!!!

  • Kenny Payton April 10, 2016, 12:20 am

    Some of these signs do not make any sense. As a guy I am typically outgoing and I am told by friends that I flirt with girls I don’t really like. But the girl I like I am super nervous to talk to her, and have her Kik (texting app) but not her number. As an athlete my confidence is never low unless I try to talk to her or kik her but when I end up trying to kik her, I end up asking about an class assignment. Not to mention she is my ex from 4 years ago and I don’t want to mess up like I did in the past. We have moments where we talk and get lost in each others eyes but the moments seem to fade becuase it happens like once a month.We hug occasionally and feel like she staring at me out of the corner of my eye. But it scares me to know that many girls think this acticle is accurate becuase if the girl I like read this article she would think that I don’t like her.

    • Jeff Begantelli April 10, 2016, 6:44 pm

      I feel you, this is almost the same situation I’m in.

    • CEra July 25, 2016, 6:10 am

      Most girls instinctively know a guy is (still) interested. My guess is she isn’t interested anymore. If that’s the case… why not give other girls a chance?? Regards

  • Maysa March 29, 2016, 10:42 pm

    but the boy so cute and a adorable and ha some but he Doesn’t no anything

  • Alexa March 26, 2016, 4:25 pm

    There is a guy that Showed so many sighns of liking me this whole year, and then my fiends told his friends that I like him. I asked him about and he lied and said his friends never told him about it. Now he is acting weird and I am not sure if I should ask if he lied or just ignore him?

  • amina March 16, 2016, 11:16 am

    There’s a Guy that avoided your gaze and smile at others and frowns at you but when he talks to you he stammers

  • nour abdelaal February 4, 2016, 6:52 am

    first of all im an egyptian so this might sound stupid..there is this guy whom i like and honestly he showed lot of signs that he likes me for example he made likes on every photo i post on instagram …and this eye contact thing happened alot and i notice that..and when we talk i talk to him as a friend as im treating him like everyone else but you know the eye language says more..he looks to me way differently than others but he doesnt hate me..we played talked hanged out but with company but this day i found out he made unfollow to me on instagram though he liked my pictures and what bothers me he is following people he doesnt even know..i mean if he hates me why would he like my photos?!!!..please help me what shall i do ..

    • maysa March 29, 2016, 10:43 pm

      Year your right with everything that u said

    • Anne April 5, 2016, 4:54 am

      @NOUR. I have some questions to you about my Egyptian boyfriend , do you mind if I can have your email as I’m really confuse with our relationship right now

  • nour abdelaal February 4, 2016, 6:46 am

    first of all im an egyptian so this might sound stupid..there is this guy whom i like and honestly he showed lot of signs that he likes me too for example he liked every post i posted on instagram..but sometimes he just stares at me with an unpleasant face as if he is so focused on me..and other times this “eye contact” thing happens i mean alot and when we talk i talk to him as a friend as i treat everyone else..and he really looks at me alot and he makes no signs that he wanna be away from me…but this day came when i found out he made me unfollow on instagram though he liked all my photos..so what do you think about it..i mean if he hates me why would he even like my photos of me..and what bothers me that he is following peope he doesnt even know on instagram…i just dont know what to do..im thinking of not showing him interest anymore but honestly i cant..so please help me

  • Christine Cox August 17, 2015, 9:28 am

    It might be hard to admit, but sometimes this is the case. You will just have to deal with it like anything else that is not positive in your life.

  • Sarah Harris August 17, 2015, 9:16 am

    I normally am not that weird about him texting me first, but after how many months, you would think that he is waking every morning with the thought of me.

  • Willie Gray August 14, 2015, 11:52 am

    In my case, I always been straight up with a girl. If I do not like her, for whatever the reason is, I tell her. Its the more adult thing to do.

  • Dorothy Green August 13, 2015, 4:47 pm

    If I had to make a list of reasons that I guy didn’t like me, ALL of these would be included. Very easy to tell, just have to keep your eyes open.

  • Ada Nichols August 12, 2015, 9:54 am

    I am wondering if I am dealing with this right now. My b/f has been getting back to me, but sometimes taking up to 1 full day to reply. Should I really be thinking that there is something else going on? I mean, we have only been dating for a few months, should I assume we are exclusive?

  • Diane Smith August 11, 2015, 9:32 am

    Yeah, I would agree that if you are seeing any of these signs, there is a good chance it is time to move on.

  • Geneva Becker August 11, 2015, 9:22 am

    I hate having to be the first one to text. However, I do get the hint after a couple of times that maybe he just does not want to talk to me.

  • Lindsey Mccarthy August 10, 2015, 7:39 pm

    Ohh, these are sort of harsh, but they are realistic that is for sure. These are good warning signs for those that are caught up in “puppy” love.

    • Irene Mcguire August 13, 2015, 5:50 pm

      Reality is sometimes harsh and that is OK. It is better to know ahead of time, compared to knowing a little too late.

  • Lois Daniels August 10, 2015, 7:29 pm

    I have been hanging around a guy that I like for a few months now. Nothing serious just when we are all out and about with friends, but I am not sure if he shares the same feelings because we only see each other with friends, what do I do?

  • Sue Rampling August 7, 2015, 9:40 pm

    LOL, I would say these are pretty straight forward, right?

    • Hattie Gutierrez August 12, 2015, 9:41 am

      Yes. If you cannot see the writing on the wall with signs like this, I am not sure anyone can help you!

  • Belle   August 7, 2015, 9:28 pm

    LOL, yeah I would say this is quite obvious. If you cannot get it figured out after seeing signs like this, there isn’t anyone that can help you!

  • Ashlee Garris   August 7, 2015, 8:16 am

    My boyfriend never texts me first and it was really bothering me recently. Now I read it on here and I do not know what to think. Am I doomed to be with this guy?

    • Pamela Coleman August 14, 2015, 12:09 pm

      Not at all. Each relationship is different, but I would keep an eye on him!

  • Keturah   August 6, 2015, 9:38 pm

    LOL. These are signs alright. I am going to add another one to it. How about “He never even calls you back after a night in the sack together”? :/

    • Keturah   August 7, 2015, 8:29 am

      Sorry to hear that! I hope you feel better soon and find a man that does not treat you like trash.

  • Marivel Patao   August 5, 2015, 12:14 pm

    These are pretty good indicators. However, before you jump off the deep end and assume he doesn’t based on these, you should just come right out and ask.

  • Tresa Hoey   August 5, 2015, 12:01 pm

    I think this is happening to me. My b/f is never around anymore and rarely gets back to me within the same day when I call OR text. I hate this. If he is not interested, he can just tell me.

  • Su   August 3, 2015, 10:28 am

    LOL, I would say these are a pretty good start to him not liking you. All of these can be stopped with a simple question. Talk to your man, find out what he is feeling. That is better than any speculation.

  • Madaline   August 3, 2015, 10:17 am

    I wondered about this! Talking to me like I am a “guy” friend. I have a b/f that has been doing this and I started to get the feeling that we were more friends than anything else. Like, he doesn’t really like me the way I like him. Sad, I think.

  • Joyce Zeck   August 1, 2015, 12:33 pm

    Very good list of things woman should keep an eye out for. Sometimes the signs are coming from a level of immaturity, but you should be able to figure that out right away.

  • Youlanda Canty   August 1, 2015, 12:23 pm

    These are pretty obvious, too. If you are seeing these signs, just do yourself a favor and get away. There is nothing you can do at this point and you will just make a fool of yourself trying to get him to feel otherwise.

  • Nubia Hudman   July 31, 2015, 12:32 pm

    When I thought about this for the first time, I was not sure that they were very good signs. Then I was in a bad relationship that included some of these and it is now quite bothersome for me.

  • Jessica White July 31, 2015, 12:18 pm

    Great post! These are quite obvious in my opinion and should be noted as soon as possible to avoid any situation that lasts longer than it should!

  • Lynn Hart July 30, 2015, 1:34 pm

    It would suck to be on the receiving end of these signs, but they are true! If the guy does not like you, there is very little that you can to change that.

    • Ashlee Garris   August 6, 2015, 9:27 pm

      Yes it does suck. This happened to me last summer and I will never be blind to things like this again!

  • Diana Butler July 30, 2015, 1:23 pm

    It is sad, but these are very true. I have a bad habit of not believing it until it is too late. That makes dating and things like that very difficult for me.

  • Theresa Wallace July 29, 2015, 2:20 pm

    If you see signs like these and still think he likes YOU, there is another issue.

    • Belia Ehrlich   August 3, 2015, 10:27 am

      You are right. There is another issue, maybe more than one and it should be addressed as soon as possible.

  • Lillian King July 29, 2015, 2:09 pm

    I would say that if I had to hear about other girls from a guy that supposedly likes me, that would be a deal breaker!

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