15 Signs He Actually Doesn't Care About You

15 Signs He Actually Doesn’t Care About You

He doesn’t answer your calls. He seems distant, difficult and strange—especially lately. There’s definitely a noticeable change in his personality and the way he acts towards you. What’s happening here?

You might be completely confused right now and on the fence about what to do. Do you keep pursuing this situation or do you cut your losses?

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Do you long for the days when he used to treat you with nothing but love? If you are in a long term relationship, it’s possible the “magic” of the honeymoon has faded but he does still love you. Or it’s possible he is pulling away, and might even be looking for a “better” option in the near future.

Well, before getting lost in a mental monologue of self-hatred and confusion… step back and think for a moment.

First, this could be completely fine.

He might just be going through a rough time in his own life and seem distant or closed off. There are a million things that could be going on inside his head.

Has something tragic happened in his life? Has he lost a job? If he’s acting different and something major happened, you need to consider this before jumping to the conclusion that he doesn’t care.

In other words, you must never judge before really getting to the core of the issue. I have been a notoriously quiet guy in the past and have had women who quite frankly I was fine having sex with but had zero interest in a relationship with accuse me of being “rude” or “quiet” and a “tough nut to crack.”

But truthfully, in this situations, whenever a woman has questioned or wondered whether I cared or not, the truth is I probably didn’t care.

Not saying that to be rude. The point I am trying to make is that it’s normally obvious if a man cares.

With that said… I am going to give you a list of 15 signs that he doesn’t care about you so that you can assess the situation and know for sure once and for all. Don’t worry; you will have clarity at the end of this, which is all you really need to make a clear decision and either move forward or make things work.

Try to Be As Objective As Possible

This means step back, breathe and try to see things for how they are. Forget how you want them to be. See how they actually are.

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Signs He Doesn’t Care:

Sign #1: You are his “last minute” option

Does he not make it a point to prioritize you? When he plans his day, does it never seem to even take you into consideration?

It’s never a good sign for any relationship or friendship when you can clearly see that you’re the last name in the rolodex. You’re a convenience not a priority, or at least it feels that way.

A good example, which I have personally witnessed, is about a guy I know. He was wavering on whether he should end a long-term relationship. He would leave for work, and would always have plans after with me, or someone, or would even just do things on his own. We all knew what was going on. All he could do was say how much he needed to “get away;” it was obvious things were sour. His actions spoke much louder than his words in this occasion, but when you’re living together it isn’t as simple as just breaking up, so it lasted a while like this.

The most they interacted for almost two months was him coming home and literally saying goodnight, then passing out. He was avoiding her at all costs, clearly, but her love for him completely put blinders on her.

To everyone it was clear as day, even to the point of her friends telling her to smarten up, and unfortunately, this woman had her heart broken. She never took the time to even confront him seriously on his absence, and thought it was just a rough patch.

Him not being remotely available and you being the last option is more than a rough patch, it’s a sign he truly is losing interest.

Sign #2: Only Wants Sex

How can you tell the difference between a booty call and a serious intimate connection? It’s actually really simple.

Sex is different when a man cares about a woman in contrast to having sex with a random hot woman he just met at a bar; both are completely different. This illustrates that sex is not the be all end all of a relationship.

If he wants to have sex, it doesn’t mean he cares about you or that he loves you. Men view sex and love as two separate things; men can have sex without having feelings for you.

What it looks like if he likes you for more than sex:

What’s important to look for is quality time, quality connection. Hanging out is enough to make him happy. Simply just being with you is more than enough, and he can’t wait to hang out. When I truly care about a woman (and this is true for most men) sex is always secondary to me. What matters is having a best friend and confidant. Someone “on my team,” in my corner.

Sex just makes that connection all the deeper. If there is no personal feelings for another person, sex is just sex. About as special as friday night alone watching porn.

If your guy only wants to have sex, and has no inclination of listening to you, or learning about you on a deeper level, and that’s clear; he doesn’t care about you as a person… If you don’t feel anything other than a man on top of you, your feelings are probably correct.

In other words, don’t trick yourself into thinking things are “more” than what they are; you will know if he cares about you.

There’s a marked difference between a relationship based off of sex, rather than a love for that individual. If you’ve had both, you’ll always know, just like you’d recognize the smell of coffee after a decade of not drinking it.

If there’s a deep personal relationship and attraction to an individual’s personality, sex is kind of like an intoxicating drug. It’s like hugging the girl you love to the enth degree. On the other hand, emotionless sex can seem like some chore, an itch you just need to scratch, nothing more (to put it crudely).

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Sign #3: Does he introduce you to people in his life?

Has he introduced you to his family? His friends? A definite sign that he doesn’t care is if he’s keeping you closeted away. I’ve found the way a guy talks about a girl to his family or friends is always a great representation of how much he cares.

If you’re totally nonexistent to his family, or rarely talked about to anyone in his inner circle, this is a major sign that he doesn’t care (and is maybe even using you) unless you have some hideous history everyone knows about and he has to love you in secret (but trust me that is rarely the case).

Just as it would be for a girl. Someone avoiding introducing you, or leaving you as a side-note to those important in their lives is most likely planning on never having to introduce you anywhere again, if you catch my drift.

Sign #4: He asks you to do things for him and refuses to do anything for you

This is another sign he doesn’t care. The action truly speaks for itself. Who doesn’t do something for someone they supposedly love? I would do anything for those I love, and on the contrary I can turn into a shrewd shark with those I have no interest in.

I’ll give a quick personal example to illustrate the point.

Everyone loves their mother, I think that’s just about universal. If my mom asked me to drive six hours up to San Francisco to help her get something vital, or prevent something bad from happening to her, I would do it in the blink of an eye.

If someone I didn’t like, or didn’t really care for asked me, it would be a direct and simple “no”. If the most basic of tasks are impossible for him to complete he absolutely has a waning lack of interest in you and most likely doesn’t care. Especially if he’s profiting somehow from the relationship while giving nothing in return.

Sign #5: You always contact him first

If you’re always the one exerting effort to either hang out with or talk to him this is a clear and simple way to see he really isn’t feeling you.

Unless the guy is shy on the level of not being able to talk, there should definitely be some reciprocal affirmation of interest. Wait a few days, and see if he initiates anything, after a few days, make a plan and see his excitement or interest level. If he really doesn’t seem to care, or doesn’t even want to hang out. He is most likely losing interest.

Sign #6: He never goes out of his way to do things to make you happy

This goes back to sign 4. The less a person does for you and the level of inconvenience they are willing to endure for you is a clear sign of how much anyone cares. Making your girlfriend happy is huge priority if you love them.

You not only want them to be happy. You need them to be! Making anyone happy feels good. Making the one you love happy should feel amazing. If he doesn’t care enough to make you happy he probably doesn’t care much at all.

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Sign #7: He doesn’t ask you any questions about you and doesn’t seem interested in who you are

Showing genuine interest in another person is an obvious sign you care about them, or want to know more. If I like someone, the first thing I want to do is get to know them, as well, and as quickly as possible.

If I truly don’t care, What’s my point in investing time and emotions to get to know somebody? You simply won’t. If he has no interest in who you are, your past etc. he most likely cares little about you.

Sign #8: He is fine with you hanging around other men

This one is a mixed signal to me. Personally, I like my significant other to know that they are free to do whatever they want with whoever. My girlfriends have been social so why not let that flourish? There have been times in the past where my girlfriend has gone out with another guy for business etc.

My aim is to inform her to watch out for him, not the other way around. It builds a level of trust. But saying that, I still definitely cared that she was going out alone, and I would always say to be safe, or please call, and of course I’d be texting throughout.

If a guy lets you go out with whoever you want and literally has no issue, nor inclination, I’d definitely take this as a red flag.

Sign #9: He treats you like everyone else

If he does not treat you differently in the slightest, there is most likely something going on. Your significant other should and does play a special role in life, and how you treat each other should definitely reflect your connection.

For instance, at Christmas, I’ll buy my parents and sisters candies and cards, things more sentimental in value rather than monetary. For my girlfriend, on the other hand, it’s always something very special as well as expensive. Something she can really cherish. If you don’t feel important by the way he treats you, you just might not be that important to him.

Sign #10: Not protective over you at all

This could relate to sign 8, But in a different instance. If anyone said something bad to my girlfriend, mother or sisters- man or woman, I’m coming to their defense in any way possible. The last thing I want my significant other to feel is unprotected.

It’s basically written in our male dna to want to protect our loved ones, especially our “one and only.” If your boyfriend sits idly while you get ragged on, he’s either completely not interested and totally apathetic to your feelings, or has zero testosterone. Either or, a horrible trait for a boyfriend.

Sign #11: Doesn’t talk about the future

Talking about each other’s future together is a major signal that someone cares. They care enough to literally bring you into their life, and must find a way to figure out things in a way that absolutely includes you.

It’s literally no different than saying, “Hey, I plan on being with you for a long time.” If you bring up future endeavors together it’s a great sign you’re in a concrete relationship. If a guy is planning on taking another path in life that doesn’t include you, you’re clearly not important.

I know of many men and women that will literally change their entire lifestyle in order to stay with someone they love. If my dad’s moving to London, you can sure as hell bet my mom’s got a ticket in the seat next to him. If his future plans don’t include you, or even worse he doesn’t even talk about your future, this is a big indication he doesn’t care, and is using you either as a stepping stone, or flotation device.

Sign #12: He Doesn’t Pay For Anything

I believe everyone in a relationship should absolutely have a level of autonomy, you never want to be completely reliant on another for you needs, especially in a relationship. That is a guaranteed deal breaker. With that said, there should also be some sort of reciprocation with each other.

Being generous is a great way to show you care, especially when you have the means.

If a guy has the means and still doesn’t cough up a dime that’s probably one of the highest levels of indicating he doesn’t care. He could pay for dinner, but he’ll let you do that, because being with him is just “so special.”

If this is your case, you’re most likely dating someone who is using you, who’s also masquerading as some Gigglo or arm to hang on to. If your guy doesn’t help with a single thing (whether it is being there for you emotionally if he doesn’t have the means to contribute financially he most likely doesn’t care).

If he has the means and he’s still not paying. You are being used and abused. Dump him with a passion.

Sign #13: Tries to avoid any kind of serious topics of conversation

When you’re in an in depth personal relationship, serious topics will inevitably come up, and in order to move forward you must talk about them. This is a fact. You can’t let sleeping dogs lie in a relationship.

You have to crush out the problems and move forward. A good sign that someone doesn’t care is that they have no interest at all in serious topics or conversations dealing with the relationship. If he has no interest in moving the relationship forward and avoids all serious topics, the truth is he has no interest period.

Sign #14: He has lost interest in sex

Losing interest in sex is obviously a substantial issue. Everybody has their highs and lows of libido, but if sexual contact is nonexistent, feelings are probably nonexistent as well. It’s not necessarily about the sex it’s more of how the sex feels. You can have sex rarely as long as it’s great, and intimate.

If it’s rare, and when everything’s all said and done in a jiffy, while you’re sitting there wanting more, unsatisfied, there’s an obvious issue. I’m always all about the girl and making her feel happy and comfortable.

If I care about a woman, I care about her pleasure. This is true for most men.

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Sign #15: He seems to actively be looking at other women, or possibly even pursuing other women

For me, when I know I’ve got a special connection with a woman, I don’t take the extra time to go out of my way to dress well. I’ll go to the market in PJ’s looking like a slob, in about the most unimpressive outfit ever, for example. When I’m single, I almost always dress to 9’s anywhere I go.

You never know who you’re going meet, and what your first impression will be. Not only do I not care about my appearance when I otherwise would, I literally pay zero attention to other girls. Sure, I’ll see a girl and go “she’s attractive” but that’s as far as my mind goes. It’s a chemical response to an image that can’t be controlled for either sex.

There’s no filter I’m putting up, I’m not telling myself to stop dreaming, it must be some subconscious logic. When I’m single and I see a girl I find very attractive, my mind goes “she’s attractive, how would I take her out, I wonder who she is, what she does, what would I say to her to get her attention?”

When I’m in a relationship, my mind subconsciously knows that, “hey, you know a girl really well already who’s just as attractive who you know is amazing, we’re going out tonight, and I love her to death. Wasting my effort on someone else would be a ludicrous idea.

If your guy is talking about other girls like they are somehow better, or fantasizes beyond the initial just “oh they’re attractive,” it’s a bad sign and he probably does not care about you.

If you catch your guy cheating, this is obviously an indication he’s lost interest. You pretty much only cheat when you either don’t care about that person, and or have zero respect for them. Cheating for me is a one stop shop. It happens once, I’m done.

This mentality has kept me from getting hurt many times in the past. Cheaters will cheat again, they think they’ll be able to get away with it, that’s why they did it in the first place. Also from experience, when someone you love cheats on you, or shows interest in someone else, it is honestly one of the most disheartening feelings on the planet.

So why subject yourself to that? He doesn’t care, neither should you. Find someone else, there are truly plenty of fish in the sea. Find someone who cares about you the same way you care about them.

There you go. These are the major signs and I hope you don’t take this to mean you are somehow a “bad” person. Him not caring means nothing about you as a person.

Investing Energy Doesn’t Mean You’re In Love

I know you might have invested a lot of time and emotional energy in this person; don’t let that fool you and trick you into thinking he is the one and only person you love. We can trick ourselves into believing we need someone in our lives because the time we invest makes it seem like we are “throwing it away” when it does not work out.

Don’t invest energy in someone who is not reciprocating. Keep your life open for someone who does care.

I look at relationships as a triple beam scale. I put things in perspective of who does what, and how taxing that action is. If someone is out of work, or in a bad spot there are still many ways to show your appreciation while trying to get back on track. It’s always important to know the truth of the matter and to be absolutely candid about your feelings and why you’re having them.

Most importantly, don’t take things personally—focus on what you can control and improving your own life.

The only person we can change is ourselves. That is a fact of life. Don’t waste time on emotions, or getting hurt for someone who doesn’t care for you.

When a guy cares for you it should be pretty obvious. Your gut feeling is almost always the best gauge for an issue going on.

If a guy seems like he cares for you he probably does, and it should show. He’ll always want to hang out, he’ll always be willing to help, he’s happy to take you out and wants to pay the bills, sex is always a happy yes and special, and when your down or being attacked, he’s there to save you like a knight in shining armor.

I know there is a huge upheaval in societal norms and what defines a man or a woman, in my mind the traditional man willing to pay and do everything for his wife remains the true sign of male affection.

Obviously a job isn’t a bad thing, I have a preference in only dating women who are professionals, I like some reciprocation too, but I feel the need to always be there. I’m happy for my girlfriend to pay for dinner, I’d just rather it be me. I’m happy to be sitting there. It’s worth the meal just getting to hang out and enjoy the time together.

If he is on the fence and trying to decide what to do about your situation, you have one thing that can make or break whether he stays or goes. If he doesn’t care right now, things will only get worse… unless you know the 1 thing that reverses all damage, implants an overwhelming obsessive desire in his mind and makes him see you as his other half. The #1 Thing Men Desire In A Woman…

If you’re looking for more warning signs:

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In summary…

  • Sign #1:You are his “last minute” option
  • Sign #2: Only Wants Sex
  • Sign #3: Does he introduce you to people in his life?
  • Sign #4: He asks you to do things for him and refuses to do anything for you
  • Sign #5: You always contact him first
  • Sign #6: He never goes out of his way to do things to make you happy
  • Sign #7: He doesn’t ask you any questions about you and doesn’t seem interested in who you are
  • Sign #8: He is fine with you hanging around other men
  • Sign #9: He treats you like everyone else
  • Sign #10: Not protective over you at all
  • Sign #11: Doesn’t talk about the future
  • Sign #12: He Doesn’t Pay For Anything
  • Sign #13: Tries to avoid any kind of serious topics of conversation
  • Sign #14: He has lost interest in sex
  • Sign #15: He seems to actively be looking at other women, or possibly even pursuing other women
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  • Alina May 13, 2023, 11:31 pm

    My boyfriend is always wanting to go out with friends even when it’s date night he invites them along. Last month he had to go to Hawaii for a funeral but he went MIA for six hours and when he finally called me drunk saying “I’m with family and friends why are you so controlling”. Last weekend he had a BBQ with a friend who was in town for three days. It was a going away BBQ he left at 5pm and came home at 12am. He always asks me if I want to go but I just like to stay home, he likes to go out and drink. Now today he has a birthday party with his family, I told him I am going to stay home and he left at 8pm and said he will be home at 12am. I know it’s his life and he wants to go out I let him but is it to hard to ask for someone who just wants to be in doors watching a movie spending time with me. I feel like it’s always going out. Also I wished he would help out with the bills I’ve been paying rent and car for the last three months because he had to save for the funeral trip and than now this month he has to save for his birthday party. It just feels draining and like I’m being used I barely see him when I do he’s always texting his friends and family than when I do watch a movie he’s texting so much through it he’s always asking what’s going on in the movie like I have to narrate the movie for him. I just don’t want to seem crazy and need some outside opinions.

  • Nasy August 20, 2020, 6:43 am

    Yup the relationship is over. Funny thing is, I don’t even care that I see these signs in my partner. I’ve known my relationship was way over for a long time but I was just too afraid to end this toxic relationship. Oh my God it’s not even worth it. Sometimes I think kids at Liberty High handled their relationships better than I do.. Thank you for this post, by the way.

  • mary February 26, 2020, 11:16 pm

    With him almost 4 years. He lives in my complex. At first he did not show enough interest and only wanted to play golf hang with friends etc. He only saw me as a friend for over a year but I really liked him. Then he would get close and push me away saying he wants no relationship. He never had a girlfriend since high school I had 3. So things turned real good for us then he lost his big job, I got cancer and was sick for a year, no sex for over a year now. He said he would not be my nurse but would help in other ways. Then we have money issues. Then he gets sick for 3 months. Then for 6 months things went well. Then I fell broke my arm cannot use my hand he rarely came to help me. Then our country has big issues and hes liberal I am not. He always has to have his way he wont eat my food and I never met his family, my family is far away. He never bought me xmas gifts or birthday not even a pair of earrings. Lately when we get groceries he ridiculed me in front of others once saying I was too slow. Another time he took off with the cart that had my items too and rang his food in and
    I was not done shopping, the girl behind me was mad I was mad. He started doing this months ago it got worse.

  • Chlo December 7, 2019, 5:12 pm

    I was with someone for seven and a half years and the relationship never moved forward. At the beginning of the relationship he was very controlling and emotionally unavailable. I got used to this kind of behaviour And was only 18 when I met him so put up with a lot of crap. I was never his priority, he only made time for me when it was convenient with him, when he wasn’t seeing his mates, after the gym, after football ect ect. he would go out with all his mates and there gfs and I would be the only one to not get an invite which used to really hurt me. i was in this relationship but felt so alone. I really tried my best then this summer I started not to care anymore. I put myself first, kept myself busy with friends and it took me to stop caring for him to start. By then I think it was to late and I ended things two months ago. I’m still in love with him. I love him to bits. He messaged me two weeks ago saying he wants to start again and give it 100% to then turn around two days later, basically changing his mind. I replied and told him to leave me alone now and let me move on as it’s not fair on me. Any advice ?!

  • Biddy November 25, 2019, 9:24 pm

    Anyone ever had a guy act like the woman in the relationship? Like I pulled back my investment when he started to act mean and disinterested. He has made an effort but it’s somewhat on his terms as if he is the woman, and he doesn’t seem to have figured out why I’ve pulled back.

  • lily cruz November 1, 2019, 4:24 pm

    Through this i can find out if my guy cares abt me or not.

  • Richard July 17, 2019, 2:58 pm

    I’ve warned many women about men. They will lie and tell you the sweetest things. They will do this for years even. All to just have sex with you. I don’t really know what you can even do about it. I don’t know a way to weed them out so you find a good guy.

    Hell my one friend messes with girls just to practice. It’s a game to many. He sets up a date then just bails. Then gets her to give him another chance at a date then bails again. Goes out on a date sometimes then just friend zones her so hard. It’s crazy to watch

  • Vanessa May 19, 2019, 7:18 am

    Thank you so much. Somehow this feels like an eye opener, even after reading so many articles. Probably it’s because it is a well thought out answer from the opposite sex. It’s truthful and to the point.

    So thank you. I’ve been yoyo-ing around an ex who had the means and criticized me for seeing things in pretty much the same way you do. If you have the means, it makes sense. I think it works both ways. Unfortunately I decided to do a startup and well, let’s just say I wasn’t in for a loving and supporting time with that guy.

    Or many men in fact. And it shocks me how little supply there has been lately. Is it the country I’m in. Is it just simply culture? Past 30 men just seem quite…calculating. And I guess I sacrificed my best years chasing the startup dream.

    Anyhow, I just couldn’t wrap my head around the idea how someone who did care at some point, could blatantly leave you at your lowest, and not even worry about everything that’s left behind.

    The answer is plain and simple isn’t it? It’s just natural to look for an easier answer, when the reality is just as harsh.

    He sometimes wonders if he makes a mistake, and then shows affection as though we’re gettinf back together. And the moment I need to talk about it, off he goes again.

    Yet the finger gets pointed at me for wanting to talk.

    Why the brutal mind games? But yes, thank you for your clear, concise honestly. Bookmarking this as a reference for all future encounters.

  • Rosy October 5, 2018, 4:59 am

    If he is not interested, why can’t he be honest?
    Women are not toys you can play with!!!
    If he is not interested, he needs to look somewhere else!
    If you are not intredted in more than casual, say it. She gets the possibility to stay or leave…
    That is called respect!!!

    • Miley June 7, 2019, 8:48 am

      I completely agree with you!

      • Jummy December 1, 2019, 7:06 pm

        Wow. So true. Are you single??

    • Jummy December 1, 2019, 7:07 pm

      God bless you for this

  • Veronika October 4, 2018, 12:55 pm

    So we meet in a gym, he started staring me and smiling at me. I talked to him, and he’s a nice person,it’s like I can talk whatever to him and he wouln’t get bored at all,whatever I say he would laugh or just look at me when I’m speaking. Not long time ago, we were running and he passes near me and smiles at me, I was going something with my partner,and I would catch him looking at me. So,before that I couln’t go on a training before my personal reasons,and that was the day when my friends contacted him because I didn’t have the courage to text first,so they did it for me,he saw the message after 5/10 minutes and then replied right away,so we messaged each other and he replied righg back,so he ask me that he didn’t see me there so what was wrong and I told him when I’m coming and so on,after I got home we texted a little. Then the next day I was again the first one to text,and hw replied when he saw the message and we were chatting a little. So,my thing is,I almost always catch him looking at me and if our eyes meet he would smile or look away.I don’t know what to actually expect from him. I came to the training and that’s when we were runing and he smiled at me,but we didn’t say hi to each other so I was thinking after the training but he left and after I got back home I messaged him and he messaged back. Is he just THAT shy and doesn’t know what to do? Or he doesn’t like me at all. He showed some interetst and now I’m not sure anymore ,and yes he’s showing the antisocial type,who will text you openly and also if he likes you he would talk a lot but also some times not at all.

  • Becky July 28, 2018, 8:48 am

    My relationship is a long distance kinda thing, my boyfriend recently moved to manchester for his studies n he works too… most times he gets home late n at times he complains about how tiring it is to work n school i get it but whats hurting is that we barely talk about anything the least we do when we chat is just exchange pleasantries with some pet name attachd to it…. i would give an example of what our chat looks like me:hello babe
    Him :goodmorning dear
    Me:how was your night
    M off to school chat with you later
    You know our chat goes on n on like this for weeks,he barely even calls n whenever i call him he doesnt pick my call n if he does it would be like 3 times in 2 months n whenever i complain he keeps putting up the busy attitude but his always on some call every now n then, he seems boring to me but whenever he uploads his chat on his timeline he’s either having a funny ,nice or interesting chat with some girl or guy ….. am so confused right cus he is being too difficult for me to understnd n its like he has away of shielding his thoughts from me …..i know i be cool on my own cus i kinda hate guys but its seems i love him even though i cant trust him with even a strand of my hair i still feel there is something but m scared cus now he’s asking me to send him a video of me masturbating n whenever i try to wave off his demands he gets angry n i think i mite make a wrong decision anytime soon m really confused n i dont know what to do

  • Licia July 13, 2018, 10:27 pm

    I don’t get my boyfriend.
    He never really wants to chill in bed without gaving sexyet he goes all out for me.
    He hurts me and never says sorry (physically), when i am not happy with something, he explains himself but never tries to understand how i feel and say sorry about it.
    He talks about the future.

    • Weepy July 16, 2021, 4:09 pm

      If he’s hurting your physically then he’s not a man. Men don’t hit women. Just as women should hit men. He doesn’t care about you. He won’t stop hurting you. Please call local resources for domestic violence

  • Michelleperla April 27, 2018, 6:46 pm

    I just recently came across this article, I wished I would’ve seen it sooner. Everything of all the different points that have been made is a major confirmation with me, because it’s exactly what I’d been picking up on and thinking also totally describes his behaviors to a T, in which also breaks the whole character down; of his and he alone is doing and not doing…I just can’t believe it! Finally, the truth not from him but this article and the comments from other readers. As I speak on it I am really going through it bad!, Taking it hard… only because this guy knows my entire family for the past 15+yrs. and I had such a high extreme level of respect for him not to mention he lived with us for many years along with he’d been crushing on me big time all those years and now after crossing paths again he propositioned me with wanting to start seeing myself as in what I understood a relationship. In which I have always been in long relationships and not permiscuious. so that was a big step for him and for me to accept. He wasn’t even my type, and because I already loved him as a wonderful friend and knowing him to be such a gentleman, I allowed the deceiving relationship to go there and cause of my curiousity I allowed it to continue not really knowing the damage it could cause…he’s a changed person for the worst shortly after intamitecy. He switched up on me all the time depending on who was around. it was very confusing although I know what I was feeling and picking up on. He actually called me for the second time in three months, only to tell me in less than three minutes that we’ll never be together to drop it, its done. and all this said in the presence of two other girls that he’s been messing with which neither one knows about the other. what a real winner and just the other dayhe was like I love you and we have the rest of our lives together..in ending this disturbing experience, we are no longer friends. I still don’t understand or have any closure in order to move on forward. only he knows whats happened and what didn’t. he wouldn’t ever talk about or answer me. everything that had gone on between us was left always up in the air unsettled for me that is. I’m devastated.

  • Lizzy April 27, 2018, 5:21 pm

    I’m wondering this myself, I’m just in a casual friendship with this guy who rarely calls or texts, we only see eachother in college. Yes he’s asked me to prom but he never asks me about my history he just talks about himself. And he actually admitted the first one, I’m his last one to call when he had a problem.

    • Weepy July 16, 2021, 4:11 pm

      You’re a friends with benefits. You’re a second choice. You’re not a priority and it won’t change. Find someone who puts as much effort as you do with them.

  • delaney April 4, 2018, 2:48 pm

    i dated this guy who at first was really fun and enthusistic and all. but months went by and he just started to slip away. he wouldn’t text me or call me until i reach out to him several times in a day. it went on for quite a while but then i felt like i didn’t deserve to be treated like that, least of his priorities so i immediately ran away from the relationship.

  • judy anne April 3, 2018, 1:35 pm

    you can’t ignore if your guy lose interest in you. some guys might not tell it to you straight but they will show it in other ways like what is tackled in this article. we girls must learn how to respect ourselves and know when to walk away if our guy doesn’t care about us anymore.

  • jillian April 2, 2018, 2:10 pm

    when your relationship starts to feel like it’s a one-way street, this behavior from your man may be telling you something’s not good. a good partner is someone who would not only prioritize his needs but also the needs of his woman. remember that if he really loves you, he will do anything in his power to give you what you need and to show you how much he cares.

  • Liza March 28, 2018, 3:46 pm

    this article is an eye-opener for me. After reading this, i realized that my guy doesn’t treat me the way i wanted to be treated and that he only cares about himself. i let go of him and i didn’t regret my decision. i feel better now.

  • vina March 27, 2018, 7:55 pm

    when you’re suddenly his last minute option, better beware. men can treat you right at first bit theb later on treat you as nothing. that means he’s done with you. talk to him about it so you’re not left questioning yourself.

  • marge March 26, 2018, 3:44 pm

    it really hurts to fall in love with a guy who doesn’t love you back and if he doesn’t want to talk about the future with you, then it clearly shows he is not serious with your relationship and doesn’t care about you at all.

  • masentle March 25, 2018, 11:43 am

    a guy if he make excuses when you touch him,surely he is no longer into you,probably he prefers to sleep with other women,he don’t love you

  • lira March 22, 2018, 3:56 pm

    i am thankful i came across this article.i am thinking that my boyfriend is never taking me into consideration so i took the quiz in this post to determine if he still cares about me and the result is what i expected. very helpful.

  • cristina March 21, 2018, 9:06 pm

    when it gets to a point where he only wants you in bed and doesn’t seem to be into you for your emotional and other needs, you should think things through. a man who truly cares would want to be there for you not only for the physical interaction.

  • kate March 20, 2018, 3:48 pm

    i caught my guy telling one of his friends some private details about our
    relationship and i am not happy about it. he is also acting as if he is not into
    a relationship. would that also mean that he doesn’t care about me anymore?

  • carrie March 19, 2018, 7:51 pm

    i was with this guy for some time but then he started to change his ways toward me..he would not contact me for days and leave me hanging on a date. i started asking him questions but he gave me nothing. instead, he’s always be angry and irritated all the time. there was 1 time i caught him checking out women who’d pass by and this is when i felt something’s really wrong. i didn’t say anything but i never talked to him since then. sometimes, we just need to follow our guts and go with our intuition.

  • gigi March 16, 2018, 4:23 pm

    this article is my move on alert. i am done convincing myself that everything will get better. this post made me realize that my guy doesn’t really care about me anymore.

  • britney March 15, 2018, 9:37 pm

    you used to have very active intimate moments but then suddenly he doesn’t seem to be interested any longer…
    think things over and find out if he’s still into you or not. this is a huge sign you should be alarmed.

  • sara March 14, 2018, 3:44 pm

    if your guy still cares about you, he should always make an attempt to communicate with you first. if he stops doing so then you should be alarmed because it means he is probably not interested in you anymore.

  • talitha March 13, 2018, 2:54 pm

    when he doesn’t make plans anymore and you always seem to be his last minute option, something should tell you he doesn’t care. men can make you feel really special when they want to, but they can also make you feel otherwise without even saying a word.

  • mary rose March 12, 2018, 4:38 pm

    this article is worth reading. if you see these signs in your relationship then i guess it is time to let go because if a guy really cares for you, he will make every effort to show or prove you that he values your relationship.

  • celine March 9, 2018, 3:29 pm

    very recently, i saw him check out other girls passing by and it bothered me. he wasn’t like that at all..does this mean he’s not into me anymore?

  • avery March 8, 2018, 7:05 pm

    we started out so fine but then things suddenly changed when i once tried to ask him serious questions about the relationship. i guess he isn’t ready yet so i just let him be. but he started to seem too far from me and i wasn’t a priority anymore.

  • catherine March 7, 2018, 3:09 pm

    i was with this guy for quite a while but when i’d ask him about things regarding the relationship he’d freak out and change the topic.
    i realized he didn’t want things to get really serious so i broke up with him before i even let things last longer but still end up with nothing. that would have been more painful and more difficult to get out from.

  • kaley March 6, 2018, 1:46 pm

    this article will definitely help me determine if my boyfriend still likes me or not. we have been together for about a year now and he seems very different. before, he would always ask me out for a date but now, he is no longer initiating contact.

  • noah March 5, 2018, 3:42 pm

    i am seeing this guy for a while now and i can see that he truly cares about me because he would really go out of his way to do things for me, even if he really doesn’t enjoy it. i hope it would stay that way because i am willing to do things for him too.

  • maxine March 2, 2018, 3:35 pm

    if he doesn’t make you a priority and you seem like you’re always taking the initiative, this might mean he doesn’t really care about you. men would do anything to please the woman they like or love so if he makes you feel not important nor special, there’s something wrong.

  • rita March 1, 2018, 11:29 am

    when you feel like you’re not a priority to him and it’s almost like you’re a last-minute option, you know he doesn’t really care about you. a man who is into you will always find time to be with you.

  • hannah February 28, 2018, 3:32 pm

    it is true that not every relationship is a perfect love story. it is very important to be aware of this signs so we can avoid being duped.

  • frances February 27, 2018, 3:44 pm

    i never want to jump to conclusions but i can see all the signs listed here in the article in our relationship. i guess i have to talk to my man and sort things out.

  • amelie February 26, 2018, 6:50 pm

    Any serious guy will want to make you happy. If you’re dating someone who’s not making you a priority, then maybe you need to really think things through. If you let things go on like this, chances are you’ll be treated this way forever.

  • hailey February 22, 2018, 8:02 pm

    when you’re doing everything for him but he doesn’t reciprocate, there’s something odd and you must be very mindful. you don’t wanna be with someone who doesn’t prioritize your happiness and well-being.

  • janice February 21, 2018, 11:39 am

    if he doesn’t introduce you to people important to him, you might not be really important to him at all. a serious guy would bring you to his family or his friends.

  • caroline February 20, 2018, 11:08 pm

    a guy who doesn’t really care about you won’t make the time and effort to make you happy or special.

  • ria February 19, 2018, 12:14 pm

    if he makes you feel like crap, that’s one good reason for you think about why you should even stay in the relationship. no matter what you do or even your past, don’t ever think you deserve less.

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