ok . While most of us think we know the difference between deep meaningful love and impulsive passionate lust (right?), it’s been proven that the deep sexual attraction we often feel at the beginning of a relationship can actually blur the lines and remove all common sense from our once intelligent brains.
Medical research has found that when they study the brain under an mri scan during the ‘lust-stage’, the brain activity mimics a brain that is high on drugs.
This means that we are likely to view the person through rose-tinted glasses and view the ‘relationship’ as more than it actually is. ie: feel we’re in love when in fact…we’re not.
The lust stage is fun but eventually, one of you will wonder where the relationship is going and either want to take things further or politely move on. But how do you know, for sure?
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These signs should help:
How To Tell If It’s Lust Not Love
You’re having sex lots, certainly every time you see each other.
The focus is on the physical. You talk about how you both look, what physical attributes you like about each other and think about their best body-parts…
There’s no conversation about future relationship plans, being boyfriend or girlfriend, or how you really feel for each other.
Although you’re great lovers, you wouldn’t call them great friends or feel that you could talk to them about deep subjects.
Meeting their family or friends hasn’t really entered your minds.
The affection and sex is still going strong but it’s not the sole focus of your relationship anymore. You want to do lots of other things together and just be in each other’s company.
Meeting their friends and family is important to you because they are a big part of your partner’s life.
Their happiness and well-being is your main concern and the thought of never seeing them again devastates you. Look out, you’re falling.
Hours pass when you’re together talking and sharing thoughts.
You’re planning the future and starting to think they really are ‘the one’. You’ve even dared to imagine what your kids might look like. Oooh, you’re falling hard.
So there are our quick signs to assist any lust-fuzzy brains. Whatever happens, be true to your heart, be honest with yourself and the person you’re with. If the end goal is love, keep your eye on the ball.
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