Philosophical Questions to Deepen Your Relationship

Philosophical Questions to Deepen Your Relationship

Maybe you’re looking to deepen your relationship, or maybe you’re trying to hash out something unknown about your significant other. Philosophical questions are inherently deep in nature and should help unravel someone at a much deeper level.

These questions should give you personal clarity on certain characteristics of the person you are opening up a dialogue with.

Famous French philosopher Voltaire stated that you should, “judge a man by his questions, rather than his answers.”

I believe this to be true. Look for the intricacies of their response, rather than the direct answer. With some of these questions, you will see people start to question themselves. It’s just as important to gauge their response and how they came to it as the response itself. By you asking these questions correctly you will come off as introspective and intelligent, rather than imposing.

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By asking correctly I mean, without judgment or lack of appropriate response. In fact, the person you are asking them to might enjoy it simply for the catharsis answering these questions can give. The person also will feel more connected the more they personally get to know you and the more they expose deep inner-feelings to you.

All people are different, and act differently for a number of reasons. In biology I was taught that a person is formed partly by nature, and partly by nurture.

These philosophical questions should help get the answers of the nurture side of that equation.

Life is a journey filled with crazy experiences that form us into who we are. It’s extremely important to know about these experiences when trying to get to know someone. Everybody has a story, and everybody has deep hidden answers to even the most difficult questions. It’s easy enough to know where someone was born, and what their parents did for work, but how far does that really get you into knowing them?

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Sure, growing up in Beverly Hills would make you have a much different perspective on the world than someone raised in rural Kansas, but to me relationships are truly about what’s on the inside of the person, not just the basic external facts. It shouldn’t matter who someone is or where they are from, it should matter who they are on the inside!

These questions will help get you to the root of that question and give you a much deeper knowledge of the person you are talking too.

Meaning of Life

If your life became a movie what would it be about and what would the title be?

Do we really have control over our lives?

What is the purpose of being happy?

Is it fate or destiny that controls us?

Is being conscious a blessing or a curse?

Is life fair?

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Thomas Jefferson once said “the art of life is the art of avoiding pain”- do you agree with him?

Is there a difference between living life and just existing?

Does everyone have a unique purpose on this earth?

Do you like to celebrate the good parts of your life in any special way?

We all feel we are “meant” to do something, that we are “here for a reason” and have purpose- is this true, or is it an inherent genetic delusion to keep us motivated and positive?

What’s one experience you’ve had that totally changed your view of the world?

Does it disturb you that one day in the future, after you die, someone will be the last person to ever think about you?

What do you think the point of fear is in human nature?

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How powerful do you think incentive is in changing humanity?

If you could time travel to any era to make your life better what time-period would that be?

With the knowledge of the size of the universe that we can prove, and a population of almost 8 billion, how valuable is human life on an empirical scale?

What’s one thing you’ve done in life that you think you will be remembered by?


If you had a year left to live what would you try to accomplish?

Do you believe in any sort of life after death?

If we have a heaven and hell, what do animals have?

Is the afterlife a concept formed by our consciousness or a reality?

How do you think your death will affect those around you?

Do you believe people will be punished for their sins?

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Do you think we will be rewarded for our charity?

What is the most honorable thing you’ll be remembered by?

How important is the struggle between good and evil?

How long do you think you’ll be remembered?

Whose life would your death have the greatest impact on?

Who do you think would show up at your funeral?

What would you have inscribed on your tombstone?

What would be your last words?

Who would receive benefits from your will?

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What is the most preferable way to die?

Would you rather die in glory or peacefully in your sleep?

What will people say about you in your obituary?

Have you ever had a close experience with death?

Would you like to know the time and place of your death?

Have you ever had someone close to you die?

Are you afraid of death?

What is the worst death possible to you?

Who would you feel justified in killing?

If you were in a war for good against evil how willingly would you lay down your life?

Would you die for a cause?

How important do you think religion is in respects to the after-life?

Love/How Real it Is

Would you break the law to save someone you love?

When you think of home what is the first thing that comes to mind?

How many people in your life have you truly been in love with?

Do you think that love is fate or chance?

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Do you ever think about how the person you may spend your life with forever is walking around on this planet right now?

What would you do to have the perfect relationship?

Do you value health or wealth?

Do you care more about who a person is or who they are?

Would you rather date someone rich and ugly, or poor and handsome?

Would you rather date someone ugly with a great personality or someone gorgeous with a horrible one?

What would you do to know everything about the person you love?

Do you believe in the stereotypical “fairy tale” love story?

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Is it possible to ever fully get over someone or is there some mark indelibly left on our psyche by unrequited love?

Is there one thing that would be a deal-breaker, no matter how much you loved someone?

Asking questions like these is great because you not only get to know someone else on an entirely new level, but you’ll get to know yourself a bit better as well.

These are some seriously deep, and thought-provoking questions that should inspire some unforgettable conversations.

Just remember never to come off as being critical about an answer, and to have basic respect with the simple knowledge that we are all different!

Getting to know someone on a highly personal level is never easy, and takes time, so don’t pressure any responses that you see making the other person feel uncomfortable. The goal is to make them feel like they are understood, and even if you don’t understand, to set yourself up in a position where you’ll be able to dig deeper if need be. If you get any unwanted answers, or answers that change your mind about that person, don’t worry, you’re not a natural fit. Who they are inside obviously has nothing to do with you! Listen to their answers, but just as important, look at the way they answers them, and try to discover the internal questions they’re asking himself!

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31 comments… add one
  • Becca July 14, 2018, 10:11 am


  • camilla July 4, 2018, 6:37 pm

    my husband and i have a strong bond and because of that, we remain interested in each other. he is always curious about me, my feelings, thoughts, etc. he also asks me these type of questions.

  • andrea July 3, 2018, 7:20 pm

    i believe that a strong relationship does not just happen. it takes work and both should have the commitment and genuine effort to know each other on a deeper level.

  • ashley July 2, 2018, 8:46 pm

    i love the questions outlined above! i will share them to my friends so they could also deepen their relationships with their partners.

  • rebecca June 29, 2018, 7:53 pm

    this post is so incredibly helpful! i will use this list as a starting point. i’ve been wanting to ask my partner some of the questions listed here.

  • sofia June 29, 2018, 2:51 am

    i sent these questions to my guy and he loves me even more!!! thank you so much!

  • dorothy June 27, 2018, 9:07 pm

    it is good to talk about life and its meaning, why are we here and what is our purpose. personally, i want to discover my partner’s thoughts about this topic.

  • meredith June 26, 2018, 7:20 pm

    deep relationships are truly satisfying! now i know how to start having a deep conversation with my man with the help of these questions.

  • alexa June 25, 2018, 8:42 pm

    knowing your partner’s inner life is an essential part of building a connection. questions like these can really help us explore that.

  • shirley June 22, 2018, 6:03 pm

    i love the questions in this article and i will make sure to ask my guy some of these. sharing personal thoughts and feelings are very crucial in a relationship

  • lucy June 21, 2018, 7:58 pm

    i feel like nowadays, couples no longer have the tools to genuinely connect. good thing there are still articles like these which is a great help for couples to deepen their relationships.

  • linda June 20, 2018, 6:12 pm

    talking about love and how real it is will absolutely deepen your relationship. it is nice to get each other’s view regarding this topic.

  • wynona June 19, 2018, 6:22 pm

    asking these questions can help couples understand and find out more about their principles towards life and their approach towards the future for their relationship to be successful.

  • kaleigh June 18, 2018, 6:26 pm

    this is absolutely an amazing list. i will make sure to read this article thoroughly and ask my guy some of the questions to unlock his mind and deepen our relationship.

  • connie June 15, 2018, 9:10 pm

    thank you so much for some really good ideas. i wish i knew then what i knew now.

  • fiona June 14, 2018, 9:34 pm

    ok i get it. I should not just ask these questions without knowing how to ask them correctly. Thanks for the tip!

  • elisabeth June 13, 2018, 5:21 pm

    i don’t believe in a perfect relationship but i want to know my guy’s point of view. i want to ask him what he would do to have the perfect relationship.

  • bonnie June 12, 2018, 6:57 pm

    asking your partner these type of questions is one best example to show him that you are interested in him. you both can get a deeper connection just by taking the time to ask each other these questions.

  • cynthia June 11, 2018, 5:31 pm

    i asked my partner these questions and it led to a very good conversation that we will never ever forget. my girlfriends will love this article. i will make sure to share it with them too.

  • natalie June 8, 2018, 5:52 pm

    these philosophical questions are a good tool to deepen relationships. i will make time to ask my boyfriend some of these.

  • connie June 7, 2018, 5:23 pm

    my boyfriend and i communicate very well on many topics but i’ve never tried asking him philosophical questions. gotta try some of these tonight.

  • shirley June 6, 2018, 5:35 pm

    getting to know someone on a deeper level takes time. questions like these will definitely help.

  • betty June 5, 2018, 7:24 pm

    now i know what to do.. i appreciate you for this learning you shared to us. keep rocking!

  • melissa June 4, 2018, 8:11 pm

    my mom is a relationship expert and she said this article is a good read. she told me that these are very meaningful questions that partners can ask each other every day so that they remain interested in each other.

  • elvira June 2, 2018, 3:38 am

    questions like these can unlock the gates of meaningful connection between partners. thanks for sharing this precious article with us.

  • nicki May 31, 2018, 5:01 pm

    oooh, heartbreak.. i never want to experience that again. i will do everything to keep our relationship going and this article is a big help. thank you so much!

  • alyce May 30, 2018, 4:41 pm

    i’ve never thought of asking my boyfriend these questions before. i will do so on our next night together.

  • abbie May 29, 2018, 3:25 pm

    i am looking for ways on how i could improve my relationship with my partner. i will use these philosophical questions to know him better and for us to become closer.

  • bernadette May 25, 2018, 7:28 pm

    I love this question—
    Is life fair? — i want to have a better understanding on may man’s view about life and i think this is the perfect question to ask.

  • carmela May 24, 2018, 3:08 pm

    i personally believe that talking about your future with a guy will best give you a glimpse of what he’s really up to. most men would freak out if they’re not really serious about you. and only the serious ones will give you the answers to your questions.

  • emma May 24, 2018, 2:11 am

    a strong relationship doesn’t just happen overnight. it really takes work. i love this article and i am happy i learned more about how to deepen my relationship with my man.

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