So, you thought things were going great. You went on a few dates, had great conversation and a great time together. You even thought he might be “Mr. Right”! Suddenly the texts slowed down except an occasional “hey stranger,” the calls completely stopped, and he never asked for another date again. You start to internalize things and you think “what did I do wrong? Why did he go ghost on me? What a jerk for being so cold.” I know you’ve been through a litany of reasons of why he lost interest in you and before you ask What Happened To Dating, here are few to consider.
1. He was looking for a hook up not a relationship
Sometimes men are on the dating scene prowling and not looking for anything serious. If you had some good chemistry he might contact you on occasion just to check in but odds are he’s on the prowl again looking for another chance to hookup.
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2. He wasn’t attracted
I know you may think it’s shallow but maybe the picture he saw online or how he thought you would look didn’t quite match how you looked in person. Maybe he was expecting one thing and got another and what he got didn’t keep his interest. This doesn’t mean something is wrong with you so don’t internalize this, but maybe you just weren’t what he was looking for.
3. He couldn’t see himself building a future with you
At a certain point in life men are looking for a specific type of woman that he can build a future with. When men begin to seriously date instead of just dating for sport then they are specific about who they entertain and invest energy in. For example maybe he wants kids and on the first few dates you made it clear that you don’t want any kids. Maybe he values spirituality and you said you were an atheist. You may never know exactly what it was but if your values don’t align then he may lose interest.
4. His drama sensors went off
Men of a certain age and stature desire peace in their lives more than anything else and if he gets the vibe that you will cause more chaos than peace then he may exit stage left. If he sees those early signs of insecurity like you asking a million questions about his social media, if you sound like you and your friends are always on the drama train or if your last relationship seemed very unhealthy he might see the red flags and lose interest.
5. He might already be involved
Sometimes in the midst of dating a guy might already have someone who he is already seriously interested in but not necessarily exclusively dating. It may very well be that as he was starting to date you he transitioned into a relationship with another woman and knew he couldn’t have it both ways. Men don’t do closure very well so while you might be thinking he should have just told you that, he may have found it easier to just stop talking to you all together.
There are many reasons that men lose interest and quite frankly they probably aren’t very different than the reasons that ladies lose interest. The key is to not internalize everything just because someone loses interest it may simply be that the two of you were not a good match or the timing wasn’t right. This is even more of a reason to slow down and stop moving so fast when dating.
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The Biggest Reasons Men Lose Interest
- He was looking for a hook up not a relationship
- He wasn’t attracted
- He couldn’t see himself building a future with you
- His drama sensors went off
- He might already be involved
About the author
Troy Spry a Certified Life, Dating, and Relationship Coach and the one and only “Reality Expert”, resides in Charlotte, nc. He created his blog, Xklusive Thoughts, with the intent of putting out a very realistic perspective on love, dating, relationships, and marriage and using it as a vehicle for inspiration! He hopes to challenge people to think differently and to inspire people to do and be better in relationships and in life!