How Do Men Flirt? 21 Ways Men Flirt That Women Often Miss

How Do Men Flirt? 21 Ways Men Flirt That Women Often Miss

When it comes to men flirting with women, it’s not always obvious. Here’s 21 signs he’s flirting with you so you know he wants you for sure!

Have you been noticing some strange behavior in one of the guys you know, lately? Is he giving you some signals, but you don’t know what they mean? Sometimes you think he likes you and that he might be flirting with you, other times you’re not so sure. To help you step out of that fog of uncertainty, here are 21 flirty moves he may be pulling that you’ve just been missing.

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1. You catch his attention instantly

Does he turn his head to look at you when you enter a room? Does he hear your voice and instantly start listening? Does he look up to see if you’re there as soon as he can smell the scent of your perfume? You might have caught him in your flirtatious web without even knowing.

2. He finds ways to be around you

Lately, it seems like everywhere you go, you find him. Now, that might be a coincidence, or it might be that he is actively trying to be around you. He knows that you like to get coffee before you come into the office, for example, so he picks up the same habit. Or he becomes friends with the people you go out with. It’s normally pretty obvious what he’s doing.

3. You make him smile

There’s nothing like seeing someone’s face light up the moment they see you… he may not even realize he’s doing it, but he probably has a huge smile on his face.

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4. You make him nervous

Believe it or not, women aren’t the only ones who get nervous. Guys do too, and if he likes you and is trying to flirt with you, chances are he’s feeling all those crazy butterflies, has sweaty palms, and is shifty and fidgety.

5. You catch him licking his lips

Have you ever caught him looking at you…and subtly licking his lips? Not a lascivious, perverted lick, but he runs his tongue lightly over his lower lip, or gives it a little bite? He wants you, and he wants you bad.

6. He teases you

You know how little boys will tease little girls they like? They never grow out of it. If a guy likes you, he will flirt with you through lighthearted banter, some innocent jokes, and good-humored teasing.

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7. He chooses you over his friends

The real test on whether he likes you and if he’s flirting with you is if he pays attention to you or his friends. If he puts them off to talk to you or keep spending time with you, you win.

8. You make him blush

And since we talked about making boys nervous, they also blush! If he likes you a lot and you’re flirting with him right back, you might just notice his cheeks flush. Isn’t that adorable?

9. His pupils are dilated when he interacts with you

If you notice his pupils, then you’re probably already in pretty close proximity, which might explain why his are dilated. When we like something, it’s a normal biological response for our pupils to dilate. It happens when we’re horny, and excited, and if you have that effect on him…well, that betrays something about him, doesn’t it?

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10. He adopts a “power stance”

Men like to appear more masculine in front of the woman they like (in order to impress her)… so he might adopt a so-called “power stance” when he talks to you. Legs spread, back straight, hands on his hips.

11. He lightly touches your arm

Do you ever notice him lightly touching your arm while you talk? It might seem innocent…but it’s not.

12. He mimics your gestures

Studies show that when we like someone, we tend to mirror their gestures, without really realizing it. So, pay attention next time you talk to him and see if he follows whatever facial expressions or gestures you make.

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13. He speaks in a deep voice around you

You know what I said about appearing to be super masculine? The voice is a part of that, and a man will deepen his voice to appear manlier, sexier, more attractive to women.

14. You notice him raising his eyebrows

This one is very subtle and it’s another one that he doesn’t even realize he’s doing. When you talk to him, does he ever raise his eyebrows, ever so slightly? That means two things: first, he is trying to get a good look at you, with wide eyes to see all of your beauty, and second, he is open to you and honest.

15. He gives you the once-over

This is such an obvious move, but men often don’t realize they do it. You know when you walk into a room and he gives you a head-to-toe look, probably smiling, or just mesmerized? He loves what he sees.

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16. He leans in

We want to be close to the people we really like, and he really likes you. As a result, he will lean in while you’re talking, just to get into that intimate space and see what it’s like to be that close.

17. He tilts his head towards you

Study his behavior while you talk – is he tilting his head? If it’s away from you, that’s a bad sign, but if he’s tilting his head towards you, it means he is paying attention to what you are saying and is very interested.

18. He finds excuses to touch you

You know this move – he puts a hand on your knee when telling you something in confidence, puts a hand on the small of your back for no reason at all, a protective hand on your shoulder… oh, you have a little something on your cheek, and he takes the opportunity to stroke your face. Ha, you know that’s a flirty move.

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19. He tries to get your attention

If you’re in a group, and especially around other men, he is probably working extra hard to get you to pay attention to him. He might be catching your eye with every opportunity, giving you little smiles, asking you questions, laughing at your jokes, etc. He wants you to notice him and flirt back.

20. He laughs a lot around you

Sometimes it’s because you’re funny, and other times just because he’s trying to flatter you, but he is laughing a lot when you’re around, lately. Every little thing that comes out of your mouth is suddenly hilarious – ever wondered why?

21. He compliments you

You might think that compliments are obvious flirty signs, but not necessarily – a guy who likes you for real will try to not make gross comments about the way you look and will instead appreciate your personality, sense of humor, accomplishments, etc. Think “You have a really smart sense of humor” vs. “Your body is really hot”.

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Do you know that even if a guy is flirting, he could still lose interest at any point in the relationship? To avoid this, you need to understand there are 2 pivotal moments that determine if your relationship ends in heartbreak or you get to live happily ever after so it’s vitally important that you take the next step and read this right now, because at some point the man you want is going to ask himself: Is this the woman I should commit to for the long term? That answer determines everything… Do you know how men determine if a woman is girlfriend material (the type of woman he commits himself to) or if he sees you as just a fling? If not you need to read this next: The #1 Thing Men Desire In A Woman…

The second problem almost all women experience: At some point he starts to lose interest. He doesn’t call you back or he becomes emotionally closed off. He seems like he’s losing interest or pulling away – do you know what to do? If not you’re putting your relationship and the future of your love life in great danger, read this now or risk losing him forever: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…

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In summary…

1. You catch his attention instantly

2. He finds ways to be around you

3. You make him smile

4. You make him nervous

5. You catch him licking his lips

6. He teases you

7. He chooses you over his friends

8. You make him blush

9. His pupils are dilated when he interacts with you

10. He adopts a “power stance”

11. He lightly touches your arm

12. He mimics your gestures

13. He speaks in a deep voice around you

14. You notice him raising his eyebrows

15. He gives you the once-over

16. He leans in

17. He tilts his head towards you

18. He finds excuses to touch you

19. He tries to get your attention

20. He laughs a lot around you

21. He compliments you

ways men flirt

14 comments… add one
  • raine September 24, 2018, 7:48 pm

    this is so perfect! i guess i just found the most accurate article to really know how men flirt. thanks for this!

  • cynthia September 21, 2018, 6:40 pm

    i always miss the subtle signs that men put forth when they are trying to tell they like me. i am grateful for this post. this is an additional learning for me.

  • grace September 20, 2018, 2:09 pm

    this is exactly what im looking for! i love it and really helpful!

  • eileen September 19, 2018, 6:06 pm

    yesterday, this cute guy asked me if am single. it got me thinking why was he asking? i found out from one of my friends that he is actually single too! does it mean he is flirting with me?

  • lily September 18, 2018, 2:19 pm

    i love this! i never thought i needed a lot more hints to really know. thank you for this post, i soooo love it!

  • tessa September 17, 2018, 6:38 pm

    how do men flirt? they say a lot of stuff! it can be a compliment or other things. most of the time this doesn’t work for me. i dunno, but i really find it plain stupid! haha

  • camilla September 15, 2018, 8:56 am

    he mimics you gestures – this is absolutely true and tested. but all of these signs are all great and definitely accurate.

  • margaret September 13, 2018, 1:52 pm

    have i been noticing a strange behavior with a guy i know? absolutely yes! i always catch him licking his lips and i found it very weird! didn’t realize he was flirting with me. haha! now i know!

  • amy September 12, 2018, 2:43 pm

    i love this! i will definitely look out for these signs. i’m currently seeing a guy and i want to make sure i’m getting the right hints.

  • jenny September 10, 2018, 6:50 pm

    great! now i know how to accurately spot a flirt! some are very obvious signs though. i really love your articles. whenever i have a relationship related research, i always visit your site!

  • dorothea September 7, 2018, 2:43 pm

    i can still remember how my husband used to flirt with me. timeless classic! he would offer to buy me a drink, give me compliments and locks eyes with me. well, nothing can beat that! haha!

  • kylie September 5, 2018, 2:58 pm

    when it comes to men flirting, i can say that it is completely obvious. but still, it is best to have articles like this so one can easily decipher flirting from non-flirting. we don’t want to misinterpret a man’s attempt to be friendly with flirting, right?

  • briella September 4, 2018, 1:08 pm

    he chooses you over everything, even the weekly night outs with the boys. if you he starts ditching his friends over you, that’s how you know he really is into you.

  • alice September 3, 2018, 1:00 pm

    yep. i notice this guy was giving me signals and was trying to flirt with me but i can’t really tell why.. thanks for this article! now i know exactly what he meant!

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