He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not!?5 Ways To Know If A Guy Is Falling In Love With You!

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not!? 5 Ways To Know If A Guy Is Falling In Love With You!

He loves me, he loves me not?….that is the question so many ladies struggle with after being with a man for an extended period of time! Now let me preface this by saying that different people show love in different ways but I would like to offer up some general signs that a man might just be in love with you.

1. He is clear about where he wants to go with the relationship

Have you ever been in a dating scenario with a guy and you just could not figure out which direction it was heading? Well remember this, if a man is truly in love with you he won’t have any problem making his intentions known. Men are very selfish when it comes to a woman they love so that alone will drive him to want to make it clear what he wants from you. Now the disclaimer here is that when I say in love I’m talking about the action of love not just the feelings of lust. If he is falling for you, you won’t have to guess about it! When I met my wife it was clear from the beginning what my intentions are even up until I said yes!

2. He makes you a priority

Men make time for whom and what are important to them. When a man falls in love with you he has no problem making you a top priority in his life. This means he will make time to talk to you, to see you and to court and date you. He will even take the jokes from his boys about putting them on the back burner sometimes just for the sake of having a chance to be with you. He will sacrifice some of those nights on the town and trade them for nights just hanging out with you!

3. He actually tells you

Men are naturally not the best verbal communicators so if a man finds the gumption to tell you that he loves you then odds are it’s very true. I always say men don’t love often, but they love deeper. Saying “I love you” is like the ultimate sacrifice for a man because love automatically screams vulnerability which in man language can be confused for “weak”. By the time he tells you he loves you he’s probably already been feeling it for a while! In fact when he is truly into you he will make it clear and slow down and even use the K.I.S.S. principal.

4. He’s vulnerable with you

You ever find yourself in a conversation with a guy and you think “Wow I can’t believe he opened up and told me that.” When a man begins to open up to you about his fears, dreams, insecurities, ambitions, or even flaws it means he trusts you with his heart. Men aren’t taught to express feelings and emotions or fears so if he gets that comfortable with you then he might just be falling!

5. He brings you around people who are important to him

A man’s woman is a big part of his pride and he wants to show her to the world but only if he is truly vested and into her. When a man brings you around his family, friends, or co-workers that’s letting you know that he is proud to be with you and he is investing on a deeper level. In most cases these three circles of people mean a lot to him and if he brings you around them then odds are you mean a lot to him too!

Like I said these aren’t necessarily set in stone signs as there will always be exceptions but generally these are some good signs that a man is falling in love with you. Men desire and want love just as women do, the thing is though is that we don’t make it hard. Before you turn dating and trying to figure out if he loves you into a calculus problem just remember this one thing and it will serve you well….when it’s right it’s easy!

In summary…

How To Know If He’s Falling In Love

  1. He is clear about where he wants to go with the relationship
  2. He makes you a priority
  3. He actually tells you
  4. He’s vulnerable with you
  5. He brings you around people who are important to him

how to know if he’s falling in love

About the author:

Troy Spry


Troy Spry a Certified Life, Dating, and Relationship Coach and the one and only “Reality Expert”, resides in Charlotte, nc. He created his blog, Xklusive Thoughts, with the intent of putting out a very realistic perspective on love, dating, relationships, and marriage and using it as a vehicle for inspiration! He hopes to challenge people to think differently and to inspire people to do and be better in relationships and in life!

33 comments… add one
  • Caroline Gale January 23, 2016, 8:05 am

    Troy you really seem to know what you are talking about and that is so hard to find online these days. Thank you.

  • Bonnie Mitchell January 22, 2016, 7:29 am

    This website has a lot of great tips and articles. I really like this one and how it explains what to look for when a man might be falling in love with you. Thanks!

  • Kathleen Goldberg January 22, 2016, 7:17 am

    This post is pretty good. I can relate and I hope that what is said here is true.

  • Jennifer Bond January 19, 2016, 6:34 pm

    I like this post. There are a few ways that you can get the hint BEFORE he talks to you about it.

    • Troy Spry January 21, 2016, 8:27 pm

      Thanks so much Jennifer for taking the time to read and comment on my piece! I hope the tips help.

  • Chloe Estep January 18, 2016, 2:41 pm

    I have been down the “undecided” path before, with a guy. That is just a waste of time. If he does not know what he wants, you are better off without him.

    • Lori Connell January 20, 2016, 3:36 pm

      Me, too. I hated it and I hope I never have to deal with that again.

    • Troy Spry January 21, 2016, 8:33 pm

      Chloe thanks for reading and commenting on my article! Yes I agree with you 100%! At some point people have to know what they want because no one has time for the emotional roller-coaster ride!

  • Peter Mills January 15, 2016, 8:21 pm

    I have always been this type of guy to the woman I meet. I just cannot see it being any other way, honestly. I would hope that woman treated like this would be grateful about it.

    • Yasmine Beaudoin January 19, 2016, 6:42 pm

      Good for you!

    • Troy Spry January 21, 2016, 8:34 pm

      Thanks for reading Peter and I echo what Yasmine said! It’s always easier to just be decisive and transparent!

  • Rebecca Pena January 13, 2016, 11:16 am

    Going with the flow has never been easier than in a situation like this. IF you are not sure, just ask, there is always the tell tale sign when he blushes.

    • Dorothy Hasbrouck January 23, 2016, 8:15 am

      Exactly. If you can get the flow going and watch how everything is happening, those steps pop out like a sore thumb.

  • Helen Taylor January 12, 2016, 5:45 pm

    This post is great and outlines everything great about falling in love with a new man!

    • Ruth Krier January 18, 2016, 2:51 pm

      Yes it does. I agree with you very much on this topic.

    • Troy Spry January 21, 2016, 8:35 pm

      Thanks for reading Helen and I am glad you found the points reasonable and helpful! Thanks for the comment!

  • Jasmine McNew January 11, 2016, 9:36 pm

    These are very good signs that a person is falling in love with you. Ultimately, you are becoming a larger part of his or her life.

    • Jacquelyn Stine January 15, 2016, 8:30 pm

      Yes they are. There is plenty to do when it comes to things like this and some of hte time it can be hard to determine what is actually happening.

    • Troy Spry January 21, 2016, 8:36 pm

      Thanks Jasmine!

  • Sharon Rush January 8, 2016, 1:22 pm

    There are so many people that just do not tell you how they really feel. That adds a lot of stress to a relationship.

    • Frances Taylor January 13, 2016, 11:26 am

      That is true. If you cannot communicate with your partner, that is a bad sign.

    • Troy Spry January 21, 2016, 8:37 pm

      Indeed Sharon I agree. Some people like to take you on the emotional roller-coaster because they don’t know what they want. That’s why you have to be sure and control what you allow. Thanks for reading!

  • Nilda Jackson January 7, 2016, 10:48 pm

    When a man makes you his priority for each day, you really start to feel special. It would be hard to miss those signs!

    • Kathleen Hornyak January 12, 2016, 5:54 pm

      That would make me feel good for sure.

    • Linda McClain January 20, 2016, 2:18 pm

      The minute I found a man that did this, I knew I had to keep him!

    • Troy Spry January 21, 2016, 8:38 pm

      Thanks for reading Nilda! Yes being a priority always feels good and is very telling!

  • Anita Thompson January 7, 2016, 10:21 pm

    All of these are very important signs that you need to catch when you see them. They will tell you when the man is ready to move to the next level.

    • Patricia Benson January 11, 2016, 9:46 pm

      This is true. If you are not sure about the “next” level, this is a good guide.

    • Troy Spry January 21, 2016, 8:39 pm

      Thanks Anita! I appreciate your comment and definitely agree! Thanks for reading.

  • Betty Burgess January 6, 2016, 3:17 pm

    If you are made a priority in a man’s life, you will know it and that is a great feeling!

    • Karen McDowell January 8, 2016, 1:32 pm

      Oh yeah. that is when you know the “switch” flipped.

  • Marjorie Villanueva January 6, 2016, 2:47 pm

    To make things easier, it would be nice if he just told you, but we all know that is not the case. Spending time with a person after you meet them can cause you to feel even more in love with a person than you actually are and sometimes that clouds judgement.

    • Troy Spry January 21, 2016, 8:40 pm

      Yes Marjorie I agree I wish it could all be so simple and people were transparent and honest but even when people say one thing the actions are even more telling. Keep paying attention and you will find out everything you need to know. Thanks for reading!

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