He loves me, he loves me not?….that is the question so many ladies struggle with after being with a man for an extended period of time! Now let me preface this by saying that different people show love in different ways but I would like to offer up some general signs that a man might just be in love with you.
1. He is clear about where he wants to go with the relationship
Have you ever been in a dating scenario with a guy and you just could not figure out which direction it was heading? Well remember this, if a man is truly in love with you he won’t have any problem making his intentions known. Men are very selfish when it comes to a woman they love so that alone will drive him to want to make it clear what he wants from you. Now the disclaimer here is that when I say in love I’m talking about the action of love not just the feelings of lust. If he is falling for you, you won’t have to guess about it! When I met my wife it was clear from the beginning what my intentions are even up until I said yes!
2. He makes you a priority
Men make time for whom and what are important to them. When a man falls in love with you he has no problem making you a top priority in his life. This means he will make time to talk to you, to see you and to court and date you. He will even take the jokes from his boys about putting them on the back burner sometimes just for the sake of having a chance to be with you. He will sacrifice some of those nights on the town and trade them for nights just hanging out with you!
3. He actually tells you
Men are naturally not the best verbal communicators so if a man finds the gumption to tell you that he loves you then odds are it’s very true. I always say men don’t love often, but they love deeper. Saying “I love you” is like the ultimate sacrifice for a man because love automatically screams vulnerability which in man language can be confused for “weak”. By the time he tells you he loves you he’s probably already been feeling it for a while! In fact when he is truly into you he will make it clear and slow down and even use the K.I.S.S. principal.
4. He’s vulnerable with you
You ever find yourself in a conversation with a guy and you think “Wow I can’t believe he opened up and told me that.” When a man begins to open up to you about his fears, dreams, insecurities, ambitions, or even flaws it means he trusts you with his heart. Men aren’t taught to express feelings and emotions or fears so if he gets that comfortable with you then he might just be falling!
5. He brings you around people who are important to him
A man’s woman is a big part of his pride and he wants to show her to the world but only if he is truly vested and into her. When a man brings you around his family, friends, or co-workers that’s letting you know that he is proud to be with you and he is investing on a deeper level. In most cases these three circles of people mean a lot to him and if he brings you around them then odds are you mean a lot to him too!
Like I said these aren’t necessarily set in stone signs as there will always be exceptions but generally these are some good signs that a man is falling in love with you. Men desire and want love just as women do, the thing is though is that we don’t make it hard. Before you turn dating and trying to figure out if he loves you into a calculus problem just remember this one thing and it will serve you well….when it’s right it’s easy!
How To Know If He’s Falling In Love
- He is clear about where he wants to go with the relationship
- He makes you a priority
- He actually tells you
- He’s vulnerable with you
- He brings you around people who are important to him
About the author:
Troy Spry a Certified Life, Dating, and Relationship Coach and the one and only “Reality Expert”, resides in Charlotte, nc. He created his blog, Xklusive Thoughts, with the intent of putting out a very realistic perspective on love, dating, relationships, and marriage and using it as a vehicle for inspiration! He hopes to challenge people to think differently and to inspire people to do and be better in relationships and in life!