So you’re here because you’re looking for the signs that he’s ready to settle down with you.
It could be that your gut is telling you yes, and you want someone to independently confirm your suspicions.
It could be that you’re worried he’s never going to want to settle down with you, so you’re looking for anything to hold onto that will tell you “yes, he really is going to settle down soon.”
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It could be that you’re just curious, and wondering whether he’s thinking about it or not.
Whatever your reason for wanting to know, I’ve got you covered.
Here are the biggest signs that a guy is ready to settle down with you – if he’s showing you a few of these signs, it means he’s almost definitely ready.
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The Most Reliable Signs He’s Ready To Settle Down With You
1. He Puts You First
A guy who puts you first is a guy who wants to be with you for the long haul.
Whether it’s compromising, or going out of his way to make your life easier, or taking your input to heart and changing his plans – a guy who shows you that your opinion matters is a guy who wants to plan a life with you.
When he puts you first, he’s telling you that you’re important to him, that your feelings and opinions matter more to him than other people’s.
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Guys pretty much don’t mess around when they find someone that makes them feel that way. They tend to settle down pretty quickly.
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2. He’s Made A Major Life Decision With You
Maybe you two got a dog or a cat together. Maybe you’re thinking about buying a house (or already bought one). Maybe you moved cities and he moved with you (or vice versa).
Sometimes decisions like that are dress rehearsals for the question of “do I want to really settle down with this person and spend our lives together?”
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So things like getting a dog together give him a way to see how you work through shared responsibilities… and they also deepen your bond for each other.
If you’re making major life decisions together, it’s a huge sign that he’s ready to settle down with you (and is in fact already in the process of doing so).
3. He Wants Your Families To Meet Each Other
Marriage isn’t just marrying another person – it’s also marrying their family.
And by extension, that means that your family and his family are going to be a lot closer than they are currently.
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So if he’s trying to do things to bring your families together, it’s a huge sign that he’s looking to deepen your relationship and really settle down with you.
After all, bringing families together can be a stressful and maybe even terrifying experience. He wouldn’t want either of you to have to go through that unless he really was serious about you.
4. He Seems Content With The Direction You’re Moving Together
This one doesn’t apply if your direction is “floating aimlessly in a weird status quo where things never seem to progress.”
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But if you’ve gone from strangers, to casually dating, to more seriously dating, to exclusively dating, to maybe living together or an even deeper relationship…
And he seems really content, happy, and excited to keep moving along that track and strengthening your relationship…
…it’s a pretty strong sign that he’s happy to settle down with you.
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5. He Brings Up The Future With You
Some guys like to plan and others like to take things as they come.
But when you’re sharing your life with another person, to some extent you have to plan what’s going to happen in the future or else you run into all sorts of complications and things get messy.
So if he’s not only willing but actually reaching out to you to plan the future (whether it’s something you’re going to be doing a few months down the line), or he’s explicitly talking to you about your future together – that’s a huge sign that yes, he’s thrilled to settle down with you.
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6. You’re A Big Priority To Him
This ties right in with #1.
If you’re a priority to him, it means he’s not just thinking of himself when he makes decisions. He’s also thinking of how that decision will affect you, and whether it will be good for BOTH of you or not.
I’m not saying that he has to make you his absolute number one priority in order for him to be ready to settle down – guys (and women) juggle priorities all the time.
What matters is that you’re a big priority to him – that he considers you even when he could just move ahead and act without thinking.
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A guy who makes room in his life for you is a guy who wants to be with you for the long haul.
7. You Guys Talk About Money Stuff
When you’re casually dating, there’s obviously no room in the relationship to talk about finances, because who cares? Your finances are totally separate.
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But if you get to the stage where you’re sharing expenses and maybe even living together, money becomes a mutual topic.
If he’s talking money with you, it means he trusts you and wants to be open financially with each other. If that’s the case, he’s serious about you – and it’s a huge step towards settling down.
8. He’d Rather Stay In And Hang Out With You
Yes, as people get older, the prospect of staying in becomes infinitely more appealing than going out.
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Sometimes, the couch and Netflix with your significant other is the best date you can imagine.
This is a gradual shift that happens in people’s lives, but it’s also a pretty strong indicator of where his priorities are and how he chooses to spend his time.
If more and more, he wants to spend time with you at home rather than going out, it means that he loves being around you. That’s a HUGE sign that he’s not only ready to settle down, he’s already actively in the process of doing it.
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9. He Can Be His True Vulnerable Self Around You
Guys aren’t dumb. They know how rare it is to find someone who they can be truly authentic with.
If he feels he can be his true, authentic self around you – without judgment, without censoring himself, and without worrying that you won’t like it – it feels amazing.
(Just like it feels amazing when you can be your true, authentic self around him and know that he likes that person and wants to be with that person.)
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Guys who get a taste of that don’t give it up. The person who makes them feel that way becomes very, very special to them.
So if he feels that way with you, and he allows himself to be vulnerable around you – it’s a massive (maybe the biggest) sign that he’s more than ready to settle down with you.
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These Are The Signs He’s Ready To Settle Down With You
- He puts you first.
- He’s made a major life decision with you.
- He wants your families to meet each other.
- He seems content with the direction you’re moving together.
- He brings up the future with you.
- You’re a big priority to him.
- You guys talk about money stuff.
- He’d rather stay in and hang out with you.
- He can be his true vulnerable self around you.
Thanks,for this article
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This is so true my boyfriend change his lifestyle for me and also makes sure me and my kids are his first priority. And we always talking about the future together. Now we are soon to get married…
Yes so true my boyfriend change his lifestyle for me and also makes sure me and my kids are his first priority. And we always talking about the future together. Now we are soon to get married…
When a man you have been with in a relationship for over 5years tell another woman that they have a future together and he have a soft spot for her and telling that she is beautiful in daily basis calls he to know how she is doing everyday.what signs are those
i’ve seen all of these signs from my boyfriend and now just waiting for our wedding day. <3
whatever it takes, he will put you first
he will always do his best to make you feel important and loved above all else.
love this post! i hope my boyfriend would want to settle down soon, i can’t wait! <3
these are all so true! i belive this because my husband used to do these..
when he mentions the future with you and you are in it, he’s ready and willing to settle down with you
if you’re already talking about the future and you really see each other together, that means you both are ready to settle down.
when you have the same direction and he seems happy & content about it, you know you’re with the right person
a man who is ready to settle is someone who puts you on his top priorities and would not make you feel ignored nor taken for granted
you’ll know it and you’ll feel it when he is really ready to settle down.
someone who puts you first and prioritizes your needs is basically ready to settle down with you.
i’m glad to have read this article. i’m excited to how things will work out for me & him. we’re starting to plan for our future and i hope this is the start of our ‘forever’.
i enjoyed reading this. brought me back good memories with y husband when we weren’t yet married. <3
i love this post! thanks for the great ideas you always share.
i wish all men who gets in relationships are just serious and looks forward to settle down
great post! thanks for this, i’m gonna observe my boyfriend even closer. haha
he may be ready to settle down when he knows and he practices to put you in his top priorities.
well well well thenks alot but what if you tell him your family is waiting for him and says he is gonna come soon…Should i trust that or was he saying that just for the sake
being a priority to a man’s life is something we look forward at the end of the day. if he makes you a priority, that means may naka-tama nnman.
when everything feels natural finally and he seems to talk about settling down, be ready because he might just be ready to settle down
major life decisions are a big signs you two are ending up together.
if you’re making future plans together and he genuinely wants your opinions and insights, you’re headed to the right direction! ;)
if you are transparent and you talk about anything even money and future plans, that’s a great deal that he’s ready to settle down
this is for real. my now husband insisted on me meeting his family and him meeting my family
i’m still waiting and hoping he’d ask me to settle with him one day <3
maybe not all of us but a big majority of women would like to settle down sooner or later. these are the things to look for in a relationship
loving all your posts so far! thanks!
we surely are comfortable around each other and we can be our natural selves when we’re together. i really hope he’s the one!
i hope my man is ready because i so wanna settle down soon. can’t wait!!
if you’re making major life decisions together, it’s a huge sign that he’s ready to settle down with you…