What do you think is the most important thing in life? Health? Money? Love? Sex? I believe it’s none of those things.
The most important thing in life is priceless, and cannot be bought. No matter whatever else you may have, without this, you cannot totally enjoy what you have.
Give up? It’s peace of mind.
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Think about it. You can have both health and wealth, but if you are constantly upset or worried, because of issues with your partner, you won’t enjoy what you have.
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If you’re unhappy in your relationship and not sure what you should do, ask yourself this: Am I happier with this person in my life than I was without them? I believe the main reason for having anyone in your life, be it friend or lover, is because you’re life is better with that person in it. Of course, no relationship is perfect one hundred percent of the time. So you have to ask yourself: What percentage of the time do I feel better as a result of this person being in my life, and what percentage of the time do I feel worse?
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If it’s 50/50, then, as they say in blackjack, it’s a push.
Personally, I don’t want to be miserable 50% of the time.
In my opinion, it should be 90/10.
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Do you have peace of mind with your relationship 90% of the time? Or are you constantly worried that your partner will cheat, lie, hurt you, etc?
If so, why do you stay? I hope you’re not still living under the mistaken assumption that the person will change. That’s like bringing home a tiger and hoping it will act like a house cat. Not gonna happen.
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If you’ve spoken to your partner about the things that bother you, and things still haven’t changed, you might want to think about walking.
If someone loves you, and you let them know you’re unhappy, they will do what they can to turn things around. If they don’t, they either don’t care or they don’t believe you’ll actually leave.
Peace of mind allows you to enjoy the seemingly small things that make life special – a beautiful sunset over a lake, the sound of chimes gently swaying in the breeze, a full moon partially covered by clouds.
I was able to enjoy all of these things just in the last few months, because I had the presence of mind to acknowledge and appreciate them when they occurred.
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How can you notice such beauty if your mind is always in a state of chaos? Drama belongs in the theatre, not in your life.
Being with the right person can be heaven on earth. Being with the wrong person is hell on earth.
The Dalai Lama once said, “We must first make peace within ourselves if we are to make peace in the world.”
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In having peace of mind, you’re contributing to the world by making it a more peaceful place, and that, is priceless.
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i would if i were feeling neglected and unloved. there’s just no way i’m staying in a relationship where a man doesn’t appreciate and love me.
if i am no longer happy and i don’t feel loved & cherished in the relationship, i won’t think twice
it breaks my heart but i guess i really have to move on. i have spoken to him about our issues and yet he did not even make a single effort to make things work for the better. :'(
if you’re always fighting on even the smallest things and you don’t have peace of mind any longer, it is most definitely time to just leave it and move on
i have settled way too many times because i never liked the pain of break ups. but as i grew older and wiser, i finally realized that it is a lot more painful to be with someone you’re not supposed to be with
i have been stuck in a relationship that was obviously not good for me. i tried to justify and fight for it for almost 2 years but in the end, it just didn’t work. i realize i wasted 2 yrs of my life w/ the wrong guy & wrong relationship for all the wrong reasons. :(
you should be able to gauge things in your relationship if they’re really working for you both or not. if you are not growing individually and if your relationship seem more destructive than healthy, then might want to consider giving it up
if you think it would eventually lead to a heart break and a break up, better think twice
if you have all the reasons to, talk to him about it and be a grown up coming up with a decision that will work for both of you
for some women, this should be an eye-opener. many stay in a relationship for all the wrong reasons
if you are in the worst situation, really consider giving up the relationship that’s not working for you
if most of the time you feel like you’re living in hell, then i really think you should let go of this relationship that’s not making you feel good/positive at all.
if you’re waiting for him to change for you, sorry to say but i don’t think it’s a good idea.
this is really a good help to those in troubled relationships
if you don’t feel valued or you feel like your relationship isn’t going anywhere, maybe you really should think about ending it sooner.
weigh things down properly so you can come up with the best decision
for all the right reasons and for the love of yourself, yes! you never have to stay in a relationship hoping and wishing for hings to get better on their own
you are definitely right. everything you say just makes sense
if you do not feel valued, better start thinking about leaving
you’re absolutely right. you cannot buy peace of mind. so if you do not have peace and you always worry about him and his whereabouts or whether he tells you the truth or he loves you enough, maybe you should really think about it and weigh things down on continuing with the relationship or not.
ladies often make the biggest mistake of staying in a relationship just because they’ve been dating for quite a while. this should NEVER be the basis. if your relationship is falling apart and you both aren’t growing together, you should consider giving up and moving on instead of just wasting your time.
if you have talked to him and explained what issues you have in the relationship but he still chooses to ignore or do not even acknowledge them, it’s best to leave.
i think the question should be “when is it really time to breakup with him?”
only you really knows when to think about breaking up with him. i think the only turning point would be to ask yourself if you’re both happy and growing in the relationship or you’re both being destroyed staying together.
a relationship that helps you grow and become better is something you can hold on to. but if it does the opposite, yes by all means break up with him
weigh in the pros and cons on your relationship. if you think you don’t have enough reasons to stay, then maybe you really need to consider breaking up w/ him.
this is so true, if you’re not enjoying your relationship you better break up with him.
if you’re not enjoying your relationship anymore, you better break up with him.
if you feel like you’re happier w/out him, it’s high time you move on.
make sure you know what you want and somehow he also knows thema nd that you are heading to same direction. if not, might as well leave it.