How to Get Someone to Like You: The 3 Most Effective Ways

How to Get Someone to Like You: The 3 Most Effective Ways

How do you make someone like you (as a friend, as a person, or more, if you want)? Follow this guide and not only will a person like you… they’ll feel it was completely natural, too!

They say you can’t change someone else, you can always change yourself and control your own behavior. You can’t determine if someone is going to like you, but there are things you can do to influence them slightly. Whether we’re talking about friendships or romantic relationships, you catch more flies with honey, so you have a better chance of getting people to like you if you’re nice to them. Be in good spirits, smile, and be interested in what they like. You just need to be yourself!

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1. Be Yourself

  • Stand up for what you believe in

We all have personal beliefs and principles; they’re part of us and they’re what makes us unique. There’s nothing worse than a person who flip-flops from one side to another or isn’t committed to anything they believe in. It makes you appear dishonest.

The important thing to remember is that there will be people that will dislike you because of your beliefs, but that’s not on you. There will be others that will like you precisely because you commit to what you hold dear, and that’s an impressive trait.

  • Let your “weird” hang out

One of the most important aspects of getting people to like you is to be genuine, real, and honest. And that includes any weird habits, quirks, or unusual things about you. You may think they’re off-putting, but struggling to hide them or appear cooler than you are will be incredibly obvious.

So, don’t be afraid to admit that you unironically enjoy trashy reality TV or that you eat raw potatoes. Not only does that make you seem more genuine and approachable, it can also be endearing. Plus, it will make the other person feel better about their “weird” quirks they’re embarrassed about.

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  • Respect yourself

Self-respect is hard to acquire and keep, so you need to hold on to it. No matter what others say, you need to love yourself, stay true to yourself, and others will respect you, as well. The person whose attention you want to attract will admire this sense of self-respect.

If you ever find yourself feeling insecure or unsure of yourself, make sure to come up with a mantra reiterating your strengths “I am a kind, generous person”, “I am always there for my friends”.

  • Be honest, but diplomatic

As I said, your lies will either seem obvious, or they will find their way to the surface, making you appear untrustworthy and fake. Honesty is always the best policy, especially when it comes to meeting new people and forming relationships.

But don’t overdo it, though – know when little white lies can preserve the relationship, rather than damage it. If you want someone to like you, don’t tell them every little thing that annoys you about them or how strange you think their family is.

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2. Be Interested

  • Listen carefully

Too few people are good listeners, but that can be your golden ticket into someone’s good graces. People need to talk to someone and we all love talking about ourselves, so why not lend them an attentive ear? People love others who listen. But what makes a good listener?

– Use your body language to convey attentive listening; nod, smile, and make eye contact.

– A good way of letting them know you are listening is to repeat back what they’ve told you, just to make sure that you understood correctly and you’re on the same page. Plus, it gives them an opportunity to clarify any of their points.

– Don’t interrupt them, and don’t talk about yourself. That’s disrespectful and annoying, and you might put them off, rather than get closer. You want to show you’re interested in their person and what they have to say.

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  • Make him your priority

If you want a guy (or anyone else, for that matter) to like you and get the message that you like him back, you need to put your money where your mouth is. Don’t just tell him; show him. Make time for him and put him first in your schedule. That shows that you want to spend time with him.

A big no-no is cancelling or otherwise bailing on them, or rescheduling time and time again. That just makes them feel like they don’t matter to you at all and that their time is not valuable.

You may also want to let him know just how much fun you had when you went out with him. That reinforces the idea that you enjoy his company and makes him more likely to associate you with good times.

  • Discuss what you have in common

There must be something you have in common – a hobby, an interest of some kind that you can discuss, debate, or share opinions on. That makes it much easier to bond with someone and it always gives you something to talk about.

If there are no common interests, do not be afraid to find out what they like. Simple, basic questions are all you need to start: “Do you like music? What kind”? “Are you into movies?”, “How did you end up moving to this city?”

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  • Be funny

The more he laughs with you, the more pleasant the memories he associates with you will be. It’s one of the easiest and most pleasurable ways to bond with someone, so make sure to get your funny on and crack jokes around him.

If you want to subtly show you like him, you can playfully tease him in a funny way. Depending on the person, you can even get a little mean, as long as you make sure to be complimentary after. Some men like to get their egos a little bit bruised by a witty woman.

  • Do things for him

It’s always flattering when someone does something for you, and you’re super appreciative, right? He will be, too. It’s natural that you would look favorably upon someone who does something nice for you. Just make sure it’s something appropriate, and not too intimate.

You can let him borrow a cd of yours, or you can make sure to pass on what you discussed in that big meeting that he skipped last week.

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  • Compliment him

Men rarely get compliments – they’re usually the ones who pay the compliments – so they always feel special when they get one. Doubly so if they come from a beautiful lady. You can make comments on a personality trait, an impressive skill, or even his appearance, as long as you keep it appropriate.

“You look nice today!” is okay, “You’re so hot!”can be a bit much.

  • Allow him to help

Most people like to help others, and men especially love to feel like heroes. It will make him feel really good that he can help you, plus it will boost his ego that you asked him, specifically. It can also be a good bonding experience.

You can try something technical; guys love to help with cars or computers because it makes them feel like they’re super knowledgeable.

  • Do him a favor

And since he helped you, you might want to do him a favor in return. It doesn’t have to be something major, just little things like getting him a coffee when you buy yours in the morning, or little gestures like that.

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3. Be Attractive

  • Let them see you smile

Not only does smiling make you look more attractive, but it also makes the other person feel better. Plus, it expresses a certain excitement and joy in seeing them. You’re just so happy to be spending time together!

  • Be mindful of everyone’s personal bubble

There is nothing more awkward than inadvertently getting into someone’s personal space, and that kind of thing can be very off-putting. You’ll want to minimize that kind of discomfort by being mindful of personal space. A good rule of thumb is to keep an arm’s length between you.

To start with, you don’t want to pry into their personal life or ask intimate questions. But with time, and as you grow closer, these topics will come up naturally. You’ll also slowly be able to stand closer together.

Remember that social media is still real life, so personal boundaries still apply – don’t pry, don’t be too insistent, etc.

  • Remember cleanliness

We love people who smell good, so your first stop should be the bathroom: brush your teeth, shower, wash your hair, use deodorant and perfume, make sure your hair is combed or styled and that your clothes are clean and ironed. It’s all about confidence and the feeling your project when people look at you.

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  • Make a point to know their name

No one likes it when people forget their name or mistake it for someone else’s. If you want a guy to like you, make sure to not only remember their name, but show them you do. If you’ve just met the guy, next time you see him, use his name in your greeting: “Tim, it’s so good to run into you!” That will make him feel important and special enough for you to have made a note of his name.

  • Make sure your body language is open

People are attracted to open, positive, welcoming body language. So, keep your back straight, your chest forward, and stand up tall. Your arms shouldn’t be crossed, because that can give you a defensive stance. Remember to make eye contact when you’re talking to the other person, and turn your body towards them.

Most of all, you have to be relaxed and appear relaxed. That is going to give you the confidence you need and that will impress the other person. We like confident people and we respect them. You don’t have to force yourself to appear in any way.

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In summary…

The Most Effective Ways To Get Someone To Like You

  • Be Yourself
  • Stand up for what you believe in
  • Let your “weird” hang out
  • Respect yourself
  • Be honest, but diplomatic
  • Be Interested
  • Listen carefully
  • Make him your priority
  • Discuss what you have in common
  • Be funny
  • Do things for him
  • Compliment him
  • Allow him to help
  • Do him a favor
  • Be Attractive
  • Let them see you smile
  • Be mindful of everyone’s personal bubble
  • Remember cleanliness
  • Make a point to know their name
  • Make sure your body language is open

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18 comments… add one
  • evie October 12, 2018, 7:46 pm

    Be Interested – this one is definitely a sure trick if you want someone to like you the soonest. will follow this advice.

  • sophy October 10, 2018, 7:36 pm

    this is not entirely in our control but thanks for the advice. i somehow found them helpful.

  • amanda October 9, 2018, 1:07 pm

    get to know what he’s like and he he likes and focus on that. if you talk about things that doesn’t interest him, you’ll never have any luck. but if you discuss your similarities, you’ll seem more interesting and likeable.

  • lettie October 8, 2018, 6:26 pm

    always stand up for what you believe in – this is an important one for me and yes this is very effective when it comes to getting someone to like you.

  • charley October 5, 2018, 10:27 pm

    allow him to help you. men really likes being needed at times and they want to be there for you.

  • callista October 4, 2018, 5:23 pm

    i always smile. this is the best and simplest way to get people to like you. and it is for free! haha

  • trixie October 3, 2018, 8:47 pm

    “Remember cleanliness!” – this is very important! always be aware of your appearance and your hygiene. this is vital esp for a woman.

  • florida October 2, 2018, 7:27 pm

    i noticed that one of my newly found friends has been giving me the cold shoulder lately and i feel bad about it. i suspect that she doesn’t like me and i don’t know why. hope these tips can help me make her like me.

  • veronica October 1, 2018, 4:47 pm

    BE ATTRACTIVE. not focusing on the physical, attract others with your character. this will stand pleasing longer enough than trying to be attractive on looks alone.

  • betty September 27, 2018, 4:35 pm

    i like this article so much! i need this. being likeable is very important in my career and social life and i can use what i learned from this post.

  • mayen September 26, 2018, 12:23 pm

    let them you’re there, present and interested. people specially those in need of attention or love really look forward to this response. be in the moment.

  • taylor September 25, 2018, 4:41 pm

    hmmm, i don’t see any reason why i should not follow this guide. very helpful article. please, don’t get tired of sharing this kind of article with us.

  • stella September 24, 2018, 6:15 pm

    just be yourself, but be attractive. take care of yourself and be confident. these will surely make you more likeable.

  • lirah September 21, 2018, 6:10 pm

    i am so happy i found this post. very helpful! now i know what to do to get someone to like me and make better relationships faster.

  • gracie September 20, 2018, 7:08 pm

    be interested and be in the moment. just how you want any man to be around with. and enjoy every moment of it.

  • emily September 19, 2018, 5:06 pm

    finding out what you both like is a good idea. you will definitely get him talking if you find out you have common interests.

  • phoebe September 18, 2018, 1:28 pm

    be yourself, don’t try to pretend to be someone else. sooner or later, the real you will come out and there will be trouble that comes with it no matter how small.

  • christina September 17, 2018, 4:30 pm

    be yourself – this is the most effective way for me. standing up for what you believe in is very important and a man will not like you if you do not accept yourself.

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