“He hasn’t texted me in 2 days”… or worse… “He hasn’t texted me in a week!” Why do guys stop texting for a few days and, when he doesn’t text back, what can you do about it?
You’re getting along nicely with a new guy, you two may have even been on a few dates. Texting every day has become the normal thing between you and then one day, he just stops texting you. There’s no explanation or reason given, he just ghosts you. You’re then in a predicament of what to do, while you don’t want to seem desperate (because you’re not!) you also don’t want to just leave things on bad terms this guy. Along with this, you have a million questions running through your head about why he’s stopped and what’s going to happen now.
It’s difficult, most of us have been there. You’re left with nothing out of the time you two have spent together and now all the meaningful texts you sent seem too far away to ever get back. Yet, why do guys stop texting you? Are there things you can do afterward to make sure you feel better and get over him quicker? We’ve put together this short guide on how to cope when a guy stops texting you. We know how upsetting it can be sometimes which is why we encourage you to keep doing your thing and being amazing, having fun in your own life!
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Reasons He’s Stopped Texting You
There may not be any valid excuses coming from his mouth, but we know there are a few reasons why he’s stopped texting you. These aren’t 100% and should be considered on a situational basis as the explanation could be a lot simpler than you’re thinking..
- He’s not interested and thinks that ignoring your texts will make you go away. He’s also probably hoping you’ll take the hint soon and he won’t have to talk to you about how he’s feeling. Guys can be annoying sometimes.
- He’s already in a relationship and he’s not told you. He could be texting you behind his other girls back and finally come to his senses that cheating isn’t the best way to go. While we may be happy he’s finally found his conscience, it leaves you feeling down.
- He’s busy and we’ll let him off if he only stops texting for a day or two but it’s not good enough when it’s over a week. Being busy doesn’t always mean he should ignore your texts. Sometimes guys need to find the time to chat with you about your day rather than just waiting for you to text them.
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5 Things to Do If He Hasn’t Text You Recently
We would say you should start moving on but it’s not always that easy, especially if you’ve started really liking him. Going from talking to a guy everyday to never speaking again is hard and things take time, so you’ve got to pace yourself. He may eventually text you again so we wouldn’t recommend you do anything stupid or embarrassing as it may be that he has a perfectly valid reason he hasn’t text you in a month (he could have lost his phone!). Below is a list of five things you can do if he hasn’t text you recently.
1. Don’t Keep Texting Him
If you’ve already sent one or two texts and he’s not replied, don’t waste your time double texting him. You’ll regret it if he ends up coming back to you. It seems needy and sometimes it can annoy the guy even more because they might just need some space from the constant texting.
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2. Keep Yourself Occupied
Distract yourself by going out with your girlfriends or having some fun, anything will do. Keep yourself active and don’t sit around your bedroom all day wondering if he will ever text back. Show yourself you’re better than him not texting you back!
3. Avoid Assumptions
It’s easy to get carried away when you don’t know what’s happening, try to avoid assuming the worst and don’t panic. There could be a perfectly valid reason for him not texting you and getting yourself panicked isn’t going to help the situation.
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4. Don’t Stalk His Social Media
If you find something you don’t want to see, then you’ll get yourself even more upset. It’s always better to put him to the back of your mind until he texts you again, and if he doesn’t, you haven’t lost anything.
5. Remember how much you’re worth
You’re a strong woman with a lot of amazing aspects, don’t let one guy get you down. Remember that you’re worth so much more than a guy who can’t be bothered to text you back.
Should I Expect a Reply?
You might have been speaking to a guy for a month or even longer and text every day. Yet, you shouldn’t start simply expecting a reply. It’s nice for the guy to reply and talk constantly but he doesn’t actually owe you anything. Morally, a guy should do his best to be as nice as he can but if you want to stay sane then we’d say never expect a reply. You don’t want to be let down and this is the only way.
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How Long is Too Long?
ok, so he’s stopped replying to your texts and it’s been 1 day? That’s fine. We’d say that any guy can be interested in you but not text back for around 3 days. Any longer than this and he’s either trying to tell you something by ignoring you or he’s just deleted your number. In some circumstances, he could have lost your number or his phone but this is rare so you may want to find out more.
Should I Try Double Texting Him?
This is a no-go if you want to keep your dignity. The more you text and think about the situation, the worse it gets. Don’t double or even triple text him because it’s not worth your time. If he wanted to talk then he would find a way and you constantly texting him isn’t going to change that.
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anyone who does this is an awful human being. If you’re not interested simply say so in a nice way. Ghosting is just cruel. Especially if you’ve gotten to know the person for awhile.
Glad I am not the only one feeling helpless and confused. I was talking to a guy online who is a famous actor he spoke to me for 2 days, then stopped replying to my one text. I am so annoyed and anxious. I haven’t heard from him in over 5 and a half days now. I spoke to psychics they said he does like me and wants a relationship but if I am not hearing from him how is that possible? I don’t know what to believe or think. But, as far as I am concerned it’s not very nice for him to just fade away. One should be man enough to say it’s not gonna work so I know where I stand. I never expected him to contact me it’s not like I asked for this famous actor to come to me. However, I attracted it. I had visions and dreams he was going to come to me in my life before this. So who knows only time will tell. I know I could fall in love with him and know he wants love too. He said he wants me to be his woman.
I am in the same dilemma. We hit off from the beginning but in the last week, he has cooled off. Of course, I wondered what went wrong and all sorts of questions running around my head but I told myself I have to face the truth and move on if he is not into me.
More than a day in between a text is pretty questionable tbh. Even guys who are busy will reply daily. If its more than a day then something must have happened in his life to really focus his attention or he just ain’t interested.
my opinion on this topic, you should be the one to check up on him if he is the one who has been initiating the conversation. but also think that he could be stuck on some important things that he needs to do like work.
let’s face it..guys do not really have that much time to be on their phones texting. they’re not like us, and that we need to understand. you cannot expect your man to text you all day when he’s busy at work and other stuff. they just don’t do that.
i do not expect this to happen to me at all but still, i am thankful that i came across this article. i would know what to do if it happens to me.
if you already sent him tons of messages, stop and just wait. give it a few days and if he still doesn’t reply, i think it’s best to move on. focus on yourself than put all your efforts in making him want you or text you.
you can tell me to move on but yeah, it is not that simple. i’ve experienced this already and it took months before i can finally move on. but yeah, this article is a big help!
omg! he hasn’t text for 3 days! i am very anxious right now. maybe he’s not coming back to me again and has found someone else!? 3 days is very long for me. maybe i should look for articles that can help me move on from this pain.
this is going to make me crazy! i can’t bear it! if he won’t text me, i will tend to text him nonstop, what do i do?!!
this is really stressing me out. why is he not texting me at all! i am very much confused. he was a great guy and we had great dates. what should i do??!!
do not expect anything from a guy, at least not too much. if he starts to be nice and then later on just don’t text you or call you, you will be disappointed. better not to expect too much so you won’t be devastated later on.
why do guys stop texting? maybe they think they are irreplaceable. well, gotta let them know they are wrong!
wait a bit more and don’t stalk him ever. even on social media, you do not do it ever!
thank you so much for sharing this. i think that this is the right advice i needed. definitely a good article.
stop torturing yourself and just ask him. if you don’t, you won’t get your answer and you won’t be able to move on from it.
i think this guy is ignoring me on purpose. arrgh! not my loss. i will just wait for the right one to come.
OMG! i don’t know if i could ever handle this! i would most probably stalk him on social media..haha!
i went on a few dates with this guy and i am really positive that he likes me too. he hasn’t texted me for 5 days now and i am really worried. i am confused! i want to follow your advice but i miss him so much! i want to text or call him now!
i wonder why this guy stops texting me when we used to text a lot. i tell myself to stop texting him but i can’t help it. i want to check on him and know why he suddenly changed.
the “being busy” excuse is ridiculous! how can he be so busy that he can’t even send one little text? sorry but i will absolutely not going to buy this excuse!
thanks for sharing this, it’s just what i need. i’ve been dating this guy and i thought we hit it off right away. we were all good until last week he stopped texting me. i don’t know what to do anymore. i feel sad and alone. =(
i love your advice when it comes to this topic and it made me realize that i should not waste my time to a man who cannot see my worth. i will just keep myself occupied and not think about why he is not texting me back.
and so far all you ve really had is three dates, some text exchanges and a couple of verbal allusions to doing things together in the future.
hmmm, some men really suck when it comes to texting but if we are talking about weeks of him not texting you back, then it is a completely different story.
i am guilty of double texting a guy and i didn’t realize that this will affect my dignity. but you are right, if he really wants to talk then he would find a way even if i do not text him. he is really not worth my time!
do what you have to do but don’t try to flood his inbox with text after text. he may be just too busy dealing with work or something personal and you shooting all those messages won’t help at all. wait for the perfect time to talk to him and if that doesn’t come, it may only mean he’s not that interested and you can move on.
as mush as there are many things occupying a woman’s mind, the same may be with your man. if he hasn’t texted you in days, ask him. if you don’t get any answer, stop texting him and give him space. he will come around one way or the other.
i had a date with a wonderful guy and it has been a week and i still haven’t heard from him. i am going crazy! i am glad i found this article. it made me feel better somehow.
don’t buy it when your man uses his work as an excuse for not texting. if he is really serious about you, he will find a way to communicate with you no matter how busy he is at work.
if he suddenly stops texting, you may try sending him a few messages telling him you miss your late night chats and whatnots. if he still doesn’t respond, give him time and space. maybe he’s trying to assess what kind of relationship you have or what he wants to have with you. do not flood him with messages for this will surely put him off.
a man that doesn’t text you back for days is definitely not a good sign but he might have a good reason for it. just saying.
the worst thing that could happen is if he is already in a relationship and he is not telling you. sad to say but i knew a lot of guys who are like this.