He Doesn't Call Or Text For Days. What Does It Mean? Here's What To Do

He Doesn’t Call Or Text For Days. What Does It Mean? Here’s What To Do

When he doesn’t call for days…

Tell me if you recognize this scenario: you’ve been texting back and forth with a guy and he’s giving you the vibe that he’s majorly into you. Everything is great, until he hits you with sudden silence. For days.

Now, you know this is not necessarily any reason for concern and that it’s not the end of the world that you haven’t talked in a few days, especially if you’re just getting to know each other. But after being hot and heavy for a while, the sudden and unexpected break can hurt… and it can lead to some worried and obsessive thoughts.

Is it something you did?

Did you say something wrong?

Did you upset him somehow?

Does this mean he doesn’t like you anymore?

I know these thoughts have been running through your mind, but it’s important to get a grip. There are several possible reasons for his sudden silence, and none of them are your fault. Here is why he’s probably not texting, and what to do about it!

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Why He’s Not Texting

He Wants You To Text First

Look, not all men are the go-getters we know them to be. Not every guy will be eager to make the first step. Or maybe he’s been making the first step every time and now he wants to test you to see if you want to talk to him as much as he wants to talk to you. What if he stays silent for a few days? Will you ask him what’s up? Will you miss him? Will you care?

If he doesn’t make a peep for a couple of days, go ahead and try to text him casually and see how he’s doing. If he still doesn’t answer, that may be a sign of something else.

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He’s Not Glued To His Phone

In the world we live today, where we take our phones to the bathroom with us (really unhygienic, by the way), it’s hard to imagine that someone may not be getting your texts simply because… they don’t have their phone with them and they haven’t been checking it.

Maybe he shuts his phone off over the weekends to give himself some time off, maybe he goes hiking for days at a time and he doesn’t check his phone, or maybe he’s just not that attached to it, in general, and only checks it from time to time. You may not have to take his silence personally.

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He’s Just Busy

Have you considered the possibility that he might just be busy? We all have a million things to do at any given time, and truth be told, he might just not have time to chat. His job factors majorly into this, as well. Does he have a career with crazy-long hours, in a hospital? Does he work weird shifts? Does he work night shifts? That may be coming in between him and his desire to talk to you.

Cut him a little slack and see what happens. Especially if you’ve only just met, there are a million things that can serve as perfectly reasonable explanations for why he isn’t talking to you that much; you just haven’t discovered them yet. Don’t write him off as Not Interested just yet.

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He’s Playing Games

If he’s come across some crappy pick-up artist’s advice, then he may be toying with you and playing hard-to-get in an effort to get you to chase after him and want him more, supposedly because rejection and silence drives you crazy. That’s not only cruel and insulting, it’s also ineffective.

If that is, indeed, what he is doing, then there are a million reasons to just let him be, because this man is not serious about being in a mature, adult, healthy relationship. Cat-and-mouse games are for little boys who do not have the emotional maturity to come out and say that they like you and would like to further explore your connection. Instead, they rely on silly mind games. You’re better off without him. Next!

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He Has A Girlfriend

Pay attention to his absences – does he just stop responding for several days at a time, on a regular basis? Does he only text you at weird hours? Does he block you, only to pretend later that his phone is acting up? That could indicate that there is another girl in the picture, or maybe several, depending on how much of a playboy he is. It might even be a steady girlfriend who is spending time at his place, thus rendering him unable to talk to you.

If you smell a two-timer, it goes without saying that it’s better to stay away, because it won’t end well. But give him a chance to explain first, and don’t accuse him of anything; you can do some subtle fishing for answers, instead, and digging for information on his social media or among his friends.

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He’s Just Not That Into You

This is a very likely outcome… and one that you won’t want to hear. But maybe his absence means he just doesn’t like you that much. Or maybe you even misinterpreted his attention. A lot of women have an unfortunate tendency to focus on what a relationship could be, instead of what it is. And when that happens, you start having expectations.

This could turn into a serious relationship, so you expect constant contact. Meanwhile, in his mind, you’re just an attractive girl he’s been talking to, but he knows he’s not looking for anything right now, so he’s not pursuing it further. If you text him once or twice and he’s not replying, especially if you see he’s active on social media, then resign yourself to the idea that it’s not going to happen. He is letting you down easy, so he won’t embarrass you or hurt your feelings.

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He’s Away For A Few Days

As much as we rely on our phones, they are not infallible, and once in a while you will encounter the occasional area with spotty reception, no Wi-Fi, etc. And that may be exactly what he is experiencing. Maybe he’s on vacation, on a business trip, away visiting family, out of the country, etc. Wherever he is, he may not be able to reliably contact you, so you’ll have to wait for a few days.

Of course, if you’re far enough into the relationship, he will have hopefully told you that he’s going away, but hey, sometimes things happen unexpectedly. Or maybe you’re still getting to know each other and you’re not yet at the stage where you let each other know about these things. Don’t panic yet.

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What To Do About It

Okay, he has not texted in three days, and you are not the woman to sit around waiting, oh no. You are the type to take matters into your own hands and do something about it. And sure, you can.


Maybe twice.

But no more, because then you can’t win. If you’ve noticed he’s been absent, you can send a text to say hello and give him a chance to respond. After a few more days of silence, you can send a second one to see what’s up.

However, if you haven’t received an answer at all, then it’s time to stop and face the music. He is probably not busy, and he is probably not having a technology detox. The most likely outcome is that he is either not interested, or he’s flaky. Or he’s taken. No matter what the reason is, the point is that he is not interested, and the only thing you can do is accept it.

In fact, even if he does deign to show up after a few days, if this is a pattern for him, then he is not serious about you, and you deserve someone who is. Instead of being hung up on him, why not keep your heart open for someone who is reliable and won’t keep you waiting? Let this lothario play with someone else’s heart.

This article goes over how his texting habits relate to his interest in you, now in any relationship I’ve found there are 2 pivotal moments that determine if your relationship ends in heartbreak or you get to live happily ever after so it’s vitally important that you take the next step and read this right now, because at some point the man you want is going to ask himself: Is this the woman I should commit to for the long term? That answer determines everything… Do you know how men determine if a woman is girlfriend material (the type of woman he commits himself to) or if he sees you as just a fling? If not you need to read this next: The #1 Thing Men Desire In A Woman…

The second problem almost all women experience: At some point he starts to lose interest. He doesn’t call you back or he becomes emotionally closed off. He seems like he’s losing interest or pulling away – do you know what to do? If not you’re putting your relationship and the future of your love life in great danger, read this now or risk losing him forever: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…

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In summary…

He wants you to text first

He’s not glued to his phone

He’s just busy

He’s playing games

He has a girlfriend

He’s just not that into you

He’s away for a few days

he doesnt call or text for days what it means to do

10 comments… add one
  • meg September 24, 2018, 7:39 pm

    this may mean a lot of different things. he can just be busy with work or important stuff. but it can also be as bad as having a new interest of even a girlfriend already.

  • gemma September 21, 2018, 6:29 pm

    here is my opinion. if a guy doesn’t text or call you for days, he might be genuinely busy or he thinks things are getting too serious for him. i know that these reasons don’t make sense but dudes can be weird sometimes, right?

  • charice September 20, 2018, 6:19 pm

    this is a good read but when you’re in the situation, it is terrible and it makes you go crazy thinking about all sorts of nasty things. it happened to me and i was a mess.

  • valentina September 19, 2018, 5:34 pm

    i like this guy and he seems to like me too. i text him but he doesn’t text me! now what?! i don’t want to think that he is one of the heartless bastards out there. i am very much disappointed with myself for hoping that i would get a reply from him.

  • michelle September 18, 2018, 1:57 pm

    most of men i know are not really glued to their phones. that might be just the reason why. always ask nicely and don’t overthink at once.

  • sade September 17, 2018, 6:14 pm

    it always drives me crazy when my man doesn’t call for days and i don’t know what can i do about it. this article gave me some insight and it helped me understand men better when it comes to this matter.

  • sienna September 15, 2018, 8:27 am

    if it’s been days and he doesn’t still call or even text you, consider him just playing games. as sad as it can be, you cannot do anything about it if that’s the case.

  • jessica September 13, 2018, 1:33 pm

    it is true that once in a while we encounter the occasional area with no Wi-Fi and a spotty connection. this is why i do not panic when my guy doesn’t text or call me. this is one of the things i consider.

  • martha September 12, 2018, 4:44 pm

    i wouldn’t be able to keep calm if this happens to me ever! i couldn’t even handle hours. but thanks for writing this, i will definitely keep this in mind.

  • valerie September 10, 2018, 7:16 pm

    i would agree that not every guy will be eager to make the first step. this is the reason why i always make the first move in our relationship. i was always the first to text him, the one who plans everything because he was super busy with his work.

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