Why breaking up for guys is hard to do!

Why breaking up for guys is hard to do!

So you’ve found someone that swept you off your feet, but you are having second thoughts about the relationship. Why are you over analyzing your new found relationship? Don’t you remember what happened to you the last time you started down this road where you asked very few questions, or worst agreed with everything the other person was saying because it sort of felt right at the time. This is always the process men find themselves in and worse, they talk themselves out of a good relationship before they can truly see where things are going.

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After the first day of a breakup you kind of talk yourself through it as if it was best for both of you that the relationship ended. But why is your relationship truly over? Yes, things were going a little too fast and sure you had no time to react but now you are alone, by yourself, a single man once again looking for love all because you could not make it to the next level in the relationship. You find yourself day after day and night after night trying to remember the bad things during the relationship in hopes that you are not an emotional wreck, and yes many men become an emotional wreck trying to gather their balls and honor like nothing is wrong.

Why Breaking Up Is Hard For Guys To Do

Face it, you are feeling the loss and jumping into another relationship is not going to help you with your feelings. If you are really missing that person that you break up with, try calling and talking things out without becoming emotionally sensitive or worse acting as if you don’t care when you really do. Men take break ups hard and that’s for sure, they are no different than women. If they put their heart and soul into a relationship they can have many of the same emotional upsets that women have if they are not honest with themselves.

why breaking up is hard for guys to do

  • Sadness
  • Anger
  • Fear
  • Rejection
  • Loneliness

At the end of the day if you are a man who loves with his heart and you find yourself in a breakup, try not to allow it to break you apart, the relationship may not be truly over if you don’t have closure.

About the Author

Johanna Sparrow, has been writing for over 17 years and has published a variety of books from children’s books to self-help books dealing with relationship, personal growth and conflict issues. She uses her expertise, knowledge and experience on a system she’s created and used over the years dating back as far as 1995 in improving relationship issues, called the (hbccr)© Heart Bruised Conscious Connection

Renewal codes which we either have or don’t have inside of us.

In 2015 Johanna Sparrow will release for the first time her powerful and inspiring hbccr system she’s created for the rest of the world in hopes that we all can find a common goal or ground within our daily connections. She has researched and studied over the years connections between human to human and human to nature interactions in which she concluded in her research how understanding ones connections and disconnections in life is the essential step code and laws for love, happiness and tragedy, governing and guiding us in becoming life’s greatest or worse creation to ever exist.

You can check her out on her website at www.johannasparrow.com and also on Amazon.

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63 comments… add one
  • Mechie December 22, 2016, 5:57 pm

    Hi I was on here reading trying to find out if my ex was feeling the same pain and confusion I’m feeling..we broke up cause he kelp on cheating on me then denying it..after 2 years today was the day I packed his clothes..and I did it because he told me last night that (get this) I’m going to Madison Wisconsin to help a friend of mine (female) put her Christmas tree up and clean her house cause her ex boyfriend broke her arm! (Really dude) ..mind you Christmas is in two days!! Not to mention she has two older kids..I told him if you leave pack all your things and take them with you and don’t come back..Welp he left anyway without his clothes..so later that night I packed all of them now waiting for him to come take them..and since he left I haven’t heard from.

  • Derrick osei July 16, 2016, 8:29 am

    i felt so rejected and lonely when i broke up with her and the most annoying thing is i still think about her..omg

  • Aditya December 29, 2015, 1:28 am

    But she left me 4 another boy who happens to be a mutual frnd saying he is better than me and dont mess up my life

  • Bobby Bryan November 28, 2015, 9:34 am

    This is very good advice. I generally have taken breakups well. The ones that were harder happened to be the ones that were 2-3 years long. That is a lot of time to put in.

    • Johanna Sparrow November 28, 2015, 10:00 am

      Thank you, Bobby!

  • Stephanie Holland November 26, 2015, 10:03 am

    Breaking up is hard to do because it just is. You have put blood, sweat and tears into someone and then it all stops. Your body and soul should NOT be able to handle that at first.

    • Johanna Sparrow November 27, 2015, 7:54 am

      This is true Stephanie, Thank you.

  • Aline Talton November 25, 2015, 9:36 am

    Yeah, right. My b/f had no issue asking out a friend of mine after I broke up with him. That sucked!

    • Johanna Sparrow November 25, 2015, 9:39 am

      Hi Aline, if a guy put his heart and soul into a realionship he will hurt and if he does not for whatever reason he will have no problem moving on like nothing happened. Thank you

  • Diane Ashley November 24, 2015, 9:49 am

    It must take a lot for a guy to take a breakup hard. They are usually “so tough”.

    • Johanna Sparrow November 25, 2015, 9:11 am

      Thank you, Diane

  • Debra Oram November 24, 2015, 9:39 am

    I agree that a major part of a breakup is having that closure that you are talking about. If you do not have that, then it seems like there is always something there and that is never a good thing if you are planning to move on.

    • Johanna Sparrow November 25, 2015, 9:11 am

      Thank you Debra!

    • Bonnie Damron November 28, 2015, 9:44 am

      That is one thing that seems to be missing from my last relationship. There was never really any closure, it just ended and left me with a TON of questions. How do I move on from that?

      • Johanna Sparrow November 28, 2015, 10:04 am

        Hi Bonnie, you move on by looking at who made the choice to move on. If it was the other person and they never tried to talk about the breakup you must take it as, you gave more of your heart and soul and they took. If it was you, you need to figure out what caused you to not take the relationship to the next level, honesty is what will get you past needing closure. Thank you

  • Danita Faison November 23, 2015, 7:39 am

    Well, it is a hard thing to deal with. I would imagine that most men feel they are failing and that is never good.

    • Johanna Sparrow November 23, 2015, 5:47 pm

      Hi Danita, it’s never good feel you are failing. Thank you!

  • Shirley Brown November 20, 2015, 9:18 am

    I took a break up quite hard at one point. It took awhile, but I was able to get through it with friends at my side. I would hope this goes the same for a man that has dealt with heartbreak.

    • Johanna Sparrow November 20, 2015, 9:28 am

      Hi Shirley, I am sure many have the support they need. Like with anything, if a person is private, they may not share how they feel and suffer the heartbreak in silence. Thank you

  • Amy Harvey November 19, 2015, 9:21 pm

    The article says very good things. It also shows that men are humans, too and even though they seem to be the tough guy and take things better than most, they are hurt on the inside.

    • Johanna Sparrow November 20, 2015, 9:25 am

      Yes, it does Amy. This is the message that many don’t understand because the focus is on that person action. Their actions is only a distraction from what’s really going on inside. Thank you!

    • Sheryl Cryer November 25, 2015, 9:45 am

      Very good point, Amy. I agree with you that this is a good article and one worth sharing with others.

    • Theresa Ashley November 26, 2015, 10:13 am

      Exactly. To assume they are not hurt by a breakup is just not right.

  • Mary Feliciano November 18, 2015, 11:59 am

    WOW, this is a great article, Johanna. You really made me think about things in a different way. Thank you for that.

    • Johanna Sparrow November 19, 2015, 8:02 pm

      Hi Mary, I am happy to help. Thank you!

    • Donald Perry November 20, 2015, 9:28 am

      From a guys point of view, this post is very good. You make solid points and even though most of the commenters are woman, I feel you hit the nail right on the head about men and breakups.

      • Johanna Sparrow November 23, 2015, 5:48 pm

        Thank you, Donald.

  • Cindy Figueroa November 18, 2015, 11:50 am

    If I end it with a guy, I expect that he is not going to take it well. I am very loyal and if they broke that, there will be a break up and he should know that he was the cause.

    • Johanna Sparrow November 19, 2015, 8:01 pm

      This may be true, Cindy. We are talking about emotions, just because something is over does not mean everyone in the relationship knows how to cut off their feelings and move on! Thank you

  • Sabrina Petty November 17, 2015, 8:23 am

    I never really found it hard to break up with a guy. If there is a reason, then the only way to be true to myself is to end it because of that.

    • Johanna Sparrow November 19, 2015, 7:59 pm

      Right Sabrina, for some guys the letting go process if they put their heart and soul into the relationship is not that cut and dry! Thank you

      • Nelson Welty November 23, 2015, 7:50 am

        This is what was so hard for me. I felt like I put so much into the relationship and then all of a sudden it seemed like it was over.

        • Johanna Sparrow November 23, 2015, 5:50 pm

          Hi Nelson, when it’s over it hurts alot especially when you have put so much of yourself and time into making it work!

  • Dorothy Munoz November 17, 2015, 8:10 am

    I can understand this. Men are going to take the breakup just as hard and maybe it comes down to trying to decide what they did, how they could have changed or things like that.

    • Johanna Sparrow November 19, 2015, 7:58 pm

      That’s correct, Dorothy. Thank you!

      • Pamela Castillo November 19, 2015, 9:10 pm

        You make some good points here Johanna. Great article!

        • Johanna Sparrow November 23, 2015, 5:50 pm

          Thank you Pamela

  • Tracy Carl November 16, 2015, 9:03 am

    Breaking up is hard to do, I think that applies on both sides. How that hard part is shown is where the difference comes into play.

    • Johanna Sparrow November 16, 2015, 9:23 am

      Hi Tracy, Yes it is hard and some men fall short on expressing their feelings after a break up. At the end of the day some men understand what they have to do while others run and hide. Thank you!

  • Ashley Alexander November 16, 2015, 8:54 am

    I feel bad for men that do not feel the same as woman after a bad break up. They are lacking something, don’t you think?

    • Johanna Sparrow November 16, 2015, 9:20 am

      Hello Ashley, Yes they are lacking something and many times its dealing with commitment issues. Thank you!

  • Jennifer McManus November 14, 2015, 9:18 pm

    I am not sure I ever really thought about any guy that I broke up with. It was usually just about me :)

    • Johanna Sparrow November 14, 2015, 10:15 pm

      That may be the case but this article is dealing with guys who put their heart and soul into their relationship. Thank you.

  • Helen Posey November 14, 2015, 4:51 pm

    Most of the men I know run right to another woman after a breakup. Doesn’t seem like they are taking it too hard.

    • Johanna Sparrow November 14, 2015, 6:31 pm

      Yes, Helen and many do so to cover up their feelings. If you notice they are out of that relationship within days, weeks or a month. Thank you

  • Sedrick Watkins November 12, 2015, 7:22 pm

    Great article

    • Johanna Sparrow November 12, 2015, 7:23 pm

      Thank you Sedrick!

  • John Jenkins November 12, 2015, 7:12 pm

    This is a great article, that will help out a lot of guys that go through that situation.

    • Johanna Sparrow November 12, 2015, 7:13 pm

      Thank you John!

  • Daria Jorgensen November 12, 2015, 9:51 am

    Great article. Thank you for posting about this real topic1

    • Johanna Sparrow November 12, 2015, 5:01 pm

      Thank you, Daria!

  • Odessa Bell November 12, 2015, 9:41 am

    It would be foolish to think that some guys don’t take a breakup as hard as woman.

    • Johanna Sparrow November 12, 2015, 5:04 pm

      Thank you, Odessaa! Many times men who don’t like to show emotion tend to have a harder time with breakups behind closed doors.

  • Reginald Rembert November 11, 2015, 7:15 pm

    Excellent. Article…. Straight. To.the.point..

    • Johanna Sparrow November 11, 2015, 8:25 pm

      Thank you Reginald

  • Marie Nixon November 11, 2015, 8:31 am

    Most of us do not really think about how the guy feels. Is that because most of the time they are breaking up with US, or they are causing the reason for the break up?

    • Johanna Sparrow November 11, 2015, 2:14 pm

      Hi Marie, many times a guy is in the mindset of ending the relationship, and not really focusing on their feelings or how they truly feel inside. It does not hit them until the damage is done! Thank you

  • Bob Williams November 10, 2015, 1:55 pm

    This is a very good article, my son is going through stuff with his girlfriend and just can’t break up with her, this will help him out a lot, Thank you Johanna!

    • Johanna Sparrow November 10, 2015, 1:56 pm

      Thank you, Bob!

  • Kelly November 10, 2015, 1:53 pm

    This is what I am talking about nice article! I’ve been through this with a guy I was dating, they can take hard is true.

    • Johanna Sparrow November 10, 2015, 1:55 pm

      Yes, guys do take it hard if they put their heart into the relationship! Thank you!

      • Catherine Harvey November 11, 2015, 8:44 am

        Exactly. I have seen this happen with my brother. He felt he had everything he ever wanted and then his long time girlfriend cheated on him and that left him wondering how HE messed that up.

        • Johanna Sparrow November 11, 2015, 2:11 pm

          Thank you Catherine, I hope your brother is in a better place today!

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