So you’ve found someone that swept you off your feet, but you are having second thoughts about the relationship. Why are you over analyzing your new found relationship? Don’t you remember what happened to you the last time you started down this road where you asked very few questions, or worst agreed with everything the other person was saying because it sort of felt right at the time. This is always the process men find themselves in and worse, they talk themselves out of a good relationship before they can truly see where things are going.
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After the first day of a breakup you kind of talk yourself through it as if it was best for both of you that the relationship ended. But why is your relationship truly over? Yes, things were going a little too fast and sure you had no time to react but now you are alone, by yourself, a single man once again looking for love all because you could not make it to the next level in the relationship. You find yourself day after day and night after night trying to remember the bad things during the relationship in hopes that you are not an emotional wreck, and yes many men become an emotional wreck trying to gather their balls and honor like nothing is wrong.
Why Breaking Up Is Hard For Guys To Do
Face it, you are feeling the loss and jumping into another relationship is not going to help you with your feelings. If you are really missing that person that you break up with, try calling and talking things out without becoming emotionally sensitive or worse acting as if you don’t care when you really do. Men take break ups hard and that’s for sure, they are no different than women. If they put their heart and soul into a relationship they can have many of the same emotional upsets that women have if they are not honest with themselves.
At the end of the day if you are a man who loves with his heart and you find yourself in a breakup, try not to allow it to break you apart, the relationship may not be truly over if you don’t have closure.
About the Author
Johanna Sparrow, has been writing for over 17 years and has published a variety of books from children’s books to self-help books dealing with relationship, personal growth and conflict issues. She uses her expertise, knowledge and experience on a system she’s created and used over the years dating back as far as 1995 in improving relationship issues, called the (hbccr)© Heart Bruised Conscious Connection
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In 2015 Johanna Sparrow will release for the first time her powerful and inspiring hbccr system she’s created for the rest of the world in hopes that we all can find a common goal or ground within our daily connections. She has researched and studied over the years connections between human to human and human to nature interactions in which she concluded in her research how understanding ones connections and disconnections in life is the essential step code and laws for love, happiness and tragedy, governing and guiding us in becoming life’s greatest or worse creation to ever exist.
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Hi I was on here reading trying to find out if my ex was feeling the same pain and confusion I’m feeling..we broke up cause he kelp on cheating on me then denying it..after 2 years today was the day I packed his clothes..and I did it because he told me last night that (get this) I’m going to Madison Wisconsin to help a friend of mine (female) put her Christmas tree up and clean her house cause her ex boyfriend broke her arm! (Really dude) ..mind you Christmas is in two days!! Not to mention she has two older kids..I told him if you leave pack all your things and take them with you and don’t come back..Welp he left anyway without his clothes..so later that night I packed all of them now waiting for him to come take them..and since he left I haven’t heard from.
i felt so rejected and lonely when i broke up with her and the most annoying thing is i still think about her..omg
But she left me 4 another boy who happens to be a mutual frnd saying he is better than me and dont mess up my life
This is very good advice. I generally have taken breakups well. The ones that were harder happened to be the ones that were 2-3 years long. That is a lot of time to put in.
Thank you, Bobby!
Breaking up is hard to do because it just is. You have put blood, sweat and tears into someone and then it all stops. Your body and soul should NOT be able to handle that at first.
This is true Stephanie, Thank you.
Yeah, right. My b/f had no issue asking out a friend of mine after I broke up with him. That sucked!
Hi Aline, if a guy put his heart and soul into a realionship he will hurt and if he does not for whatever reason he will have no problem moving on like nothing happened. Thank you
It must take a lot for a guy to take a breakup hard. They are usually “so tough”.
Thank you, Diane
I agree that a major part of a breakup is having that closure that you are talking about. If you do not have that, then it seems like there is always something there and that is never a good thing if you are planning to move on.
Thank you Debra!
That is one thing that seems to be missing from my last relationship. There was never really any closure, it just ended and left me with a TON of questions. How do I move on from that?
Hi Bonnie, you move on by looking at who made the choice to move on. If it was the other person and they never tried to talk about the breakup you must take it as, you gave more of your heart and soul and they took. If it was you, you need to figure out what caused you to not take the relationship to the next level, honesty is what will get you past needing closure. Thank you
Well, it is a hard thing to deal with. I would imagine that most men feel they are failing and that is never good.
Hi Danita, it’s never good feel you are failing. Thank you!
I took a break up quite hard at one point. It took awhile, but I was able to get through it with friends at my side. I would hope this goes the same for a man that has dealt with heartbreak.
Hi Shirley, I am sure many have the support they need. Like with anything, if a person is private, they may not share how they feel and suffer the heartbreak in silence. Thank you
The article says very good things. It also shows that men are humans, too and even though they seem to be the tough guy and take things better than most, they are hurt on the inside.
Yes, it does Amy. This is the message that many don’t understand because the focus is on that person action. Their actions is only a distraction from what’s really going on inside. Thank you!
Very good point, Amy. I agree with you that this is a good article and one worth sharing with others.
Exactly. To assume they are not hurt by a breakup is just not right.
WOW, this is a great article, Johanna. You really made me think about things in a different way. Thank you for that.
Hi Mary, I am happy to help. Thank you!
From a guys point of view, this post is very good. You make solid points and even though most of the commenters are woman, I feel you hit the nail right on the head about men and breakups.
Thank you, Donald.
If I end it with a guy, I expect that he is not going to take it well. I am very loyal and if they broke that, there will be a break up and he should know that he was the cause.
This may be true, Cindy. We are talking about emotions, just because something is over does not mean everyone in the relationship knows how to cut off their feelings and move on! Thank you
I never really found it hard to break up with a guy. If there is a reason, then the only way to be true to myself is to end it because of that.
Right Sabrina, for some guys the letting go process if they put their heart and soul into the relationship is not that cut and dry! Thank you
This is what was so hard for me. I felt like I put so much into the relationship and then all of a sudden it seemed like it was over.
Hi Nelson, when it’s over it hurts alot especially when you have put so much of yourself and time into making it work!
I can understand this. Men are going to take the breakup just as hard and maybe it comes down to trying to decide what they did, how they could have changed or things like that.
That’s correct, Dorothy. Thank you!
You make some good points here Johanna. Great article!
Thank you Pamela
Breaking up is hard to do, I think that applies on both sides. How that hard part is shown is where the difference comes into play.
Hi Tracy, Yes it is hard and some men fall short on expressing their feelings after a break up. At the end of the day some men understand what they have to do while others run and hide. Thank you!
I feel bad for men that do not feel the same as woman after a bad break up. They are lacking something, don’t you think?
Hello Ashley, Yes they are lacking something and many times its dealing with commitment issues. Thank you!
I am not sure I ever really thought about any guy that I broke up with. It was usually just about me :)
That may be the case but this article is dealing with guys who put their heart and soul into their relationship. Thank you.
Most of the men I know run right to another woman after a breakup. Doesn’t seem like they are taking it too hard.
Yes, Helen and many do so to cover up their feelings. If you notice they are out of that relationship within days, weeks or a month. Thank you
Thank you Sedrick!
This is a great article, that will help out a lot of guys that go through that situation.
Thank you John!
Great article. Thank you for posting about this real topic1
Thank you, Daria!
It would be foolish to think that some guys don’t take a breakup as hard as woman.
Thank you, Odessaa! Many times men who don’t like to show emotion tend to have a harder time with breakups behind closed doors.
Excellent. Article…. Straight. To.the.point..
Thank you Reginald
Most of us do not really think about how the guy feels. Is that because most of the time they are breaking up with US, or they are causing the reason for the break up?
Hi Marie, many times a guy is in the mindset of ending the relationship, and not really focusing on their feelings or how they truly feel inside. It does not hit them until the damage is done! Thank you
This is a very good article, my son is going through stuff with his girlfriend and just can’t break up with her, this will help him out a lot, Thank you Johanna!
Thank you, Bob!
This is what I am talking about nice article! I’ve been through this with a guy I was dating, they can take hard is true.
Yes, guys do take it hard if they put their heart into the relationship! Thank you!
Exactly. I have seen this happen with my brother. He felt he had everything he ever wanted and then his long time girlfriend cheated on him and that left him wondering how HE messed that up.
Thank you Catherine, I hope your brother is in a better place today!