So you want to know how to get a guy to like you.
Maybe you have a huge crush on him and you want him to want you back. Maybe you’ve been friends and you caught feelings – and you want to make sure he feels the same way.
Maybe you’re just into him, and you want to make him like you.
So how do you do that?
Fortunately, the answer is simpler than you might think.
I’m going to take you through the 8 best ways to make a guy like you. When you put this list into action in your life, it will definitely give you the best chance of snaring his attention and desire.
Are you ready? Let’s jump right into it.
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The 8 Best Ways To Make A Guy Like You
1. Get Him Talking About His Passions
Do you have anything in your life that when you’re asked about it, you just absolutely light up?
A topic or interest or hobby that you can’t get enough of.That you love talking about. That you could talk to anyone for hours and hours on.
That’s a passion of yours. And it feels good to talk about it, right?
It feels just as good for him to talk about his passions.
A running theme in this article is going to be that when you feel good around someone, you want to be around them more.
It’s simple, but it’s the underlying basis for all attraction. If he feels good around you, he’s going to want to be around you more, and he’s going to become more and more attracted to you.
So the better that he feels when he’s with you, the more he’s going to want to spend time with you.
That’s where giving him space to talk about his passions comes in. It feels great to talk about the things you love doing, so when you give him an opportunity to do that he will light up around you (and want to spend more time around you too).
This is another great opportunity for you too. When you get a guy talking about what really lights him up inside, it gives you a pretty strong glimpse inside who he really is. So if he’s going on and on about something he really cares about and you’re starting to zone out, that’s a huge sign that you might not like him as much as you thought after all.
But if his passions line up with your passions? Watch out. Fireworks.
2. Be Open About The Things You Love With Him
This ties directly into what I was just saying before. When you share the things you love with him, it lights you up inside. You feel great doing it.
And when you feel great, the people around you can’t help but feel great as well. It’s contagious. They share your passion and your enthusiasm.
So don’t be afraid to share what you’re really passionate about with him. When you do that, you’re giving him a glimpse at your most authentic self (and if he’s attracted to that, he’ll start to really, really like you really, really quickly).
Plus, you’ll feel great, which will make him feel great, which will make him want to be around you more, like we already talked about.
3. Don’t Be Afraid To Flirt With Him
Let me let you in on a secret you probably already know: lots of guys are oblivious.
I mean they wouldn’t know that a woman was into them if she dropped the biggest hint onto his face.
So a lot of the time, playing it cool around him is only going to set you back. Why? Because lots of guys don’t start thinking of a woman romantically unless they realize she’s interested in them.
So don’t be afraid to flirt with him! You’ll get the sparks flowing, get him thinking about you in a ‘more than friendly’ kind of way, and you’ll see what kind of connection you two have.
4. Body Contact Works Wonders
This goes hand in hand with flirting.
Breaking the skin to skin barrier and touching him is a great way to stoke his desire and get him thinking about you in a more intimate way.
When you touch him, you’re letting him know you’re comfortable around him – and that you want to touch him. To any guy who’s into women, that’s a huge sign that he should perk up and reciprocate.
So don’t be afraid to touch him on the arm if he makes you laugh or otherwise take any excuse to put your hands on him.
It will make him want to return the favor.
5. Make Sure To Look Your Best
So far, we’ve focused on a lot of psychological/flirting ways to get him to like you.
But one that I’d be wrong to skip is the visual aspect of attraction.
It’s been written over and over and over again, and that doesn’t make it any less true: guys are very visual creatures. Many men become attracted through their eyes first.
So if you want to make him like you, be sure to look your best. I’m not asking you to do the impossible, and I’m also not saying you have to look like a model – far from it.
What I’m saying is that a guy is going to notice if you put effort into your appearance, no matter what you look like. As long as you put in your best effort, it’s more than good enough, and it’s more than enough to make him sit up and notice.
6. Live Your Own Life Outside Of His Orbit
When you’re really into a guy, it’s tempting to want to drop everything for the chance to hang out with him.
But that’s not how attraction works. Both men and women are attracted to people who seem like they have their lives together – and who seem like they have a lot going on that makes them happy.
So cancelling plans at the drop of a hat because your phone buzzes and it’s him? Not the best strategy to get him to like you.
Instead, focus on enjoying your life – even the parts of it that he’s not in. Spend time with your friends and doing the things you love to do, and don’t cancel plans just for the chance to hang out with him.
The fact that you have your own life will make him like you more.
7. Don’t Commit To Him If He Hasn’t With You
This applies more if you have something casual with him and you want it to get a little more serious, so you’re hoping to get him to like you more and more.
But it’s a good rule to remember no matter what and it can be applied to most any situation with a guy.
Simply stated, the rule is to be exactly as committed to him as he is to you.
If he isn’t exclusive with you, you’re not exclusive with him and you’re both free to see other people.
If he’s wishy washy about plans with you, then you are not locked into those plans and you’re free to make whatever other plans you want.
It’s all about putting your self-respect and your well being ahead of trying to do everything in your power to appease him. It’s about showing him that you have your own life, and that if he wants to be with you, he has to step up, or else you’re going to be somewhere else with someone else.
If he realizes that you’re not a sure thing – that he has to step up if he wants to be with you, it will instantly make him much more serious about pursuing you.
8. Try To Be As Relaxed, Comfortable, And Happy As You Can Be When You’re Together
We talked about this at the top of the article, but it bears repeating because it’s so important.
People like to be around other people that make them feel good. It feels good to be around someone who’s happy, relaxed, and comfortable – just like it feels bad to be around someone who’s irritable, uncomfortable, and on edge.
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If you want him to like being around you (which will make him like you), then you want him to feel good around you. The easiest way to do that is to focus on your mood and make sure you’re as relaxed, happy, and comfortable around him as you can be.
That way, he’ll feel good around you and want to be around you more, and like you more and more all the time.
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The 8 Best Ways To Make Him Like You
- Get him talking about his passions.
- Be open about the things you love with him.
- Don’t be afraid to flirt with him.
- Body contact works wonders.
- Make sure to look your best.
- Live your own life outside of his orbit.
- Don’t commit to him if he hasn’t with you.
- Try to be as relaxed, comfortable, and happy as you can be when you’re together.