Today I want to share with you a very valuable asset in any relationship, especially when you feel like a guy is losing interest in you. I’ll reveal the secrets to turn things around and make him think he’s losing you.
The steps I share will help wake him up to just how valuable having are to him so that he finally realizes what he has with you.
You’ll want to pay close attention as I cover the #1 mistake women make in relationships that causes men to take them for granted, stop putting in effort and not treat them like a priority in their life.
If you want to learn how to make him realize he’s losing you so he starts putting in the effort and treating you with priority, enthusiasm and respect, read on for the clear signs he thinks he’s losing you.
Why Make Him Feel Like He’s Losing You?
Now, the question is, why would you want to make a man feel like he’s losing you? When you put him in this position, you learn if he was ever going to reach for you and now is the time that it will happen.
If you don’t make him feel that he actually could lose you, he will take you for granted.
So how do you make him see you as someone he’s going to lose, how to make him realize he needs you, and how to make him regret taking you for granted?
First of all, you stop showing him that you’ll accept a relationship dynamic that isn’t what you want. Second, you spruce up your life. And finally, you generate what I call “Walking Power”.
1: Stop Demonstrating You’ll Settle
The #1 mistake women make is going along with what you aren’t satisfied with in the hopes he changes one day. Men end up pulling away when you give them everything without him having to give anything back in return.
The simple fact is that you are technically single until you are not. If you’re already acting like his committed girlfriend, then there’s no reason for him to invest any more than he already is (or in this case, isn’t).
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It shows him that you’re not going anywhere any time soon and there’s no real chance of him losing you. If you don’t say no to what you don’t want, he will interpret it that you’re willing to accept anything.
On the other hand, when you have a standard of what you want, you stop giving it your all without him putting in effort on his side as well. He has to step up or risk losing you.
You have to be willing to say “No” to what you don’t want and only then will you discover if the person is actually willing to give you what you want. You will either discover that he doesn’t want to lose you and he is willing to have the kind of relationship you really want or you’ll discover that he’s OK with losing you…
Obviously the second scenario is disappointing, but in truth it’s still ultimately a good thing. If you discover a guy is unwilling to have the kind of relationship you want to the point where he’s OK with losing you, that’s something you want to know ASAP. It shows you clearly he was never, ever going to come around in the way you really wanted.
We often make the mistake of saying yes to what we don’t want because we are unwilling or afraid to lose something. However, the truth (that most women learn the hard way) is that saying yes to what you don’t want turns out being the more painful option in the long run and wastes a LOT of time as well.
When you develop the wisdom of knowing to say “NO” to what you don’t want is a huge gift in your love life and life in general. It cuts out the time-wasters and instead leaves you open for the right guy to come along with the relationship you truly desire.
Ultimately this step is simple: don’t say yes to a relationship dynamic that you don’t want. Say no and understand that sometimes the other person isn’t willing to compromise or make it work. Sometimes he has to lose you to realize what he had but by that point you will have already been moved on to better things.
The Key To An Easy Relationship
Now, I want to make one point very clear here. There is ultimately ONE thing that determines if your love life is easy, amazing, and perfect. Or, if this isn’t present in your life, it can lead to problems that otherwise wouldn’t exist.
When you don’t have this secret key in your love life, you will feel like something is missing, you have a constant fear of losing him, everything is confusing and you don’t know how to hold on to him or get the kind of relationship you really want.
The key is to have the right perspective in your love life. When you understand this and have the right perspective, everything becomes crystal clear and makes perfect sense.
You will understand what’s going on in his mind (and oftentimes even better than he understands himself!). You find that it’s easy to spot issues and you intuitively feel that you know exactly what to do in any situation. You naturally do the right thing when you need to.
Your love life just WORKS. You don’t have to think about it, you don’t worry about it, it all makes sense and you’re beyond happy with it.
2: Spruce Up Your Life
What do I mean by this? I’ll explain in just a moment. The important thing about this step is that it gives off an attractive vibe and reels a guy in (or back in if he’s losing interest).
It’s as simple as focusing on yourself and living a full life. This means that you’re happy with yourself, what you’re doing, and giving off a positive energy that attracts men because you’re enjoying your life.
It’s a mistake to think that relationships are supposed to make us happy or even can make us happy. We all need to learn how to be and live happily on our own, even when we’re in a relationship.
You can’t expect anyone else to be able to “make” you happy if you don’t first do it for yourself. The best thing you can do for your love life is learn to be awesome at making yourself happy, keeping yourself inspired, entertaining yourself.
This is called emotionally self-sufficient. I’ll be honest with you, I get bored really easily so this is something I’ve learned to do very well. I have taught myself to be entertained and seek out my own enjoyment rather than relying on it from other people.
This is an incredibly powerful step in becoming the type of woman who naturally attracts men and who they come crawling back to when a man realizes he lost a good woman.
Think about it this way, if you’re miserable in your own life, why would someone be interested in that if you’re not even interested in yourself? The magnetic energy that attracts men is being happy with yourself, relaxed, carefree, and just loving life.
Focus on living life to the fullest doing things that light you up and inspire you. Whether it’s working out, learning a skill, following a hobby, whatever. It doesn’t matter as long as you’re enjoying it and you find it interesting. That energy and enthusiasm will seep into every interaction and people will naturally gravitate to you.
3: Walking Power
The final step to make him realize he needs you, is to have Walking Power.
If you don’t have walking power, he feels and assumes that you’re going to be around forever and that leads to him taking you for granted.
On the other hand, when you have walking power, it forces him to chase you down and lock you down if he truly doesn’t want to lose you out of his life.
Walking power means you are willing to walk away if he’s unwilling or unable to give you what you want. Instead of sticking around forever hoping and wishing for things to change or for you to somehow get him to “come around” and make things the way you want, you say “No thanks. This isn’t what I want. Wish you the best” and you move on.
Instead of spiraling into feelings of fear and worry, you have a mindset of clarity, personal responsibility and what’s practical. You stop burning up your energy trying to keep things going, keep him interested and forcing things to work.
You stop acting as if ending this relationship would be the end of the world or the end of you.
So how do you do this? You withdraw your attention completely and pull back. Essentially, when he takes you for granted ignore him. You’re not being rude about it or putting on a ticked off attitude with him.
You’re simply letting him feel the reality that you have walking power and you’re not afraid to “lose” him because he doesn’t have you in the first place.
Part of walking power means that you keep your options open (assuming you’re not already in a clearly defined “official” relationship with him). This will activate his need to “lock you down” because now he fears losing you.
When he feels like “oh no, I could lose her to someone else. I didn’t realize how much she meant to me”, he springs into action. Note that this only happens if he was every truly interested. If he doesn’t take any action now, he never will which is a win for you because you will no longer waste your time on him.
Keep Your Options Open
The mistake many women make is closing off options because they think that shows a guy he’s special and therefore they are special and he should pick them. However, all this does is put pressure on him to define something with you and it comes off as desperate and needy when you act like a girlfriend before he’s reached that stage.
Men will lock you down only if they feel like they could lose you. Having that clarity and mindset of being single until he clearly locks you down will only make you more desirable in his eyes.
Now, how do you keep your options open? I don’t mean that you have to go out on dates all the time to show him “hey! I’m single! You better lock me down before one of these guys does!”
You simply leave open the possibility. If someone comes along and asks you out and you’re interested, go for it. Remember, you’re effectively single right now UNTIL you are 100% in a clear, committed relationship. No “it’s complicated”, no “casual”, etc. 100% clear commitment together.
Don’t “choose” him before he “chooses” you. That’s the winning perspective to have to make him think he has lost you in order to get him to step up (if he’s going to).
Remember, the next time you find yourself in a situation where the guy is losing interest or you’re afraid of losing him, these three steps will show you how to make a guy realize he lost you and take the actions necessary to win you or that he’s never going to step up in the first place.
It’s these pivotal moments that determine if your relationship ends in heartbreak or you get to live happily ever after so it’s vitally important that you take the next step and read this right now, because at some point the man you want is going to ask himself: Is this the woman I should commit to for the long term? That answer determines everything… Do you know how men determine if a woman is girlfriend material (the type of woman he commits himself to) or if he sees you as just a fling? If not you need to read this next: The #1 Thing Men Desire In A Woman…
The second problem almost all women experience: At some point he starts to lose interest. He doesn’t call you back or he becomes emotionally closed off. He seems like he’s losing interest or pulling away – do you know what to do? If not you’re putting your relationship and the future of your love life in great danger, read this now or risk losing him forever: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…
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- Stop demonstrating you’ll settle
- Have the right perspective in your love life
- Be emotionally self-sufficient
- Be prepared to walk away
- Keep your options open