Does He Secretly Love Me? 36 Sure Signs That a Guy Loves You Secretly

Does He Secretly Love Me? 36 Sure Signs That a Guy Loves You Secretly

Is he secretly confessing his love to you without you realizing it? If you think you may have captured his heart but he’s not saying it, look for these tell-tale signs he’s secretly in love with you.

Men can often have trouble expressing their emotions, not knowing how to express their feelings — especially when it comes to love.

This can be tricky, though, and can get confusing — especially when you start to get feelings for someone else but they’re still secretive about the way they’re feeling.

After all, love is very complicated and baffling sometimes which means we often need some support and guidance. It’s more than likely the guy you’re with loves you, especially if you two have been together for a while. However, for those who are just starting out and everything is new, you might not be so sure. We understand these insecurities you have and that’s why we have put together a list of 36 sure signs that a guy secretly loves you.

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Some of these signs are more direct and forward than others and all guys are different.

So as you get to know your particular guy more, you will begin to understand how he shows his love for you better. Take every day as it comes and make sure to note down some of these signs if you’re curious.

Here are the signs:

  1. He’s respectful – he may not directly say he respects you, but he definitely loves you if he shows how much respect he has through his actions. This could be by sending you flowers or texting you unexpectedly to say how much he cares.
  2. He remembers small details – it may be your mom’s birthday or even the anniversary of your first date. The smallest things always mean the most and guys know this. It is a way of them showing how much they secretly love you!
  3. He defends you – perhaps it might be when you’re not there and you aren’t aware of the situation, or it may be when something happens in public – it’s super attractive when guys defend you.
  4. He always wants to spend time with you – whether it’s movie night or a day at the beach – you’re the one he always wants to be with.
  5. He isn’t afraid to swallow his pride – yes, you’re sometimes right. Despite being a guy and not wanting to back down. He isn’t afraid to swallow his pride for you as he knows how much it means for you to be right.

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  1. He values your opinion – he may not like it or even agree with it, but he will still value your opinion when he’s in love with you.
  2. He gives you strong eye contact – love is all in the eyes as they say.
  3. He can’t stay mad – even if you’re completely in the wrong. He will have his time to be angry and then come straight back to you. You’re irresistible when a guy loves you.
  4. He holds your hand – this is a pretty open way of showing affection and after they do this, his secret love for you may not have to be a secret after all.
  5. He supports your decisions – thinking of going traveling for a few weeks? Or maybe you want to quit your job and start a new venture? He’s going to support your decisions, that’s how you’ll know he secretly loves you.

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  1. He includes you in conversations – even the ones you don’t particularly want to be in.
  2. He’s protective – and he always has to know you got home after you’ve been out, it’s just in his nature to check up on you.
  3. He has big dreams – not everyone wants to get married and have children, but when a guy shares his dreams and aspirations with you (and you’re in them!) then you can be sure he loves you.
  4. He acts like a gentleman – don’t worry, he’s got the door for you. When you’re his top priority, you always come first.
  5. He listens – all the time.

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  1. He tries his hardest – as all he wants to do is impress you, even if there are things he isn’t good at.
  2. He misses you – and he tells you!
  3. He feels your pain – but he also feels all your other emotions, so if you’re on top of the world he will be too.
  4. He holds and embraces you – close contact always feels the best with someone you love and guys really know this.
  5. He wants to know everything about you – he already knows all the best things about you, but he’s always digging for more details even if it’s the name of your 27th pet!

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  1. He keeps you updated – just on general stuff that happens in his everyday life.
  2. He helps when he can – and he doesn’t let you down when he’s promised you something either.
  3. He tries to fit in – with both your friends and family. It might be hard for him if he doesn’t have anything in common with them but you’re important, so he will try his best.
  4. He doesn’t break his promises – especially those pinkie promises.
  5. He doesn’t hesitate – if it’s going to make you happy or cheer you up, he won’t think twice about doing something for you.

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  1. He’s open with you – even if it’s something he’s embarrassed about. He knows you’ll understand what he’s going through and support him.
  2. He flatters you – compliments are a women’s best friend, there’s nothing better than being called beautiful or pretty. If he compliments you a lot then you can be sure he’s secretly loving you.
  3. He introduces you to his friends – guys love having time with their friends so you’re definitely a special lady if he’s introducing you to his main men.
  4. He has loving body language – and he loves cuddling on the sofa with you whenever he can.
  5. He doesn’t mention or look at other girls – why would he want to mention other girls when he secretly loves you? You’re his everything.

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  1. He smiles when he’s with you – when you’re with the person you love, a smile can say a thousand words especially when guys are involved.
  2. He’s active on your social media accounts – and he’ll be liking your new profile picture before you even have the chance to say anything!
  3. He is clumsy around you – guys are always super clumsy around the person they’re in love with, so if he’s tripping on his words it’s more than likely that he’s fallen for you.
  4. He asks you questions – because he must know everything about you, even things that don’t seem as though they matter.
  5. He touches you ‘accidentally’ – he may say sorry after it, but he’s probably dreaming about being close to you in his head.

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  1. He’ll call or text – and you’re more than likely the first person he speaks to when he wakes up and before he goes back to sleep.

Now in any relationship I’ve found there are 2 pivotal moments that determine if your relationship ends in heartbreak or you get to live happily ever after so it’s vitally important that you take the next step and read this right now, because at some point the man you want is going to ask himself: Is this the woman I should commit to for the long term? That answer determines everything… Do you know how men determine if a woman is girlfriend material (the type of woman he commits himself to) or if he sees you as just a fling? If not you need to read this next: The #1 Thing Men Desire In A Woman…

The second problem almost all women experience: At some point he starts to lose interest. He doesn’t call you back or he becomes emotionally closed off. He seems like he’s losing interest or pulling away – do you know what to do? If not you’re putting your relationship and the future of your love life in great danger, read this now or risk losing him forever: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…

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37 comments… add one
  • Carol April 16, 2022, 9:07 pm

    Love it when he compliments me and calls me his cute pet name. I already know that he adores me – He has stated that he loves me numerous times. Now I know by his actions – he had all the signs. He recalls everything I say and makes future plans and I’m there. He also has tried to introduce me to his friends. We broke up and believe that our feelings for each other are mutual.

  • confidence December 9, 2021, 5:16 pm

    If a guy whom u have crush on, laughs with you whenever u say something funny, does that mean he’s in love with that girl?

    If a guy comes closer to u anytime, does that mean he’s having feelings for you or he is missing your company with him?

  • Jessica June 17, 2021, 4:20 am

    How meaningful is it when a man touches your face, as in, gently cups your cheek?

  • Aysher December 30, 2020, 5:10 pm

    I love it when my man said I love you bestieeee

  • Aysher December 30, 2020, 5:09 pm

    I truly feel amazing when my man said i love you bestieeee.its the most wonderful feeling in the world

  • Jane December 18, 2018, 7:31 am

    a guy inlove wid u wll always want to be with no matter what

  • Chelah Viddy November 6, 2018, 11:22 am

    Been interested in some guy lately he’s the cool and silent type but he minds a lot asks about me oftenly and in some cases came to see me at work when l left town he still came to visit a little bit later. He’s also asked for my opinion on his hair more than once does this mean he’s secretly in love?

  • gwen October 24, 2018, 1:52 pm

    when a man introduces you to his friends and even invites you to hang out with them, that means he is serious about you. if he doesn’t even mention you to them means he’s only playing and doesn’t intend to commit at all.

  • lynda October 23, 2018, 7:05 pm

    hey ladies! there is no need to be confused about the answer to this question. there are many signs that you can watch out for to see if your guy is in love with you too!

  • carmina October 22, 2018, 1:29 pm

    when a guy secretly loves you, he can be all these. but one true measure is when he is genuine and if he makes time and plans to be with you.

  • katniss October 19, 2018, 6:37 pm

    this article has helped me a lot! promise! we all know that it is not easy to predict what a man is feeling. good thing there is an amazing article like this that could help us out.

  • rachelle October 18, 2018, 1:38 pm

    when a guy flatters you and compliments you by the way you look or the perfume you’re wearing, he may be secretly in love with you. only a man who is in love with you will notice every single thing about you.

  • olivia October 17, 2018, 6:24 pm

    He can’t stay mad – this is true. how can you be mad with someone that you adore?

  • jillian October 16, 2018, 1:09 pm

    a man who tries to fit in means he’s just as interested in you. he will try to fit in with your friends, colleagues and even family because he wants them to see the good in him and he wants to please them, esp you.

  • daniela October 15, 2018, 4:23 pm

    yeah, i’ve noticed that he blushes when i give him compliments on how he looks. hahaha i guess that is a sign that he is in love with me, secretly.

  • karen October 11, 2018, 5:25 pm

    if a guy loves you. he will be interested in meeting your family like getting to know them more. another sign for me is when he asks for your opinion over random things. this basically means that he cares about your opinion.

  • doreen October 10, 2018, 2:15 pm

    when a man is secretly in love with you, he will remember details, even the slightest ones. because he wants to know you more, he will listen up.

  • noreen October 9, 2018, 6:16 pm

    i didn’t know that there is a trick on how to know if someone loves you secretly. i think i did a great job in finding this article.

  • georgina October 8, 2018, 1:04 pm

    if he’s in love with you, he will always try to fit in. because he wants to impress you, he will try to impress you, your friends and family. he would want them to like him for you.

  • selena October 5, 2018, 10:38 pm

    you would know that a man loves you when he is open with you. he values your opinion and he puts that into consideration.

  • lucy October 4, 2018, 5:50 pm

    a great way to tell if a man is into you is by his body movements and posture. you’ll see that he is always facing you and would do anything just to impress you.

  • patrice October 3, 2018, 8:55 pm

    when a guy is in love, he’ll do all these and more. a guy will go out of his way to see you or at least communicate with you. he will move mountains to see you and spend time with you.

  • paola October 2, 2018, 7:12 pm

    this handsome guy always sends me good morning and good night text messages. this will guarantee me that he is in love with me because i am the person he thinks about before he goes to bed and when he wakes up in the morning.

  • irina October 1, 2018, 5:00 pm

    when a man is in love, you see him glowing. he smiles, he laughs, he grins, he just lights up. if he becomes this man, you’re sure you’re with someone who loves you.

  • freya September 27, 2018, 5:13 pm

    He’s open with you — this clearly means that he is into you and that he is serious. just like what the article stated, if he is open to you about anything regardless if it will embarrass him, then he is comfortable being with you.

  • jillian September 26, 2018, 5:28 pm

    a man who values your opinion and really listens to you is totally in love with you. if he’s playing, he won’t even bother to open up and share his life with you.

  • catherine September 25, 2018, 5:12 pm

    guys do not easily swallow their pride. so if you encounter a guy who isn’t scared to do this for you, you can be sure that he feels something for you and that you are special to him. he is afraid to get you mad and will do everything to make you happy.

  • janet September 24, 2018, 7:41 pm

    a guy who loves a woman would never hit on a another woman. he won’t flirt because he only has eyes for you and he’s going to be too busy trying to make you smile or laugh.

  • thelma September 21, 2018, 6:31 pm

    i like guys who don’t break promises! for me, that is a sign of true love because if you are serious about someone, you will do whatever it takes just to make the love of your life happy.

  • ella September 20, 2018, 5:28 pm

    he defends you – not all may require this but defending from even the smallest things really count. i love this about a man, very masculine!

  • valerie September 19, 2018, 5:36 pm

    it is very hard to know what is in a guy’s mind. good thing there is an article like this that can help us get answers to the questions we have about men.

  • carmelle September 18, 2018, 2:02 pm

    he values your opinion and he also listens to your advice. a man who does this is sure to be in love with you.

  • athena September 17, 2018, 6:16 pm

    He introduces you to his friends and He holds your hand – these are dead giveaways that he secretly loves you!

  • lucia September 15, 2018, 8:29 am

    he can’t stay mad, he just can’t! haha
    i find this really funny because i know it too well. this is proven to be solid and just so true to me! (=

  • gabriela September 13, 2018, 1:36 pm

    if guys can just be straightforward about their feelings… who knows, we might have feelings for them too, right? but yeah there are some who are not good when it comes to expressing their feelings so we girls really have to know these signs.

  • jacqueline September 10, 2018, 7:05 pm

    He doesn’t mention or look at other girls – this is one undisputable sign that he is in love with you and it actually makes sense. if a guy talks about another girl, i would think that he is in love with her.

  • ellen September 7, 2018, 2:24 pm

    i love it when my man compliments me! it makes me feel really good and loved. i am confident that he really loves me because he flatters me!

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