If sexy messaging, otherwise known as “sexting” is intimidating to you, it doesn’t have to be. We understand that this kind of communication is diving into some different territory for some people, and that’s 100 percent O.k. If you want to “sext” someone in a flirty and fun way, though, it can spice up your relationship or add fire to an existing friendship you want to take to the next level.
Simply by getting in touch with your own sexual feelings, and being bold enough to share them can ignite his sensual side as well. The same is true if you are a man wanting to make a woman feel sexy and desired.
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If you “sext” him or her in a way that is authentic, and not contrived or even just a cut and paste of some other horrible sext you’ve seen online, or heard your friends talk about, then you’re likely to be well-received. The suggestions that follow are just a springboard to help you get in a sexier mood and think of something to say. You’ll notice that we start rather slow, ad build up to a higher voltage level of sexting, so you can go all the way or stop wherever if feels right for you.
The sexual tension that can build with this sort of flirting is indescribable though, and often the medium (text) allows for us to express some of our more latent sexual feelings without feeling judged or inhibited.
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You can spice things up in a new relationship or add some serious heat to a more mature relationship.
The trick is to just be you. Only steamier, and sexier.
So, let’s dive in.
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Flirty Sexting Messages to Send to Your Boyfriend or Husband
These texts can start him thinking of you in a more sensual and sexy way. When you flirt with someone, whether your relationship is brand new or you’ve been married for 50 years, it keeps the fire going, and it tells someone that you are still attracted to them.
If they don’t know it yet – what better way to send a very clear message!? If someone has put you in the friend zone and you want to get out of there quick, flirting is a fast way to do that.
When someone responds back with a little flirtation of their own, you know it’s game on.
Try sending these flirtatious messages to your boyfriend to test the waters:
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#1 You’re such a huge distraction. I’ve not gotten anything done, I’ve been thinking of you so much.
#2 You are lucky that you’re so handsome. I only give the time of day to hot men.
#3 I’m heading out to hang with my girlfriends. Don’t be surprised if you get some sexy drunk texts later. I’m warning you ahead of time!
Cute messages can be a great way to keep yourself in the fore of someone’s mind, or to remind them that you are thinking of them in a positive way.
Cute messages may have a slightly sexual connotation, but they are more aimed at making him feel all warm and tingly inside, like a big hug. Men who feel loved and appreciated are much more likely to want to get steamy when you are together, so set the stage now, when you’re apart.
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Here are some cute sexting messages you can send your boyfriend of husband:
#4 I haven’t been able to stop smiling all morning, just thinking of how wonderful you are.
#5 Life is so different with you in it. . . like a cup of hot chocolate on a winter day.
#6 I can’t think of anyone who makes me feel as loved or confident (insert compliment) as you do.
If cute messages and flirting messages are well received, you can take it to the next level and ramp up that sexual heat a little more.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve only slept together once, or you’ve been sharing a bed for years, sexting in this way can bring a spark into your everyday lives and keep a connection going long after you’ve parted to achieve the things you need to do in the day-to-day grind.
Just be prepared for some serious heat. If you send these messages while he’s at work, it will be hard for him to stay focused on his job! If he responds positively, it means he wants to continue, but don’t be dismayed if he is polite and eager to hear from you, but needs to spend his attention elsewhere momentarily. If he picks up with the sexy conversation later, you know you’ve got a live one, that’s ready to “play” with you.
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However, if he has just gone to work that day and you want some seriously sexy action later, then a sexy text conversation can be just the thing to get both of you in the mood.
Here are a few sexy sexting messages to send hi to really get his blood pumping:
#7 Those things we did last night – Olympian. You are a sex God.
#8 Do you really have to work today? Why don’t we spend the day naked in bed, or better yet, let’s fly off to Tahiti and make love in the sand.
#9 I can’t stand it. I need you. Like right this minute. I’m losing my mind thinking about everything we did last night.
Teasing is a good way to get a sensual conversation going when you’ve just met someone.
If you tease him for being awkward or tripping over an imaginary line at the bar you were at last night, and he takes it well, it’s likely he’s game for some steamier, flirty teasing, too.
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Here are some teasing sexting messages to send to a new guy:
#10 If you can tear yourself away from dungeons and Dragons, I’d love to have coffee with you.
#11 I dare you to call me instead of watching television all night.
#12 Just admit it, you can’t stop thinking about me.
Totally Raunchy, Dirty Messages
If all the other texts, well sexts, we’ve mentioned in this article are feeling easy and comfortable for both of you, then you can get right down to it, and be very explicitly sexual.
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Some examples of downright dirty texts that will take things to the next level might be:
#13 I haven’t walked the same since we were together. I may need baggier pants.
#14 I’m so naughty and there’s no one here to make me behave.
#15 I bet you can’t guess what incredibly hot thoughts I’m having abut you right now.
#16 I will do just about anything you ask me to. What is your wildest fantasy?
#17 I’ll show you mine if you show me yours.
Whether you want to just add a little spark or pour on the kerosene, your love life and relationship will take a whole new turn when you try these different styles of sexting. Just be prepared for some seriously hard-core sexual energy to be ignited, and stand back to watch the blaze!
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such flirty text messages are funny and cute
I Love Those Messages,i’m Gona Try Sending Them To My Bf
it’s funny but i really do this with my man! haha
whenever he’s busy with work, i try to do this trick with him and he ends up rushing his deadlines to see me! quite effective, right? :)
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these flirty text messages will keep my partner attracted to me for good! i will share this to my friends too! i know some who need this badly.
sexting is my way of showing my husband that i am still attracted to him. we’ve been married for 15 years and i don’t want our sex life to become boring.
i love to tease my man and these ideas are just too cute! ill definitely use these, they’ll be as effective i bet!
i also ask my boyfriend some suggestive questions to get his mind thinking dirty thoughts since i don’t know and i am not sure what to text him. i will use these sample sexting messages going forward.
this is my favorite! “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours.” so kinky!
i send my boyfriend sexy messages to get him in the mood. these sample sexting messages are the best!
whenever i send sexting messages to my man, i always start with a joke. sometimes i ask him questions like “do you fantasize me” or “do you imagine me getting naked?”. i always get a green signal from him after that!
it is fun to mix things up with your special someone. i am searching for the best sexting messages i could send my partner and found these. he loved them!
this reminds me of my BFF. she accidentally sent a sexy message to one of my colleagues and no, he was not her boyfriend! that was her most embarrassing moment! haha!
it is important that you know which sexy messages you can send your guy to get him going. learn from this post. every man will definitely love these sexting samples.
these are very nicely naughty! my partner and i just can’t get enough of them! we are both sexting fans already!
this article taught me how to flirt over text. trust me, the sample messages in this article will definitely make your man wanting for more!
i send my boyfriend teasing messages to let him know that i am always ready to try something new. i won’t be surprised if he leaves his work and pops up in my house just to have a taste of me!
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i found these sample messages very sexy but to make them hotter and more enticing, i added some to them! i had fun and i bet my guy would do too!
i am shy to tell my partner how i feel. i hope sexting can help me express myself to him. i really want to tell him how much i want him and that i want him to get dirty with me.
wow! i am glad to see many sexy and steamy messages to choose from! my guy will absolutely love this!
these gave me goosebumps! I’ll show you mine if you show me yours is the best sexting message for me!
i am sure these sexting messages will drive my man crazy! i can’t wait to try sending some of these to him now!
these are very sexy! i have long distance relationship and my guy just can’t wait to put his hands on me! i just love this article so much! thanks!
wow! this is a great help! i can now talk dirty with my man even if i am not around. he will definitely think about me all the time and will be obsessed with me if i send him these.
i sent some of these sexy messages to my man and he surely loved it! now he wants more! please post more of these messages!
i think my boyfriend will react with some of these sexy messages. well, it is just a guess at this point. i still need to confirm hahaha wish me luck!
love this post! the messages are absolutely naughty and can make me and my guy horny as hell!
i want ideas on how to turn my boyfriend on even if we are not in the same room. we love to text each other and i am sure sending him some of these messages will really turn him on!
i really enjoyed reading these sample text messages and i know my husband will do to! my only concern is he works out of town and i am afraid he might get excited and release it with someone else.
“Just admit it, you can’t stop thinking about me.” – i always get this text message from my guy! his day is not complete without teasing me!
hmmm, it is intimidating but i think i could try sending him sexy text messages to spice up our relationship. thank you so much for sharing this!