31 Signs That a Guy Doesn't Like You Back - How to Know If He isn't Interested in You

31 Signs That a Guy Doesn’t Like You Back – How to Know If He isn’t Interested in You

Here’s how to tell a guy doesn’t like you: Look for these guaranteed signs and you’ll know for sure.

Does he like you or not?

It’s the question that has been keeping you up night. It’s the reason you don’t feel like going out with friends, or doing things that normally interest you. Even a 3-season moviefest on Amazon doesn’t sound appealing.

You are obsessed with knowing – does he like me or not!?

Maybe it’s someone from your past – a guy you dated and that things just didn’t quit go right with.

Maybe it’s someone you’re dating now, and you are simply giddy with the newness of your possible life-partner. Is he the one? Is he feeling all those butterflies in his stomach just like you are?

Or maybe he seems to be kind of distracted. Uh-oh. Is it you, or did he eat some bad sushi for lunch? Is he preoccupied with work? Does this dress look bad on me?

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You’ve already made it clear that you like a guy, and you’re fretting about his response.

Women and men alike can become absolutely tortured over whether someone returns their feelings. This need to be noticed – to be loved, and admired – is universal.

There’s even a fancy term for this in psychology. It’s called attachment theory. It just means that we need others to share our feelings to feel fully connected to them.

We even do this with complete strangers that we are attracted to, even when we are happily with another person. We see them, think they’re attractive, and want to know if they think the same thing about us. This need only becomes more profound when we really like someone.

So, why can’t you just have a magic checklist that you can go through instead of ruminating over how many times he’s texted? So that you can stop calling your girlfriends and asking what they think based on a random set of behaviors that you’ve recounted to them ad nauseam?

He called three times Friday, but only once yesterday and its already Sunday again, do you think he still likes me? He always tells me I’m beautiful, but then a hot girl walks by and I catch him noticing her out of the corner of one eye. Does that mean he doesn’t like me?

Enough already. Stop torturing yourself with what-ifs and go through our checklist – yes, there really is one – and add up your score.

If you start checking off too many off these points, then he doesn’t truly like you as much as he should. Or like the title of the Ben Affleck and Jennifer Aniston flic states – “he’s just not that into you.”

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1. He Doesn’t Make an Effort to Be Around You

When a man wants something, he goes after it with all his energy and resources. That includes finding ways to be with you – even if he’s tired from working two jobs, or the guys are having the most epic bar-b-que by the pool ever. If he makes no effort to spend time with you, he just isn’t feeling you the way you probably want him to.

2. He Doesn’t Take an Interest in Things That Interest You

You can’t exactly expect a guy to want to go to your quilting bee with you or take up skydiving lessons if he’s deathly afraid of heights, but if he is into you, he will try to do things that you like to do, or at least express an interest in the things that you are excited about doing. This is one of the most primal ways he can connect with you and build trust. If he isn’t showing any interest in things that are important to you, he doesn’t like you.

3. He Doesn’t Look You in the Eyes

If he isn’t making eye contact with you, then he isn’t really into you. If he stares into your soul like he wants to literally climb inside you, then you know he likes you – a lot. If he looks at you and then looks away, he is also still into you. He is just a little shy. If he never makes eye-contact with you at all, he is unconsciously showing you exactly how he feels. He doesn’t want to connect with you and will avoid looking you in the eyes to make sure there’s no context for a relationship.

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4. He Doesn’t Use Your Name When Addressing You

When a man really likes you he will call you by name. Saying your name makes you feel close to him and he to you. If he doesn’t use your name, he likely isn’t interested. In fact, the more he uses your name the more he likes you.

5. His Voice Doesn’t Change When He Talks to You

Scientific research has proven that when a man is attracted to you his voice will change in comparison to how it sounds when talking to other people. Usually his voice will shift lower as a subconscious attempt to seem stronger and more manly. If his voice stays the same, he may not like you.

6. He Never Laughs with You

If a man really likes you he will laugh with you, make jokes, and try to get you to laugh with him. Laughter is one of the most sure-fire ways for a man to attract a woman. If he thinks he is less attractive than you, he is even more likely to rely on this trick to get your attention and love, as he is smart enough to realize that women usually fall in love with the way a man makes them feel, just as often, if not more, than is a woman is only physically attracted to a man.

7. He Never Tries to Show Off for You

Just like a lion will show off to attract the attention of a lioness, so will he try to show off for you if he likes you. If he is making himself look like a fool trying to be witty, charming, extra-strong or exceptional at a sport, then he likes you.

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8. He Doesn’t Keep Pace with You when You are Walking

Science has proven that when a man is interested in you, he will temporarily change his walking pace to match yours. If he doesn’t, you may want to rethink him as a possible partner.

9. He Doesn’t Place Himself in Proximity to You at Parties, the Office, or Other Events

When a man is attracted to you, he will try to be near you physically, but he will also face you with his whole body even if you are standing across the room from one another. This is a classic “tell” from his body language. He wants to literally face you head on, and get to know you better. If you only see the back of his head at parties, he doesn’t like you.

10. He Doesn’t Try to Touch You

If he doesn’t try to caress your hair, accidentally rub against you on an elevator, or casually put his hand on your back when talking to you these are all signs he doesn’t like you back. A man will find any excuse to touch a woman he is interested in, no matter how trivial.

11. He Never Flirts or Teases You

If a man doesn’t flirt with you or tease you with sexual innuendo, then he likely doesn’t really feel attracted or interested in you. A man will change his conversation, even when he is trying to stay respectful to include sexual clues to make sure that you don’t put him in the friend zone. He also secretly wants you to think of being with him sexually, even if you’ve only just met, so he will make suggestive comments, when he does want to pursue a relationship with you.

12. He Only Asks You About Work Related Things

This one kind of goes with number eleven. If he is always serious, and only talks about work related things or always keeps things polite and professional then he doesn’t like you back.

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13. He Never Checks You Out

If he lusts after you he’ll look more at your body, but if he never checks you out, never glances at your breasts or tries to catch a peek of your legs or your backside, he isn’t attracted to you.

14. He Doesn’t Look at Your Face

If he likes you and could fall in love, he’ll look more at your face. While sexual attraction will cause him to look at your body more, if he thinks of you as more than just a play thing, he’ll look at your face, including your eyes, lips, cheeks, nose, eyebrows, etc. he may even kiss you on the forehead.

15. He’s Coming When You’re Going

If he always seems to be doing exactly the opposite of what you are doing, then he may not like you. If you’re just getting home, and he’s heading out to hang with friends or you want to go out and he says he’d rather stay in, then the love-light might be dimming for him.

16. He Never Starts a Conversation with You

A man that is interested will start a conversation with you – about anything – the color at a red light crossing signal, the weather, the latest television series – it doesn’t matter. He just wants to talk to you. If he isn’t ever the one to start a conversation he doesn’t want to talk to you, and he doesn’t like you back. But don’t worry, there will be someone that literally talks your ear off, because they are interested in you.

17. He Ignores Your Attempts at Being Beautiful

If you buy a new dress, wear new glasses, get a new lip color, or do your hair differently, a man that is interested will notice. He will not only notice your attempts at being attractive, he will applaud them, and tell you that you look good.

18. He’s Never Jealous

If a man is never jealous of other possible suitors, then he doesn’t like you. We all say we want a man that isn’t mean and angry with jealousy, but a little jealousy is healthy. It shows he wants to protect what is his or what he wants to be his.

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19. He Doesn’t Get Excited About Your Achievements

When you win an award at work or achieve a big goal, like losing ten pounds or running your first marathon, he doesn’t celebrate with you. If he doesn’t get as excited, or even more excited about your achievements, then he doesn’t like you, and you can do better.

20. He Doesn’t Give You Gifts

Beware of a man that never gives you gifts. Even if he doesn’t have a lot of money, or the gift is just a compliment or a handwritten note to say that he hopes you have a great day, He will find ways to give when he likes you.

21. He Never Worries About Your Safety

If you are leaving a nightclub at 3 AM and he doesn’t offer to hail you a cab, or walk you to your car, or a safe place, then he may not truly like you. A man’s instinct to protect will be strong when he is interested in a woman, and he’ll go to great lengths to make sure you stay safe.

22. He Doesn’t Care to Learn More About Your Friends

If he never asks about your friends or doesn’t care to learn more about them he may not be that interested in you. The company we keep tells people a lot about us, and if he isn’t at least curious about who you socialize with, then he may not be considering you as a romantic interest.

23. He Doesn’t Care Where You are Going/Spending Time With

This is similar to the disinterest in, knowing your friends, and his desire (or lack thereof) to keep you safe. If he doesn’t care about where you are going or who you are going with, then he may not really like you.

24. He Doesn’t Try to Make You Feel Better When You’re Sad or Down

If you are having a bad day or he sees that you are down for some reason and he doesn’t respond, that is a red flag. He should be able to express empathy to your emotions. Though he doesn’t need to fix your day, he should at least want to.

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25. He Doesn’t Offer to Help You Financially

We live in a post-feminist world, and women are doing it for themselves, but if he never suggests helping you with your finances (even if you turn him down) then he may not really like you. A man will put his money where he wants his mouth to be – pun intended.

26. He Never Sacrifices Anything to Please You

If you’ve asked him to go to your sister’s wedding, and at the last minute he says he can’t go because he was invited to a game with his friends, he may not like you. If he did, he would sacrifice something to be with you. He doesn’t have to do it all the time, but if he never sacrifices his time, money, attention, etc. then you should run the other way.

27. He Talks to You Like a Sister or Mother

The way a man talks to you will tell you a lot about how he feels about you. If he is respectful of you, but a little too respectful and treats you more like a sister or a mother rather than a possible romantic partner, he may not like you.

28. He Doesn’t Offer to Pay for Dinner

In line with making sacrifices, if a man never offers to pick up the bill, he’s using you. He isn’t interested in you.

29. He Has Excuses for Why He Constantly Refuses Invitations

If you’ve invited him to parties, lunch, dinner, coffee, and more and he always has a reason that he can’t attend, then he isn’t that into you. He’d simply rather be doing something else with someone else.

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30. You Don’t Make Him Nervous

If you don’t make a man a little nervous, especially at a first meeting or during a first impression, he may not really like you. When a man is totally awe-struck with someone, he may fumble his words, trip over his own two feet, or act silly or awkward. This is good. It means he likes you.

31. He Doesn’t Try to Be a Better Person to Impress You

If a man doesn’t try to better himself to be with you, or improve himself after you’ve already been dating for a while, he doesn’t value you enough to try to become a more amazing human being. If he likes you, you’ll inspire him to be a better man. If he’s a dud, do yourself a favor, and find someone who wants to improve themselves right along with you on a life path together. That’s not only like. That’s love.

There you have it. If this doesn’t sound like him, congratulations, he’s waaayyy into you. If you checked off more than seven items on this list, you may want to back off a bit, and see if he changes his tune. If he doesn’t start showing more care, and attention, move on, baby. There are plenty more fish in the sea.

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The second problem almost all women experience: At some point he starts to lose interest. He doesn’t call you back or he becomes emotionally closed off. He seems like he’s losing interest or pulling away – do you know what to do? If not you’re putting your relationship and the future of your love life in great danger, read this now or risk losing him forever: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…

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In summary…

1. He Doesn’t Make an Effort to Be Around You

2. He Doesn’t Take an Interest in Things That Interest You

3. He Doesn’t Look You in the Eyes

4. He Doesn’t Use Your Name When Addressing You

5. His Voice Doesn’t Change When He Talks to You

6. He Never Laughs with You

7. He Never Tries to Show Off for You

8. He Doesn’t Keep Pace with You when You are Walking

9. He Doesn’t Place Himself in Proximity to You at Parties, the Office, or Other Events

10. He Doesn’t Try to Touch You

11. He Never Flirts or Teases You

12. He Only Asks You About Work Related Things

13. He Never Checks You Out

14. He Doesn’t Look at Your Face

15. He’s Coming When You’re Going

16. He Never Starts a Conversation with You

17. He Ignores Your Attempts at Being Beautiful

18. He’s Never Jealous

19. He Doesn’t Get Excited About Your Achievements

20. He Doesn’t Give You Gifts

21. He Never Worries About Your Safety

22. He Doesn’t Care to Learn More About Your Friends

23. He Doesn’t Care Where You are Going/Spending Time With

24. He Doesn’t Try to Make You Feel Better When You’re Sad or Down

25. He Doesn’t Offer to Help You Financially

26. He Never Sacrifices Anything to Please You

27. He Talks to You Like a Sister or Mother

28. He Doesn’t Offer to Pay for Dinner

29. He Has Excuses for Why He Constantly Refuses Invitations

30. You Don’t Make Him Nervous

31. He Doesn’t Try to Be a Better Person to Impress You

signs that tell a guy doesnt like you

30 comments… add one
  • erika October 30, 2018, 6:22 pm

    yep. everything written here is true. i clearly understand what is written here because i’ve already experienced it.

  • jill October 29, 2018, 1:34 pm

    oh gosh, these are all so true! when a guy doesn’t even look you in the eye or try to touch you, he might not really like you for more than a friend.

  • briella October 27, 2018, 7:41 pm

    reading this article made me realize that my guy isn’t attracted to me anymore. i don’t want to let him go because i love him so much. i’ll just figure out some ways on how to get his feelings back.

  • carmelita October 24, 2018, 1:25 pm

    when a guy doesn’t seem to care about you, you’d know he isn’t into you. a man who likes you will be worried and concerned about you and your safety. if the man you’re seeing isn’t, he might not be really interested.

  • sylvia October 23, 2018, 7:18 pm

    He Never Worries About Your Safety – oh yes! this is a very big sign that he doesn’t like you! if you see a man like this, it would be better to just forget him and look for someone else who will treat you like a queen.

  • geneva October 22, 2018, 1:22 pm

    you can tell that a guy doesn’t like you much when he doesn’t even try to impress you. if a guy is interested, he will do everything to get your attention and impress you to make you like him back.

  • danielle October 19, 2018, 6:54 pm

    i am super confused! there’s this guy who told me that he likes me but i can see all the signs listed here! whew!!!

  • genevieve October 18, 2018, 1:29 pm

    when a guy doesn’t try to make you feel better when you’re sad or down, that means he doesn’t care, he doesn’t like you. if he does, he’ll do the opposite and will do his best to make you smile or even laugh.

  • rose October 17, 2018, 6:36 pm

    guys really give very specific signs to show that they don’t like you. if you see these signs, you’ll be much better off and move on.

  • alona October 16, 2018, 12:25 pm

    “He Doesn’t Keep Pace with You when You are Walking” – i think this is the worst. not only does it say he doesn’t like you, it’s almost like he’s ashamed being with you.

  • makenzie October 15, 2018, 4:33 pm

    oh my,, i am head over heels with someone and i am praying not to see these signs! seeing some of these signs will drive me crazy!!!1

  • nena October 12, 2018, 7:48 pm

    He Never Tries to Show Off for You – i hate guys who are show off so i guess this is not a big deal for me. just saying.

  • carla October 10, 2018, 7:38 pm

    it will be the end of my world if he doesn’t like me back! i really want him and i hope he’ll also find me attractive.

  • becky October 9, 2018, 1:11 pm

    he’s just never jealous! when you’re with a guy and you talk about other men, his initial reaction would be that it’s uncomfortable. because he likes you, he’d feel weird and jealous. but if he doesn’t, then he might not even like you.

  • callie October 8, 2018, 6:28 pm

    i am so glad you shared this. i am wondering if i am dealing with this right now and this signs will really help me.

  • carmela October 5, 2018, 10:31 pm

    reading this broke my heart. i once dated a guy who did most of these and it was the worst. i hope no woman will ever experience this.

  • mariam October 4, 2018, 5:32 pm

    no matter how much i want to think he likes me, still he doesn’t! it hurts to think that i will never have the chance to date him. life can be hard sometimes…

  • georgia October 3, 2018, 8:48 pm

    when a guy doesn’t say yes to invitations like hanging out and stuff, he might not be interested. if a man likes you, he’d be the one to ask you out.

  • mercy October 2, 2018, 7:24 pm

    He Doesn’t Care to Learn More About Your Friends – this is a red flag for me. if a guy likes you and would want to have a serious relationship with you, he must show interest to know your friends too. if he doesn’t then he is not worth your precious time.

  • alice October 1, 2018, 4:49 pm

    if a guy doesn’t seem to be interested in how your day went, or never asks at all.. he may not really be interested romantically. if you are with this kind of guy, just let him be and let go. it would be harder to do that if you let it last longer.

  • amara September 27, 2018, 4:39 pm

    thanks a lot for posting this wonderful article! will definitely save me from any future heartache. sharing it with my bffs now.

  • abigail September 26, 2018, 12:24 pm

    when a guy never checks out on you, it’s safe to say that he doesn’t like you much. if he does, he won’t last a day or hours without having contact with you.

  • brianna September 25, 2018, 4:45 pm

    He Doesn’t Take an Interest in Things That Interest You – this is a guaranteed sign that he is not attracted to you! if your man is like this, then quit girl. don’t waste your time. find the right guy who will try to do the things that interest you.

  • kourtney September 24, 2018, 6:41 pm

    when a guy doesn’t flirt or even try to touch you…i think that’s the biggest most obvious sign he doesn’t like you. i don’t know, but this is what i believe is the top of the list for me.

  • lindsay September 21, 2018, 6:11 pm

    i am really interested in this guy. i want us to be more than friends. the problem is i can see most of these signs in him. ouch!

  • katya September 20, 2018, 7:03 pm

    “He Never Tries to Show Off for You” – this is really important and so true! if a man doesn’t even think he needs to please you or show off even a bit, then he might not really like you.

  • cora September 19, 2018, 5:15 pm

    every woman likes to hear compliments from her man. but if your man does not notice your attempts to be beautiful in his eyes, then this is a big problem. it clearly shows he is no longer interested in you.

  • angel September 18, 2018, 1:35 pm

    “He Doesn’t Take an Interest in Things That Interest You” – this is a huge sign he is not interested at all. Remember, just like women do, men will do their best to please someone they like and that includes doing things the other person loves doing like hobbies, sports, etc.

  • miah September 17, 2018, 4:36 pm

    he never laughs with me like he used to.. before he would find my jokes funny even if they were not. it hurts but i guess he doesn’t like me now.. gotta check for other signs though.

  • myrna September 15, 2018, 8:05 am

    these are the things that are usually left unnoticed. i think you’re right, we need to look for these signs before letting our guards down and get hurt in the end.

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