So you’re here because you want to know the signs your ex wants you back… but is too stubborn to admit it.
You broke up, but you’re realizing (or already realized) life without him isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. More and more, being with him is looking way better than being without him.
But does he feel the same way? Does he want to get back together with you? Or is it really over?
Even worse – everyone knows how important ego is for guys. What if he really does want to get back together with you but he’s too stubborn and prideful to admit it?
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In that case, how would you ever be able to get back together with him? How can you figure out if he’s open to being back together if he’s too stubborn to admit he even wants it?
That’s where this article comes in. Even if he’s too stubborn to admit it, his actions will reveal the truth about how he feels about you.
As they say, people show you the truth through their actions, not their words. As long as you know what to look for, you’ll be able to figure out whether he wants you back – regardless of whether he’s man enough to admit it or not.
So without any further delay, here are the 8 signs that he really does want to get back together with you – even if he’s too proud to admit it.
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8 Immediate Giveaway Signs He Wants To Get Back Together (Even If He Won’t Admit It)
1. He’s Trying To Move On Way, Way Too Fast
It takes time to move on after a breakup. Nobody is instantly over it.
Of course, if the relationship only lasted a short period of time, it’s easier to get over and he’ll get over it faster.
But if you two were dating for a significant period of time and he’s trying to move on at light speed – that’s a huge sign that he’s still got strong feelings for you that he’s trying to bury.
Feelings about another person and about a relationship don’t go away overnight. If you two dated for more than a few months, or were exclusive with each other, and he’s already moving on or even dating someone new after a couple weeks – he’s nowhere near ready for that.
So if he seems like he’s moving on crazy quickly after you two broke up, it’s far more likely that he’s trying to drown his feelings for you in a new relationship – and it’s not going to work.
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2. He Drunk Dials You
It’s no secret that we’re at our most truthful when we’re drunk.
Your inhibitions are lowered, your super-ego takes a time out, and your id comes out to play – in a big way.
When he’s drunk, all his urges and desires that he’s locked away using his rational mind come out and overpower him – and because he’s boozed up he can’t resist them.
Urges like “I should text her because I miss her” and “I just want to see her again so bad” are oftentimes what control him when he’s been drinking.
So if he’s drunk texting you and drunk dialing you after a breakup, it’s a huge sign that you’re not out of his system – and that when his defenses and his ego aren’t preventing him he’s looking to reconnect.
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3. He Keeps Bumping Into You “By Accident”
Once I can believe. Twice would be a crazy coincidence that would require a lot of explaining.
But more than that? It means he’s “randomly running into you” on purpose.
Guys will pull this move when they can’t let their ex go, and they want to keep seeing her – but their ego doesn’t let them ask her to get back together.
This is a common move for especially proud or stubborn guys to pull when they secretly want to get back together, so if he keeps “bumping into you by accident” – it’s a big sign.
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4. He’s Publicly Moping Around All Depressed
Making a big show of how awful you feel and how depressed you are is practically designed to get your ex asking about your well being.
After all, if he really was done with the relationship he wouldn’t want to let you know how awful he was feeling, right? That would be embarrassing.
But if he wants to get back together with you, then maybe the sad, depressed puppy dog act will pull you back and tug on your heartstrings enough for you to be the one to try to get back with him, rather than the other way around.
So if you see him moping around on Facebook, posting sad and depressed selfies, and generally showing off how awful he’s feeling – it could mean that he wants you back and he’s trying to get you to make the first move.
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5. Your Mutual Friends Keep Asking You Pointed Questions
He’s not going to do the dirty work of asking you what’s going on in your love life, oh no. That would be too embarrassing – and make him look like he’s trying to get back together with you.
Instead, he’ll have your mutual friends do his spying for him.
If you have mutual friends with your ex that are taking a sudden and unexpected interest in your love life and how things have been going post-breakup, it’s safe to assume that he’s asking them to ask you about it.
And why would your ex be wondering about your love life and whether you’re moving on? Because he wants to get back together with you, but he doesn’t want to get rejected!
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6. He’s Still Super Angry At You About The Relationship
Feelings – even when they’re negative – reveal how much you care about something.
After all, the opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference. If you really didn’t care about something anymore, it wouldn’t upset you, or bother you, or get you angry.
So if he’s still super angry at you – to the point where it’s hard to even have a conversation with him – you can bet that that means he’s still got feelings for you and feelings about the relationship.
Obviously, it’s going to be difficult to reconcile with him if he’s really really upset with you. Give him some time to cool off – but remember that as long as he’s still super angry, it means he still has feelings for you.
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7. He Wants To Talk About The Breakup
Everybody’s looking for perspective after a breakup. After all, if you didn’t understand what happened, how can you learn anything from the relationship?
But it’s a lot different finding perspective by talking to your friends than it is by talking to your ex.
If he’s reaching out to you and wants to talk about your breakup (and why you broke up), it means he’s trying to understand the reasons why you two fell apart.
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And that is very important.
He could be trying to figure out where things went wrong in your relationship in order to change so that you two will be a better match… or he could be making sure that if (or when) you get back together you two don’t make the same mistakes that drove you apart in the future.
Whatever it is, it’s a good sign when he’s looking to talk to you about the breakup and gain perspective together.
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8. He Wants To Reminisce About The Relationship Together
Breakups suck. It sucks bad enough missing the other person and thinking about how great the relationship was on your own.
But to do it with your ex? To talk about how great you were together – even after you’ve broken up?
Well, unless you’re the world’s biggest masochist, you’re not going to do that if you’re not at least thinking about getting back together.
What’s the point in talking about how good things were unless you’re trying to convince your ex (and yourself) that it’s a good idea to get back together and rekindle all those good times?
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So if he’s talking to you about the relationship and reminiscing about all the good times you had together, you can be sure it’s a good bet that he’s interested in getting back together with you – and he’s testing the waters to see if you feel the same way.
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8 Immediate Giveaway Signs Your Ex Wants You Back (Even If He Won’t Admit It)
- He’s trying to move on way, way too fast.
- He drunk dials you.
- He keeps bumping into you “by accident”.
- He’s publicly moping around all depressed.
- Your mutual friends keep asking you pointed questions.
- He’s still super angry at you about the relationship.
- He wants to talk about the breakup.
- He wants to reminisce about the relationship together.
he keeps bumping into you “by accident” is totally funny but so true! haha
haha, these are funny but true!
these are all so true, even i do these when i have fights with my boyfriend haha
if you feel this to be true with your ex and you still love him & think you can work things out again, try to help him reach out and express himself
typical of a man who doesn’t want to admit his feelings. haha!
yeah, i agree that if he seems like he’s moved on too fast he might be on a rebound
this is exactly what he’s doing right now! he suggests we go to our favorite places to hang out before.
oh i can relate to this! i tried to make him do more to make him feel more guilty of what he did to me. haha!
all true, proven and tested. even women do these! haha
drunk dialling is very common, i even did it once. haha!
He’s Publicly Moping Around All Depressed
-my ex did this and made sure i knew about it. he did get my attention and started talking after.
it’s true some men cover it up by acting angry. haha some men are just too funny! :D
it felt like we would always bump into each other…and then i found it he was doing it on purpose haha
a typical man would never ever want to reminisce about a previous relationship unless he’s not over it yet
My boyfriend left me about 3 weeks ago he still wanted to see me and said he you don’t just stop loving someone over night after 2 and a half years and now he’s being mean to me he would rather go and see his friends than me I feel like a fool i still love him and he knows that now he’s saying he don’t know what he’s doing and want let me know so I can move on and stop the hurt I feel that the moment
my ex was always drunk dialling me, way to go though..he got my attention and give him another chance. lol
i wish men would just be vocal and honest about their feelings. it’s even harder for women to assume, right?! :(
my ex was so angry, i never thought he’d never want to even see me. but things changed in time, now we’re still together and happier.
these are all accurate. moving on too soon is definitely top on this list
my ex was trying too hard moving on too quickly and even resorted to a rebound, too bad i was decided i won’t be getting back with him.
when you find it odd that you bump with him often, it’s a sign he’s following you and that he’s doing it on purpose to see you.
i know and i have been told that he still loves me and he wants me back but i want to hear it straight from him. i don’t want to seem too excited although im kinda! haha
a man initiating communication about the break up and trying to reminisce is someone who’s still into his ex and definitely wants her back
i remember him asking my friends my whereabouts and schedule. we ended getting back together and happier since.
why can’t they just admit it?! ugh, men!
these are all so true! my ex kept trying to reminisce about the relationship when we broke up. i thought it was crazy when he’s the one who screwed up.
drunk dialling is so funny but it does happen and it did happen to me. that’s how i knew my ex wanted me back after a short break up
great tips! thanks for sharing this article!
if this is the case and you’re almost sure he wants you back, there’s no harm in being the one to reach out to him
i saw all these signs from my ex. i waited for him to talk to me about it but didn’t so i moved on