The 10 Biggest Signs Your Ex Is Over You (And Exactly How To Fix It!)

The 10 Biggest Signs Your Ex Is Over You (And Exactly How To Fix It!)

You’re here because a part of you is getting more and more suspicious that your ex might have gotten over you and is moving on with his life.

This can be an unacceptable and terrifying thought – especially if you’re still in love with him.

You might’ve seen things on his social media that make you think he’s moving on, or your friends might’ve seen him with someone new, and all this is adding up in your head and making you want to scream.

So what’s the deal? If you’re seeing a bunch of signs he’s over you, does that mean that all hope is lost of getting him back?

No. Don’t worry.

more: Hidden Signs Your Ex Still Loves You (Even If He Says He Doesn’t)

I’ve been a relationship expert for more than 10 years. Seeing signs that your ex is moving on does not mean that you don’t have a chance to get back with him. That’s a different question altogether – and one we’re going to solve right now.

Let’s get started.

What If He’s Over Me? Is It Impossible To Get Him Back?

There’s something counterintuitive that I want to share with you right now.

First, let’s say your ex really is trying to move on and get over you. Chances are, he’s not doing it because he wants to forget about you, or because he wants to put the relationship behind him forever.

Chances are, your ex wants to move on because he wants to get out of pain.

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It hurts to be in a breakup (as I’m sure you know). It hurts to think about your ex. Anyone would want the pain of that to stop.

more: The Top Signs You’re Not Over Your Ex

So when you think about it, the harder your ex seems to be trying to move on, the more likely it is that he’s actually not over you – and that he actually has strong feelings for you.

Think about it. He wouldn’t be trying so hard to move on if he wasn’t in a lot of pain, right? And the reason that he’s in a lot of pain is because he still has strong feelings for you.

So even if you see that a bunch of these signs apply to your ex, don’t panic. It doesn’t mean that you don’t have a chance of getting back together with him.

This applies especially if you two just broke up. The faster he tries to move on from the relationship, the stronger the chances that he still has strong feelings for you.

Keep reading – we’re going to go over the signs your ex is trying to get over you, as well as what to do to get him back.

The 10 Biggest Signs Your Ex Is Over You (And What To Do About It)

1. He’s Dating Someone Else

Let’s go for the biggest and baddest sign first.

So your ex has started dating someone new. Does that mean he’s over you?

Not necessarily. Maybe he’s in a rebound relationship. Check the article below to find out.

more: Signs Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship

The most drastic and fastest way to get over someone is to start seeing someone else. If you guys have been broken up for a long time (and he’s been dating this new person for a long time), it’s a pretty strong sign that he’s getting over you.

However, the opposite is also true. The faster he starts dating someone new after you two broke up, the less likely it is that their relationship is serious.

A good rule to remember is that if he started dating someone new really fast after your breakup, it’s much more likely to be him trying to use someone else to get over you – in other words, a rebound relationship.

And if he’s trying so hard to get over you that he’s jumped right into a rebound relationship, it’s a strong sign that he could still have feelings for you.

more: The Big Signs Your Ex Wants You Back

2. He’s Mean, Rude, Or Angry At You Whenever You Talk

Everyone knows it’s really difficult to be civil to your ex – especially when the wounds of a breakup are still fresh.

If he’s still being really mean to you whenever you talk, it means that his bad feelings haven’t healed from the end of the relationship – which means that he definitely still has strong unresolved feelings about you and about the breakup.

But if he can’t be civil towards you then it’s going to be hard to rekindle things between you, and it’s a sign that he’s pushing himself to be mean to you so that he can move on faster from the relationship.

The best thing to do in that situation is give him some time to calm down and let his angry feelings start to fade.

3. He Wants All Of His Stuff Back

Taking his stuff back is a way for him to move past the relationship and move on.

When he takes it back, he no longer has to think of you when he thinks about his stuff.

When a guy takes his stuff back, a lot of the time he also gives you back anything of yours that he still has. That’s a way for him to rid himself of stuff that reminds him of you too.

This is a big step in the process of moving on from someone – so if he’s doing it then it means he’s definitely trying to move on.

more: How Guys Deal With Breakups

It also means that he doesn’t want to be reminded of you, because he still has feelings for you that he’s trying to bury.

4. He’s Unfriended You Across All Social Media

This is the same sort of deal as him giving you back all your stuff and taking his stuff back from you.

In other words – he doesn’t want to be reminded of you all the time, because it feels bad.

It’s way harder to get over someone when you can see what they’re up to every day, or even just see a picture of them every day. It’s much easier to get over someone when you aren’t reminded of them at all.

So if he’s unfriending you across social media, it means he’s trying to make it easier for himself to get over you – and pushing himself down the path of moving on from your relationship.

5. He Never Contacts You Anymore (Texting/Emailing/Online Chat)

One of the biggest ways to get over a breakup (and to eventually get your boyfriend back) that I advise my clients to do is called the “no contact rule”.

more: Can You Get Your Ex Back? Find Out Now…

I bet you can guess what it is – it means that you stop contacting your ex for a set period of time, usually at least a month.

If he’s completely stopped talking to you over any sort of channel, it’s likely that he’s implementing the no contact rule in an effort to move on.

The no contact rule is not only good for moving on from a relationship, it’s also the best thing you can do if you’re trying to get your ex back. (If you’ve read my how to get your ex back guide you know that you should do the no contact rule anyway).

The moral of the story here is that the longer he’s been out of contact with you, the more likely it is that he’s moving on and getting over you.

(But don’t panic. Remember, him moving on does not mean you can’t get him back.)

more: Exactly How To Tell If Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You

6. He’s Explicitly Told You He Doesn’t Have Feelings For You Anymore

How strong this sign is depends on how long you were together with him and how long it’s been since the breakup.

If you were together for a long time and it hasn’t been too long since the breakup, he’s almost certainly lying to you.

Nobody gets over a long term relationship quickly (like in less than a few weeks). If that’s your situation, he’s trying to move on more quickly than he’s ready for, because he wants the pain of the breakup to stop and he wants to eliminate his feelings for you.

But if your relationship didn’t go on for that long or it’s been more than a couple of months since the breakup, it’s more likely that he’s telling the truth and he really is over you.

more: The Top Warning Signs Of A Toxic Relationship

7. He Moved Away

Moving away is a form of cutting ties with your old life and starting out fresh.

There’s tons of reasons he could have moved and it’s almost certainly not entirely about you.

But if he moved away it means he’s trying to move on physically and emotionally, by starting over in a new place with new people and new faces.

So if he moved away – especially if he moved far away – it’s a huge sign he’s moving on from your relationship and that he wants to get over you and move on with his life.

8. He Tells You It’s About Him, Not About You, And That You Should Move On

A guy says this when he wants you to stop trying to get back together with him.

more: Exactly How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

He knows that whatever ‘reason’ he gives you that you can’t get back together, you’re going to try to find a way around it so that you make the reason not true and you can be back together with him.

So by saying that it’s about him, he makes it a problem you can’t solve, since you can’t directly change how he feels.

What he’s trying to tell you is that he doesn’t want to get back together with you – and that he doesn’t want you to be in pain anymore trying to get him back.

That’s a big sign he’s moved on – and a huge sign that he’s more over you than you are over him.

9. He’s Picked Up Lots Of New Hobbies

After a breakup, it’s a great idea to throw yourself into lots of new hobbies (or to pick up hobbies you might have dropped by the wayside during the relationship.

more: The 10 Signs Your Ex Is Over You

Starting new hobbies helps you heal, it helps you feel better, it helps take your mind off the pain of the breakup, and it helps you move on.

I give this advice in all of my breakup guides (as well as my guide to getting him back), so if he’s throwing himself into new and old hobbies, it could be because he’s trying to move on.

10. It’s Not Flirty At All When You Talk Anymore

Lots of the time when exes still talk to each other it can get pretty flirty between them.

After all, the intimacy is still there, and both partners are missing that kind of intimacy.

(After a breakup, this is a really bad idea – it makes it infinitely more painful and harder to move on.)

more: 11 Signs Your Ex Has Moved On

So if when you talk to each other (if you’re talking to each other) there’s no intimacy and no flirting, and there once was… that’s a big sign he’s moving on and getting over the relationship.

So watch for these signs your ex is getting over you– when you know what signs he’s showing you’re going to use them in order to find the best way to get him back.

I know it’s really uncomfortable and painful to read these and think about your ex moving on and getting past the relationship. Just remember that even though he might be moving on, it doesn’t mean you don’t have a chance to get him back, and more importantly: the harder he’s trying to move on from your relationship, the more likely it is that he still has deep feelings for you.

So now that you’ve got a better picture of what to do, what should you do now?

more: Big Signs Your Ex Isn’t Over You

Well, you should…

Look For The Top Signs Your Ex Still Loves You

When you’re just looking for signs that he’s over you things might seem hopeless – but they’re just half of the equation.

Like I said before, it’s likely that the harder he’s trying to get over you, the deeper the feelings that he still has for you.

So while you’re watching for signs that he’s getting over you, keep an eye out for these huge signs that your ex still loves you.

Read This: The Top Signs Your Ex Still Loves You (Even If He Insists He Doesn’t)

If you want all the signs you should read the article above, I’m going to list them below now for your convenience.

1. He Calls Or Texts You When He’s Drunk

2. He Goes Hot And Cold On You

3. He’s Trying To Make You Jealous

4. He Reaches Out To You Even If You Asked Him Not To

5. He Shows Really Strong Emotions About You

Again, read the article if you want an in depth explanation of what each of these signs looks like – and exactly what you should do in each of these situations in order to harness his love and get him to come back to you.

Even If He’s Over You, Hope Isn’t Lost! You Can Still Get Him Back

Don’t panic if it looks like from these signs that he’s gotten over you and moved on from the relationship. Even if that’s the case, you can still get him to come back .

I know it’s painful to think about this right now. I know you’re hurting. I want to help you get out of pain and back into the arms of the person you’re in love with.

I’m going to give you all the tools you need in order to grab your ex’s attention again and put yourself in the best possible position to get him back.

So keep reading, because I’m going to give you my guide of exactly what to do.

Exactly What To Do To Get Your Ex Back

So the question is, what should you do to get him back? Is he really over you – and if so what should you do?

First, the most important thing for you to do after a breakup is to gain perspective on the relationship. After all, if you don’t know why you broke up, you won’t be able to fix any of the issues that led to the breakup in the first place.

And if you aren’t able to solve any of the underlying issues in the relationship, then even if you do get back together with him, your relationship is doomed to fall apart under the same forces that tore it apart in the first place.

So in order to get back together with him (and stay together with him), the first step is to really take a look at the relationship with fresh and honest eyes.

Look at the reasons why you broke up. Look at the things you liked about the relationship. Look at the things you didn’t like about the relationship. Then, look at both those things but through your ex boyfriend’s eyes.

You need to see the causes of the breakup clearly if you’re going to overcome them and get back together with him.

Now, this kind of perspective doesn’t come easily. In fact, it’s virtually impossible to achieve if you’re still in contact with him.

That’s why the best way to gain this type of perspective (and the other important thing to do right after a breakup if you want to get back together), is to implement the no contact rule.

I’m not going to list out everything about the no contact rule in this article – I’ll just tell you that it means you don’t talk to him, text him, or contact him in any way for at least 4 weeks. If he contacts you, then you don’t respond except to say that you’re out of contact for now and ask him to please not reach out.

To implement the no contact rule, read the guide I put together here:

Read This: Absolutely Everything You Need To Know About The No Contact Rule

Read that article, put the no contact rule into action, and gain perspective on your relationship.

What’s next?

What Should You Do To Get Him Back After No Contact When He’s Ready To Get Back In Touch?

After the no contact period ends, it’s very likely that you’ll start to see signs that he’s not over you – and might be ready to get back in touch and maybe even rekindle your relationship.

So what should you do in that situation? How should you move forward?

How should you get in touch with him? What should you do when you do meet up with him?

Relax – I have all the answers for you.

Here is my complete guide to how to get your ex back. This article has everything you need to go from breakup to back together as quickly as possible.

Read This Now: Exactly How To Get Your Ex Back In 5 Steps Guaranteed

That article has all the answers you need to get your ex back. Read it to discover exactly what to do in every situation in order to get him back.

Good luck! I honestly wish you the best of luck in getting him back and mending your broken heart.

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In summary…

These Are The Signs Your Ex Is Over You

  1. He’s dating someone else.
  2. He’s mean, rude, or angry at you whenever you talk.
  3. He wants all of his stuff back.
  4. He’s unfriended you across all social media.
  5. He never contacts you anymore (texting/emailing/online chat).
  6. He’s explicitly told you he doesn’t have feelings for you anymore.
  7. He moved away.
  8. He tells you it’s about him, not about you, and that you should move on.
  9. He’s picked up lots of new hobbies.
  10. It’s not flirty at all when you talk anymore.

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46 comments… add one
  • Tailor October 20, 2020, 9:44 am

    So i went no contact for like 2 and a half weeks.. He called me 17 times and i guess he realized his number was blocked so he called from a new number. Crazy right?! He waa asking what i had going on claimed he saw me(i don’t believe him but ok)i told him i was busy and got off the phone. So tbe next time he reached out he was wanting to come over i declined again and told him i was busy but id let him know when i was free.. A day ago now he came over and i guess he just wanted sex or he got horny idk(we had sex) i wanted to but at the same time i didn’t.. He was noticing everything different about me and my house assuming its because I’ve moved onto someone new.. My friend guy was calling and because i didn’t answer he was getting super jealous really killing my mood cause he couldn’t hear my conversation. But if hes done why care? I even asked him if hed moved on and really was serious about not being with me anymore so i could move on. He said looks like you already have.. I said so what do you want to do? He said he needed to be my friend again 1st cause we lost that.. Long story short he stepped out and i moved away, he tried to come after me and i found out shortly the chick was pregnant. Broke my heart cause i wanted a family with him..he wanted to marry me.. I forgave him so i could move on but we kept in contact until the chikd waa born and things were distant again so i let it be.. I had a hard time getting over the situation and as a result i basically told him to leave i needed to let him go so i could really get over what i was holding onto.. Now im here writing this smh i really love him but now it seems like so much bs has been put in his head about me his family pushes him toward the chick he has a kid with but he doesn’t see it

  • Sheryl February 15, 2020, 8:49 pm

    My 48 year old boyfriend and I got into an argument about him speaking to his ex girlfriend and he told me to get out after 19 years together and he refused to speak to me anymore. I couldn’t get him to come over and talk. He and his family blocked me on social media and our daughter stopped talking to me anymore. He broke up with me over the phone and I had to get out of his house. I love him so much and I am having a hard time letting go of my love for him. I think about him all the time and I find myself looking for anything posted on internet about him. I don’t have any idea how to get ahold of him anymore and I know that he had got back with his ex girlfriend. He had posted 4 months later that he was having dinner with the love of his life and her name. He never spoke about me that way at any time. I am 52 years old and I am living in a room in the garage and I lost all of my stuff except clothes and pictures. He even got rid of our dogs and then he moved out of the house we were buying and moved in with his ex girlfriend. I have no friends and no vehicle and no money to get out on my own anymore. He has completely turned his back on me and my son. He even kicked my 20 year old son out to. We had a daughter together and she turned her back on me after the first month. I don’t have any idea why either. I am so heartbroken because I can’t help but feel like everyone else including my children could see this coming and I said that he would never leave me. I was wrong though cause as soon as our daughter was almost 18 he made his move and told me to get out. I think he only stayed with me so he didn’t have to pay child support. I am just having a hard time getting over him!!!! Can someone please offer me some advice because I am just not happy.

  • Omowunmi November 12, 2019, 3:47 am

    After our breakup I stalk him for like two weeks is it possible to get back with each other again

  • Sanchita October 31, 2019, 11:58 pm

    My ex and I dated for 1.5 years and I was his first love of life. Then I ditched him without any proper explanation but he waited for me for an year. Now it has been 2.5 years after our breakup anf we met yesterday
    He directly said he doesn’t have any feelings for me and he has moved on. He also said he is having a crush now. After that I saw tears in his eyes and he also discussed about the intimate times we have spent together.after coming home i have sent him a i love you text but he didn’t reply. I can’t understand if he has moved on or he didn’t. I want to get him back.

  • Rissa December 14, 2018, 11:07 am

    My ex broke up with me in the middle of a therapy session. We had agreed to go after a huge fight because we have been dating for five years and wanted to save the relationship. We haven’t spoken for about a week. He says it’s over, and he doesn’t want to come back. However, our therapist encouraged us to come back. But, he wouldn’t here it. During the session, he made a big deal about only showing up because he wanted his PS4 back. However, he hasn’t reached out to me to come and get it. He told me if I reached out, there was nothing he would say to me. Should I take it as a sign that he may be reconsidering? What should I do?

  • winnie October 31, 2018, 9:51 am

    We had issues and asked me to give him space ,but during that time I found out he was dating some one else who was my friend ,she told me he was courting her ,so I abused him and we had a big fight though it was not a physical fight. So we broke up and actually I didn’t tell or him that we broke up but every one just kept the silence and now when ever he sees me he shows all of hatred and anger and he can’t even say hullo to me.

  • Joy October 23, 2018, 1:25 pm

    My boyfriend and I broke up yesterday. He broke up with me. I did alot for him in our relationship. We dated for 11months. He said I made him send some people away and made him stop doing some things. He says I invade his privacy but he gave me consent to that. He said he doesn’t love me and tried to but to no avail. He says I get unnecessarily jealous and says I never learn or I can’t change. Even after he said he won’t break up with me no matter what happened in my past. He claimed to love and trust me. Today I saw his pic with the girl he was once seeing before me. He went back to her after claiming nothing is going on between them. Am full of anger. I know I still love him. I can’t bear it. I know I can’t keep lying to myself that am over him. Please advice me on what to do. Thanks

    • Deedee March 23, 2019, 2:50 am

      I feel your pain. I had an argument with my boyfriend because I was going through personal stuff about my childhood life with my mother that I never got off my chest and took my anger out on him then told him to leave. But my anger wasn’t towards him I love him dearly and I know I hurt him. Now he been gone for 2 days and hasn’t contacted me since yesterday and I don’t know what to do he wont respond to me and I don’t know if I should just move on. It just hurts because we broke up because I pushed him away and I don’t know if this time it’s officially over. I have made an appointment for therapy and expressed my feelings to my mother about my childhood but sill I don’t know if he will come back. He left his phone at home so I have no way to contact him.

  • Liz July 23, 2018, 3:46 pm

    This is a bit of a strange one, but my ex and I were together for over a year. We just broke up about a week ago. Recently this girl came into his life and I didn’t like it. Next thing I know, we’re arguing because he thinks he needs to be alone. The other day when we texted he said “You just want to know if I am taking you back. And I’m not for a while. If at all”. Then I went to pick up some of my mail and he told me that I could have all his things that he left. Which was a lot. He left his bed, desk, two bookcases, dreamcatchers, recliner, some signs that he hung up on our door and some clothes. It took him this past week just to take me off social media and he still hasn’t taken me off his xbox friends thing. Then when I try to talk to him about things, he shuts down on me and gets upset. I am not sure how to think about this sort of behavior. Or what it could mean at that matter.

  • Gilda July 13, 2018, 5:06 am

    Is Alexander Flores coming back

  • Gilda July 13, 2018, 5:05 am

    Is Alexander Flores coming back yes r no

  • Brenda April 2, 2018, 2:16 pm

    #5 for me. I will let it sit for now. He seems to be confused of how he feels about us. Still likes my fb posts when ever I add a new one.

  • ebbie September 15, 2017, 2:36 am

    even though I really love him I will let him be cause I knw he will reach out for me again coz that’s wht he said

  • obylistic August 8, 2017, 4:32 pm

    If ur ex boy friend don’t border to call u again and when u try calling him he gvs his girl friend ur call to answer or he tell u not to disturb him again. In dis case how do u get him back.

  • sabina June 9, 2017, 4:50 am

    thanks for putting up this post, i’ll try to be brave enough..

  • crizia June 9, 2017, 4:49 am

    he’s actually seeing someone right now and i just can’t help but be jealous :'(

  • jasmine June 6, 2017, 11:50 pm

    i think he’s already dating someone and i don’t wanna interfere. i’ll just try to move on.

  • armaine June 5, 2017, 11:49 pm

    ouch! i know he’s moved on and although it hurts a bit, i wouldn’t wannaget back w/ him anymore. i want to move forward.

  • penelope June 4, 2017, 11:52 pm

    been there, done that! soon, you’ll recover and meet someone better. might as well not dwell on your past and move forward instead.

    • Lovee December 14, 2017, 11:30 am

      How do you move on if you have a kid together also if you know that’s your soulmate ?

  • keisha June 1, 2017, 10:56 pm

    i don’t know if i can do it but i’ll try my best moving on. i realize now he’s not a good influence and so i need to really get past this.

  • tracy May 31, 2017, 7:14 pm

    just broke up with my bf and i feel helpless. i adore him, it just got really complicated. :(

    • Car December 23, 2017, 2:10 am

      I am in the same situation. It’s hard to get over it when he comes over to see the kids. I need him to take them with him instead of hang around it make it akword cause he doesn’t speak to me. He act’s like I don’t even exist. So I separate myself.

  • laila May 25, 2017, 4:38 pm

    if he asks for his belongings back, i think that’s it. if i were in this istuation, i won’t even dare try to win him back anymore.

  • eliana May 24, 2017, 11:31 pm

    if he’s with another woman, i think better keep away. you don’t want to be ruining any relationship, do you?

  • layla May 23, 2017, 5:05 pm

    you have a point. the no contact period is also helpful in preparing both should they decide on getting back together or even if not.

  • shiela May 22, 2017, 1:59 pm

    even if i want to, he has a new girlfriend now and i heard they’re really happy. im not one to ruin that so i’ll just let him be.

  • irene May 21, 2017, 8:42 pm

    thanks for this, i think i’ll try all these to get him back

  • bernadette May 16, 2017, 5:22 pm

    i agree, these are all accurately true

  • maika May 15, 2017, 11:08 am

    i think he isn;t over me yet, a friend of ours told me so. i’m just not sure i still want him back though.

  • nikki May 10, 2017, 5:01 pm

    if he’s dating someone and looks serious, that’s how you know he’s over you. i won’t even bother if this is the case. i’ll try to move on and be happy instead.

  • ryzza May 9, 2017, 6:14 pm

    thanks for this awesome article. i learned a lot from it!

  • becky May 8, 2017, 7:53 pm

    if he’s totally over.,the i won’t even bother any more

  • jacqueline May 3, 2017, 8:43 pm

    wow, this is so cool! i need this at the moment.

  • mylene May 2, 2017, 2:41 pm

    i know all these and i’ve seen them too, but i don’t want to get back w/ him again.

  • malou April 27, 2017, 2:04 pm

    well, he told me he has no feelings left for i won’t even bother anymore </3

  • erika April 25, 2017, 3:21 pm

    thanks for these tips. i really want him back.

  • diana April 24, 2017, 11:49 pm

    if he tells me he’s over me, i won’t even try to fix it. if a guy says that to your face, it’s the real deal.

  • shelly April 23, 2017, 3:08 pm

    he told me he has no feeling for me anymore and that it is really OVER.

  • britney April 20, 2017, 3:48 pm

    im going to try one last time and see if there’s even a slight chance he wants me back.

  • rene April 18, 2017, 2:30 pm

    it would hurt knowing he’s over me but i won’t mind because i have my reasons for breaking up with him, i wouldn’t want to fix it

  • tanya April 17, 2017, 12:08 pm

    i really love this site, very interesting topics! :)

  • korina April 12, 2017, 3:32 pm

    i hope there’s still chance for me and him

  • mitchy April 12, 2017, 12:12 am

    i don’t think there’s still something to fix. we both hurt each other despite the love ):

  • harper April 10, 2017, 12:43 pm

    my ex moved away and i know there’s nothing i can do now. :(

  • danielle April 9, 2017, 2:45 pm

    this is very useful for me and my current situation. thank you for enlightening me.

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