If you’re looking for ways to make your ex miss you, it probably means that you ultimately want to get back together with him.
Sounds simple, right? That if you can figure out how to make him miss you after a breakup, the feeling alone would be strong enough to make him want to get back together with you.
Unfortunately, the reality of the situation is that it’s going to take a lot more than just learning how to make an ex miss you. If you really want to learn how to make your ex want you back and keep him for good, it takes more than just him feeling sad you’re not together anymore.
Now, I don’t want you to take what I’m saying the wrong way — making your ex miss you is a crucial first step towards learning how to make your ex want you back quickly.
In this article, I’m going to show you not only how to make your ex think about you, but exactly how to make an ex want you back, win you back, and keep him for good.
Think of it like a formula. In order to get the best results possible, you have to do the entire formula, not just parts.
If you only tried make your ex boyfriend miss you and nothing else, chances are you wouldn’t end up getting back together with him.
I’ve always been extremely skeptical of anything that doesn’t have scientific evidence or proof to back it. As a dating and relationship coach, I help a lot of women win their exes back by keeping up to date on newly published psychological studies that support methods of what does and does not work. In simpler terms: I don’t like leaving things up to chance.
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Leaving things up to chance means that you are hoping something will happen because you have no tangible evidence to give you confidence in the outcome. Leaving things up to chance means that you are relying on faith and faith alone.
Well, that’s not how I do things. All of my recommendations come from tested, proven, clinical and effective strategies that not only win your ex back, but let you keep him for good.
I wouldn’t feel right giving you information that is not scientifically proven or backed by a load of clinical evidence. I never give advice based on theories without feeling confident that it’ll work for you. That is why I am so intrigued by all the scientific literature related to reconciliation with an ex.
From all of my comparative research, I’ve noticed some common key patterns of successfully getting your ex back…
… all of which I’m going to share with you right now: not only how to get your ex to miss you, but exactly how to make your ex want you back so bad that he’ll never want to leave you again.
You’re Starting Out Way Ahead Of The Game
What do I mean by that? I mean you’ve got a huge advantage already, and you might not even know it.
And shockingly enough, it’s very related to going through withdrawal.
What does drug withdrawal have to do with a breakup? Mentally, breakups are actually very similar to how it feels when you quit a drug an enter a withdrawal period. Drugs stimulate the pleasure center of the brain, which increases dopamine levels and contributes to general feelings of euphoria.
When you quit the drug, however, you feel a profound low. You might feel lethargic, like you have no energy and no real spring in your step. When you see your ex, look at pictures of him, are driving, or hear a song on the radio, you might end up uncontrollably crying in a ball of tears.
A general sense of sadness might make your whole body hurt when you even think of the breakup. Anything that reminds you of him will inevitably bring this sadness to the surface, and might even inspire even regret.
Chemically, you’re having the opposite reactionto the initial euphoria you experienced while in the relationship.
As I hope you are starting to see, loveis actually like an addiction
and mimics addiction patterns — a scientific theory that’s been floating around for a while.
But there are plenty of more where that came from.
There Is A 90% Chance That Your Boyfriend Already Misses You
How could I be so sure of that? More on how to make your ex miss you without talking to him in a second.
First, I want to talk about something that a lot of women worry about after a breakup: that they are obsessing over the relationship too much. They worry that they’ve somehow crossed an invisible boundary and are abnormally sad about the end of the relationship. I often hear things like, “How can I try to make my ex miss me when I am this devastated?” or “I miss my ex boyfriend and want him back, but feel too much of a wreck to try.”
The truth? None of this is even remotely abnormal. In fact, it’s extremely common to feel very sad, and to fixate on the breakup after a relationship. The vast majority of people go through it.
Which means what, exactly? That your ex is almost certainly thinking about you! That’s the beauty of understanding universal human reactions to a breakup. It can give you insight into the same process he is going through. So, does your ex miss you already? If you miss him, he probably misses you too!
That being said, we don’t always know exactlywhat he is thinking. They could be good things, bad things, or both.
But either way, the fact of the matter is that he is thinking about you. If he’s thinking about you, it’s possible (and even likely) that he is even missing you.
Another point I need to stress: Is it possible to make my ex miss me if he’s in a new relationship? Well, missing thinking about your ex doesn’t magically stop overnight, even if someone enters a new relationship. Let’s reverse the scenario: let’s say you’ve found yourself a new man or rebound. Does this mean you don’t ever miss or think about your ex boyfriend? No. So, if you ever doubt how to make an ex think about you, try reversing the scenario. The same goes for him (especially if it’s a rebound relationship).
Now, let’s get back to that 90% chance of your ex already missing you I talked about earlier. How can I make that claim?
Easy: with scientific studies and cold-hard facts.
Have you ever stalked your ex’s Instagram or Facebook trying to find out whether or not he has a new girlfriend, what she looks like, or what he is generally up to? Have you ever done this with an overwhelming sense of panic mixed with inexplicable curiosity? Do you almost always end up getting more upset and frustrated by the end of your spying?
Even in my own life, I can admit that I’ve done this. I recall how I acted after a bad breakup with a girl I truly loved. I’d check her social media constantly, trying to figure out how she was doing. Why? I wanted to know what was going on with her.
You and I are not alone. In fact, one study (1) showed that 90% of people had admitted to spying on their exes through social media. What exactly does this have to do with learning how to get an ex to miss you?
Well… it means there’s a 90% chance that your ex-boyfriend is going to be secretly checking your social media, and missing you more and more each visit.
The point is…
You’ve Got A Huge Advantage Already
Even if you are broken up, in all likelihood (based on science) your ex probably still has you on his mind… often. Think about your history with other men: do exes miss you usually?
And if your ex has you on his mind often… you can use this to get an advantage, correct?
You bet. This is what is going to put you in the position of power when it comes to making your ex miss you. Because he already has you on his mind, this puts you in an excellent position where it’s not going to even be too difficult to get him to desperately miss you.
So wait… are you telling me that the answer of how to get my ex to miss me is super simple and easy? That if I want my ex to miss me then he’ll miss me, right?
Uh, well… no, not exactly.
There are many things you need to do in order to accomplish this.
But here is the main point I am trying to get across.
At the moment, your ex has you on his mind way too often. So let’s take this baseline and think about what would happen if you add an expert’s advice on top of this. Learning how to make your ex boyfriend miss you should be super easy, right?
Before we get to that and I explain the formula for making him miss you I have to give you a key understanding so that you maximize your shot of success.
The Most Important Thing That Makes or Breaks Whether Your Ex Misses You
What determines whether or not your ex-boyfriend misses you?
The nature of the time you spent with him is going to play a huge role in whether or not he wants to get back together with you. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but I am not going to lie to you because I want you to truly know what’s going on (rather than give you false hope).
If the nature of the time you spent with him during your relationship was miserable and unhappy, the chances of him wanting to get back together with you are lower. On the flip side, if you had an amazing relationship, it’s more likely that he does want to get back together.
Who Broke Up With Who?
This is another huge factor when trying to assess whether he will want to get back together. This is another point I want to make before getting into the actual “formula” of how to get your ex boyfriend to miss you in order to win him back.
If youbroke up with him your shot of getting him back is higher than if he broke up with you. Why? Because people inherently want what they can’t have. If he had you and you ended the relationship, he will be left wanting more.
In particular, if you broke up with him and it was something he 100% did not want to happen… you are going to definitely have an advantage in this situation. He is going to feel like he was powerless over losing you and will want to get back together with you. It is human instinct. If something we like is taken away from us, we want it back.
Kind of like if you are on diet: you feel deprived of something you loveand enjoy. If you are staring at a piece of cake and know you can’t have it, you want it more than if you can freely eat all the cake you want. It’s an even stronger force when you’ve broken up with someone who wants to stay together with you… because the lack of cake is a self-imposed restriction, whereas someone breaking up with you when you do not want them to is not self-imposed. So if you broke up with him and he did not want you to… this is an advantage.
That is, unless he was unfaithful, betrayed you and this caused you to break up with him. If he cheated on you (or if you cheated on him) it means the relationship wasn’t headed in a good direction. Cheating means there were fundamental problems in the relationship and the quality of time you spent together probably wasn’t that great.
But even still, this plan can work. So pay attention to the formula which answers the big question: How can you make your ex come back to you? Well, it’s simple: with these four phases.
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How To Make Your Ex-Boyfriend Miss You
- Phase 1: Do Not Contact Him
- Phase 2: Work On Becoming Your Best Self
- Phase 3: Create Envy By Being Open To Other Men
- Phase 4: Let Him Miss You And Come Back To You
Phase 1: Don’t Contact Him
This is essential. Do you want to know what to text your ex boyfriend when you miss him and are trying to win him back? Absolutely nothing. If you are constantly texting your text, telling him how much you miss him and how much you love him… this will backfire. If you’re trying to make him miss you after a breakup, there is absolutely nothing worse than persistently trying to talk to him.
Think about it. The negative feelings and emotions at the end of a relationship overwhelm everything else, forcing the couple to break up. If you don’t give talking to each other a break after a relationship ends, then you both are constantly reminded of those ‘end of the relationship’ negative feelings and emotions.
You have to give him a chance to forget the trauma and negativity of the end of the relationship before you talk to him again, or all he’ll be able to think about is how bad he felt at the end of the relationship (and then attach all those bad feelings to you).
It’s hard to miss someone who is constantly in your face, trying to contact you. Give him room to miss you. Truly. This is so important. Without this phase, nothing will work.
You must give him room to miss you. If you are not making yourself actively available to him, he will start to want what he cannot have. People want what is out of their reach. In this case, silence is one of the best things to say to make your ex miss you and want to get back together.
I know “no contact” can be hard, especially if you have the instinct to call or text your ex. Think about the alternative: texting him that you miss him, only for him to not respond back. Leaving space for his imagination (i.e. not texting him in the first place) is exactly how to get your ex to text you first. I understand how hard it can be to control yourself when you are in an emotional state and you miss him a lot and just want to reach out. But trust me, following “no contact” is worth the benefits you will get in the long run (making it possible to get back together with him). It is absolutely essential to stop contacting him and never, ever plead with him to get back together.
If you have already done this up to this point, it’s not the best situation, but it can be fixed if you stop right now and follow this formula, which leads me to the next phase…
Phase 2: Become Your Best Self
This has subcategories with it, so let’s get started.
Make Fitness a Top Priority
Now, I want to make this very clear: I am not saying you must be a certain weight or go out of your way to be a certain way to fit some societal idea of what is right. I am not saying this. I am simply being honest about how men are going to be the most attracted to you when you are in the best shape for you. I am talking about doing the best with your unique body shape that you can. healthy is hot. Again, healthy not emaciated or unhealthy. Try to invest time in what you eat and add some light working out to your routine. You will feel and look your best.
Invest in Some New Makeup
You might as well do this in order to feel better about yourself. Go and buy a new lipstick, eyeliner or something that makes you feel sexy and attractive. It’s all about how you feel about yourself. If you take extra care in applying your makeup, you will go out and feel better. That’s what it’s all about. How do you make your ex miss you after a breakup? By both looking and feeling like your best self.
Take Care of Yourself
In general, make yourself a priority. Take care of your health, your general well-being and make sure you take the time to do this as well.
Are there female friends you have lost touch with? Re-unite! Go out, meet new people and be yourself. Let go of any sadness you have and distract yourself with true fun. Learn how to laugh again, to have a good time and be in the company of others who you can truly be yourself with.
Social Media Image
Putting your best foot forward includes social media. Remember we discussed how most people do stalk their exes on social media? You can use this silent stalking as an excellent way to make him yearn for you. Put up some amazingly flattering pictures looking happy and delighted with life. There are two parts to the social media part.
Step 1) Men are visual creatures. Remember how looking your best is part of this phase? Well, it spills over to this part. Post a hot picture. Do not have a profile picture of your dog or a picture of the beach. Simply post an attractive picture to make him realize what he is missing.
Step 2) Post a picture of you having a good time. Instead of him getting the comfort of knowing you are depressed without him in your life, show him you are still out and enjoying life without him needing to be in it. As I have mentioned many times in many articles, men are attracted to happy women. Not only that, he will want you more because he is going to be slightly upset at how un-upset you are. This is human instinct. He is going to want you to miss him, which will in turn make him start to miss you. Remember how having fun is part of this phase? Post a good picture of it!
Phase 3: Other Men (Create Envy)
This is an extremely risky one that I do not think is always a good idea. If you were with an extremely possessive, emotional man who would be disgusted at seeing you with another man… do not do this. This can either work very well or completely backfire and make him never want to get back together with you.
So proceed with caution and if you do decide to do this, only do it in small doses do not go overboard because I guarantee you it will backfire. I am not saying to go crazy and intentionally try to make him jealous by flirting with everyone and plastering it on social media.
What I am saying is do some things here and there that hint that you are being pursued by other men. Whether it is on Facebook or Instagram, posting a status update that shows you hanging out with another man… what is most important here is that you realize you do have options. Maybe do some casual flirting with men you meet.
This will help you see that you do not have to be so hung up on your ex only. Now, you might meet other men and realize you only want your ex back but you also might meet other men and realize there is a whole world out there full of new people to meet. This will help your vibe when you interact with your ex in the future.
He will feel that you are a woman who has choice. If you’re ever in do In fact, you do not even have to flaunt meeting new men at all. The best option is to simply do things you want and have fun, which will give you the confidence of having a choice. When he feels this vibe, he will not want to lose you to another man and instinctively want to have you back.
Questions & Answers
How to make your ex miss you over text?
It sounds like a contradiction, but the No Contact Rule (i.e. no calling, contacting, or texting point blank) is how to make your ex miss you through text. The No Contact Rule gives you the best chance of winning him back and keeping him. It lets his run wild imagination and doubt whether or not he made the right decision. It also puts you in a position of power and activates fear that he might have lost you forever.
How to make your ex boyfriend regret breaking up with you?
Break off contact. Work on self-improvement (physically and emotionally). Instigate jealousy or envy by opening yourself up to the possibility of other men. Most important: give him the time and space to let him miss you.
How to make your ex boyfriend miss you when he has a new girlfriend?
Following the No Contact Rule. Your ex has let his imagination run wild about what you could be doing to the point where he is totally preoccupied with you. Even if he’s in a rebound relationship, this is where the bubble might burst for him and he sees this new person as something that’s unrealistic (and potentially a nuisance). If curiosity has built up in your ex’s head, he’ll start to wonder if you might be with another person. Jealousy may come up.
How to make your ex want you?
I hate to harp on this, but it’s really just so effective: the No Contact Rule. Keeping about a 3-8 weeks of complete distance (no calls, no texts, no exchanges) gives both parties enough space to be objective without losing sentimental value on the relationship. What would the point be of breaking up, only to be inundated with a barrage of calls and texts asking to get back together? As hard as it is, try to think back on the time when you and your ex first started dating. So much magic and excitement came from what was unknown about each other. And also, it’s important to remember that the no contact rule is about what you do with yourself in those 4 weeks, about taking space to improve yourself and give much needed clarity and perspective.
How to make your ex fall in love with you again?
Worst-case scenario, let’s say your ex doesn’t reach out to you or refuses to talk to you. Even then, that’s still a sign he could love you because your silence has driven him to an extreme. Hate isn’t the opposite of love, but indifference is. There’s no way to make your ex fall in love with you again, but if you follow the formula in its 4 phases, you’ll have the best chance at the best possible outcome.
How to make your ex jealous?
Men really are simple creatures either motivated by sex, independent thinking, or jealousy, so I’m sure you can only imagine how effective incorporating all three into the formula can be. How to make my ex boyfriend miss me? Just give him space. How to make my ex boyfriend miss me badly? Start looking good, feeling good, and flirting with other men! How do I make my ex miss me? I flirt with other women. There’s no reason why you shouldn’t do what a man would do in this case. Get out there and let the world see you!
Phase 4: Let Him Miss You And Come Back To You
This is the simplest phase of all, but one of the hardest to do correctly.
If you’ve completed phase 1, you know that you shouldn’t be contacting him in order to concentrate on getting yourself into the best headspace and mindset that you can be in.
Also, you’re giving both you and your ex space to let the negativity of the breakup fade. That way, he remembers how good you were together without those memories being tainted by the end of the relationship.
This phase is crucial. You need to put everything that you’ve gained from the first three phases of this plan together and let him come back to you.
Once you’ve put phases 1 through 3 into action, you should be feeling a little better, working on yourself, and also having other options in your dating life.
When all that comes together, it can be tempting to reach out and contact him. After all, you’re feeling really good, so you should reach out to him, right?
While it’s good that you’re feeling better and in a better headspace, in the end it will be much more powerful if you let him reach out to you first.
If he does it, at least then it’s his idea instead of yours. It will feel to him like he’s pursuing you and trying to win you back. If you reach out to him, it might make him feel like you’re trying to manipulate him into a relationship. I know you’re probably thinking: “I don’t know how to make my ex miss me when I’m not there to see whether or not it’s working!” Which brings me to my next point …
Phase 4 is simple: sit tight, keep working on yourself, keep pursuing other options in your dating life, and let him miss you and come back to you.
Now, I want to leave you with something to think about…
How to Tell If He Misses You
- Does he randomly text you out of the blue to ask you how you are doing?
- Does he send you messages on social media and talk about nothing?
- Does he call you when he is drunk?
- Does he tell you he is thinking about you?
- Does he seem to show up at places you are at?
- Does he still talk to anyone you are close to?
If you have any questions or concerns, please write me a comment below and I would love to answer it! And please do let me know your success stories because there is nothing I love more than hearing success stories.
I hope that now you know how to make your ex miss you after your breakup. One important thing is that him missing you is just one piece of the puzzle, if you want him back and you want him to stay with you forever then you need to make him see you as “the one” – the woman he couldn’t live without. To do that you need this secret formula to get your ex back in your arms for good, so don’t wait or you might miss your chance forever: Do You Want Your Ex Back? Use This To Get Them Back…
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