So you’re here because you want to know the signs you’re still in love with your ex.
Everyone’s been there. Breakups are horrible, especially when two people fall out of love with each other.
But what happens when one person hasn’t fallen out of love, and the other one has? How can that person cope with the breakup? How can they ever get over it?
It might seem impossible to stop loving someone when you’re overwhelmed with heartbreak, but the pain eventually does fade and the scars do heal.
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I know that if you’ve been trying to get over a guy, especially if you’ve been trying for a while, it can be really discouraging to find yourself still hung up on him. Asking yourself late at night, do I still love him?
If no matter what you do, you just can’t get that one guy out of your mind, you might still be in love with him.
Once you figure out where you stand and what your situation is, you can move forward with the right goal and plan in mind – whether that’s getting him back or getting over him for good.
Either way, you have to know where you stand in your heart of hearts. So with that in mind, here are the top 7 signs that you’re still in love with your ex.
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The 7 Biggest Signs You’re Still In Love With Your Ex
1. You Compare Every Guy You Meet To Your Ex
It’s hard to get over a guy – but it’s especially hard when in your heart you think he’s the yardstick by which you should measure every other guy you meet.
If you’re consciously or unconsciously measuring every new guy you meet up against your ex-boyfriend, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
Why? Because if that’s the case, what you really want is your ex… not someone new. And since every guy is different and unique, no one is going to give you exactly what your ex gave you – so no guy is going to satisfy what you’re looking for.
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When you put every new guy up against the gold standard of your ex – it might be because you’re still in love with him.
2. Things That Remind You Of Your Ex Make You Emotional
Maybe it’s catching a glimpse of him on social media. Or driving past the restaurant you used to go to.
Or maybe it’s something like noticing that it’s his birthday, or hearing a song on the radio that reminds you of him… you get the idea.
Whatever it is, whenever something reminds you of him it sets you off emotionally.
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If that’s what’s happening, then your subconscious is trying to tell you that you have lots of unprocessed feelings about him, and they all come bubbling to the surface when you get reminded of him in an unexpected way.
What are those unprocessed feelings? A lot of the time, it’s because you’re still in love.
3. You’re Still Thinking Of Him – Even After A Long Time
Over time, memories of past relationships start to fade, day by day, until one day you realize you didn’t even think about him all day.
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Then you go two days. Then three.Until the time comes where you realize that you don’t really think about him anymore.
That’s what happens to everyone when they get over a breakup.
But what happens when it’s been months, or even years – and you’re still thinking about him?
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That means you’re not over him – because even after all that time you’re still in love with him.
4. You Can’t Think Of A Single Bad Thing About The Relationship
Love has been described as wearing rose-tinted glasses when you look at another person.
In other words – they can do no wrong in your eyes, because of the strength of your love for them.
After a relationship ends, once both parties gain perspective on it and on what happened they can see where the relationship was good, and where it was bad. Where things worked, and where they didn’t. They can see what eventually led to the downfall of the relationship.
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Gaining perspective like that on a relationship is only possible when you’re not still hung up on your ex.
If you can’t see anything wrong with your relationship – if it still feels like you had the most perfect relationship ever even after things ended… much of the time it’s because you’re still in love with your ex, and still looking at him (and at the relationship) with rose-tinted glasses.
5. Whenever Something Happens In Your Life He’s The First Person You Want To Tell
Humans are social creatures. We’re wired to share our thoughts and feelings, successes and failures, and wins and losses with each other.
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When something big happens in life, we tend to go to the people who are most important to us first. We tell the people whose praise we most value, and whose opinion we weigh the most strongly.
So if whenever something news-worthy happens in your life, your first instinct is to go to your ex – it’s because you still value his opinion above anyone else’s in your life… because you could be still in love with him.
6. Your Friends Are Sick Of Hearing About Him
Friends are there to pick you up when you’re down. They’re there to help you out when you’re feeling blue, listen to your troubles when you’re having a hard time, and celebrate with you when things are going well.
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Still – every person has their limits. No one wants to hear about the same thing over and over again, especially when they’re trying to help their friend move past it.
If your friends are tired of hearing about your ex-boyfriend, it’s probably because they’ve been waiting for you to get over this guy for too long now, and they’ve grown tired of hearing about it.
If it’s taken so long to get over him that your friends don’t even want to hear about him anymore – it’s a sign that you’re still in love with him.
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7. You Can’t Stop Checking His Profiles On Social Media
It’s like an addiction. You know it’s going to hurt you, you know it’s not going to make you feel good, you know that nothing good will come of it – and you still check on him on social media.
Obviously, in the first days and weeks after a breakup, it’s nearly impossible to avoid looking at your ex’s social media. It won’t help you, and it will make you feel like crap, but it’s nearly impossible to resist.
That’s totally normal. Where it veers into “maybe you’re still in love with him” territory is when you can’t stop checking his social media… even 6 months or a year or years after you’ve broken up.
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At that point, it’s less about the freshness of the breakup, and far more about the fact that you’re still carrying a flame for him, and that your love for him hasn’t ever really gone away.
So if you find yourself nodding along with this sign along with a few of the others, I hate to break it to you but… you’re probably still in love with him.
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These Are The Signs You’re Still In Love With Your Ex
- You compare every guy you meet to your ex.
- Things that remind you of your ex make you emotional.
- You’re still thinking of him – even after a long time.
- You can’t think of a single bad thing about the relationship.
- Whenever something happens in your life he’s the first person you want to tell.
- Your friends are sick of hearing about him.
- You can’t stop checking his profiles on social media.
This is me. And it hurts so much. 17 months on and he has dated a lot of other women, even fallen in love with someone else (but it wasn’t reciprocated) and I still can’t get him out of my head. Sometimes it’s like actual physical pain. I can’t imagine ever being with someone again. I don’t think I’d survive another heartbreak like this.
I’ve never dated this guy and he never dated me. But we both like each other alot and are friends with benefits. I asked him out and he just said that he takes more time than an average person to become romantic with them. After being denied, and giving him space, he’s still always on my mind. We still hang out together like typical friends, and we still get intimate with each other as FWBs do. It’s just hard on me because I’m genuinely in love with him and he’s not ready to date, well, anyone. He’s one of the most compatible people I’ve previously asked out or past dated, in terms or romance and sex.
I definitely still love him but I don’t know if he still loves me. He admitted to it a month or so a go. But we were never actually dating in the first place because he had to go away to college. But now he’s back for 4 months. We both agreed that it would be best if we didn’t pursue our feelings for each other since he’s not very willing to get into another relationship and we would rarely see each other anyway. It was so difficult for me. But we still gaze and smile at each other like before so I’m not sure where I stand with him.
I still think about him after 5 years. Had no other boyfriends since then. I thought we would marry. He left suddenly after 4 years and would never speak to me again. I’ve had lots of boyfriends and am not getting any younger. This is my worst break up ever.
it’s true, i always compared every guy and no one seemed to be better than him. im just glad i’ve moved on finally
when everything just reminds you of him, that’s basically it. lol
gaaaah…i still have all these signs in me!
these signs are all true, i have been in this situation before
i wonder why i even had to read this. it’s so obvious i am still hooked and i can’t handle it :'(
i definitely love him still. i just don’t know what to do. i heard he’s already dating out.
all these are real and you can’t force yourself to just move forward if you’re still in love with him. :(
you can’t help but compare him with other men you meet
i’m in a midst of moving on from a breakup. thanks for this article.
i admit i still love him, but i don’t know if want to be with him again. :(
i’m so guilty of these LOL!
my friends would set me up for a date but then i would always compare them to my ex and that ruined everything for me. good thing i finally learned to move on..now i’m very happy but i do sometimes regret the time wasted.
i have been thru all these..it sucks and funny thinking about it now! lol
i am so guilty of all these signs! lol
when you still can’t help thinking about him in every situation you’re in, you’re absolutely not over him
this happened to me before, i can’t seem to forget my ex and every guy i met, i would compare to him and no one seemed to be better than him. that’s because i don’t want to let go. but thankfully, i met a great man and he showed me what i was missing out.
i can see myself just by reading this, haha! i was like this after my break up but thankfully i got over it and over him. ;)
these signs are real…
thinking about the past with him & ending up reminiscing is surely a prob for you
i don’t think we need a list regarding this because we know ourselves and only you can answer this, we just don’t to admit it most of the time.
after a sad break up, i used to compare my ex each guy i met. it sucks because there seems to be no one better than him. this i think is the most common scenario for a woman
i don’t want these feelings anymore!! =(
he’s cheated on me twice and i don’t wanna go back to that nightmare. i know this will soon pass and i can move on in time. i hope i don’t fall into his trap again.
i always find myself thinking about him and how we used to be. we were so good together! i don’t know how i could go on without him. =(
i was always trying to find ways to bump into him and my friends grew tired of it lol
you can’t stop comparing him to men you meet
GUILTY!! gaaaahh..im sooo not over him! i hope i can recover from this soon!
these are all so true. they happened to me, i talked to my bf about it and decided to get back together
social media is one of the reasons i can’t move on with my ex…
yes, i admit my feelings for him have not changed
gosh, i’m so screwed! :(
i am so guity of almost all these signs and i don’t deny it despite my eagerness to move on