Habits of Real Men That Make Women Melt

Chivalry Isn’t Dead: 9 Habits Of Real Men That Make Women Melt

If you go by the major #trends in today’s society, no one would fault you for deciding that yes, chivalry is dead, men are pigs, and there’s no hope out there for an honest girl.

After all, with the dating scene turning into the tinder roulette wheel, cheating men (and women) running wild, and the booty call reigning supreme, who could blame you?

And yet…

And yet, there are men out there who still go the extra mile. Men out there who haven’t forgotten how important one small gesture can be to make someone’s entire day (or week!)

Men who know the true meaning of the word gentleman.

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So in that spirit, here are 9 habits that you’ll find in that rare, seemingly close to extinct species of man…

The Chivalrous Gentleman:

1. Surprises You With Flowers

OK, so we’re going to go corny first. Sue me, it’s my list, I can write it how I want to.

Most cheaters/deadbeats/losers know to send flowers on Valentine’s day, but it’s a rare man who knows that a bouquet he picked up from the supermarket can win him major MAJOR points and leave a girl glowing for days.

2. Puts In The Time With Your Family And Friends

How many guys have you know that are happy to hang out (as long as it’s between the hours of midnight and 8am and involves sex)?

Guys that are actually willing to spend time with not just you but the people you care about are rare – and valuable.

Dudes that are willing to put in the time with your parents and make an effort with your friends are keepers, and their actions say a lot about their character.

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3. Squeezes Extra Tight During A Hug

Ah, the hug. Known as kissing’s less sexy cousin, the significance of the hug has fallen by the wayside in recent years.

That’s why it’s so refreshing when a guy puts a little extra *oomph* into a hug, just to let you know he really means it.

That’s the kind of connection that a really special guy puts in the effort to make.

4. Helps You Into Your Coat

Yes, I know, we can put on our own damn coats… but it’s not about that.

It’s about a guy deciding to spontaneously make your life easier, or offer you his jacket when it’s cold outside. It’s about showing you that he cares.

5. Opens The Door For You

This is something you’re more likely to get out of your grandfather than your most recent plentyoffish match, and yet it speaks volumes about his character.

If he makes the effort to get out of his car and open the passenger side door for you, it tells you a lot about the kind of guy he is – not to mention shows you that he’s willing to go the extra mile even when it’s not expected.

One word: keeper.

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6. Walks Between You And Traffic

I remember the first time a guy positioned himself on the outside of me on the sidewalk I didn’t know what he was doing.

But then I realized that he was instinctually shielding my body from traffic – and in that moment my heart melted.

7. Watches Your Favorite Show With You

OK, so maybe he doesn’t like Downton Abbey. Maybe Broad City isn’t his thing (but come on, if it isn’t just dump him. That show is amazing). Maybe he prefers The Daily Show to Girls.

But he’s willing to watch with you anyway. More than that – he’s glad to just spend the time with you, and doesn’t expect anything in return.

That’s chivalry.

8. Gives You The Last Bite Of His Food

He knows you’ve been eying his french fries since the moment he carried them to the table.

The real test is whether he eats them all anyway – or he saves you a few because he knows how bad you want them.

Stick to the guys who put your cravings before their desire for those last few bites.

9. Puts Gas In The Tank

Let’s face it – borrowing someone’s car is a big deal. You’re being put in charge of a couple of tons of metal and machinery with no supervision or oversight.

Which is why it should be common courtesy to be generous and grateful for the favor. It should be – but it’s not.

That’s why finding a guy who’s willing to say thank you with his mouth and his wallet is such a great find – and someone you should put in the effort to hold onto.

These are just 9 small ways that the more chivalrously inclined gentlemen show that they care for you… and when you see them, it can put a warm, happy feeling in your stomach for the rest of the day.

So in today’s era of tinder and booty calls, it’s always nice to be reminded that no, chivalry is not dead. You just have to find one of the good ones.

Until next time,

Rebecca Mercy

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In summary…

The Chivalrous Habits Of Real Men

  1. Surprises you with flowers
  2. Puts in the time with your family and friends
  3. Squeezes extra tight during a hug
  4. Helps you into your coat
  5. Opens the door for you
  6. Walks between you and traffic
  7. Watches your favorite show with you
  8. Gives you the last bite of his food
  9. Puts gas in the tank

the chivalrous habits of real men

53 comments… add one
  • Mammy(THAPI) November 4, 2017, 4:56 am

    It’s so of my man,he is just in the habits of real man,I so really appreciate that and at some point would think he is too much bt not knowing he cares,love,cherich etc.loving u Mr T.

  • LISA BLINKS June 24, 2017, 2:09 pm

    Wow, wen i find sum1 wit these qualities . . . . i will neva let go

    • Asoro Uvieoghene August 31, 2019, 3:55 pm

      Same here. I am so craving for such a man.

  • LISA BLINKS June 24, 2017, 2:08 pm

    Wow, wen i find sum1 wit the7e qualities . . . . i will neva let go

  • jing July 3, 2016, 8:36 am

    I hope it would be mine I’ve never meet like this. Ii wish I can find like this..

    • Angus September 26, 2023, 8:04 pm

      Only wish? How about your own quality

  • Lady J June 30, 2015, 1:26 pm

    I just wish am lucky to find a man with all dis qualities,tears

  • yinka June 30, 2015, 9:20 am

    Though it might b an old sch stuff but believe me it still exist. “Chivalry” I never knew am that kind of a guy till d day my bae told me and I was like WAO!!! Amazing. And she told me to keep it up.

  • Firdausi June 27, 2015, 3:48 pm

    I pray dat 1 day, i would meet some1 wit d above listed features{ameen}

  • Doris June 1, 2015, 3:34 pm

    Is a pitty i get to know about relationship when he is no more

  • Taiwo odufuwa May 31, 2015, 10:59 am

    My husband is like dat, nt all bt he his tryin & i am lucky 2 b his wife.

  • Sapana May 30, 2015, 1:59 am

    I wish i could find like dis man ..:-)

    • deepak June 22, 2015, 2:19 am

      where you are from ?

  • Susmita Giri May 28, 2015, 1:08 am

    I wish I cud find a guy like dis!!
    Finger cross. ..

  • Julie May 11, 2015, 4:58 am

    LOL,you’ll have one one day,just chill n don’t rush

    • mitesh June 9, 2015, 11:09 am

      I used to give chocolates to my x gf..
      Its been years..today when i read your this comment i remembered all..

  • Sushmita May 8, 2015, 2:16 pm

    I think i have this guy with me…. Except he brings chocolates in place of flowers. I love it :)

    • mitesh June 9, 2015, 11:11 am

      I used to give chocolates to my x gf..
      Its been years..today when i read your this comment i remembered

  • zee lawal May 8, 2015, 12:31 pm

    i like dis…

  • Jaycee G. May 7, 2015, 1:23 am

    I have all these but I still don’t have a GF.

    • Love May 27, 2015, 12:57 pm

      Try nd fing 1 if u re really sure u ve it

  • clara m May 5, 2015, 6:26 am

    people dont no hw romantic it can be.wish i had a guy to treat me that way but all alone is my second name.

  • PJA May 3, 2015, 4:35 am

    That was a good read. In my opinion chivalry still exists, but men are generally less expressive. Women like attention and to feel cared. Small acts like these would help a relation grow stronger, provided, the lady must also reciprocate his love and not just take his niceness for granted.

  • ritika May 2, 2015, 2:31 pm

    i wsh i cd fnd a guy lk ds:(

    • vyshak May 2, 2015, 10:31 pm

      am here

      • SAS May 4, 2015, 11:12 am

        Hmm I think I have this attribute but I not hv any gf

        • Julie May 11, 2015, 4:56 am

          LOL,search harder,you’ll find one

    • mayank May 4, 2015, 11:45 am

      all the……….bst

  • rehana April 30, 2015, 9:46 pm

    My ex was all of this. He was able to melt my heart at each turn. Glad Of this post. It brought good memories.

    • Laurinda May 3, 2015, 4:35 pm

      Its too bad that he is an “ex” now. If he was so great, what was the deciding reason that you are not together?

  • Berta M. April 30, 2015, 11:08 am

    The other side of a guy being this way is that you, as the woman, needs to see that it is happening. Not for the fact that it means more, but that shows that you are noticing the good things in a man and that is going to be good for the relationship in the end.

  • Timothy April 30, 2015, 10:52 am

    I love this list. I always felt that I was this type of guy, but I am afraid that my partners never really thought much about it.

  • Maxie B. April 29, 2015, 10:00 am

    These are ALL great tips that any man can learn from. We need to send them here to read this and make sure they realize how important we are to them. Of course, it goes both ways, so if you are going to treat your guy like garbage, then you should get it back.

  • laila naeem April 29, 2015, 9:54 am

    my husband does almost all of the above mentioned things

    • Jake D. May 2, 2015, 8:57 am

      That is too bad Laila. Even though the entire list is not needed, it is very important that at least a couple of these things are done. It keeps things fresh and honest with each other. Good luck!

  • Akesha April 29, 2015, 5:00 am

    Which English is it? I couldn’t get it.

  • 8675309 April 28, 2015, 9:11 pm

    I am happy to see that other men here do not think that chivalry is NOT dead. It just happens to work better for some people than others. In that case, you just need to be refreshed at how to treat a woman.

    • Angus September 26, 2023, 8:05 pm

      Why don’t how to treat PEOPLE.

  • Yolanda April 28, 2015, 2:39 pm

    My man is the exact description of many of the things that you have posted here. At first I was not used to the new “habits” in my life and I questioned why he was doing them. Now I know it’s just because he is that kind of guy :)

  • Vina April 27, 2015, 2:51 pm

    I guess it comes down to what the guy wants from me. I am only going to give back what he gives me. If he wants to buy me flowers or open doors for me, I am going to be extra nice and lady like for him right back.

  • Monica J. April 26, 2015, 12:04 am

    I have met a man, the first one in my short life, that has actually treated me in the ways that you have listed here. Chivalry can be dead, but there is a choice that real men have to make to keep it alive!

  • Morty Williams April 24, 2015, 7:09 pm

    I can say that chivalry is NOT dead. I think that my wife would agree. I have always done what I could to make my wife feel like a million bucks and it just comes down to making sure that she comes first!

  • Marlene April 24, 2015, 6:50 pm

    I think that it might have died off a little since the 1950’s for sure. I am not going to say that chivalry is completely dead, but it is on life support.

  • RealMan007 April 23, 2015, 7:58 pm

    LOL. I am a real man and it does not take much. The main thing is that you are NOT going to be thinking about yourself only. If you love her, you will treat her right!

  • ManlyMan April 23, 2015, 7:43 pm

    I love to be good to my woman. Chivalry might have died to some, but I am old fashion and its all about the woman in my life :)

  • Mark88Tom April 21, 2015, 9:55 pm

    Chivalry might be an “old school” thing, but it is not dead at all. I still see it in men and the way they treat their significant other in public.

    • Verna April 28, 2015, 2:58 pm

      I don’t think that it is that “old school”, it is just not emphasized anymore. Young men should grow up seeing things like this and learn that chivalry is not dead.

  • Peter April 21, 2015, 9:54 pm

    I personally love to melt my wife’s heart any chance that I can. Keeping things alive comes down to chivalry, there is no doubt about that.

  • K. Linderman April 20, 2015, 6:03 pm

    I am happy to read this. I always felt I was in the chivalry is not dead category, but I felt like I was alone there. Great!

    • Chandler April 21, 2015, 9:26 pm

      You are not alone. There is a large group of guys that know that chivalry is not dead. I am glad to read this post as well, very refreshing to find points that I live by!

  • J. Heather April 14, 2015, 4:01 pm

    There are a lot of jerks out there that give the rest of us guys a bad name. I am glad you wrote this post as it describes many of the things that I like to do to keep things “fresh” for my wife and I.

  • D. Spitler April 14, 2015, 3:26 pm

    Walking between her and the traffic is always something that I do. I could not live with myself if she were hit and I could have been there to protect her. Great post here, I am glad to see that somethings are not lost.

  • Derek S. April 14, 2015, 3:12 pm

    The flowers are always a hit. You cannot do that all of the time, but when the time is right, the surprise is a great feeling!

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