You’re here because you want to know the biggest signs a guy doesn’t like you through texting.
You want to be able to figure out how he feels about you from looking at his texts.
Maybe you just met him and you’re texting back and forth and it’s not clear how he thinks of you yet.
Maybe you text with a friend who you developed feelings for, and you want to see if he feels the same way by looking at his texts.
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It feels bad to be in the dark about how a guy feels about you – and doubly so when you have to keep texting with him.
How flirty should you be? What if he’s not interested? Are you going to say the wrong thing?
It’s hard enough to figure out how a guy feels about you from talking to him, but with texting it can be even harder. You have to try to figure out his feelings just from reading his words, rather than his body language or his inflection when he talks to you.
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That’s why in this article I’m going to give you the information you need to figure out how he feels about you just from his text messages.
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I’m going to cover 3 scenarios – if he thinks of you as just a friend, as someone he can booty call but not date, or as someone he’s not interested in at all.
How To Tell If He Thinks Of You As Just A Friend From His Texts
This is one of the hardest situations to figure out.
If he thinks of you as a friend, then he’s going to text with you a lot – the same that you would expect from a guy who likes you.
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So you can’t look at how often he texts you, you have to look at what he texts you.
For instance, if he’s texting you about advice for what he should do with another woman, that’s a huge sign that he thinks of you strictly as a friend and not someone to date. A guy who liked you would never text for advice about another woman.
In the same vein, if he gave your number to one of his friends, that means that he almost certainly doesn’t like you, or he wouldn’t have given his friend the go ahead to text you.
If you try to be flirty with him and he doesn’t play along, that’s a big sign that you’re just a friend to him. That goes double if he responds by telling you to stop, or telling you that you’re being weird.
It helps to look at the content of the texts themselves.
If he’s texting you about typical guy stuff that you’d expect him to text with his male friends about – that’s a sign he thinks of you as a friend rather than something more.
After all, if he was into you he probably wouldn’t be texting you gross stuff about his bowel movements or really any of his biological functions – he’d save that for his friends instead.
Finally, if he’s often calling you his “friend” in your texts, or his “buddy” or “pal” – that’s a not so subtle way of saying that he’s not interested in anything past that.
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How To Tell If He Thinks Of You As Just A Booty Call From His Texts
In this type of situation, it’s hard to figure out how he feels about you – especially if you’re hoping for something more with him.
After all, if he’s booty calling you chances are you’ve already hooked up a few times. So you know he’s at least attracted to you – but does he really actually like you?
There are a few signs to look for when he’s texting you that tell you that he’s really only interested in a booty call.
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For instance, the most obvious sign is when he texts you. If he’s only texting you late night, and usually sending texts like “you up”, it’s very obvious where his mind is and how he thinks of you.
In the same vein, if all his texts to you are sexual in some way, whether they’re selfies, or innuendo, or straight up sexts – that tells you that he’s really only interested in you in a sexual way.
If it seems like he’s really not putting in any effort into the conversation – let’s say he never texts back in a timely manner if you text him about anything other than sex, or he only sends you super short replies, that’s a sign he’s not interested in talking to you – which means he’s not really interested in you.
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If he’s always asking you for naked pics or nude selfies – that’s a very big giveaway about his feelings for you.
Finally, if he’s already seeing someone and he wants a sexual relationship with you on the side – that’s a huge sign that he’s not interested in dating you, and really just wants casual sex and nothing more.
How To Tell If He’s Completely Not Interested In You From His Texts
It’s hard to be objective about whether you think you have a chance with a guy when you really like him. You’re wrapped up in hoping that he’ll like you back, and that might blind you to the truth of how he’s really treating you.
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That’s why it’s important to look for these signs in a guy who you really like who you’re texting with. If he’s giving you these signs, chances are he’s flat out not interested in you – and you’d be better off looking for someone new.
The first and most obvious sign is that he never texts you back. If you’re texting this guy and he never responds – that should be a blindingly obvious sign that he’s not interested in you.
If he keeps the texts strictly business – only talking about some logistical thing that he has to solve with you and veering the conversation away from anything that’s even slightly personal, it tells you that he wants to keep your relationship professional and has no interest in a more intimate connection.
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If he flakes on you and doesn’t even text you to tell you he’s not coming, or apologize or tell you why he flaked – it tells you he doesn’t feel like he has to be considerate towards you – which means he’s not interested.
If he never ever sends you an interesting text – all his texts are as bland as possible, he doesn’t joke or make you laugh, and he doesn’t even really seem tapped in or connected to the conversation – that’s a huge sign he’s not interested in you.
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Along the same lines, if your conversations are always flat, boring, and uninspired – the texting version of small talk you’d make with a stranger – that’s a big sign he’s not even interested in having a good conversation with you.
Finally, if the only time he texts you is when he wants or needs something, you can be sure that means that he’s just using you for something he needs, and that he’s not interested in any sort of relationship with you.
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I know some of this can sound harsh, but the reality is that the sooner you realize what a guy’s real feelings are, the sooner you can move on and find someone who will actually reciprocate what you feel for them. Good luck.
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In summary…
The Biggest Signs He Doesn’t Like You Through Texting
- He texts you about advice for what to do with another woman
- He gives your number to one of his friends
- He doesn’t flirt back with you
- He calls you “buddy” or “pal”
- He only texts you late at night for booty calls
- All his texts to you are sexual in some way
- He’s always asking for nudes
- He never texts you back or takes forever to do it
- He keeps your texting strictly business
- He flakes on you and doesn’t text
- He only texts you when he wants or needs something
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we text everyday and he shares everything his likes dislikes he even share his playlist with me infact we even made one and we’re buddy buddy type, he talks abt other girls and infact he has talked to them but he lost interest over time for them so he thinks me of as his bestie only right? its confusing very help please :)
As a guy, I would say he’s interested but for some reason doesn’t think you are. Flirt with him or give him some sort of nudge, sign…anything that you want to take your friendship towards something more. Maybe just ask him why he hasn’t asked you out to dinner, or something along those lines.
Im in this situ; i can’t get it and i dont know is he into me or not :”. A guy always texting me daily . Text gm msg when he woke up and sometimes we talk our jokes without flirting all day long. His message Reply also so fast If not a day we talk about our day,he always text first before he sleeps <3 but we don't flirt, and he doesn't use flirt or emotional emoji either . Then he always tells me how did he win in game.and send his pic, how do u think guys? Which codition do i get?
Sounds like he just doesn’t know how to flirt, or he’s shy. Flirt with him, be direct…ask him why he hasn’t asked you out to dinner yet. Asking that will certainly get you the answer you want!
Met a guy from work on Dec 30th. He’s my supervisor at work. Chatted and flirted sexual talks then ppl found out and called him a player. So he backed off. Stopped talking for a few weeks. Then started to flirt again. I found out he was talking to other girls which hurt but were both single and never wvwe went on a date. I asked him does he like me? Never answered me went around the question. So I told him I was going on a date and he looked mad
If he said look that I don’t love him way I use to or I’m losing interested him
if he doesn’t flirt at all even when you already do, this might mean he doesn’t like you. try other strategies and if he doesn’t change a bit, you know he’s just really not into you.
If a girl I don’t like flirts with me, I won’t reciprocate and usually laugh nervously while I think about how to direct the situation back to something platonic. If they look like what you’re doing is making them feel super awkward it’s a no go. This may be an exception if they’re shy.
texting is the most common way of communicating nowadays and i’m sure a lot of women need to see this article. some men are straightforward but most of them are not too open about how they feel esp if you just met recently.
very helpful. i guess it is time for me to let go.
i hope these were helpful to any woman out there still searching for answers.
if it feels like he’s texting you about plain business, that might really mean he doesn’t like you
if he makes it seem like texting you is purely professional, it may be really just plain business for him.
if he keeps flaking and doesn’t text you consistently, he sure isn’t interested at all.
all of these are true and very accurate. women should be really attentive.
I don’t believe all of these are 100% true. There are a lot of guys out there who struggle to find the balance between coming off too platonic or too sexual, so they hold back until a woman is more forward with their signs. Touch the guy on the forearm, lean in a little more and laugh a bit louder than usual. I’ve been in a few situations a girl would open up about dating or ask why I haven’t asked them out, and I was perplexed because I really thought they had no interest.
if he texts you about all else but anything personal, then he’s not at all interested in you.
if he treats you like this then maybe you should stop trying too hard..
if he calls you “buddy” then he might not be romantically interested in you
when he seems distant and won’t reply anymore, you should get a hint already
if it feels like it takes forever for him to reply, unlike before then he might not be interested
a guy who likes you will send you sweet-nothings. if he doesn’t like you, he won’t have time nor interest in doing so.
thank you for sharing this. i think that he’s kinda giving me that “booty call’ vibe and i don’t appreciate it.
worry not, there are several other men out there.
he’d be so dry as if telling you to stop texting already =(
when he suddenly stopped texting then it might mean he’s not really interested
if it feels like he only texts you when he’s bored, he must not really be into you
if he stops texting you, don’t wait any longer. better to move forward sooner than later and feel bad for yourself for wasted time.
well if that’s the case then just move on and keep yourself open for dating until you meet the right one for you.
you’ll soon get past this and you’ll find someone even better
ouch, this is not good at all. :(
he’ll stop texting you and will show no more interest at all
this is why it’s important to put boundaries and not be led on when you’re just trying to get to know the other person.
great and honest point.
wow, this is too bad, i never would want to be in it
i loved this, thank you so much for posting it.
thanks for this post..women should read this and learn from it.
oh, this is sad to even read on! :'(