No matter what age you are when a relationship ends, a breakup or divorce can feel devastating.
If jealousy was one of the main causes of the breakup, chances are you will simply repeat this pattern until you begin to tackle the issues that create your jealousy and heal them.
What you may not realize is that your future success in relationships is directly related to how much you learn from those breakups, how much you heal your jealousy and how you move forward in your life.
As Relationship Coaches and experts on jealousy, we’ve identified 7 Jealousy Stopping Secrets in our free ebook, as well as some key areas that you must deal with in order to heal, let go and move on to creating more love in your life.
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With that being said, here are three of those keys to healing after a breakup when jealousy has been involved…
Key #1: Begin actively thinking and doing what will take you toward a healthy present and future
When there has been a relationship breakup that may have been caused by your jealousy, it’s often tempting to wallow in your pain—to play music that reminds you of your old partner, to visit places where you went together as a couple, to relive whatever fears you felt in the relationship, to constantly think about that other person and to fear that you will always fail at relationships.
While it’s important to give yourself some time and space to grieve, it’s also important to start doing things that will be loving to yourself and will help you heal.
And that’s to pull yourself from the past and focus on the present moment.
What have you not done for yourself that you used to love to do?
Are there any friends who you haven’t seen that you want to connect with again?
Make sure that when you get together with other people that you not spend your time talking about your ex or wanting sympathy from your friends. Take the opportunity to explore new adventures and do new things.
Key #2: Become aware of your relationship patterns
If you had jealousy issues in the relationship that broke up, you need to overcome jealousy before you get in a new relationship.
You may have been in a series of past relationships where your partner cheated on you. You may have low self-esteem issues. You may have had a habit of flirting with people other than your partner to get your partner’s attention.
Whatever patterns you had that helped destroy your relationships, the time to change them is now.
If there has been cheating and your partner was the one who was unfaithful, make sure that you take the time to figure out what you might have done differently even though it wasn’t your fault.
In many cases, cheating and affairs would never happen if people understood how each person sabotages the relationship.
Because people don’t take the time to figure out what their part in the relationship breakup was, when they get into new relationships, those unhealthy patterns tend to show up again and those relationships often end in break ups and divorce.
Get our free ebook “7 Jealousy Stopping Secrets” to understand where your jealousy is coming from and how you can heal it. You may want to explore Jealousy Coaching with us to give you specific guidance on how to stop jealousy in your life.
Key #3: Build trust in yourself, in your current relationships and ultimately in a new relationship.
When there has been a breakup, it’s often difficult to open your heart one more time. Take the time to begin learning to trust again and that begins with learning to trust that you will speak your truth and then practice doing it.
When you know that you will say what you need to say and listen with an open heart to other people when they speak, you will begin to trust.
When you learn how to be more discriminating and see the “red flags” earlier, you’ll start trusting yourself.
Whether it’s after a breakup or before it happens, start now to heal your jealousy. We can show you how!
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In summary…
What To Do If You Broke Up Because Of Jealousy
- Start thinking about the steps towards a healthy future
- Give yourself space and time to grieve but also be loving to yourself to help heal
- Pay attention to your relationship patterns
- Build trust in yourself and try to do the same for your future relationships
Susie and Otto Collins are married soul mates and on a mission to share that passion and spark don’t have to die, whether you’ve been together for 5 months or 50 years. As Breakthrough Relationship coaches, authors, speakers, and jealousy experts, they are passionate about making this world a more loving place by showing people how to resolve their relationship challenges, love themselves more and love and enjoy each other.
Together, they are the authors of “Magic Relationship Words,” “Stop Talking On Eggshells,” “Should You Stay or Should You Go,” “No More Jealousy,” and many other programs.
To get their free ebook “7 Jealousy Stopping Secrets,” go to www.NoMoreJealousy.com.
Schedule a no-charge introductory jealousy coaching session with either Susie or Otto by phone: 614-568-8282 or email.
He just broke up with me for the fourth time .it’s jealousy.he cannot accept that I know guys and does not want me to even talk to guys .I love him a lot he is a lot to me and I still want him back .can I get him back