Know what the scariest thing in the world is?
No. No it’s not a snake made out of spiders. No, shut up, you’re ruining my article.
OK, I get it, a snake made out of spiders is probably the scariest thing imaginable. But shut up for a second and let me write my article.
Being in love with someone and not being sure if they love you back. That’s the scariest thing in the world.
Besides a snake made out of spiders.
So with that in mind, and our eyes firmly pointed ahead, and not into our horrible, horrible imaginations, let’s explore some signs that your partner is truly, deeply and madly in love with you.
You know, so you don’t have to be afraid you’re completely in love with someone who doesn’t love you back or feel the same way about you as you do about him.
And also so you don’t have to think about that other thing that I’m not going to describe again.
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1. They Trust You
This is pretty much the biggest, most important one.
Trust means you genuinely trust the other person and don’t feel the need to go through their belongings, constantly speculate on what they’re doing or not doing and open up their heart to you. So if he tells you private things about himself, doesn’t feel the need to go through your phone and constantly investigate every little thing you do… it most likely means he trusts you.
Trust is about letting someone in completely, being the person they can confide in when the rest of the world seems scary or overwhelming. If he comes to you when he’s sad, frustrated or overwhelmed, it’s another major sign he trusts you. Men only talk to women they trust about deep, private, sensitive issues.
And remember: trust is the most important building block for love – and a huge sign he’s into you. It’s important that you return the favor, and trust him until he gives you a reason not to.
Related: 7 Signs You’re In The Right Relationship
2. They Ask For Your Input on Decisions
You know how it would be weird if your partner decided to just up and buy a house without talking to you?
Or if they decided to move to a different city for a few months because they wanted to try it out there?
Yeah, that would be weird. That would be really inconsiderate of them, and a huge sign that they probably aren’t in love with you.
(And you should read this article if you’re looking for more Relationship Red Flags)
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But if they think of you first when they’re faced with a big decision, if they decide to include you and listen to your counsel when they’re deciding, well, that’s a huge sign they might be in love with you.
3. They Give You Lots of Affection
And I’m not just talking about sex.
Affection doesn’t HAVE to be about sex. In fact, a lot of couples engage in a lot of sex that doesn’t have much affection in it at all. Sex where he doesn’t look into your eyes or make you feel close and connected to him… that’s not affection. Sex where you don’t feel present and heard, cared for and loved… that’s not affectionate sex.
Affectionate sex can be one of the most intense, bonding experiences a man and a woman can have. But beyond sex, what’s affection?
I’m talking about cuddling, looking into each other’s eyes and letting the world melting away. I’m talking about him putting his arm around you, touching the small of your back and looking you in the eyes with that certain “look” you literally cannot get enough of.
You’d be shocked to know what a major thing it is for a guy to truly be affectionate with a woman. This shows he’s most likely in love with you if he can’t get enough of being close, intimate and connected with you. Honest to god affection, physical closeness, and intimacy go a long way in strengthening a relationship and helping love grow.
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4. They Are Curious About Your Day
If he truly cares about what’s on your mind, how your day was and how you feel… it’s a major, major sign he’s madly in love with you. For real. When a guy isn’t in love, he could give a crap about what you have to say and would never want to just listen to you talk. If he’s genuinely curious, though, and listens (truly listens) this is a huge sign he can’t resist you… he’s in love.
It also builds a genuine connection and plants the seed for an amazing, happy, healthy relationship.
5. They Have Your Back
Would your partner stand up for you in an awkward situation? Would they step in and defend you, not knowing whether you were right or wrong, but just because they want to be by your side?
People often grow closer together by joining together to fend off outside attacks, be they physical (from snakes made out of spiders) or emotional, like some jerk yelling at you for no good reason.
If some guy is screwing around with you and your guy goes crazy with uncontrollable rage, it’s a huge sign he’s head over heels in love. If someone hurts your feelings and he can’t stand the person, another major sign he’s in love with you.
The bottom line is: if your partner is willing to go to bat for you, it’s a great sign that there’s love in your relationship.
6. They Enjoy Spending Time with You
It’s super important to want to spend time with your partner. After all, you’re in a relationship! You’ve literally decided that you’d rather be with each other than be alone!
So wanting to spend more time with your partner is a very, very good sign.
In fact, one recent theory from a Northwestern University professor named Eli Finkel proposes that wanting to invest time and effort into your relationship is a super important predictor of whether your relationship is going to work out in the long term or not.
MORE: Ask A Guy: Does He Really Love Me?
So if he loves spending time with you – great. That’s a great sign that he’s in love with you. If he’s avoiding you on purpose, goes out of his way to do anything but talk to you and spend time with you… well, that’s a sign he’s not in love with you. It’s sad, but true.
7. They Always Show You Respect
It’s easy to be like, “What, your favorite show is the Big Bang Theory? That’s trash. You’re a trash person. I don’t respect you.”
OK, that might be a bit of an exaggeration.
But seriously, your partner should have respect for your views, even if they don’t share them.
After all, mutual respect is a key ingredient with love. If they don’t respect you – or you don’t respect them… there’s no way for love to grow.
8. They Make You Feel Good About Who You Are
It’s easy to feel good around someone. In fact, feeling good around someone is often a key ingredient in the start of a relationship and the forming of affection.
If you feel good around someone, you want to be around them more. That’s going to lead to romantic (or platonic) relationships with that person.
Far more rare is the person who makes you feel good about who you are. That person takes the time to understand who you really are, what makes you really tick, and then give you affection and validation about it.
Even if they do it subconsciously, this is a super important thing in a relationship. If your partner makes you feel good about who you are, there’s a very good chance they’re in love with you.
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These Are The Signs Your Partner Is In Love With You
- They trust you
- They ask for your input on decisions
- They give you lots of affection
- They are curious about your day
- They have your back
- They enjoy spending time with you
- They always show you respect
- They make you feel good about who you are
We met 20 years ago when we were both married.
I was deeply in love with him then as I am now.
We reunited 3 years ago and our relationship had a very intense beginning, followed by complete chaos. We lived together on and off for two years and I moved out a year ago. We have said we want nothing to do with each other and have both made mistakes. I’ve admitted to mine and he brushes his off. We always find a way back to each other but I want it all or none. However, I feel lost when we’re apart. He goes from amazing to the complete opposite. I’m a bit the same myself. We’ve seriously broken up but end up back together. I love him so much and he must love me bc he has put up with some serious stuff that I’ve done and vice versa. I feel like if we get married it will be fine. He just hasn’t officially proposed to me. He talks about it but I’m almost getting ready to ask him. Thoughts?
My boyfriend does everything that was listed there he does not want to ever see me cry because am an emotional person and he always say the L word and he is not jealous
Have been dating this guy for 2weeks now and he has made love too me like 2times ,do you think he loves me but he’s more older than me
i don’t think he’s in love with you. 2 weeks is a short time to confirm if someone is in love. give it time.
My husband does all the above and more. I’ve always known that he loves me but I’m so happy I wasn’t wrong. Cheers!!!!!!
I didn’t know the tips to know whether the person loves me or not because am much disappointed
The guy I’m with gives me all these signs. I’m in love with him and hopefully he will be my husband one day❤️TLB
I have been getting all these signs from a man whom I’ve been dating for 9 months. He said he had never said “love” word to the last LTR of 17 years. Should I believe him?Not that it matter cuz she past away.
We both feel the same way for each other…Would he marry me?
this couple of paula and betram have all of the above mentioned love keys i dont want to believe it………but hey they really love each other am soo heart broken to realise that i lost her for good
in all the above mentioned keys it really showed me how much my man love me and for that reason am happy and proud to say me mackanzie paula am taken by betram sanderson………sorry xem guys am taken
As a couple commenting…… The above was really interesting, and it made us realise that we do really love each other. We notice that everything that was explained by text is present in our relationship . Enouph said….. We Love Each Other….. Recently we experienced quite a tough situation, some outsider almost got in the way of our relationship, but we glad to say . that he didnt get far, we much stronger than we’ve been before…
My boyfrnd tell he really loves me and from my exprience he really cares me he thinks about me anytime he like to spend whole the day with me he always makes me happy but our reltn have strted only 3 months and he want to do sex with me is it good for rltnship is he really loves me i just cant undrstend sooo plz any one can help me
mayb he loves tooo much he cant wait any longer ,remember dont keep a man waiting bcoz some lady out there is ready and willingly to give him what you cant give him
Our relationship started for 6 months and the whole 6 months we treated each other with respect. Then, unfortunate event happened, he had to move for his career where I cant follow because I hated the country so we ended our relationship because both of us didnt want to do LDR. We didnt stay in touch either. Fast fwd 6 months later, he moved back and he found me again. Now we’re back together and I can see all the signs that he’s really in love with me. He told me I make him feel safe… And he shows all the signs above (except saying the L words). We dated other people but it didnt work.
Although the 6 months was difficult at first but I guess we’re now stronger and sure about our feeling
I have been married 10 yrs. The marraige has gone stale. He is very cold. I recently met a man from cuba who i am in love with. He is married too. He is crazy to be with me and.it shows. Love.is not always on paper. It can found in the craziest of ways
Lala, but can it work? Aren’t children involved? Are you sure it is real?
I felt the same with hubby too. He went cold and brought his mum to live with us…and she hates me for no reason and became his confidant. We had a heated argument and he came in and beat me that I had no respect for his mother. I stayed for love and our children. Then not long after, I met someone. He’s 2 years younger, single and just starting up in life. He makes me feel like a woman. He understands me and supports me. Everything in this list. But can it work? That’s the big question. I have 3 kids and both of us don’t have strong finances. Sometimes I wonder if it is truly real because I live in a country where divorce is frowned at, a woman leaving for another man is even worse. If I leave, will this wonderful man truly be with me, disregard the whole world and love me? That is the question. He says he does and then other times, he says I should stay with my hubby so I don’t know.
I was married to a man 45 years, he did none of this. I loved him dearly and deeply. He left me for another woman 3 years ago….I still love him but will never let him know. I wasted so many years on a man who was a serial cheater, wouldn’t work to provide for his family, didn’t support any decision I made, never was a good family man. He also acted like he resented any time he was stuck being with me and our two children. It was his idea to have children….I now realize he only wanted them to tie me down so he could go out without me being able to go with him and be with his numerous women. He could never tell me he loved me. Now the woman he left me for, he has already told her she is the love of his life and he is always with her, you don’t see one without the other. He spends time with her doesn’t try to get away from her like he did me. Then the bastard lied about me to his family and his circle of friends. I hope he gets the treatment he gave me. He deserves any bad thing that happens to him. Wished I hadn’t loved him so much.
you loved the idea of him. love isn’t one-sided. love is reciprocated. i hope you’re in better position now.
i have been married for 6yrs,and i am madly in love with my husb.sometimes he rises his voice at me,but i knw he love me dearly,as for trust,its 100%.there is no perfect mate anywhere,but if ur mate truly wnts to stay with u,then he feel somethi special 4 u.
Great list! I also agree. I am in early days with a shy and modest man, just the sort of kind man that a good girl (like me!) would want. He has done all of these and continues to do them. Makes me feel special and safe and even tho we are still in the beginning getting to know stages, these signs make me feel hopeful about the future.
I like this list. It just made me realize how much I love my husband!
I have been giving my partner these signs for months, but I cannot get an “I love you”, out of him at all.
oohhh i also give this kind of signs to my partner but i cant get it
This is pretty good. I like knowing that a person feels the same way that I do when I see signs like this. True love!
Great to know. I still am just not sure though. I wish I wasn’t so wishy washy about it.
They make you feel safe should be number one, or at least right near the trust one.
That is the number one thing. Trust and making a person feel loved.
These are great signs. I have always felt like I was in love with my husband, since the day I met him. Maybe some people are just lined up that way.
There are a lot of things that you can do to show a person you love them. The ones that you have posted here are a great start. Just make them feel special, that is not that hard to do.
I am really in love with my partner right now. My parents do not approve of our relationship, but it is good and we treat each other right.
Well, as long as you are an adult, you will have the final say. Some parents will not allow things like this when you are under 18.
Do you think it is the same for all men? I see some of these signs, but I still get the feeling I am not really sure about him.
Great to know :) I might be getting a big surprise this holiday season…
I love being in love and I hope that everyone gets to experience that at some point in there life!
I like the fact that these signs are very easy to see is a plus.
It does take a little of the guessing out of the game.
When you see things like this, then you know you are about to be in love forever, right?
Some people worry so much about whether they are in love or not, when they can just let it happen naturally and go from there.
I totally agree with this post. All of these things would make a woman feel great in a relationship.
These are great signs to get from a person. If you are lucky enough to see these once in a while, good for you!
I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years and really want to tell him that I love him, because that is how I feel. I am afraid that he does not feel the same way.
This is great news! I have been wondering if my b/f is falling in love with me like I am with him. some of these sings have shown up and that is making me feel real happy.
I like being asked for my thoughts on an idea that my husband has. It might seem like a small thing, but it does make a difference in our relationship.
I try to do this for my wife as much as possible. I know she has good input, so why not ask for it?
Trust is such a huge thing. It must be earned at first and then there is plenty of hard work to keep it there.
Love is so great! My husband and I have been together for more than 20 years now and we still do many of the things on this list. It feels great to see these signs with your partner!
Yes it is. When you really love someone, there is a certain brightness throughout the day.
I love to feel in love. These signs really get me feeling good and motivated to show my husband how much I love him in many different ways. Thanks for that!
These are a good mood type of thing, aren’t they?
I agree with ALL of these and even though they might not ALL show up in the same relationship, they are good signs to keep an eye open for!
I have always been the passive type in a relationship, but I always keep my eyes open for things like this. I want to make sure that I am not wasting my time with a relationship. However, I am usually never the first to show these signs and that has landed me in bad situations as well.
that is a good thing. you have to be able to see signs like this and take action on them. it is just bring grateful that others feel this way about you.
Perfect! I was coming here for advice about a guy that I have been dating, but this list has answered my questions. Thank you for sharing this, it has given me some motivation I didn’t think I had.
I love to spend time with my b/f. I hope he likes the same and does not think that I am trying to smother him. What signs would I look for to tell if his is getting annoyed with my being around all of the time?
If any woman gets to experience these, they are lucky. My relationships are always on the rocks and I never get to see things like this. Do you think it might be happening due to where I live and the types of people around me?
I say the same. So many people do not get to experience this and it is a good thing when they do.
I am not saying that a guy has to beat people up for me, but it would be nice for one to back my opinions up even if they are not 100% on board with them. It means a lot and just as much as trust in my book.
Great list. I feel the same way about many of these. The best part is when you get that “feeling” in the pit of your stomach about a person. That is usually what I go with.
Me too. This is a great list of things to keep an eye open for.
Great list. I feel much better about my new relationship. I may not be “in love” with him right now, but I can see some of these signs and they feel great!
Love is such a weird thing. Creates such a weird feeling in your mind, body and soul. Just like THAT is can disappear and you might feel that you are never going to get it back.
This list is spot on. I feel the same way about many of these and the last time I was dating a girl, felt that I could see many of these signs. The bad thing is that I do not know if she saw them as well. What do you think my next step should be?
I feel trusted. I trust just about anyone as well, until they give me a reason not to. Even then, I can trust again, but it will take some time to rebuild.
It is tough when you lose trust in people that you love, or loved. Good luck with your relationships.
I feel that if you are lucky enough to have ANY of these on the list you are headed in the right direction with your relationship. When I was with my boyfriend before we were married, the TRUST was huge and the fact that he always wanted to know about my day was just marvelous.
I have a friend that has been asking me if I think her boyfriend really likes her. I told her that the signs seem to be there, which are many of the ones that you have posted here and she is still unsure. What can I do to convince her that I feel the signs are there?
I would think that most people could see that these signs are very obvious, but not everyone. When I was single and first met my now wife, these signs were some of the highest flying and brightest shining that I could ever see.
I like who my BF makes me feel like. We get a long great, have been together for 5 years and should be married next summer if all goes well. These signs are the real deal and if you notice them, you are going down the right path.
I am happy to be doing many of the things you have on this list :) I try to be the right guy for my GF and as long as the signs are shown back to me, I feel I am doing the right thing!
Great for you! It is hard work to be the best person possible, especially to someone that you love. You should be proud and others should look up to you for it!
Trust, respect and love. It is that simple. If you are seeing these signs, it is a very good thing. I am in a relationship that is not that old, but I have been keeping an eye out for these three things. How long do I have to wait for them to appear before I know it might not be the right partner for me?
I do not think that you have to wait around for all of these signs to pop up. However, I would keep an eye on the signs to make sure that you are getting them as they are coming in. You also need to make sure the guy is on the same page as you are.
Very good post. I think that most people that see signs like this could pick up on the what they mean. However, I feel that I have been passing these signs along to my girl and it seems that she is not really paying attention, how do I fix that?
Did you know that these are a great start to any relationship? The bad thing is that both people have to realize what is happening at the same time AND except it for the love to take effect. Great post!
I always have my girls back. However, I feel like the day that I pull another guy aside to pound his face in for what I think is a good reason, she would be walking. That is a tough line to walk, don’t you think
I agree that this is a good list! What a great way to educate others. Knowing when your partner is in love with you is just as important as knowing when you are in love with them.
Yeah. Me, too. It is a list that really makes you feel good on the inside when things like this happen.
I always thought that when my partner came up to me for advice was a good thing. Even when it is something small, you know they trust you, at least with that bit of information.
Trust, respect and making you feel good are all great things, but how is the guy in bed? LOL.
Just kidding, that was the “50 Shades of Grey Me” asking. I think the list is great and if you feel it, you should say something right away to see if he feels the same.
I think this is a pretty good list. Right now I feel like I am so in love with my boyfriend, but I have rushed things before with poor results. I think this time I am going to take it slow and wait to see if he is feeling the same for me as I do for him!
Very good list. Anyone that wants to be in love would appreciate these signs coming to them.