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Have you had trouble with your past few boyfriends?
If you’re like most women, you probably saw your boyfriend grow cold, distant, and uninterested soon after your relationship started… like he wasn’t the man you fell in love with just a few weeks or months ago.
Or, even worse, you might have realized he was only in it for sex. What a jerk!
Gosh. Why is it so hard to get a good relationship these days?
Well, if you asked me, I’d give you the three leading reasons why so many new relationships break up within their first three months…
(1) Sometimes, the men are emotionally unavailable – and they only realize it once they enter a relationship.
(2) Sometimes, the men are just jerks who just want to get in your pants.
(3) And sometimes, we simply don’t know how to move a relationship forward.
And among these three reasons, I actually believe the third one is the biggest killer.
Why? Simply because (a) it’s something we can control, but choose not to… and
(b) it can make you turn off even the most mature, commitment-ready men you meet!
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So today, we’ll talk about just that – how to correctly move a relationship forward… from the “casual dating” stage to the “serious relationship” stage.
Let’s start with a serious mistake many of us make in the “casual dating” stage…
A Mistake Most Single Women Make
Here’s the thing: Most women think that a relationship always starts at the “casual dating” level.
Then, when they meet a man and decide to go “exclusive” with them, that’s when he becomes their “boyfriend.” Right?
Wrong. In fact, that wrong idea is exactly the reason why many new boyfriends grow cold and distant soon after the relationship starts.
Moving from being just someone’s casual date to someone’s boyfriend is a pretty big jump for them. And it’s a jump that they shouldn’t make too quickly.
So what’s the right way for them to make this jump? How can they safely move from being your casual date to being your “yummy boyfriend?”
Simple – by going through a third stage in your relationship, one that’s squeezed in between the “casual dating” stage and the “serious relationship” stage.
I call this stage the “exclusive dating” stage, and this is how it works…
How The Exclusive Dating Stage Keeps Him From Growing Cold And Distant
Many women make the mistake of dating a guy casually, and then starts treating him like a boyfriend once they decide to be exclusive.
And that’s where the problem starts, because the “big jump” happens much too quickly for the guy. Subconsciously, he’ll feel like he didn’t put in any real “work” to win your heart.
Imagine this for a second: A guy gives you a fake Louis Vuitton handbag for your birthday. How does it feel?
Cheap, right? Cheated, even? Deep inside, you know you deserve better!
That’s how a guy feels when he “wins” your heart too easily. There wasn’t any chase, and there wasn’t any challenge. It’s a victory that has no satisfaction, and he knows he deserves better.
What’s worse, jumping straight from “casual dating” to “boyfriend-girlfriend” also gives your relationship a weak foundation. And a weak relationship is vulnerable to all sorts of problems.
For instance, many times, he’ll wonder: “Is she really the one? Or could I have found an even better woman if I tried harder – and I know I could have tried harder?”
Ladies, don’t make him think these scary thoughts.
Don’t rush your relationship! When you decide to date each other exclusively, go right ahead, but don’t call him your “boyfriend” yet.
Make him work for it!
Give yourself at least 3 months to see if you’re really good for each other. Then, when you say “yes” to him and finally become boyfriend-girlfriend, that’s when your “serious relationship” stage starts!
Got it? Good. Now let’s talk about the second problem: Dealing with the horny guys.
Weeding Out The Horny Ones From The Good Ones
The problem with horny guys is that they can be hard to spot.
They can pretend they love you, and say all the right things to make you like them… but all they really care about is getting into your bedroom!
Thankfully, this is yet another problem that can be solved by the “exclusive dating” stage. The minimum “waiting period” of 3 months is your best defense!
See, most players won’t work that hard just to have sex with you. They might try for one month, two months tops.
But they’ll soon get the message that you won’t settle for anything less than a strong, loving, lifelong relationship – and that’s when they give up, drop out, and try their luck on some “easier” women.
So don’t get too excited! The best relationships out there always take time to form, and your patience and dedication will pay off in the end.
What Happens After The Exclusive Dating Stage?
So as you can see, the “exclusive dating” stage is a crucial stage in love
– it builds that all-important foundation for a great relationship that has what it takes to stand the test of time.
But does everything end there? Of course not…
The next stage is the “serious relationship” stage, and it’s yet another crucial stage in love. It, in turn, will form a strong foundation for marriage and family.
And yes, the “serious relationship” stage has its own rules, too. And these rules are different from the ones you used to follow in the “casual dating” and “exclusive dating” stages.
Let me teach you what these rules are. If you click on the link below, I will guide you from the very first date all the way to the wedding day… and beyond!
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Note; I have a way to bypass any of these stages and that means knowing the one and only way to get a man to view you as his soul mate.
There are 2 big turning points every woman experiences in her relationships with men and they determine if you end up in a happy relationship or if it all ends in heartbreak.
So pay attention because the next step to take is vitally important. At some point he’s going to ask himself if you are the woman he wants to commit himself to for the long term…
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