Have you ever gone out on a date, gotten your hopes up and wound up getting ignored? Have you ever thought you hit it off with a guy only to end up with wishy-washy, vague answers to every important question you ask? This is what ends up happening when you waste your time on men who just aren’t worth the energy.
Honestly, with how hectic and chaotic the dating world can be, it can seem impossible to find a guy you actually want to date.
And yet, as time goes on and you still haven’t found a guy, you might be tempted to cut back on your expectations just so you can date somebody .
Well, don’t do it for any of these types of guys. These 18 guys are just flat out not worth wasting time on:
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1. The guy who “doesn’t know how he feels”
Oh, you’re not sure how you feel about our relationship? You’re “not sure” if you see a future with us in it, but you want to “try anyway?” How about you “try” to not let the door hit you on the way out, jerk. Make up your damn mind.
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2. The guy who doesn’t want to use “protection”
I mean, really? What a trashy guy. I know it “feels better” without a condom, but if we’re going to take that step, we’re going to be a lot more committed to each other than we are now. Take a hike.
3. The guy who’s always broke
Look, I’m all for equality. I think that men and women should do whatever they feel comfortable with on dates, whether that means splitting the bill, or one party taking it.
But if he’s always “short a few bucks” for dinner, or the movie, or the cab fare, and expecting you to cover it for him, he’s not dating you, he’s using you. Dump the zero and find someone better.
4. The guy who tricks you into believing he cares about you – right before you find out about his “other” girlfriend
Dude. I’m a grown woman. If you didn’t want to be exclusive with me, that’s fine. But don’t lead me on and tell me how much you care about me while dating someone else at the same time. It’s called being considerate of other people’s feelings, something you clearly know nothing about.
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5. The guy who starts out texting you a lot, then disappears for like 2 weeks, then comes back and acts like nothing is wrong
I mean, do you even want to be with a guy who’s this inconsiderate? Newsflash: every single man who uses the bathroom sits on the toilet and looks at his phone. He’s got time to text you back, he’s just choosing not to.
6. The guy who expects to receive oral sex but doesn’t like giving it out
Listen, jerk. We learned that sharing is caring in like the first grade . Why expect something from me that you’re not willing to reciprocate on? Take your crappy 1800’s attitude and go watch porn, because I’m not interested.
7. The guy who can’t pick up the phone and call – only text
What, are you afraid to talk to me on the phone? Do you need 30 seconds to compose the perfect message, rather than, you know, actually just talking to me like a person? If he won’t even talk to you, why would you want to be with him in the first place?
8. The guy who can’t plan a date for the life of him
Ever plan on meeting up with a guy, then you wait all day for him to text you, then at like 5pm when you text him seeing if he’s still coming he says he’s with a friend and “maybe” he can hang out later? Yeah. That guy is crappy, he’s not worth waiting around for, and he should date his friend for how much he wants to hang out with him.
9. The guy who’s always posting club shots of skanky women and bottle service
ok , so you know he hooks up with a lot of trashy women, blows all his money on overpriced expensive booze he could get at a fraction of the cost elsewhere, and is obsessed with his image. Why would you want to date him again?
10. The guy in his mid 30’s who’s still terrified of commitment
Look, it’s one thing to expect that kind of fear of commitment in a 20-something, but dude, you’re pushing 40. Drop the scared teenager act and act like the adult you’ve clearly failed to become. Get your freaking life together.
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11. The guy who you know won’t ever commit… but he’s so cute you want to keep dating him anyway
This guy is the worst . It’s especially terrible because you know you’re doing it to yourself, and yet you can’t drop the hope that maybe he’ll settle down… even though you know he won’t. Do yourself a favor and drop this guy before you get really hurt.
12. The guy who’s a manipulator through and through – and he’s so good at it you’re worried he’s a sociopath
If you’ve been with a guy and caught yourself getting jealous, or tearing your hair out, or playing into his hands again , and you’re not normally that type of girl, it’s safe to say that he’s manipulating you for his own gain. Creepy. And not boyfriend material.
13. The guy who flakes out on all your plans
I’ll give a guy a little bit of leeway. If he flakes out on plans because of “an emergency” or something, that’s fine, I’ll cut him some slack. But if he does it over, and over, and over, well, who wants to be with someone like that? Do you really want to be with a guy who treats random crap as more important than keeping a commitment to you? I didn’t think so.
14. The guy who only cares about taking you home that night
He’s so sweet, and thoughtful, and caring towards you – when he’s trying to get you to come home with him. But when you say no, because you’re not feeling it that night and want to get to know him better, he suddenly disappears and you never see him again. Thanks a lot, guy. Really helping … (continued – Click to keep reading These 18 Types Of Men Flat Out Aren’t Worth Wasting Time On)
Why do women keep going for the morons who run around with a hat on backwards all the time?
Here is another one: “a buddy-a-mine…” Only idiots say that. I have “friends”.
I am making my own list. The signs are very clear.
Almost everyone single one of these complaints about men are based upon women trying to date out of their league. They treat you like that cause they don’t value you, they think girls like you are a dime a dozen.
The sad truth is that almost all relationship complaints are a result of trying to date out of one’s league.
These men also know that the kind of women who try and date out of their league are also the kind of women that have an entourage of lesser men that they keep around as “friends” so they can use them. Yet another glaring reason why you aren’t respected by guys out of your league.
As long as all you go for is the tall good looking guy making at least six figures then you are going to get the same thing over and over again.
Can we add Dave to the list?
I definitely date lower than my “shallow” standards and still run into these. I can’t think of a guy that I date that didn’t do at least two of these..it’s cool I’ll stay single and independent Dave, because even if I “was in their league” I wouldn’t want to marry someone who’s felt this is a justified way to behave toward any other living being.
The last minute date guy – He always wants to go out spur of the moment as if you have no plans.
This ENTIRE list is made up of things that “nice guys” avoid doing, and are lambasted for it. Women certainly get JUST what they deserve!
I match with 13/14 of these “points” and its not 14/14 cuz im in my mid 20’s lmfao.
Sorry girls i mean well.
To add: a guy that has a girlfriend who doesn’t put out. So is hoping you will. He has no plan or intentions of leaving her for you either Priceless
The author is a complete idiot. No wonder she’s a feminist.
I don’t agree with you.
Perhaps this article should be called 18 ways to keep women single.
Personally, I like a guy that can plan a good date. To do it right, you need to take the time and think about the person. That would be a killer for me if I was doing all the planning.
LOL. Some of these are very funny.
How about a guy that is taking selfies all the time? Besides that, he usually is the same guy that is taking the skanky club photos!
I never thought I would think it was a big deal that people only text, but that changed with my last boyfriend. I just want to hear a voice once in a while, is that so hard to ask?
Occasionally I meet a man that does not have as much money as I, but I do not let that get in the way of dating him. He might have made some bad calls when he was young and now is getting out of a deep hole. If he is too lazy to get out of that hole, that is when I make the break.
This doesn’t happen very often, but I agree with the ENTIRE list! Great post..
I feel the same way. This is a list that should live a long time online!
My list is much shorter. Disrespect me, cheat on me or hurt me and that is it :)
Finding out about his “other” g/f is so crappy. Especially if you have been with this guy for a while. How disrespectful can you be?
100 percent a waste of your precious time!
You its funny because you still see guys like this with woman. How is that possible?
I wish I could look back and say that I did NOT waste any time with losers like this, but that is not the case. If fact, I am with one right now that I wish I could just kick to the curb!
I have been in a relationship with a “lack of commitment” type. That was a waste of my time!
Another great list that all woman can learn from. Thank you for posting this!
Absolutely! These lists are great to share with friends. I usually send them through via Twitter and Facebook!
At first I was like, who cares if the guy doesn’t text you back after a while, but after thinking about it, it would suck that he comes back 2 weeks later. Almost would feel like he had someone else to text during that time and you were just chopped liver.
Yikes! You have describe a couple of men that I have been thinking about going on additional dates with. Maybe I step back and see if they are ones I really want to waste me time on. Thanks!
A taker and not a giver? That would not work well in my bedroom that is for sure!
LOL, I agree!
Just like the other posts that warn you about certain men, this is just as good!
OH yeah! I can easily say these types of guys are not worth your time any day of the week!
I feel like I am limiting myself a great deal if I skip these guys. What other option do I have living in a small town where everyone is similar to this?
Oh yeah, I should print this list off and keep it with me. It would save time when I am dating and see a waste of time before I spend a month with him.
I can deal with a guy that does not have cash, but if he is not even going to TRY once in a while to have money, that is going to be a little problem.
If a guy that I am dating cannot keep a simple lunch plan or something like that, he would be on the “list” until he can redeem himself. I also like the fact that it is so easy to tell which guys want to just take you home at night. They think they are sneaky, but c’mon!?
I have a real problem with a man who will not use protection. That is near the top of my list for sure!
good luck getting ever getting pregnant then though.